{"id":9232,"date":"2015-05-13T15:30:36","date_gmt":"2015-05-13T13:30:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=9232"},"modified":"2015-05-13T12:21:09","modified_gmt":"2015-05-13T10:21:09","slug":"prej-ndrojtjes-humbas-njerez-te-rendesishem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2015\/05\/prej-ndrojtjes-humbas-njerez-te-rendesishem\/","title":{"rendered":"Prej ndrojtjes, humbas njer\u00ebz t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>&#8211; Jam nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb 20 vje\u00e7e, studente. Ndoshta edhe un\u00eb, si gjith\u00eb t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb e sot\u00ebm, mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj nj\u00eb pyetje v\u00ebrtet t\u00eb r\u00ebndomt\u00eb, ama m\u00eb mundon shum\u00eb. K\u00ebrkoj shum\u00eb nga vetja dhe nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. K\u00ebshtu e p\u00ebrmbledh problemin tim. D\u00ebshiroj shum\u00eb t\u00eb njihem me njer\u00ebz t\u00eb rinj, ama nuk afrohem dot, gjithmon\u00eb i shmang bisedat dhe asnj\u00ebher\u00eb nuk e hedh dot e para hapin p\u00ebr t\u00eb filluar nj\u00eb bised\u00eb me dik\u00eb. M\u00eb r\u00ebndon shum\u00eb ky fakt, sepse nganj\u00ebher\u00eb humbas njer\u00ebz v\u00ebrtet t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm nga ky karakter q\u00eb kam. M\u00eb ndodh q\u00eb t\u00eb rastis me djem q\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrroj t\u2019i kem n\u00eb krah, ndodh nj\u00eb flirt (her\u00eb-her\u00eb edhe s\u2019e jap veten, vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebn) dhe m\u00eb pas harrohet e gjitha. Nuk kaloj dot n\u00eb faz\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr, n\u00eb at\u00eb t\u00eb njohjes. Ju lutem, m\u00eb ndihmoni me nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje se si t\u00eb veproj. Theksoj se nga pamja e jashtme nuk m\u00eb mungon asgj\u00eb, jam t\u00ebrheq\u00ebse dhe e bukur. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><em><u>Borana Marku psikologe<\/u><\/em><\/strong>: &#8211; E dashur vajz\u00eb, me sa kuptuam nga letra juaj, ju futeni te personat e ndrojtur t\u00eb cil\u00ebt e kan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb hyjn\u00eb n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri me persona t\u00eb tjer\u00eb dhe sidomos me meshkujt. K\u00ebt\u00eb, ju e shprehni me faktin q\u00eb b\u00ebni t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebn kur doni t\u00eb afroheni me nj\u00eb mashkull dhe pasojat i vuani po ju, sepse m\u00ebrziteni q\u00eb nuk arrit\u00ebt t\u00eb konkretizoni nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri apo dhe nj\u00eb njohje p\u00ebrtej shoq\u00ebris\u00eb. P\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht, shum\u00eb t\u00eb rinj t\u00eb mosh\u00ebs tuaj e kan\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb lloj \u00e7rregullimi, sepse kan\u00eb frik\u00ebn e d\u00ebshtimit, frik\u00ebn se mos nuk do t\u00eb p\u00eblqehen nga ana tjet\u00ebr, frik\u00ebn e gjykimit, frik\u00ebn e l\u00ebndimit. Ata mendojn\u00eb shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht dhe vendosin mure para tyre. Ndrojtja ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe gjenetike, por edhe ajo mund t\u00eb kap\u00ebrcehet me kalimin e koh\u00ebs. Shum\u00eb persona e shfaqin ndrojtjen edhe me shenja t\u00eb tilla si: Rrahje t\u00eb forta t\u00eb zemr\u00ebs, djersitje t\u00eb duarve dhe skuqje n\u00eb fytyr\u00eb. K\u00ebshilla e par\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u2019ju jepja \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb frekuentoni kurse ku ka shum\u00eb jet\u00eb sociale, p\u00ebr shembull nj\u00eb kurs k\u00ebrcimi, kurs pikture, kuzhine, palest\u00ebr, apo di\u00e7ka t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ju e keni pasion, por q\u00eb n\u00eb thelb ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me nj\u00eb rreth t\u00eb madh shoq\u00ebror. Vet\u00ebm n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb dhe duke e l\u00ebn\u00eb veten t\u00eb lirshme, do t\u00eb dilni pak nga pak nga natyra juaj e ndrojtur. Duke frekuentuar ambiente t\u00eb tilla, duke u shoq\u00ebruar me shoqe q\u00eb i keni pak m\u00eb t\u00eb hedhura se veten, m\u00eb t\u00eb shkath\u00ebta e m\u00eb t\u00eb shoq\u00ebrueshme, do t\u00eb futeni pak nga pak n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb q\u00eb ju k\u00ebrkoni dhe do ta harroni ndrojtjen. Nuk keni pse t\u00eb b\u00ebni t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebn n\u00ebse dikush ju p\u00eblqen. Askush nuk i do vajzat q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00ebn m\u00eb shum\u00eb se\u00e7 duhet; vajzat e qeshura, t\u00eb shkath\u00ebta dhe t\u00eb shoq\u00ebrueshme t\u00ebrheqin m\u00eb shum\u00eb. Pse t\u00eb mos jeni edhe ju e till\u00eb? Jepini kurajo vetes dhe koh\u00ebn e lir\u00eb shfryt\u00ebzojeni n\u00eb ambiente ku ka shum\u00eb jet\u00eb sociale. Ju uroj fat!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8211; Jam nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb 20 vje\u00e7e, studente. Ndoshta edhe un\u00eb, si gjith\u00eb t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb e sot\u00ebm, mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj nj\u00eb pyetje v\u00ebrtet t\u00eb r\u00ebndomt\u00eb, ama m\u00eb mundon shum\u00eb. K\u00ebrkoj shum\u00eb nga vetja dhe nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. K\u00ebshtu e p\u00ebrmbledh problemin tim. D\u00ebshiroj shum\u00eb t\u00eb njihem me njer\u00ebz t\u00eb rinj, ama nuk afrohem dot, gjithmon\u00eb i [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86,219],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9232","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu","category-pyetje-pergjigje"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9232","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9232"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9232\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9232"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9232"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9232"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}