{"id":9346,"date":"2015-05-22T12:00:37","date_gmt":"2015-05-22T10:00:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=9346"},"modified":"2015-05-22T10:59:42","modified_gmt":"2015-05-22T08:59:42","slug":"enada-puka-me-mire-e-vdekur-sesa-e-dhunuar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2015\/05\/enada-puka-me-mire-e-vdekur-sesa-e-dhunuar\/","title":{"rendered":"Enada Puka: M\u00eb mir\u00eb e vdekur sesa e dhunuar!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ajo quhet Enada Puka dhe fatkeq\u00ebsisht, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr femrat e shumta t\u00eb dhunuara nga nj\u00eb mashkull, m\u00eb sakt\u00eb, nga mashkulli i jet\u00ebs s\u00eb saj. Dhuna n\u00eb familje ka b\u00ebr\u00eb q\u00eb Eneda t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb jet\u00ebn e saj, t\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb mbrojt\u00ebse, sepse tashm\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb normale nuk mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb. Nd\u00ebrsa bisedoj me t\u00eb, e shoh t\u00eb trishtuar nd\u00ebrsa mendon t\u00eb ardhmen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs dhe thot\u00eb se k\u00ebrkon di\u00e7ka m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb nga jeta, ndon\u00ebse emrin e dhunuesit nuk mund ta b\u00ebj\u00eb publik dhe kjo e b\u00ebn at\u00eb t\u00eb dal\u00eb disi e humbur n\u00eb betej\u00ebn kundra dhun\u00ebs ndaj s\u00eb femrave. Ajo shprehet se s\u00eb shpejti do jet\u00eb pjes\u00ebtare e oragnizatave shoq\u00ebrore n\u00eb vend, p\u00ebr t\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb kontributin e saj n\u00eb mbrojtjen e femrave. P\u00ebr m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, rreth familjes, dhun\u00ebs s\u00eb ushtruar dhe gjendjes s\u00eb saj emocionale, ju ftoj t\u00eb lexoni k\u00ebt\u00eb rr\u00ebfim t\u00eb trishtuesh\u00ebm, por mjaft sensibilizues\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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– Enada, si ndihesh?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Eh, si t\u00eb ndihem?! E zhg\u00ebnjyer\u2026 Kam pasur nj\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb dhe tani m\u00eb duket sikur jam m\u00ebsuar me k\u00ebt\u00eb pabarazi gjinore, me dhun\u00ebn, q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebn t\u00eb heq\u00ebsh dor\u00eb nga elementet baz\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb familjeje normale. Tani i jam p\u00ebrkushtuar plot\u00ebsisht f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, edhe pse s\u2019e kam t\u00eb leht\u00eb, pasi kam shum\u00eb frik\u00eb p\u00ebr pik\u00ebn time t\u00eb dob\u00ebt, f\u00ebmij\u00ebn q\u00eb kam.<\/p>\n

– Nga kush ndihesh e k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuar?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Nga nj\u00eb person, i cili ka ushtruar jo vet\u00ebm dhun\u00eb fizike, por edhe psikologjike mbi mua. Nj\u00eb her\u00eb p\u00ebrfundova n\u00eb spital sepse kisha trauma n\u00eb trup.<\/p>\n

– Pse nuk e denoncon?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Emrin e tij nuk mund ta b\u00ebj publik sepse kam frik\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn tim. Ai m\u00eb ka k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuar me jet\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs dhe un\u00eb nuk kam besim n\u00eb rendin edhe n\u00eb policin\u00eb e shtetit. K\u00ebtu po vriten njer\u00ebz dhe faji ngelet jetim.<\/p>\n

– Si \u00ebsht\u00eb raporti yt me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Edhe pse kam kaluar shum\u00eb vuajtje, mundohem t\u00eb mos e jap vet\u00ebn me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn dhe t\u00eb jem nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb e mir\u00eb, me k\u00ebto pak mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb kam.<\/p>\n

– A ndihesh nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb si gjith\u00eb t\u00eb tjerat p\u00ebr t\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Si n\u00ebn\u00eb dhe si fem\u00ebr ndihem shum\u00eb e zhg\u00ebnjyer nga rrethanat emocionale dhe ekonomike n\u00eb t\u00eb cilat gjendem, por gj\u00ebja q\u00eb m\u00eb shqet\u00ebson m\u00eb shum\u00eb tani \u00ebsht\u00eb frika p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn dhe t\u00eb ardhmen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs tim.<\/p>\n

