Un\u00eb q\u00eb po ju shkruaj jam Flutura, aktualisht, 40 vje\u00e7e. Jam nj\u00eb grua e ve. Prej 5 vjet\u00ebsh, pas nj\u00eb aksidenti automobilistik, im shoq humbi jet\u00ebn n\u00eb nj\u00eb mosh\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb re. Ishte vet\u00ebm 35 vje\u00e7, n\u00eb lule t\u00eb jet\u00ebs. Shok\u00ebt e tij akoma nuk e kishin nisur jet\u00ebn kur ai vdiq. E kam dashuruar gjithmon\u00eb si dit\u00ebn e par\u00eb q\u00eb jemi njohur. Jo se ka qen\u00eb bashk\u00ebshorti im, por ka qen\u00eb nj\u00eb njeri i mrekulluesh\u00ebm, njeri me shum\u00eb virtyte. Gjat\u00eb viteve q\u00eb kemi jetuar bashk\u00eb, m\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb ndjehem v\u00ebrtet fem\u00ebr. Ka qen\u00eb nj\u00eb mashkull me t\u00eb cilin \u00e7do fem\u00ebr mund t\u00eb dashurohej, por fati e kishte shkruar q\u00eb ai t\u00eb ndahej nga jeta shum\u00eb i ri. Por, jam me fat sepse nga dashuria jon\u00eb lindi dhe vajza jon\u00eb, Arla. Ishim shum\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur t\u00eb tre. Gjithmon\u00eb dilnim bashk\u00eb sa edhe t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve u binte n\u00eb sy kjo gj\u00eb dhe shpeshher\u00eb m\u00eb thonin: \u201cMarshalla, gjithmon\u00eb t\u00eb tre\u201d.
\nN\u00eb koh\u00ebn q\u00eb bashk\u00ebshorti im u nda nga jeta, Arla ishte vet\u00ebm 11 vje\u00e7e. T\u00eb dyja kemi kaluar momente shum\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira. M\u00eb vjen shum\u00eb keq p\u00ebr vajz\u00ebn sepse n\u00eb ato momente nuk e kuptonte humbjen e t\u00eb atit, por ajo dita-dit\u00ebs rritet edhe e ndjen dhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb munges\u00ebn e tij. Gj\u00ebja pozitive mbas humbjes s\u00eb bashk\u00ebshortit ka qen\u00eb se kam pasur dhe kam nj\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetje t\u00eb jasht\u00ebzakonshme nga njer\u00ebzit e bashk\u00ebshortit tim. \u00cbsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka t\u00eb cil\u00ebn e vler\u00ebsoj v\u00ebrtet shum\u00eb. Q\u00eb nga ai moment, ata m\u00eb kan\u00eb q\u00ebndruar gjithmon\u00eb pran\u00eb, sa kan\u00eb pasur mund\u00ebsi. Kjo gj\u00eb mendoj se i ka b\u00ebr\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb Arl\u00ebs, e cila ka pasur gjakun e babait t\u00eb saj aty, duke i larguar sadopak dhimbjen e humbjes. Arla aktualisht \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb gjimnaz, n\u00eb vitin e dyt\u00eb dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb mjaft e mbyllur n\u00eb vetvete. Jam p\u00ebrpjekur shum\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb flas me t\u00eb e t\u00eb gjejm\u00eb nj\u00eb gjuh\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, sepse n\u00eb fillim, si\u00e7 ia kam shprehur edhe asaj, duhet t\u00eb jemi shoqe; \u00e7far\u00ebdolloj gj\u00ebje q\u00eb t\u00eb ket\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb e hapur me mua, mir\u00ebpo p\u00ebrgjigjja e Arl\u00ebs kur i them se ne t\u00eb dyja duhet t\u00eb flasim p\u00ebr gjith\u00e7ka sepse kjo na ndihmon q\u00eb t\u00eb komunikojm\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb se \u201cnuk kam asgj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar\u201d dhe futet n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e saj e nuk flet m\u00eb.
\nNj\u00eb dit\u00eb po e diskutoja k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb me kunat\u00ebn time, e cila m\u00eb sugjeroi q\u00eb fillimisht t\u00eb shkoja te nj\u00eb psikologe dhe t\u2019i tregoja historin\u00eb e vajz\u00ebs, q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb m\u00eb jepte disa k\u00ebshilla. Vendos\u00ebm nj\u00eb dit\u00eb t\u00eb dyja dhe shkuam te nj\u00eb psikologe q\u00eb ajo e njihte. I shpjegova psikologes me detaje se \u00e7far\u00eb po m\u00eb ndodhte me Arl\u00ebn. Ajo m\u00eb d\u00ebgjoi dhe m\u00eb tha se duhet t\u00eb caktonim nj\u00eb dat\u00eb ku t\u00eb linim takim bashk\u00eb me Arl\u00ebn. E caktova dat\u00ebn e konsult\u00ebs kur duhet t\u00eb shkoja bashk\u00eb me vajz\u00ebn. Psikologia m\u00eb k\u00ebshilloi dhe m\u00eb tregoi edhe m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si duhet t\u2019ia tregoja Arl\u00ebs vendimin q\u00eb kisha marr\u00eb p\u00ebr ta ndihmuar at\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ishim m\u00eb t\u00eb komunikueshme bashk\u00eb.
