{"id":9348,"date":"2015-05-22T13:00:03","date_gmt":"2015-05-22T11:00:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=9348"},"modified":"2015-05-22T11:01:16","modified_gmt":"2015-05-22T09:01:16","slug":"dua-shume-vajza-njekohesisht","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2015\/05\/dua-shume-vajza-njekohesisht\/","title":{"rendered":"Dua shum\u00eb vajza nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>&#8211; Kam ra n\u00eb hall, m\u00eb p\u00eblqejn\u00eb shum\u00eb vajza nj\u00ebher\u00ebsh dhe jam shum\u00eb i pavendosur, m\u00eb duket sikur jam i dashuruar me t\u00eb dyja vajzat, por edhe me nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb flas n\u00eb telefon. \u00c7far\u00eb e ka nj\u00ebra, s\u2019e ka tjetra. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, kam nj\u00eb lidhje shum\u00eb serioze q\u00eb ma di familja dhe pret q\u00eb un\u00eb t\u00eb fejohem. Problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb se m\u00eb rri mendja dhe te vajzat e tjera&#8230; si t\u00eb veproj?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><em><u>Borana Marku psikologe:<\/u><\/em><\/strong> &#8211; N\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb, un\u00eb mendoj se n\u00ebse fejoheni tani, do t\u00eb b\u00ebni gabimin m\u00eb t\u00eb madh t\u00eb jet\u00ebs suaj. Me ato \u00e7far\u00eb m\u00eb shkruani, mendoj se nuk e keni arritur pjekurin\u00eb e duhur p\u00ebr t\u2019u fejuar apo martuar. Keni nevoj\u00eb akoma t\u00eb rriteni dhe t\u00eb piqeni. Nj\u00eb arsye tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb se ju nuk keni gjetur akoma nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb e cila t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb totalisht p\u00ebr vete dhe t\u00eb mos e keni mendjen tek asnj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. Fakti q\u00eb ju doni shum\u00eb vajza p\u00ebrnj\u00ebher\u00ebsh, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb realisht nuk jeni i dashuruar me asnj\u00ebr\u00ebn prej tyre. Nuk jeni akoma gati psikologjikisht t\u00eb krijoni nj\u00eb lidhje serioze, sepse kjo gj\u00eb k\u00ebrkon shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi dhe p\u00ebrfshirje emocionale. Duhet t\u2019i jepni pak koh\u00eb vetes p\u00ebrpara se t\u00eb fejoheni, t\u00eb sqaroheni me veten tuaj se \u00e7far\u00eb k\u00ebrkoni realisht te nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>Nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr gj\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019ju k\u00ebshilloja \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos mbani kaq shum\u00eb vajza pezull n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb sepse p\u00ebrve\u00e7se i b\u00ebni d\u00ebm vetes, fare padashur mund t\u00eb l\u00ebndoni edhe vajzat. A do t\u2019ju p\u00eblqente juve q\u00eb nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr t\u2019ju l\u00ebndonte shpirt\u00ebrisht? Absolutisht jo. At\u00ebher\u00eb, mos e b\u00ebni as ju me asnj\u00ebr\u00ebn prej tyre. P\u00ebrqendrohuni te nj\u00ebra q\u00eb ju p\u00eblqen m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa tjetra, njiheni mir\u00eb dhe pak nga pak, do t\u00eb filloni t\u00eb b\u00ebni p\u00ebrzgjedhjet e duhura dhe t\u00eb zgjidhni vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr e cila ju b\u00ebn t\u00eb ndiheni i plot\u00eb shpirt\u00ebrisht. P\u00ebr momentin, mos hidhni asnj\u00eb hap p\u00ebr t\u2019u fejuar se do t\u00eb merrni n\u00eb qaf\u00eb si veten, ashtu edhe vajz\u00ebn me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn keni lidhje serioze. Rrini pak vet\u00ebm dhe shoq\u00ebrohuni vet\u00ebm miq\u00ebsisht me vajzat, gjersa t\u00eb gjeni at\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb marroseni pas saj. Ju uroj fat.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8211; Kam ra n\u00eb hall, m\u00eb p\u00eblqejn\u00eb shum\u00eb vajza nj\u00ebher\u00ebsh dhe jam shum\u00eb i pavendosur, m\u00eb duket sikur jam i dashuruar me t\u00eb dyja vajzat, por edhe me nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb flas n\u00eb telefon. \u00c7far\u00eb e ka nj\u00ebra, s\u2019e ka tjetra. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, kam nj\u00eb lidhje shum\u00eb serioze q\u00eb ma di familja dhe pret [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86,219],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9348","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu","category-pyetje-pergjigje"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9348","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9348"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9348\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9348"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9348"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9348"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}