– I nderuar psikolog, mezi e mora guximin t\u2019ju shkruaj pasi nuk i jam drejtuar kurr\u00eb nj\u00eb psikologu, por kam shum\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ndihm\u00ebn tuaj. Jam T., 25 vje\u00e7e, n\u00ebn\u00eb e nj\u00eb djali 4 vje\u00e7, t\u00eb cilin kam 2 vjet pa e par\u00eb, pasi ma ka marr\u00eb ish-burri n\u00eb Greqi. Problemi im \u00ebsht\u00eb se jam b\u00ebr\u00eb shum\u00eb nevrike me t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, nuk duroj gj\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, prekem shpejt, reagoj shum\u00eb ashp\u00ebr. Kur nxehem, m\u00eb merret fryma, madje ka raste q\u00eb m\u00eb bie t\u00eb fik\u00ebt. Koka m\u00eb dhemb shpesh. E di q\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha i kam prej djalit, pasi kam qen\u00eb tip shum\u00eb e qet\u00eb, por ju lutem, m\u00eb ndihmoni me nj\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00eb a mjekim, sa m\u00eb shpejt. Kam besim te ju. Me respekt, T. Tiran\u00eb.
\nDr. Jashar Demiri, psikolog klinicist: – E nderuara 25 vje\u00e7are, e analizova me v\u00ebmendje letr\u00ebn tuaj dhe dal n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimin se ju tani po vuani nga \u00e7rregullimet e ankthit t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsuar, t\u00eb shoq\u00ebruara me depresion reagues. Mos u trembni nga fjala depresion pasi ky term ka pas fjal\u00ebn \u201creagues\u201d, q\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb, jo depresion psikologjik, pra, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb s\u00ebmundje, por \u00ebsht\u00eb reagim nga ngjarjet stresante, si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb ndarja nga djali 4 vje\u00e7ar t\u00eb cilin nuk e keni par\u00eb q\u00eb prej dy vjet\u00ebsh. Nuk dua t\u00eb ndalem tek ana juridike e problemit, pasi nuk ka ligj n\u00eb bot\u00eb q\u00eb ta ndaloj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebn t\u00eb takoj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e vet, sikur edhe n\u00eb burg t\u00eb jet\u00eb. Un\u00eb do t\u00eb shpjegoj se \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ky termi \u00e7rregullim i ankthit t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsuar, p\u00ebr t\u2019ju ardhur n\u00eb ndihm\u00eb nga ana psikologjike…
\nKy lloj ankthi ka t\u00eb gjitha simptomat q\u00eb i keni p\u00ebrshkruar ju n\u00eb let\u00ebr, si nervoziz\u00ebm, lodhje e shpejt\u00eb, k\u00ebputje, reagime t\u00eb ashpra p\u00ebr gj\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, marrje fryme, m\u00ebrzitje edhe p\u00ebr ato gj\u00ebrat m\u00eb t\u00eb vogla t\u00eb cilat t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt do t\u2019i kalonin pa problem etj. Ve\u00e7 p\u00ebr nj\u00eb gj\u00eb s\u2019ju besoj, kur thoni se \u201cka raste q\u00eb m\u00eb bie t\u00eb fik\u00ebt\u201d… Jo se dyshoj n\u00eb sinqeritetin apo v\u00ebrtet\u00ebsin\u00eb e fjal\u00ebve tuaja, por ky lloj t\u00eb \u201cfik\u00ebti\u201d nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb i fik\u00ebt, \u00ebsht\u00eb si nj\u00eb lloj \u201cimitimi\u201d i t\u00eb fik\u00ebtit, p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb l\u00ebvizjes s\u00eb ekuilibrave dhe \u201cmosbalancimit\u201d t\u00eb shpejt\u00eb t\u00eb kimikateve. A e dini se p\u00ebrse nj\u00eb njeriu me gjendje ankthi \u00ebsht\u00eb jasht\u00ebzakonisht i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i r\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb fik\u00ebt? T\u00eb fik\u00ebti nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb vetvete ndonj\u00eb \u201chata\u201d, ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb si nj\u00eb sjellje vet\u00ebmbrojt\u00ebse