{"id":9844,"date":"2015-06-29T18:00:35","date_gmt":"2015-06-29T16:00:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=9844"},"modified":"2015-06-29T11:27:48","modified_gmt":"2015-06-29T09:27:48","slug":"pese-arsye-pse-tradhtojne-burrat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2015\/06\/pese-arsye-pse-tradhtojne-burrat\/","title":{"rendered":"Pes\u00eb arsye pse tradhtojn\u00eb burrat"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><em>Njer\u00ebzit kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb t\u00eb ken\u00eb rregulla shum\u00eb t\u00eb forta p\u00ebrsa i p\u00ebrket monogamis\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje dhe, n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, ato nuk diskutohen kur vjen puna p\u00ebr t\u00eb reaguar ndaj tradhtive. Ndjehesh shum\u00eb keq kur dikush t\u00eb tradhton, ndjen l\u00ebndim, zem\u00ebrim dhe sigurisht q\u00eb e merr k\u00ebt\u00eb veprim si di\u00e7ka personale. Por, arsyet pse njer\u00ebzit tradhtojn\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb shumta dhe kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb medoemos se lidhjes i ka ardhur fundi. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Pastaj, kush e ka th\u00ebn\u00eb se monogamia \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka krejt natyrale? Mos ju duket m\u00eb i natyrsh\u00ebm fakti se duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebsh seks me nj\u00eb person gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebs, sesa ai i nd\u00ebrrimit t\u00eb partner\u00ebve seksual\u00eb, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb shijet, interesat dhe pjekuria e nj\u00eb personi ndryshon me kalimin e koh\u00ebs? Arsyet pse nj\u00eb person tradhton jan\u00eb individuale dhe nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebllojta p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, ashtu si mund t\u00eb mendohet. Ja, disa nga arsyet m\u00eb t\u00eb shpeshta pse burrat tradhtojn\u00eb&#8230;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong> Sepse u jepet rasti<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Sigurisht, edhe grat\u00eb tradhtojn\u00eb, por, kur flasim p\u00ebr burrat dhe tradhtin\u00eb, e v\u00ebrteta \u00ebsht\u00eb se burrat, kur u jepet rasti p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb seks, e shfryt\u00ebzojn\u00eb. Sipas nj\u00eb studimi, burrave u b\u00ebhen m\u00eb pak propozime p\u00ebr seks dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, e shfryt\u00ebzojn\u00eb rastin kur kan\u00eb ndonj\u00eb mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb till\u00eb. Asgj\u00eb nuk e stimulon m\u00eb shum\u00eb egon e nj\u00eb burri, sesa nj\u00eb grua (q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e tyrja), e cila u propozon nj\u00eb seanc\u00eb seksi t\u00eb shpejt\u00eb aty, mbi tavolin\u00ebn e zyr\u00ebs. Megjith\u00ebse kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb arsyeja m\u00eb e pavler\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb tradhtuar, \u00ebsht\u00eb shpesh nj\u00eb nga ato q\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktojn\u00eb fillimin e nj\u00eb lidhjeje t\u00eb till\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ol start=\"2\">\n<li><strong> Sepse i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb ndjehet i d\u00ebshiruar<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Fakti q\u00eb nj\u00eb burr\u00eb martohet, nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se humbet nevoj\u00ebn q\u00eb ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb i d\u00ebshiruar. K\u00ebshtu, megjith\u00ebse dashuria mbi tavolin\u00ebn e zyr\u00ebs mund t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb n\u00eb planet e tij, k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia e flirtimit nuk zhduket, medeomos, n\u00eb momentin kur ai lidh kuror\u00eb. Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb familjariteti dhe monotonia e nj\u00eb lidhjeje q\u00eb e shtyn nj\u00eb burr\u00eb t\u00eb tradhtoj\u00eb, ashtu si edhe tundimi i nj\u00eb aventure t\u00eb fundit.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ol start=\"3\">\n<li><strong> T\u00eb tradhtosh \u00ebsht\u00eb zbavit\u00ebse<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Tradhtia shkakton l\u00ebndim, \u00ebsht\u00eb prov\u00eb egoizmi dhe plagos shpirtin e atyre q\u00eb preken prej saj, megjithat\u00eb, pavar\u00ebsisht se \u00e7far\u00eb em\u00ebrtimi i v\u00eb, ajo q\u00eb e b\u00ebn tradhtin\u00eb kaq tunduese \u00ebsht\u00eb eksitimi dhe zbavitja q\u00eb e shoq\u00ebrojn\u00eb. Nj\u00eb lidhje \u201cligjore\u201d nuk mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb kurr\u00eb kaq \u201ce prap\u00eb\u201d dhe eksituese sesa nj\u00eb lidhje e paligjshme, p\u00ebr faktin e thjesht\u00eb se nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb sekrete. P\u00ebr shum\u00eb burra, nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie e till\u00eb nuk ka shum\u00eb lidhje me personin, bile as me seksin, sesa me eksitimin dhe drith\u00ebrimat q\u00eb sjell gjuetia, sekreti, bile edhe zhg\u00ebnjimi. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, tradhtia nuk ka lidhje fare me personin q\u00eb tradhtohet (pra, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb faji i tij), por ka lidhje me nj\u00eb nevoj\u00eb kompulsive q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb plot\u00ebsohet.