N\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 20 vje\u00e7are, ti thua: \u00abUau, ti je muzikant!\u00bb, nd\u00ebrsa n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat: \u00abAha, qenke muzikant…\u00bb. Pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb e 30 vje\u00e7areve nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjta me ato t\u00eb 20-ve\u00e7areve, lidhjet dhe shpresat evoluojn\u00eb me kalimin e mosh\u00ebs. Kur je n\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat, pret nga nj\u00eb lidhje q\u00eb t\u00eb zbavitesh, k\u00ebrkon ende t\u00eb fitosh eksperienc\u00eb nga jeta dhe do t\u00eb dish se \u00e7far\u00eb k\u00ebrkon n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje. Kur je n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat dhe do t\u00eb gjesh nj\u00eb burr\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb pak a shum\u00eb nj\u00eblloj, vet\u00ebm se ke m\u00eb shum\u00eb shanse ta kalosh nat\u00ebn n\u00eb \u00e7ar\u00e7af\u00eb sateni, sesa n\u00eb nj\u00eb dyshek t\u00eb vjet\u00ebr dhe t\u00eb qelbur. Ja, cilat jan\u00eb 11 ndryshimet e m\u00ebdha mes lidhjeve dashurore n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 20 dhe 30 vje\u00e7are. <\/p>\n
1. Nj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat: Pijet alkoolike me cil\u00ebsi t\u00eb dob\u00ebt, pihen n\u00eb vend t\u00eb ujit…
\nNj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat: Pijet alkoolike me cil\u00ebsi t\u00eb lart\u00eb, pihen me kursim.
\nN\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat, ju pini \u00e7\u2019t\u2019ju dal\u00eb p\u00ebrpara, ose m\u00eb sakt\u00eb, \u00e7far\u00eb ju ofrojn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Dehja nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka e mir\u00eb, por e pranueshme n\u00eb nj\u00ebfar\u00eb mase n\u00eb at\u00eb mosh\u00eb. N\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat, ju i njihni tashm\u00eb limitet tuaja dhe pini ver\u00eb cil\u00ebsore, ose koktejlet q\u00eb ju p\u00eblqejn\u00eb. <\/p>\n
2. Nj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat: \u00abUau, ti je muzikant!\u00bb
\nNj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat: \u00abAha, qenke muzikant…\u00bb
\nDisa persona kan\u00eb karrier\u00eb krijuese. N\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 20 vje\u00e7are, ata mund t\u00eb futen n\u00ebn klasifikimin \u00abt\u00eb papun\u00eb\u00bb, ku p\u00ebrfshihen nd\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00eb edhe artist\u00ebt, shkrimtar\u00ebt, aktor\u00ebt, etj. N\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 30 vje\u00e7are, ju duhet t\u00eb keni m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb b\u00ebni dallimin, dometh\u00ebn\u00eb, se kush \u00ebsht\u00eb v\u00ebrtet artist dhe kush b\u00ebn si i till\u00eb…<\/p>\n
3. Nj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat: Analiz\u00eb mes miqsh, pas d\u00ebshtimit t\u00eb nj\u00eb takimi: \u00ab\u00c7far\u00eb gabimi b\u00ebra?\u00bb
\nNj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat: Analiz\u00eb mes miqsh, pas d\u00ebshtimit t\u00eb nj\u00eb takimi: \u00abAi nuk ia vlente\u00bb
\nN\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat, ju e dini se takimet e k\u00ebqija jan\u00eb sinjale alarmi p\u00ebr t\u00eb evituar lidhje t\u00eb d\u00ebmshme. <\/p>\n
4. Nj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat: N\u00ebse ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb ngr\u00ebn\u00eb, aq m\u00eb mir\u00eb.
\nNj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat: Patjet\u00ebr q\u00eb do t\u00eb ham\u00eb!
\nN\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat, takimi n\u00eb restorant vjen pas atij n\u00eb nj\u00eb bar (n\u00eb rastin m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb, do t\u00eb ket\u00eb patatina t\u00eb nxjerra nga \u00e7anta). N\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat, ushqimi \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb qend\u00ebr t\u00eb aktiviteteve. Takimi juaj do t\u00eb sillet rrotull zgjedhjes s\u00eb restorantit, apo kompetencave kulinare mbres\u00ebl\u00ebn\u00ebse t\u00eb partnerit tuaj. K\u00ebshtu, pavar\u00ebsisht nga t\u00eb tjerat, ju mund t\u00eb thoni: \u00abT\u00eb pakt\u00ebn ushqimi ishte i mir\u00eb\u00bb.<\/p>\n
5. Nj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat: \u00cbsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb zgjedh\u00ebsh t\u00eb brendshmet, t\u00eb gjitha jan\u00eb t\u00eb bukura.
\nNj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat: Ato duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb seksi dhe cil\u00ebsore. Gjithashtu, duhet t\u00eb fshehin ndonj\u00eb defekt k\u00ebtu-aty…
\nKur jeni n\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat, gjith\u00e7ka duket bukur n\u00eb trupin tuaj. Ju keni besim n\u00eb vetvete. Kur jeni n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat, trupi juaj ka ndryshuar dhe zgjedhja b\u00ebhet m\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb. Faktor\u00ebt q\u00eb duhen marr\u00eb parasysh jan\u00eb: Koh\u00ebzgjatja e lidhjes, n\u00ebse ndjeheni e fryr\u00eb, sa lakuriq doni t\u00eb dukeni, etj. <\/p>\n
6. Nj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat: Kam koh\u00eb, nuk kam nd\u00ebrmend t\u00eb martohem q\u00eb tani; t\u00eb fitoj eksperienc\u00eb nj\u00ebher\u00eb.
