{"id":9861,"date":"2015-07-01T13:00:12","date_gmt":"2015-07-01T11:00:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=9861"},"modified":"2015-07-01T12:01:08","modified_gmt":"2015-07-01T10:01:08","slug":"shpjegimi-i-endrrave","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2015\/07\/shpjegimi-i-endrrave\/","title":{"rendered":"Shpjegimi i endrrave…"},"content":{"rendered":"

M\u00eb mbyten n\u00eb lum\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Kam par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr sikur shkova me shok\u00ebt p\u00ebr t\u2019u lar\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb lum\u00eb. U thash\u00eb: \u201cDakort jam, ikim atje\u201d dhe papritur ma fut\u00ebn kok\u00ebn n\u00eb uj\u00eb. Un\u00eb u thash\u00eb: \u201cPo si po ma b\u00ebni k\u00ebt\u00eb?\u201d dhe ata, sikur m\u00eb vran\u00eb. Nga sikleti, u zgjova nga gjumi. Pres nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje nga ana juaj. \u00c7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb? Faleminderit. <\/strong><\/p>\n

– Nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr e till\u00eb tregon q\u00eb p\u00ebr momentin, jeni n\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi. Mund t\u00eb keni nj\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm emocional q\u00eb nuk e shfaqni para t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve sepse e keni t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb hapeni p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Ndiheni po k\u00ebshtu i p\u00ebrjashtuar nga shoq\u00ebria. Mos vall\u00eb jeni mbyllur n\u00eb vetvete dhe fajin e k\u00ebrkoni diku tjet\u00ebr, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb zgjidhjen e gjith\u00eb gj\u00ebrave e keni vet\u00eb ju n\u00eb dor\u00eb?<\/p>\n

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N\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb tjet\u00ebr<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Kam par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr sikur isha n\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, isha i lumtur dhe vrapoja si i \u00e7mendur n\u00eb sip\u00ebrfaqen e k\u00ebtij vendi q\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb dukej si H\u00ebna. \u00c7far\u00eb kuptimi ka? Faleminderit. <\/strong><\/p>\n

– \u00cbndrrat q\u00eb shfaqen sikur jeni n\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb tjet\u00ebr a planet, kan\u00eb kuptimin e nj\u00eb faze t\u00eb re jetese. N\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj do t\u00eb hyjn\u00eb shum\u00eb persona t\u00eb tjer\u00eb q\u00eb ndoshta i keni par\u00eb, por me t\u00eb cil\u00ebt nuk jeni prezantuar asnj\u00ebher\u00eb. Njohja me ta do t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb pozitive dhe do t\u00eb ndiheni shum\u00eb mir\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr pozitive. Gjith\u00eb t\u00eb mirat.<\/p>\n

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U fejova<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Kam par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr sikur do t\u00eb fejohesha me ish-shokun e klas\u00ebs. Babai im nuk e donte k\u00ebt\u00eb fejes\u00eb. Shkova te sht\u00ebpia e tij me gjyshen time dhe i p\u00eblqeva shum\u00eb mamit t\u00eb tij, kurse ai vet\u00eb m\u00eb rrinte shum\u00eb indiferent. Pastaj, ky po fliste n\u00eb dhom\u00eb tjet\u00ebr me t\u00eb \u00ebm\u00ebn dhe i thoshte: \u201cUn\u00eb e dua shum\u00eb, por do t\u2019ia shpreh kur t\u00eb jemi vet\u00ebm\u201d. <\/strong><\/p>\n

– S\u2019e di si i keni marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet n\u00eb realitet me k\u00ebt\u00eb djal\u00eb, por \u00ebndrra tregon q\u00eb ju e mendoni, keni nj\u00eb lloj ndjenje t\u00eb fshehur p\u00ebr t\u00eb, simpati ose keni menduar di\u00e7ka rreth tij. Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb gj\u00ebrat, kur i mendojm\u00eb shum\u00eb, i t\u00ebrheqim drejt vetes, gjithmon\u00eb kur b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka t\u00eb fort\u00eb. N\u00eb nj\u00eb t\u00eb ardhme jo shum\u00eb t\u00eb larg\u00ebt, do t\u00eb merrni ndonj\u00eb lajm p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb person. Lajmi mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb lidhje me ju ose do t\u00eb d\u00ebgjoni p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Di\u00e7ka do t\u00eb d\u00ebgjoni rreth tij, kaq parashikoj tek \u00ebndrra juaj.<\/p>\n

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Piva cigare<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Pash\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr sikur i k\u00ebrkova cigare v\u00ebllait t\u00eb shoqes dhe ai m\u00eb dha dy. I piva dhe m\u00eb p\u00eblqyen shum\u00eb. Pastaj doja t\u2019ia lypja dhe po m\u00eb vinte turp, por kur ai doli nga dhoma, shkova dhe ia mora fshehurazi edhe dy t\u00eb tjera. Shkova n\u00eb banjo dhe i piva q\u00eb t\u00eb mos e merrnin vesh motrat q\u00eb po i pija. Nj\u00ebr\u00ebn cigare e ndeza me shkrep\u00ebse, kurse tjetr\u00ebn, me qiri sepse nuk e gjeta m\u00eb shkrep\u00ebsen. Doja t\u00eb dija shpjegimin. <\/strong><\/p>\n

– <\/strong>Nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr e till\u00eb tregon se \u00e7far\u00ebdo gj\u00ebje q\u00eb ju ka shqet\u00ebsuar, e keni kaluar. Pirja e cigares ka shum\u00eb kuptime. Ajo tregon trazira t\u00eb momentit, d\u00ebshir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019iu larguar stresit dhe \u00e7lirim t\u00eb emocioneve negative. N\u00eb rastin tuaj konkret, tregon q\u00eb do t\u00eb dilni nga gjendja stresante n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ndodheni. Gjith\u00e7ka do t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb si\u00e7 ju d\u00ebshironi, edhe pse keni kaluar v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi n\u00eb jet\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

M\u00eb mbyten n\u00eb lum\u00eb – Kam par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr sikur shkova me shok\u00ebt p\u00ebr t\u2019u lar\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb lum\u00eb. U thash\u00eb: \u201cDakort jam, ikim atje\u201d dhe papritur ma fut\u00ebn kok\u00ebn n\u00eb uj\u00eb. Un\u00eb u thash\u00eb: \u201cPo si po ma b\u00ebni k\u00ebt\u00eb?\u201d dhe ata, sikur m\u00eb vran\u00eb. Nga sikleti, u zgjova nga gjumi. Pres nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[91,219],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9861","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-endrra","category-pyetje-pergjigje"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9861","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9861"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9861\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9861"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9861"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9861"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}