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ol start=\"4\">\n<li><strong> Vet\u00ebk\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia e partneres<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Nuk jemi duke ia hedhur fajin \u201cviktim\u00ebs\u201d p\u00ebr tradhtin\u00eb, por nganj\u00ebher\u00eb, kur lidhesh, ndjehesh rehat dhe harron t\u00eb b\u00ebsh p\u00ebrpjekje. K\u00ebto p\u00ebrpjekje kan\u00eb lidhje me seksin, pamjen e jashtme dhe kujdesin p\u00ebr veten, komunikimin, t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto gj\u00ebra, p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilat investojm\u00eb kaq shum\u00eb koh\u00eb n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb lidhjes dhe q\u00eb i l\u00ebm\u00eb m\u00ebnjan\u00eb kur ndjehemi \u201crehat\u201d n\u00eb t\u00eb. Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr p\u00ebrpjekje, pavar\u00ebsisht n\u00ebse jeni bashk\u00eb prej tre muajsh apo tre dhjet\u00ebvje\u00e7ar\u00ebsh dhe jetesa n\u00eb familje nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb kupa e art\u00eb e lumturis\u00eb. Rritja e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, pagesa e faturave, z\u00ebnkat p\u00ebr t\u00eb vajtur apo jo p\u00ebr drek\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e prind\u00ebrve respektiv\u00eb, nuk jan\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb gj\u00ebrat m\u00eb seksi q\u00eb ke n\u00eb m\u00ebndje, kur p\u00ebrpiqesh q\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e gjumit. T\u00eb mbash gjall\u00eb an\u00ebn romantike t\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhjeje n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb gj\u00ebja m\u00eb e mir\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet, por nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb m\u00eb e lehta dhe kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga arsyet pse burrat tradhtojn\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ol start=\"5\">\n<li><strong> Mungesa e komunikimit<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Tradhtia \u00ebsht\u00eb shpesh simptom\u00eb e di\u00e7kaje m\u00eb t\u00eb thell\u00eb, nj\u00eb problemi n\u00eb lidhje, paaft\u00ebsis\u00eb q\u00eb ndjen dikush p\u00ebr t\u00eb komunikuar me tjetrin. \u00cbsht\u00eb \u00e7menduri t\u00eb mendosh se nj\u00eb \u00e7ift, q\u00eb ka jetuar me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin p\u00ebr 10 vjet n\u00ebn nj\u00eb \u00e7ati, \u00ebsht\u00eb i paaft\u00eb t\u00eb flas\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb problem n\u00eb lidhje, por nganj\u00ebher\u00eb, fshehja e kok\u00ebs n\u00ebn r\u00ebr\u00eb (ose n\u00eb di\u00e7ka m\u00eb zbavit\u00ebse), \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e leht\u00eb sesa nj\u00eb bised\u00eb ball\u00eb p\u00ebr ball\u00eb me tjetrin p\u00ebr t\u2019i treguar atij emocionet e tua. K\u00ebshtu, lidhja jasht\u00ebmaresore mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019iu larguar problemeve, ose nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjetur rehatin\u00eb, ose sigurin\u00eb te dikush q\u00eb ju sheh si prioritetin e tij, duke e b\u00ebr\u00eb personin n\u00eb fjal\u00eb t\u00eb ndjehet p\u00ebrs\u00ebri i vlefsh\u00ebm, i d\u00ebshiruar, i nevojsh\u00ebm, ose i jep atij nj\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb frym\u00eb lirisht, larg tensioneve dhe z\u00ebnkave.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>A duhet t\u00eb marr\u00eb fund lidhja nga nj\u00eb tradhti?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Jo gjithmon\u00eb! \u00c7do situat\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb unike dhe nj\u00eb person q\u00eb tradhton \u00ebsht\u00eb ndryshe nga tjetri. Por nj\u00eb tradhti nuk ka pse i jep medoemos fund nj\u00eb lidhjeje dhe, n\u00eb disa raste, mund t\u00eb sh\u00ebrbej\u00eb si nj\u00eb shkas p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndryshuar gj\u00ebrat. T\u00eb mendosh p\u00ebrtej seksit, t\u00eb m\u00ebsosh t\u00eb fal\u00ebsh tradhtin\u00eb dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrpioqesh t\u00eb kuptosh arsyet pse nj\u00eb person tradhton mund t\u00eb \u00e7oj\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb nivel t\u00eb till\u00eb komunikimi q\u00eb nuk e keni pasur kurr\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb. Sigurisht, kjo gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb realizohet, por n\u00ebse mendoni se lidhja juaj ia vlen t\u00eb shp\u00ebtohet, mos i lini njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb thon\u00eb se situata \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm bardh\u00eb e zi. Edhe grija \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb ngjyr\u00eb si t\u00eb tjerat&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Njer\u00ebzit kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb t\u00eb ken\u00eb rregulla shum\u00eb t\u00eb forta p\u00ebrsa i p\u00ebrket monogamis\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje dhe, n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, ato nuk diskutohen kur vjen puna p\u00ebr t\u00eb reaguar ndaj tradhtive. Ndjehesh shum\u00eb keq kur dikush t\u00eb tradhton, ndjen l\u00ebndim, zem\u00ebrim dhe sigurisht q\u00eb e merr k\u00ebt\u00eb veprim si di\u00e7ka personale. Por, arsyet pse njer\u00ebzit tradhtojn\u00eb [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9844","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-intimitet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9844","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9844"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9844\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9844"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9844"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9844"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}