– I nderuar doktor, jemi shum\u00eb t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr vajz\u00ebn ton\u00eb, e cila dit\u00eb pas dite po ndryshon pa na dh\u00ebn\u00eb shpjegime se \u00e7far\u00eb po ndodh me t\u00eb. Ajo e ka humbur totalisht interesin mbi veten, nuk flet shum\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb tep\u00ebr e mbyllur, nuk hapet as me njer\u00ebzit e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, nuk ka as shum\u00eb shoq\u00ebri dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb pasive e indiferente qoft\u00eb edhe p\u00ebr gj\u00ebra t\u00eb zakonshme t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme. Rri shum\u00eb n\u00eb internet dhe thot\u00eb se nuk e kupton njeri. Sado q\u00eb ne mundohemi t\u2019i flasim dhe ta mbajm\u00eb af\u00ebr, ajo nuk do t\u00eb flas\u00eb e largohet. Ka disa momente kur flet p\u00ebr situata q\u00eb ajo mendon se i ka kaluar kur n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb nuk i kan\u00eb ndodhur. Kur ne e kund\u00ebrshtojm\u00eb, bindet se \u00ebsht\u00eb ashtu si themi ne. Jemi t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuar mbi gjendjen e saj dhe ju drejtohemi juve p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje t\u00eb sakt\u00eb mbi at\u00eb q\u00eb ajo mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb. Mos \u00ebsht\u00eb me depresion? Ju lutemi t\u00eb na ktheni p\u00ebrgjigje sa m\u00eb shpejt. Pun\u00eb t\u00eb mbar\u00eb dhe faleminderit!
\nDr. Jashar Demiri, psikolog klinicist: – \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb japim nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje aq t\u00eb sakt\u00eb si\u00e7 e k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb k\u00ebto situata, p\u00ebr ta ditur n\u00ebse vajza juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb me depresion, pa e vizituar dhe pa i b\u00ebr\u00eb asaj testet e depresionit. Nodhin shum\u00eb \u201c\u00e7udira\u201d gjat\u00eb testimit, pasi na vijn\u00eb plot njer\u00ebz t\u00eb cil\u00ebve u \u00ebsht\u00eb mbushur mendja top se jan\u00eb me depresion dhe mund t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb mbetur pengje t\u00eb fiksimeve, d\u00ebshirave t\u00eb m\u00ebdha, ngjarjeve etj., por nuk kan\u00eb depresion, edhe pse qajn\u00eb me lot\u00ebt rr\u00ebke p\u00ebr gjendjen e vet. Gjat\u00eb testimit, rezulton se mjaft prej tyre, edhe pse t\u00eb axhituar, duksh\u00ebm me ankth e si t\u00eb shk\u00ebputur nga realiteti, nuk jan\u00eb n\u00eb depresion klinik, por ose n\u00eb gjendje ankthi, ose me obsesione, ose me depresione normale (reaguese) si rezultat i ndonj\u00eb ngjarjeje stresante, ose me sindroma t\u00eb ndryshme si p\u00ebr shembull sindromi i \u201cfoles\u00eb boshe\u201d, sindromi \u201cbovariz\u00ebm\u201d etj. Un\u00eb, q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim, jo vet\u00ebm nga shkenca, por edhe nga p\u00ebrvoja ime e gjat\u00eb, e kuptoj se s\u2019mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb me depresion nj\u00eb njeri aq i shqet\u00ebsuar dhe i preokupuar p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin apo p\u00ebr gjendjen e tij. Ai q\u00eb e ka frik\u00eb vdekjen apo katastrof\u00ebn, q\u00eb mezi pret q\u00eb t\u00eb vij\u00eb te doktori e t\u00eb gjej\u00eb zgjidhje, q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i interesuar t\u2019i b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha \u201cdetyrat\u201d q\u00eb i japim ne, deri edhe t\u00eb l\u00ebr\u00eb drog\u00ebn apo duhanin vet\u00ebm e vet\u00ebm q\u00eb t\u00eb shp\u00ebtoj\u00eb nga ky lloj \u201cmallkimi\u201d i papritur, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb me depresion. E kund\u00ebrta ndodh me ata q\u00eb jan\u00eb me depresion: Ata jan\u00eb krejt t\u00eb painteresuar e t\u00eb pamotivuar, mezi \u00e7ohen nga krevati e mezi vishen, s\u2019u mjaftojn\u00eb fuqit\u00eb p\u00ebr pun\u00eb, nuk kan\u00eb gjum\u00eb e as oreks, p\u00ebrtojn\u00eb t\u00eb lahen, s\u2019u p\u00eblqen asgj\u00eb dhe e kan\u00eb humbur interesin p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn e p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit e tjer\u00eb, aq sa mendimin p\u00ebr vet\u00ebvrasje jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb nuk e kan\u00eb frik\u00eb, por madje, mund ta ken\u00eb edhe si nj\u00eb lloj \u201cngush\u00ebllimi\u201d. K\u00ebtu q\u00ebndron edhe v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsia se ata me depresion nuk jan\u00eb bashk\u00ebpunues t\u00eb mir\u00eb me ne doktor\u00ebt, as nuk binden leht\u00eb p\u00ebr ta \u201cpranuar\u201d depresionin dhe p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht, jan\u00eb skeptik\u00eb, edhe pse u thuhet se depresioni futet te s\u00ebmundjet plot\u00ebsisht t\u00eb sh\u00ebrueshme. Edhe depresionet jan\u00eb disa llojesh dhe format minore nuk kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr psikiat\u00ebr, por vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr terapit\u00eb e \u00ebmbla si psikoterapi dhe ila\u00e7e 100 % bimore. Edhe format e r\u00ebnda t\u00eb depresionit kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr psikolog i cili b\u00ebn at\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb kryesorja: Njohja dhe bashk\u00ebjetesa me s\u00ebmundjen, bashk\u00ebpunim, pranimi me nd\u00ebrhyrjen profesionale (psikiat\u00ebr-psikolog) si dhe ndryshimin n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn e t\u00eb menduarit dhe t\u00eb jetuarit.
\nSa i p\u00ebrket vajz\u00ebs suaj, t\u00eb nderuar let\u00ebrshkrues, ajo mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb gjendje si n\u00eb \u201cbot\u00ebn\u201d e vet, gjys\u00ebm t\u00eb shk\u00ebputur nga realiteti, ndoshta edhe n\u00ebn ndikimin e internetit, pasi ka plot raste kur njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb obsesionuar me lloj-lloj \u00e7udirash, pak e nga pak, u duket sikur po shohin \u201c\u00ebndrra\u201d me sy hapur, ndaj n\u00eb k\u00ebto raste do t\u00eb duhet pik\u00ebrisht psikoterapia, si nj\u00eb zmerile e leht\u00eb e deri edhe si nj\u00eb \u201cshok\u201d psikologjik, p\u00ebr t\u2019ua zgjuar e shkundur vet\u00ebdijen, duke i zbritur me k\u00ebmb\u00eb n\u00eb tok\u00eb. Ka shum\u00eb mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb vajza juaj t\u00eb mos ket\u00eb depresion, p\u00ebrderisa interesohet kaq shum\u00eb p\u00ebr internetin. Tjet\u00ebr pun\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb se sa i d\u00ebmsh\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast interneti, si \u00e7do gj\u00eb e tepruar, pasi si\u00e7 kemi th\u00ebn\u00eb shpesh, edhe e mira tep\u00ebr, shpesh, kthehet n\u00eb t\u00eb keqen e s\u00eb mir\u00ebs. Ni\u00e7e ka th\u00ebn\u00eb se t\u00eb metat tona jan\u00eb syt\u00eb me t\u00eb cil\u00ebt ne \u201cshohim\u201d idealen.