– Po mbi t\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb ushtruar dhun\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Jo, mbi f\u00ebmij\u00ebn jo, por ai ka qen\u00eb i pranish\u00ebm kur jam dhunuar un\u00eb. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, un\u00eb iu drejtova edhe nj\u00eb psikologu.<\/p>\n

– Deri tani, te kush je mb\u00ebshtetur dhe \u00e7far\u00eb masash ke marr\u00eb p\u00ebr mbrojtjen t\u00ebnde e t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Jam mb\u00ebshtetur te njer\u00ebzit e mi t\u00eb af\u00ebrt, por edhe rrethanat ekonomike nuk i kam t\u00eb mira, ndaj s\u2019mund t\u00eb drejtohem askund. Nuk kam besim as t\u00eb them gj\u00ebra m\u00eb konkrete se ku kam k\u00ebrkuar ndihm\u00eb e nuk kam gjetur, sepse mund t\u00eb m\u00eb sjell\u00eb edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb probleme.<\/p>\n

– Si \u00ebsht\u00eb jeta jote tani?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb them, \u201cm\u00eb mir\u00eb mos t\u00eb isha fare n\u00eb jet\u00eb\u201d. Jetoj nga halli.<\/p>\n

– Pse kur t\u00eb k\u00ebrkova intervist\u00ebn, refuzove t\u00eb flisje publikisht?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Ndikimi i mediave edhe i institucioneve q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb merren me ne, l\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb d\u00ebshiruar. Rasti i fundit q\u00eb kam lexuar n\u00eb gazeta m\u00eb ka tronditur. Lexova se nga dhuna n\u00eb familje nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr ishte n\u00eb rrezik p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn. U trondita shum\u00eb pasi ajo fem\u00ebr q\u00eb ishte duke luftuar p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn mund t\u00eb isha edhe un\u00eb. Kujtoj \u00e7astet q\u00eb kam kaluar dhe e them me gjith\u00eb zem\u00ebr se, m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb isha e vdekur sesa e dhunuar.<\/p>\n

– D\u00ebshira m\u00eb e madhe q\u00eb ke…<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Ta rris f\u00ebmij\u00ebn tim larg dhun\u00ebs. N\u00eb dit\u00ebn e n\u00ebnave, dua t\u00eb marr lule e dashuri e t\u00eb mos marr m\u00eb si dikur, dhun\u00eb pa arsye. M\u00eb trishton e ardhmja. Vet\u00ebm ndonj\u00eb mrekulli do t\u00eb m\u00eb b\u00ebnte t\u00eb mendoja pozitivisht.<\/p>\n

– \u00c7far\u00eb do t\u00eb m\u00eb thuash tani, n\u00eb fund t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj interviste?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Gjithkush duhet ta ket\u00eb t\u00eb qart\u00eb se, liria jote fillon aty ku mbaron liria ime. Dua t\u00eb b\u00ebj apel kund\u00ebr dhun\u00ebs ndaj femr\u00ebs edhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb dua t\u00eb bashk\u00ebpunoj edhe me organizatat n\u00eb vend. Femra meriton m\u00eb shum\u00eb. F\u00ebmij\u00ebn tim do ta m\u00ebsoj q\u00eb t\u2019i respektoj\u00eb femrat e t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb nj\u00eb mashkull m\u00eb shum\u00eb q\u00eb vet\u00ebm dhunon, p\u00ebr t\u00eb plot\u00ebsuar mang\u00ebsit\u00eb personale.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Ajo quhet Enada Puka dhe fatkeq\u00ebsisht, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr femrat e shumta t\u00eb dhunuara nga nj\u00eb mashkull, m\u00eb sakt\u00eb, nga mashkulli i jet\u00ebs s\u00eb saj. Dhuna n\u00eb familje ka b\u00ebr\u00eb q\u00eb Eneda t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb jet\u00ebn e saj, t\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb mbrojt\u00ebse, sepse tashm\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb normale nuk mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb. Nd\u00ebrsa bisedoj me t\u00eb, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[92],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9346","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-halle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9346","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9346"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9346\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9346"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9346"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9346"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}