– Jam nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb q\u00eb e lexoj rregullisht k\u00ebt\u00eb rubrik\u00eb. Doja nj\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00eb, nj\u00eb mendim psikologjik a si ta shikoni ju t\u00eb arsyeshme, p\u00ebr problemin tim. Kam qen\u00eb e dashuruar tashm\u00eb prej vitesh me djalin q\u00eb kisha dhe papritur, \u00e7do gj\u00eb u prish, megjith\u00ebse ishim gati t\u00eb fejoheshim, se kishim 5 vjet t\u00eb lidhur. Ai iku me nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr dhe m\u00eb la. M\u00eb ka l\u00ebnduar shum\u00eb, m\u00eb ka shkat\u00ebrruar shpirt\u00ebrisht e psikologjikisht, por problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb se e mbaj mendjen tek ai gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebn. Pavar\u00ebsisht se \u00e7far\u00eb m\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb, nuk e harroj dot. Jam b\u00ebr\u00eb si me fiksime dhe e ndjek edhe n\u00eb Facebook e kudo, por theksoj q\u00eb nuk ka kthim m\u00eb mbrapa me at\u00eb person, pavar\u00ebsisht se si ndihem un\u00eb. Ju lutem, m\u00eb thoni, si t\u00eb veproj, q\u00eb ta harroj? Aq shum\u00eb jam lodhur, sa dua vet\u00ebm t\u00eb fle gjum\u00eb dhe shoh q\u00eb kam edhe dob\u00ebsi fizike e sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore…
\nBorana Marku psikologe: – E nderuar vajz\u00eb, e kuptoj shum\u00eb mir\u00eb gjendjen tuaj dhe mund t\u2019ju them q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim q\u00eb gjendja fizike e lodhur q\u00eb e ndjeni vazhdimisht \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje e organizmit tuaj ndaj stresit q\u00eb keni p\u00ebrjetuar pas ndarjes nga ky djal\u00eb. Ju vet\u00eb e theksoni q\u00eb nuk doni t\u00eb ktheheni m\u00eb mbrapa me t\u00eb, at\u00ebhere p\u00ebrse e torturoni veten duke e ndjekur n\u00eb Facebook, apo n\u00eb jet\u00ebn reale? Gj\u00ebja e par\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebni \u00ebsht\u00eb ta hiqni nga miqt\u00eb e Facebookut dhe t\u00eb fshini \u00e7do kujtim me t\u00eb. Sigurisht q\u00eb harresa \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb proces q\u00eb k\u00ebrkon koh\u00eb, nuk mund t\u00eb realizohet me d\u00ebshir\u00eb apo brenda nj\u00eb minuti, p\u00ebr m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, kur lidhet me persona apo ngjarje q\u00eb kan\u00eb pasur ndikim t\u00eb madh n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e njeriut.
\nUn\u00eb ju k\u00ebshilloj t\u00eb kapni frenat e jet\u00ebs suaj n\u00eb dor\u00eb dhe ta riorganizoni jet\u00ebn tuaj n\u00eb at\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos lini aspak hap\u00ebsir\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mendoni p\u00ebr t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn tuaj, aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr p\u00ebr nj\u00eb individ i cili ju ka shkaktuar k\u00ebt\u00eb gjendje. Mendoni gjith\u00eb gj\u00ebrat negative q\u00eb ju ka b\u00ebr\u00eb, sh\u00ebnojini n\u00eb nj\u00eb let\u00ebr dhe m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti, mendoni kohen e humbur me t\u00eb. Keni p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb ndiheni m\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe do t\u00eb filloni jo ta urreni, por t\u00eb ndjeni neveri p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Punoni, studioni, ndiqni nj\u00eb sport apo aktivitet fizik q\u00eb t\u00eb humbisni mendjen dhe t\u2019i sh\u00ebrbeni fizikut dhe sh\u00ebndetit tuaj p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht, por ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht, atij psikologjik. Gjith\u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur; edhe harresa \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur. Ju, duke e pasur mendjen tek ai, humbisni rastet e njohjeve q\u00eb mund t\u00eb keni n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb koh\u00eb q\u00eb jeni e lir\u00eb. A nuk ju mjaftuan 5 vjet q\u00eb ia kushtuat? P\u00ebrse duhet t\u2019i kushtoni edhe tani koh\u00eb nga koha juaj e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb e vyer?! Koh\u00ebn tuaj kushtojani vet\u00ebm vetes suaj, formimit tuaj, koh\u00ebs s\u00eb lir\u00eb, miqve, arg\u00ebtimit dhe pse jo, nj\u00eb pune apo shkolle e cila ju ka ngelur peng. Kurr\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb von\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb filluar nga e para. Duke e z\u00ebn\u00eb koh\u00ebn tuaj, duke jetuar t\u00eb tashmen, investoni edhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen tuaj.
\nN\u00ebse keni nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb qani, t\u00eb flisni p\u00ebr t\u00eb, ta diskutoni historin\u00eb me t\u00eb, b\u00ebjeni k\u00ebt\u00eb me personat m\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrt dhe keni p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb se do t\u00eb \u00e7liroheni. Duke folur p\u00ebr t\u00eb shpesh, duke kujtuar dhe at\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb ju ka b\u00ebr\u00eb, do filloni t\u00eb ndjeni nevojen p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur di\u00e7ka t\u00eb re n\u00eb krah. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb dhe pak nga pak, do t\u00eb arrini t\u00eb sh\u00ebroheni nga ky lloj fiksimi t\u00eb cilin e keni vet\u00ebm ju n\u00eb dor\u00eb q\u00eb ta largoni. Ju uroj q\u00eb ta kaloni sa m\u00eb shpejt dhe t\u00eb na shkruani se tashm\u00eb jeni e lir\u00eb nga e kaluara dhe gati p\u00ebr t\u00eb jetuar t\u00eb tashmen. Gjith\u00eb t\u00eb mirat! <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– Jam nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb q\u00eb e lexoj rregullisht k\u00ebt\u00eb rubrik\u00eb. Doja nj\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00eb, nj\u00eb mendim psikologjik a si ta shikoni ju t\u00eb arsyeshme, p\u00ebr problemin tim. Kam qen\u00eb e dashuruar tashm\u00eb prej vitesh me djalin q\u00eb kisha dhe papritur, \u00e7do gj\u00eb u prish, megjith\u00ebse ishim gati t\u00eb fejoheshim, se kishim 5 vjet t\u00eb lidhur. Ai […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86,219],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8915","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu","category-pyetje-pergjigje"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8915","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8915"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8915\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8915"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8915"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8915"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}