n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha ato raste kur zemra nuk i p\u00ebrballon dot nevojat p\u00ebr gjak q\u00eb ka truri n\u00eb ngjarjet e r\u00ebnda specifike ose t\u00eb mbingarkuara. Pra, t\u00eb fik\u00ebtin e ka \u201cshpikur\u201d Krijuesi q\u00eb koka t\u00eb ulet posht\u00eb dhe zemra t\u00eb p\u00ebrballoj\u00eb m\u00eb leht\u00eb forc\u00ebn e r\u00ebndes\u00ebs. Por, a e dini se \u00e7far\u00eb i ndodh nj\u00eb personi kur nxehet e reagon shum\u00eb ashp\u00ebr, si\u00e7 ndodh me ju? Atij i shtohen rrahjet e zemr\u00ebs, ndoshta jo shum\u00eb, por sidoqoft\u00eb, mjaftuesh\u00ebm, sa p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos i r\u00ebn\u00eb kurr\u00eb t\u00eb fik\u00ebt. Ndaj po t\u00eb vini tek un\u00eb e t\u2019ju pyes imt\u00ebsisht, me siguri do t\u00eb dal\u00eb se ky nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb t\u00eb fik\u00ebt i zakonsh\u00ebm, si\u00e7 e mendoni ju, por m\u00ebnyra se si reagon e t\u00ebr\u00eb qenia juaj nga nj\u00eb mendim katastrofizues apo acarim q\u00eb arrin n\u00eb \u201cpengmarrje\u201d emocionale. Por, n\u00eb nj\u00ebfar\u00eb m\u00ebnyre, kjo gjendje ju mbron ju nga superacarimi, pasi organizmi e mbron veten edhe n\u00eb rastet kur ne nuk jemi n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ato \u00e7far\u00eb atij i duhen. Ju thoni se kur nxeheni, ju merret fryma. Pik\u00ebrisht kjo m\u00eb bind mua se gjendja juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb gjendje ankthioze, pasi n\u00eb rastet e breng\u00ebs dhe acarimit t\u00eb madh, n\u00eb gjendrrat mbiveshkore (andrenale) prodhohet shum\u00eb adrenalin\u00eb dhe noradrenalin\u00eb. Adrenalina \u00ebsht\u00eb si karburanti i cili do t\u00eb duhet n\u00eb rast rreziku, sulmi, mbrojtjeje etj., kurse noradrenalina \u00ebsht\u00eb hormoni i zem\u00ebrimit apo inatit, pa t\u00eb cilat do t\u00eb ishte pasiv dhe inert n\u00eb situatat e rrezikut.
\n– Mir\u00ebpo k\u00ebtu q\u00ebndron edhe problemi se, te ju, nuk paraqitet ai lloj rreziku q\u00eb t\u2019ju detyroj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb vrapuar apo sulmuar, aktivitete, gjat\u00eb t\u00eb cilave do t\u00eb digjeshin k\u00ebto dy substanca: adrenalina dhe noradrenalina. Meqen\u00ebse k\u00ebto prodhohen e shp\u00ebrndahen n\u00ebp\u00ebr trup, organizmit do t\u2019i duhet pun\u00eb e reagim p\u00ebr t\u2019i djegur ato, duke qarkulluar m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjak, ndaj edhe zemra i shton rrahjet, p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilat nuk duhet t\u00eb trembemi, por duhet edhe nj\u00eb konsum m\u00eb i madh i oksigjenit, gj\u00eb q\u00eb jo se nuk e p\u00ebrballon dot mushk\u00ebria, por sepse ne b\u00ebjm\u00eb t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt\u00ebn, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb qet\u00ebsohemi, shqet\u00ebsohemi, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb vrapojm\u00eb apo t\u2019i futemi me vrull nj\u00eb pune, i l\u00ebm\u00eb ato duke menduar se jemi s\u00ebmur\u00eb, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb mbushemi me frym\u00eb thell\u00eb, e ndalojm\u00eb at\u00eb. Klient\u00ebve q\u00eb vuajn\u00eb nga kjo gjendje, un\u00eb u m\u00ebsoj teknikat e hiperventilimit, q\u00eb kan\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb me frym\u00ebmarrje t\u00eb thell\u00eb e t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, me mbajtjen e frym\u00ebs sa m\u00eb gjat\u00eb dhe me frym\u00ebnxjerrjen e ngadalt\u00eb disa her\u00eb, derisa t\u00eb na hapet goja si p\u00ebr gjum\u00eb. Klientet habiten sesa shum\u00eb e bukur ndikojn\u00eb k\u00ebto teknika n\u00eb largimin e ankthit dhe frik\u00ebs, q\u00eb n\u00eb disa raste arrijn\u00eb deri n\u00eb panik.
