{"id":9930,"date":"2015-07-09T13:00:21","date_gmt":"2015-07-09T11:00:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=9930"},"modified":"2015-07-09T12:05:04","modified_gmt":"2015-07-09T10:05:04","slug":"kur-gruaja-vendos-se-clloj-cifti-jeni","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2015\/07\/kur-gruaja-vendos-se-clloj-cifti-jeni\/","title":{"rendered":"Kur gruaja vendos se \u00e7\u2018lloj \u00e7ifti jeni…"},"content":{"rendered":"

N\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift t\u00eb fuqish\u00ebm, patjet\u00ebr q\u00eb gruaja \u00ebsht\u00eb e fuqishme. Shum\u00eb burra jan\u00eb t\u00eb fuqish\u00ebm edhe vet\u00ebm, por \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb grua e talentuar ajo q\u00eb e b\u00ebn \u00e7iftin interesant. Aristoteli ka folur p\u00ebr lidhjet dhe i ka klasifikuar ato n\u00eb tre lloje: T\u00eb bazuar n\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi, n\u00eb interes dhe ato t\u00eb bazuara n\u00eb virtytet e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta (ose n\u00eb munges\u00ebn e tyre). Lidhja mes nj\u00eb burri t\u00eb fuqish\u00ebm dhe nj\u00eb gruaje t\u00eb fuqishme \u00ebsht\u00eb e pazakont\u00eb dhe e ndryshme, sepse i ka brenda t\u00eb trija elementet. Le t\u00eb ekzaminojm\u00eb disa tipe t\u00eb k\u00ebtyre lidhjeve dhe t\u00eb shohim ndryshimet q\u00eb kan\u00eb.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Rasti 1. Gruaja \u00ebsht\u00eb po aq e famshme sa burri<\/strong><\/p>\n

Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb lidhja m\u00eb e paparashikueshme dhe m\u00eb e paq\u00ebndrueshme nga ato q\u00eb do t\u00eb shohim. \u00cbsht\u00eb e paq\u00ebndrueshme sepse gruaja nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e varur dhe nuk i n\u00ebnshtrohet burrit. Meq\u00eb ajo e ka arritur fam\u00ebn n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb pavarur nga burri, ai nuk e josh leht\u00eb at\u00eb, edhe sikur t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb monogam i lindur. Shpesh ai i rikthehet asaj sepse t\u00eb tjer\u00eb ia kan\u00eb zili vendin. Maria Kalas ishte p\u00ebr shum\u00eb vjet k\u00ebng\u00ebtarja m\u00eb e famshme e muzik\u00ebs lirike kur Aristotel Onasisi p\u00ebrpiqej ta joshte. Ajo ishte e martuar, nd\u00ebrsa ai, jo. Ajo e la t\u00eb shoqin (me an\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb konference p\u00ebr shtyp) dhe filloi t\u00eb bashk\u00ebjetonte me Onasisin, por ai nuk u martua me t\u00eb. M\u00eb pas presidenti amerikan u vra dhe \u201cdoli n\u00eb treg\u201d e veja e tij 34 vje\u00e7are, edhe m\u00eb e fuqishme dhe m\u00eb e bukur se Kalasi. Kjo e fundit humbi shtatzanin\u00eb e saj kur milioneri i saj grek i shkoi nga pas dhe pastaj u martua me Zhak\u00eblin\u00eb Kenedin, e cila ia shpenzoi gjith\u00eb parat\u00eb. Ana Eduards shkroi n\u00eb biografin\u00eb e Xheki O (si\u00e7 quhej nga shtypi Zhak\u00eblina) se ajo harxhoi vet\u00ebm vitin e par\u00eb afro 20 milion\u00eb $. Onasisi u rikthye te Kalasi, duke i fishk\u00ebllyer k\u00ebng\u00eb dashurie posht\u00eb pallatit ku banonte, derisa ajo u dor\u00ebzua, por pik\u00ebrisht at\u00ebher\u00eb, ai u rikthye n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb paevitueshme te Zhak\u00eblina!<\/p>\n

Shembulli i dyt\u00eb i k\u00ebtij tipi \u00e7ifti t\u00eb fuqish\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb ai mes Elisabet Tejlorit dhe Ri\u00e7ard B\u00ebrt\u00ebnit. Ata u martuan, u ndan\u00eb, u martuan dhe u ndan\u00eb, kurr\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin dhe kurr\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur me t\u00eb tjer\u00eb. N\u00eb nj\u00eb intervist\u00eb t\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb p\u00ebr revist\u00ebn \u201cLife\u201d (1967), kur ata ishin t\u00eb martuar, B\u00ebrt\u00ebni foli p\u00ebr pages\u00ebn q\u00eb merrnin t\u00eb dy p\u00ebr nj\u00eb film. \u201cUn\u00eb kam nj\u00eb kompleks inferioriteti sepse Elisabeta merr 2 milion\u00eb $ dhe un\u00eb vet\u00ebm 1 milion\u00eb $\u201d. Kjo pasiguri e tij shfaqet edhe m\u00eb pas n\u00eb intervist\u00eb. Ai na informon se, n\u00eb ndryshim nga Tejlori 19 vje\u00e7are, kur ata u takuan p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb, Tejlori e tanishme, 34 vje\u00e7are, ka \u201cdisa defekte, si mjek\u00ebr t\u00eb dyfisht\u00eb, k\u00ebmb\u00ebt e saj jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb shkurtra dhe ka nj\u00eb bark paksa t\u00eb fryr\u00eb\u201d. Ai mundohet m\u00eb pas ta korigjoj\u00eb duke shtuar\u00a0 se \u201cmegjithat\u00eb, ajo ka t\u00eb pasme t\u00eb bukura…\u201d<\/p>\n