\nKa shum\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi q\u00eb t\u00eb diagnostikohet sakt\u00eb vajza juaj, pasi n\u00ebse ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb me depresion, mundet q\u00eb nuk na pret puna, pasi njeriu me depresion mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb edhe plane p\u00ebr vet\u00ebvrasje, por mund t\u2019i mungoj\u00eb guximi. Ka ndodhur q\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht mjekimi me barna ia ka kthyer k\u00ebt\u00eb guxim t\u00eb s\u00ebmurit dhe ai ka b\u00ebr\u00eb hatan\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb kur familjar\u00ebt kan\u00eb kujtuar se u qet\u00ebsua. Prandaj, jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb nuk duhet ta flem\u00eb mendjen e t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb \u201curra\u201d para kohe, por edhe t\u00eb korrigjojm\u00eb ndonj\u00eb gabim njer\u00ebzor. Prandaj familjar\u00ebt duhet t\u2019i lexojn\u00eb flet\u00ebt shoq\u00ebruese t\u00eb barnave duke shmangur e refuzuar ata antidepresiv\u00eb, te t\u00eb cil\u00ebt shkruhet: \u201cNuk u jepet atyre q\u00eb kan\u00eb shfaqur mendime apo tendenc\u00eb p\u00ebr vet\u00ebvrasje\u201d. Mundet q\u00eb vajza juaj ka ca sekrete pik\u00eblluese t\u00eb cilat nuk i ndan dot me ju, por edhe sikur ju vet\u00eb t\u00eb ishit psikolog, a nuk thot\u00eb populli se ustai nuk e rregullon dot sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e vet?
\nGjat\u00eb nj\u00eb bisede t\u00eb shtruar me vajz\u00ebn tuaj, ne do t\u00eb hapnim dyer e dritare t\u00eb \u201cmagazinave\u201d t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijes, p\u00ebr t\u2019u ajrosur e sistemuar, gj\u00eb q\u00eb do ta leht\u00ebsonte e \u00e7lironte shum\u00eb vajz\u00ebn. Kjo vet\u00ebkuptohet se nuk arrihet vet\u00ebm me nj\u00eb seanc\u00eb, porse edhe nj\u00eb seanc\u00eb e vetme ka shum\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar se ku \u201cfle lepuri\u201d, pasi edhe n\u00eb rastet kur deti duket i qet\u00eb nga sip\u00ebr, kushedi se \u00e7far\u00eb fsheh ai atje posht\u00eb dhe k\u00ebt\u00eb e \u201czbulon\u201d vet\u00ebm ai \u201cskafi n\u00ebnujor\u201d i psikoterapis\u00eb e psikoanaliz\u00ebs, t\u00eb cilat un\u00eb preferoj t\u2019i b\u00ebj t\u00eb kombinuara. Dua t\u2019ju jap edhe nj\u00eb lajm t\u00eb mir\u00eb: Fakti q\u00eb ajo bindet se nuk ka qen\u00eb n\u00eb ato vende ku thot\u00eb se ka qen\u00eb, e p\u00ebrjashton skizofrenin\u00eb sepse po t\u00eb ishte ky nj\u00eb halu\u00e7inacion qoft\u00eb edhe i induktuar (i sugjestionuar) apo i autosugjestionuar, as ne psikolog\u00ebt nuk e kund\u00ebrshtojm\u00eb dot pa e \u201cp\u00ebrpunuar\u201d mir\u00eb sepse jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb nuk bindet, por edhe fyhet p\u00ebr mosbesimin. Besoj se me kaq u sqaruam. Faleminderit p\u00ebr letr\u00ebn. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– I nderuar doktor, jemi shum\u00eb t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr vajz\u00ebn ton\u00eb, e cila dit\u00eb pas dite po ndryshon pa na dh\u00ebn\u00eb shpjegime se \u00e7far\u00eb po ndodh me t\u00eb. Ajo e ka humbur totalisht interesin mbi veten, nuk flet shum\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb tep\u00ebr e mbyllur, nuk hapet as me njer\u00ebzit e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, nuk ka as shum\u00eb shoq\u00ebri […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86,219],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8784","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu","category-pyetje-pergjigje"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8784","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8784"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8784\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8784"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8784"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8784"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}