\nE nderuar zonj\u00eb, gjendja juaj \u00e7rregullim i ankthit t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsuar, i ka fillesat e veta q\u00eb te divorci dhe mungesa e djalit, por edhe ngarkesat e tjera q\u00eb ju p\u00ebrjetoni shum\u00eb sepse ato q\u00eb shkaktojn\u00eb stres nuk jan\u00eb aq problematike n\u00eb vetvete, sesa m\u00ebnyra se si i p\u00ebrjetojm\u00eb ato. Tani, kjo gjendje, ju \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb si nj\u00eb zakon i keq, ndaj karakteristika kryesore e \u00e7rregullimeve t\u00eb ankthit t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsuar \u00ebsht\u00eb se vazhdimisht e gjeni di\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u2019u shqet\u00ebsuar. Edhe sikur pun\u00ebt t\u2019i shkojn\u00eb mbar\u00eb, njeriu shqet\u00ebsohet p\u00ebr problemet e s\u00eb nes\u00ebrmes. Un\u00eb ju k\u00ebshilloj t\u00eb kontaktoni me ndonj\u00eb psikolog e t\u00eb b\u00ebni disa seanca me psikoterapi, si edhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorni disa kura me origjin\u00eb bimore, me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb gjendja t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb e t\u00eb mos i hapet rruga e m\u00ebtejshme depresionit. Me kaq sa thoni ju, un\u00eb nuk ju konsideroj t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb, por trajtimi i \u00ebmb\u00ebl duhet patjet\u00ebr pasi jeta juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb c\u00ebnuar jo pak dhe m\u00ebnyra juaj e t\u00eb menduarit dhe e t\u00eb vepruarit do ndryshuar sa m\u00eb par\u00eb. Gjat\u00eb seancave do t\u00eb bindeni se ky lloj halli q\u00eb ju keni, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i pak\u00ebt, por normalisht, nuk duhej t\u2019ju kishte r\u00ebnduar kaq shum\u00eb. Po t\u00eb kishit nd\u00ebrtuar nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb bukur, me pun\u00eb e aktivitete t\u00eb dobishme, me nj\u00eb dashuri t\u00eb re e me seks pasionant, si nj\u00eb ila\u00e7 \u201cnatyror\u201d i paz\u00ebvend\u00ebsuesh\u00ebm, normalisht as nuk do t\u00eb kishit koh\u00eb t\u00eb tep\u00ebrt, duke e mbajtur mendjen vet\u00ebm te hallet e te djali. Nuk e di a keni t\u00eb af\u00ebrm, pasi edhe vizitat te farefisi e njer\u00ebzit e mir\u00eb, si dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebrkuarit ndihm\u00eb atyre, kan\u00eb rol t\u00eb madh pozitiv. Shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra do t\u2019jua thoja m\u00eb t\u00eb sakta po t\u2019ju b\u00ebja disa pyetje dhe dy teste psikologjike, nj\u00eb p\u00ebr ankthin e nj\u00eb p\u00ebr depresionin. Edhe ju vet\u00eb e kuptoni se kjo gjendje nuk ka lidhje me origjin\u00ebn apo baz\u00ebn tuaj biologjike sepse ju n\u00eb let\u00ebr thoni se keni qen\u00eb tip shum\u00eb i qet\u00eb dhe e dini se t\u00eb gjitha i keni prej djalit. P\u00ebr nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje m\u00eb korrekte dhe jeni e mir\u00ebpritur p\u00ebr nj\u00eb seanc\u00eb falas. Numri im i celularit gjendet gjithmon\u00eb te gazeta \u201cIntervista\u201d. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– I nderuar psikolog, mezi e mora guximin t\u2019ju shkruaj pasi nuk i jam drejtuar kurr\u00eb nj\u00eb psikologu, por kam shum\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ndihm\u00ebn tuaj. Jam T., 25 vje\u00e7e, n\u00ebn\u00eb e nj\u00eb djali 4 vje\u00e7, t\u00eb cilin kam 2 vjet pa e par\u00eb, pasi ma ka marr\u00eb ish-burri n\u00eb Greqi. Problemi im \u00ebsht\u00eb se jam […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86,219],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8673","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu","category-pyetje-pergjigje"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8673","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8673"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8673\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8673"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8673"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8673"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}