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Rasti 2. T\u00eb dy jan\u00eb t\u00eb famsh\u00ebm, por gruaja, m\u00eb shum\u00eb se burri<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ne tani e kuptojm\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb problemesh t\u00eb m\u00ebdha krijohen n\u00eb \u00e7ift p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb pabarazis\u00eb ose asimetris\u00eb. Shembulli yn\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb Merilin Monro dhe Artur Miler. Dramaturgu ishte i ndrysh\u00ebm nga burrat e tjer\u00eb q\u00eb i vinin pas aktores, p\u00ebrfshi edhe Xhon Kenedin. \u201cTi je vajza m\u00eb e trishtuar q\u00eb kam njohur\u201d, i tha ai asaj. \u201cAskush nuk ma ka th\u00ebn\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb!\u201d, u p\u00ebrgjigj ajo. N\u00eb fakt, ai nuk arriti ta harronte kurr\u00eb Merilinin. N\u00eb autobiografin\u00eb e tij, \u201cTimebends\u201d, t\u00eb gjitha fotot jan\u00eb radhitur me data, emra dhe vende, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 nj\u00eb faqeje me tri fotot e Merilinit me t\u00eb. E vetmja di\u00e7itur\u00eb q\u00eb ka v\u00ebn\u00eb aty \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201cKoh\u00ebrat m\u00eb t\u00eb bukura\u201d.<\/p>\n

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Rasti 3. Gruaja \u00ebsht\u00eb dominuese dhe burri b\u00ebhet i famsh\u00ebm n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet saj<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ky rast \u00ebsht\u00eb leht\u00ebsisht ndryshe nga ai q\u00eb pam\u00eb m\u00eb lart. Gjenerali romak, Mark Antoni ishte i fuqish\u00ebm dhe pjes\u00eb e nj\u00eb tresheje q\u00eb pasuan Jul Cezarin, s\u00eb bashku me perandorin August dhe… e mbani mend emrin e t\u00eb tjetrit? Pak vet\u00eb kam d\u00ebgjuar p\u00ebr Markus Lepidusin. Ajo q\u00eb e b\u00ebri t\u00eb fuqish\u00ebm Mark Antonin ishte lidhja e tij me Kleopatr\u00ebn, gj\u00eb q\u00eb shtyu edhe Suetoniusin, Plutarkun (historian\u00eb romak\u00eb) dhe Shekspirin t\u00eb shkruanin p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Kleopatra, mbret\u00ebresha egjiptiane, m\u00eb par\u00eb, kishte qen\u00eb veg\u00ebl n\u00eb duart e Cezarit, me t\u00eb cilin b\u00ebri edhe nj\u00eb djal\u00eb. Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb grua shum\u00eb mbres\u00ebl\u00ebn\u00ebse dhe mbase do t\u00eb ishte e famshme, pavar\u00ebsisht se me k\u00eb kishte shkuar, por Mark Antoni u fut n\u00eb histori p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb saj.<\/p>\n

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Rasti 4. Kur nj\u00eb grua e bukur martohet me nj\u00eb burr\u00eb t\u00eb pasur<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb tipi m\u00eb i p\u00ebrhapur i \u00e7iftit t\u00eb fuqish\u00ebm, por edhe m\u00eb i m\u00ebrzitshmi. Kjo lidhje mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e q\u00ebndrueshme vet\u00ebm n\u00ebse gruaja \u00ebsht\u00eb e pjekur dhe inteligjente. Ajo i shton burrit pushtet dhe b\u00ebhet edhe vet\u00eb e pushtetshme, duke p\u00ebrdorur edhe bukurin\u00eb e saj. Shembuj t\u00eb grave t\u00eb bukura q\u00eb jan\u00eb martuar me burra t\u00eb pasur jan\u00eb modelet q\u00eb martohen me futbollist\u00eb, ose aktoret m\u00eb pak t\u00eb njohura, me koleg\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb njohur.<\/p>\n