\nAt\u00eb dit\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u2019ia tregoja, vendosa q\u00eb t\u2019ia b\u00ebja pak a shum\u00eb si surpriz\u00eb. Shova te shkolla dhe po prisja q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb mbaronte m\u00ebsimin. Kur m\u00eb pa, nuk u g\u00ebzua fare, por m\u00eb tha thjesht: \u201c\u00c7ne q\u00eb paske dal\u00eb sot k\u00ebtej?\u201d. I thash\u00eb se nuk kisha asgj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi dhe vendosa t\u2019i b\u00ebja surpriz\u00eb; meq\u00eb ishte e premte dhe e kishim fundjav\u00ebn p\u00ebrpara, t\u00eb hanim nj\u00eb drek\u00eb jasht\u00eb. N\u00eb fillim nuk donte t\u00eb dilnim, por me k\u00ebmb\u00ebnguljen time, pranoi. Biseduam si gjithmon\u00eb, q\u00eb jam un\u00eb ajo q\u00eb ia nxjerr fal\u00ebt si me zor. M\u00eb pyeti vet\u00ebm se ku do t\u00eb iknim. Sado q\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqesha ta pyesja se si ia kishte kaluar n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb e gj\u00ebra t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj natyre, ajo m\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjej m\u00eb fjali shum\u00eb t\u00eb shkurtra. Arrit\u00ebm te restoranti. Porosit\u00ebm dhe po mundohesha larg e larg q\u00eb t\u2019i tregoja n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn q\u00eb psikologia m\u00eb k\u00ebshilloi se un\u00eb kisha qen\u00eb te nj\u00eb psikologe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje q\u00eb m\u00eb shqet\u00ebsonte dhe se her\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr kishim l\u00ebn\u00eb nj\u00eb takim ku duhet t\u00eb vinte edhe ajo, por nuk e prisja kursesi reagimin e saj…
\nU ngrit nga tavolina duke m\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb kjo gj\u00eb nuk mund t\u00eb ndodhte asnj\u00ebher\u00eb, sepse atje shkonin vet\u00ebm t\u00eb \u00e7mendurit e \u201cun\u00eb, m\u00eb tha, nuk jam e \u00e7mendur\u201d. U largua dhe, ashtu si e hutuar vrapova pas saj, duke mos paguar as llogarin\u00eb. P\u00ebr t\u00eb mos r\u00ebn\u00eb edhe shum\u00eb n\u00eb sy t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve, i thash\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb priste te dera jasht\u00eb, sa t\u00eb b\u00ebja pages\u00ebn. B\u00ebra pages\u00ebn, por kur dola, nuk e gjeta jasht\u00eb. Pyeta disa shofera q\u00eb punonin aty se mos e kishin par\u00eb nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb dhe nj\u00ebri m\u00eb tha se mori taksin\u00eb dhe u largua. Nuk e kuptova se si ndodhi. U nisa direkt p\u00ebr n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi sepse mendova se do ta gjeja aty, por nuk ishte. I bija telefonit dhe m\u00eb dilte i fikur. Po \u00e7mendesha, \u00e7far\u00eb nuk mendoja! I telefonova kunatit dhe i tash\u00eb se e prisja n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi sepse Arla ishte larguar dhe nuk e dija se ku. Ai erdhi menj\u00ebher\u00eb. Pas pak \u00e7astesh, ra dera dhe ishte Arla. U lumturova pa mas\u00eb. E pyeta menj\u00ebher\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb ndodhi q\u00eb u largua ashtu dhe se ku kishte qen\u00eb. M\u2019u p\u00ebrgjigj: \u201cIsha te varrezat, te babi\u201d dhe u fut n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e saj duke qar\u00eb…
\nJam n\u00eb nj\u00eb gjendje shum\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, m\u00eb ka gjetur belaja me vajz\u00ebn time. Akoma nuk e kemi gjetur gjuh\u00ebn e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt. Nuk e di se si t\u00eb sillem, si t\u00eb veproj. Gjendja mes ne t\u00eb dyjave vazhdon t\u00eb jet\u00eb e nj\u00ebjt\u00eb. Kam pyetur edhe n\u00eb shkoll\u00ebn e saj dhe m\u00eb kan\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb nga m\u00ebsueset e deri te shoqet e shok\u00ebt e saj q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb mjaft e mbyllur e nuk shprehet lirsh\u00ebm kur bisedon me ta. Po \u00e7mendem nga kjo situat\u00eb! Nuk di se si ta ndihmoj t\u00eb dal\u00eb nga kjo gjendje. \u00c7far\u00eb m\u00eb thoni ju?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Un\u00eb q\u00eb po ju shkruaj jam Flutura, aktualisht, 40 vje\u00e7e. Jam nj\u00eb grua e ve. Prej 5 vjet\u00ebsh, pas nj\u00eb aksidenti automobilistik, im shoq humbi jet\u00ebn n\u00eb nj\u00eb mosh\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb re. Ishte vet\u00ebm 35 vje\u00e7, n\u00eb lule t\u00eb jet\u00ebs. Shok\u00ebt e tij akoma nuk e kishin nisur jet\u00ebn kur ai vdiq. E kam dashuruar […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":9064,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[94],"tags":[254],"class_list":["post-9061","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-histori-nga-jeta","tag-histori-personale"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9061","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9061"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9061\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9064"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9061"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9061"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9061"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}