{"id":9924,"date":"2015-07-08T18:30:53","date_gmt":"2015-07-08T16:30:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=9924"},"modified":"2015-07-08T11:56:49","modified_gmt":"2015-07-08T09:56:49","slug":"kam-humbur-besimin-te-meshkujt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2015\/07\/kam-humbur-besimin-te-meshkujt\/","title":{"rendered":"Kam humbur besimin te meshkujt"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>&#8211; Jam 31 vje\u00e7e, nga Tirana. Q\u00eb pas ndarjes, kam nj\u00eb problem tep\u00ebr t\u00eb madh, m\u00eb ka humbur besimi te meshkujt. Ka shum\u00eb djem q\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb, por un\u00eb vet\u00ebm i p\u00ebrbuz. Si mund ta fitoj besimin, pasi dhe veten e ndjej barr\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb?<\/strong><strong><em><u>Borana Marku, psikologe:<\/u><\/em><\/strong> &#8211; E kuptoj shum\u00eb mir\u00eb gjendjen n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ndodheni, por duhet t\u2019i jepni koh\u00eb vetes dhe do t\u00eb shikoni q\u00eb do t\u00eb dilni nga kjo gjendje shum\u00eb shpejt. Nuk duhet t\u00eb d\u00ebshp\u00ebroheni. N\u00ebse d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb rifitoni besimin te meshkujt, m\u00eb par\u00eb duhet ta fitoni te vetja, duke filluar me mosfaj\u00ebsimin e vetes. Ne femrat kemi tendenc\u00ebn q\u00eb p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb t\u00eb faj\u00ebsojm\u00eb veten. Mendoni se ndarja erdhi jo p\u00ebr fajin tuaj, por p\u00ebr shkaqe dhe probleme q\u00eb nuk ju p\u00ebrkisnin juve. Ishte humbja e tij, jo e juaja, thuajani vetes k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb her\u00eb pas here dhe do filloni ta besoni dhe t\u00eb ndiheni m\u00eb mir\u00eb m\u00eb veten. Merruni me di\u00e7ka t\u00eb re, me nj\u00eb sport, nj\u00eb hobi, nj\u00eb kurs, dilni me miqt\u00eb tuaj, por mos frekuentoni t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat vende ku shkonit m\u00eb par\u00eb me ish-in tuaj. T\u00eb pakt\u00ebn jo p\u00ebr momentin, q\u00eb t\u00eb shmangni \u00e7do lloj dhimbjeje dhe me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, pak nga pak, pse jo, shkoni n\u00eb ato vende q\u00eb t\u00eb inkurajoni veten, duke mos i lejuar kujtimet q\u00eb t\u2019ju vrasin t\u00eb tashmen apo t\u00eb ardhmen. Asgj\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e p\u00ebrjetshme, e dashur. Ke par\u00eb ti q\u00eb humbim njer\u00ebz t\u00eb dashur, si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb vdekja e nj\u00eb prindi, apo dhe larg qoft\u00eb e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije dhe p\u00ebrs\u00ebri jeta vazhdon. Po a ka dhimbje t\u00eb fort\u00eb se k\u00ebto: humbja e njer\u00ebzve m\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrt, q\u00eb nuk i ke n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bot\u00eb m\u00eb?! Nuk ka. Mendoni pra se ka dhimbje m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha. Ju jeni akoma e re dhe keni gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn p\u00ebrpara. Me kalimin e koh\u00ebs do ta fitoni besimin, edhe te vetja, edhe te meshkujt. Mundohuni t\u00eb mos q\u00ebndroni vet\u00ebm, por me miq. Mbushjani mendjen vetes se ai nuk ishte p\u00ebr ju e se ju meritoni m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe k\u00ebshtu do t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb. Mendoni pozitivisht dhe mos \u00e7oni d\u00ebm asnj\u00eb minut\u00eb, duke menduar p\u00ebr t\u00eb, sepse koha \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e shtrenjt\u00eb p\u00ebr ta humbur p\u00ebr ata q\u00eb desh\u00ebn vet\u00eb t\u00eb dalin nga jeta jon\u00eb. Mendoni gj\u00ebrat m\u00eb negative t\u00eb tij dhe gjendjen e d\u00ebshp\u00ebruar q\u00eb ju ka shkaktuar dhe do t\u2019i jepni forca vetes. Ka gjithmon\u00eb njer\u00ebz t\u00eb mir\u00eb, nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb meshkujt nj\u00ebsoj. Mendoni q\u00eb do t\u00eb njihni nj\u00eb njeri pozitiv e t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe kjo do t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb. Ju uroj fat.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8211; Jam 31 vje\u00e7e, nga Tirana. Q\u00eb pas ndarjes, kam nj\u00eb problem tep\u00ebr t\u00eb madh, m\u00eb ka humbur besimi te meshkujt. Ka shum\u00eb djem q\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb, por un\u00eb vet\u00ebm i p\u00ebrbuz. Si mund ta fitoj besimin, pasi dhe veten e ndjej barr\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb?Borana Marku, psikologe: &#8211; E kuptoj shum\u00eb mir\u00eb gjendjen n\u00eb t\u00eb [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86,219],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9924","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu","category-pyetje-pergjigje"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9924","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9924"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9924\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9924"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9924"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9924"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}