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Rasti 5. Kur gruaja b\u00ebhet e famshme fal\u00eb burrit, por m\u00eb von\u00eb e eklipson at\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sonia Gandi (kryetare e partis\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe indiane) \u00ebsht\u00eb tani m\u00eb me influenc\u00eb dhe e pushtetshme sesa ka qen\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb i shoqi. N\u00eb fillim ata nuk mund t\u00eb cil\u00ebsoheshin si \u00e7ift i fuqish\u00ebm, n\u00eb kuptimin se nj\u00ebri prej tyre luante vet\u00ebm rolin e bashk\u00ebshortit. Por, n\u00eb Lindje, kjo nuk ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi. Edhe n\u00eb Per\u00ebndim, disa e kan\u00eb shfryt\u00ebzuar p\u00ebr bukuri martes\u00ebn e tyre. A mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet Hilari nj\u00eb figur\u00eb m\u00eb e fuqishme se Bill Klintoni? Mishel\u00eb Obama \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr figur\u00eb q\u00eb duhet ndjekur. Historia e kund\u00ebrt me at\u00eb t\u00eb Sonia Gandit mund t\u00eb gjendet n\u00eb Pakistan, ku Ali Asif Zardari u b\u00eb i njohur n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet martes\u00ebs me Benazir Buton dhe tani po b\u00ebhet edhe m\u00eb i njohur sa ajo.<\/p>\n

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Rasti 6. Kur gruaja e p\u00ebrdor pozicionin e saj pas martese p\u00ebr t\u00eb fituar pushtet<\/strong><\/p>\n

Shembulli modern m\u00eb i mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ai i Melinda Gejtsit, e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb forca q\u00eb gjendet pas fondacionit filantropik m\u00eb t\u00eb pasur dhe t\u00eb fuqish\u00ebm n\u00eb histori, pas Kish\u00ebs, Fondacionit Bill dhe Melinda Gejts. Ata kan\u00eb zhdukur poliomielitin nga India dhe tani i jan\u00eb sulur malarjes. Nj\u00eb shembull tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb ai i Jahangirit, perandor indian i shekullit XVI dhe Nur Jahanit, gruas s\u00eb tij t\u00eb bukur dhe inteligjente. Nur Jahani mori p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr gjith\u00eb detyrat qeveritare t\u00eb burrit t\u00eb saj. Ajo ka qen\u00eb gruaja m\u00eb e fuqishme n\u00eb 200 vitet e zot\u00ebrimit t\u00eb perandor\u00ebve Mughal\u00eb. Martesa e tyre nuk ishte nj\u00eb martes\u00eb e rregulluar, as p\u00ebr prestigj, as p\u00ebr interes. Ajo ishte vejush\u00eb dhe thuhet se ai e vuri re n\u00eb nj\u00eb pazar, ku grat\u00eb e fisnik\u00ebris\u00eb mund t\u00eb shisnin bizhuteri pa v\u00ebn\u00eb per\u00e7en dhe ra n\u00eb dashuri me t\u00eb.<\/p>\n

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  1. Kur gruaja \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00ebsoj e famshme si burri dhe, rivalja e tij<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie e qendrueshme, sepse \u00e7ifti \u00ebsht\u00eb i deyruar t\u2019i mbaj\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt jasht\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies s\u00eb tyre. Strategu i njohur amerikan, demokrati Xhejms Karvill, \u00ebsht\u00eb martuar me Meri Matalin, e cila b\u00ebnte pjes\u00eb n\u00eb ekipin e fushat\u00ebs s\u00eb Bushit. \u00c7ifti shpesh shfaqet n\u00eb emisionet televizive, duke mbrojtur secili idet\u00eb e partis\u00eb s\u00eb tij, bile shpeshher\u00eb duke folur me zem\u00ebrim, por gjithmon\u00eb me elokuenc\u00eb. B\u00ebn \u00e7udi kur mendon se sa t\u00eb devotsh\u00ebm jan\u00eb ata ndaj pozicionit t\u00eb tyre politik dhe prap\u00eb kan\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb suksesshme. \u201cNe nuk flasim kurr\u00eb p\u00ebr politik\u00ebn n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi\u201d, thot\u00eb Karvill. Aktualisht, ka plot lidhje t\u00eb tilla n\u00ebp\u00ebr qytete. Gruaja \u00ebsht\u00eb e pun\u00ebsuar, ka b\u00ebr\u00eb shkoll\u00eb dhe konkurron me burrin n\u00eb pag\u00eb dhe karrier\u00eb. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb drejtim, ne jemi t\u00eb gjith\u00eb \u00e7ifte t\u00eb fuqishme dhe kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb na b\u00ebn edhe interesant\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    N\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift t\u00eb fuqish\u00ebm, patjet\u00ebr q\u00eb gruaja \u00ebsht\u00eb e fuqishme. Shum\u00eb burra jan\u00eb t\u00eb fuqish\u00ebm edhe vet\u00ebm, por \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb grua e talentuar ajo q\u00eb e b\u00ebn \u00e7iftin interesant. Aristoteli ka folur p\u00ebr lidhjet dhe i ka klasifikuar ato n\u00eb tre lloje: T\u00eb bazuar n\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi, n\u00eb interes dhe ato t\u00eb bazuara n\u00eb virtytet […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9930","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9930","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9930"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9930\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9930"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9930"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9930"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}