\nNj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat: \u00abO Zot! Pse jam akoma beqare? Do t\u00eb vdes vet\u00ebm!\u00bb
\nGarfunkel dhe Oates (nj\u00eb dyshe k\u00ebng\u00ebtaresh komike amerikane) e thon\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebng\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb titulluar \u00ab29 vje\u00e7e, p\u00ebrkund\u00ebr 31 vje\u00e7e\u00bb: \u00abMund\u00ebsit\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb pafundme, as nuk shqet\u00ebsohem fare. Nj\u00eb dit\u00eb do t\u00eb vij\u00eb ai i duhuri\u00bb, k\u00ebndon nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb 29-vje\u00e7are, optimiste. Ja, si k\u00ebndon 31 vje\u00e7arja: \u00abNuk shoh ask\u00ebnd n\u00eb horizont. Jam krejt vet\u00ebm. Pse prita kaq shum\u00eb? \u00c7far\u00eb nuk shkon tek un\u00eb?\u00bb.<\/p>\n
7. Nj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat: \u00abM\u00eb erdh\u00ebn menstruacionet! Shyqyr, se isha n\u00eb ankth… Nuk jam shtatz\u00ebn\u00eb!\u00bb
\nNj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat: \u00abKur do t\u00eb b\u00ebj f\u00ebmij\u00eb un\u00eb? A do t\u00eb b\u00ebj ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb?\u00bb
\nTik-tak, tik-tak… E d\u00ebgjoni sahatin tuaj biologjik? Duket pak si z\u00ebri i mamas\u00eb dhe b\u00ebhet gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb i fort\u00eb. <\/p>\n
8. Nj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat: Goja e tij \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb seksi.
\nNj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat: A \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb person pjellor, a p\u00ebrputhemi gjenetikisht, a do t\u00eb jet\u00eb baba i mir\u00eb?
\nMbase ju nuk mendoni n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegjshme p\u00ebr aft\u00ebsit\u00eb riprodhuese t\u00eb personave me t\u00eb cil\u00ebt takoheni, por instiktet tuaja biologjike rrin\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb zgjuar. N\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 30 vje\u00e7are, ju kuptoni, papritur, se nj\u00eb djal\u00eb q\u00eb e do familjen e vet, ka nj\u00eb grup miqsh t\u00eb q\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm dhe ju d\u00ebrgon nj\u00eb sms shpejt. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb seksi.<\/p>\n
9. Nj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat: \u00abOh, ti je i pabesuesh\u00ebm!\u00bb
\nNj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat: \u00abPosht\u00eb, majtas, t\u00eb lutem!\u00bb
\nN\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 20 vje\u00e7are, ju i kushtoni aq shum\u00eb v\u00ebmendje imazhit tuaj kur b\u00ebni dashuri (q\u00eb t\u00eb mos duken tulet), sa harroni ta shijoni si duhet. N\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat, ju e dini \u00e7far\u00eb k\u00ebrkoni n\u00eb shtrat dhe mbi t\u00eb gjitha, nuk jeni gati t\u00eb prisni 5 minuta m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb arritur orgazm\u00ebn. Situata \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb seksi p\u00ebr t\u00eb dy. <\/p>\n
10. Nj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat: \u00abAi \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i nd\u00ebrlikuar, nuk kam nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb!\u00bb
\nNj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat: \u00abAi \u00ebsht\u00eb interesant dhe i nd\u00ebrlikuar\u00bb
\nP\u00ebr nj\u00eb lidhje melodramatike, nuk ka m\u00eb mir\u00eb sesa nj\u00eb tip artisti dhe rebel. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb pasionant, i paparashikuesh\u00ebm, pra, shum\u00eb seksi… derisa lidhja p\u00ebrfundon keq. N\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebzetat, ju m\u00ebsoni nga kjo situat\u00eb (megjith\u00ebse me zem\u00ebrthyerje). N\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat, ju zbuloni sharmin e djemve q\u00eb jan\u00eb emocionalisht t\u00eb q\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm dhe me t\u00eb cil\u00ebt \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb bashk\u00ebjetesa.<\/p>\n
11. Nj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat: \u00abTakimi i ardhsh\u00ebm mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb ai i duhuri!\u00bb
\nNj\u00eb takim dashuror n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat: \u00abTakimi i ardhsh\u00ebm mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb ai i duhuri!\u00bb
\nDhe, e dini \u00e7far\u00eb? Ka shum\u00eb mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb k\u00ebshtu…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
N\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 20 vje\u00e7are, ti thua: \u00abUau, ti je muzikant!\u00bb, nd\u00ebrsa n\u00eb t\u00eb 30-tat: \u00abAha, qenke muzikant…\u00bb. Pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb e 30 vje\u00e7areve nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjta me ato t\u00eb 20-ve\u00e7areve, lidhjet dhe shpresat evoluojn\u00eb me kalimin e mosh\u00ebs. Kur je n\u00eb t\u00eb 20-tat, pret nga nj\u00eb lidhje q\u00eb t\u00eb zbavitesh, k\u00ebrkon ende t\u00eb fitosh eksperienc\u00eb nga […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":8724,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8723","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8723","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8723"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8723\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8724"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8723"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8723"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8723"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}