– T\u00eb nderuar psikolog\u00eb, desha t\u00eb b\u00ebj nj\u00eb pyetje q\u00eb, me siguri, do t\u00eb jet\u00eb interesante p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, pasi \u00e7dokujt i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb marr\u00eb udh\u00ebzime p\u00ebr komunikime t\u00eb mira. Pyetja ime \u00ebsht\u00eb: Si mund t\u00eb dukeni sa m\u00eb i mir\u00eb dhe sa m\u00eb simpatik gjat\u00eb nj\u00eb bisede me partnerin ose partneren, q\u00eb ju p\u00eblqen? \u00c7far\u00eb bisedash rekomandoni t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb dalim sa m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebrpara partnerit q\u00eb kemi p\u00ebrball\u00eb? A mund t\u00eb m\u00eb ktheni nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje? Faleminderit.
\nBorana Marku, psikologe: – Kjo, p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn na pyesni, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb tem\u00eb shum\u00eb e gjer\u00eb dhe nga ana tjet\u00ebr, p\u00ebr t\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje t\u00eb detajuar p\u00ebr ju, konkretisht, duhet t\u00eb dim\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb natyre keni ju dhe \u00e7far\u00eb natyre ka marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia juaj. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, do t\u2019ju japim disa k\u00ebshilla baz\u00eb, t\u00eb cilat jan\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, sidomos n\u00eb takimin e par\u00eb dhe q\u00eb, si\u00e7 edhe ju theksoni n\u00eb letr\u00ebn tuaj, mund t\u2019ju hyjn\u00eb n\u00eb pun\u00eb jo vet\u00ebm juve, por t\u00eb gjith\u00eb atyre q\u00eb po na lexojn\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb moment. S\u00eb pari, duhet t\u00eb keni vet\u00ebbesim. T\u00eb kuptohemi, vet\u00ebbesim dhe jo mendjemadh\u00ebsi, t\u00eb vini n\u00eb dukje karakterin dhe personalitetin tuaj. Asnj\u00eb person nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i p\u00ebrkryer dhe n\u00ebse hiqeni si i till\u00eb, do t\u00eb dukeni qesharak apo sikur fshihni di\u00e7ka dhe do ta largoni menj\u00ebher\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb keni p\u00ebrball\u00eb. Rregulli i art\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb: S\u00eb pari, t\u00eb jeni vetvetja! Duke qen\u00eb vetvetja, jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb do t\u2019i b\u00ebni nj\u00eb \u201cnder\u201d t\u00eb madh vetes suaj, sepse do t\u00eb shp\u00ebtoni nga shtirja e nga presioni q\u00eb ajo sjell me vete, por edhe do t\u00eb zbuloni se me \u00e7far\u00eb personi keni t\u00eb b\u00ebni. S\u00eb dyti, jini i duruar. Duke qen\u00eb i\/e till\u00eb, nuk e vini n\u00eb pozicion t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb keni p\u00ebrball\u00eb dhe n\u00eb nj\u00ebfar\u00eb m\u00ebnyre ia impononi q\u00eb ai\/ajo t\u00eb jet\u00eb gjithashtu m\u00eb i\/e lirshme. Nuk duhet t\u00eb gjykoni dhe nuk duhet t\u00eb flisni shum\u00eb, por pak dhe sakt\u00eb. P\u00ebrqendrohuni te biseda e personit p\u00ebrball\u00eb, mos ngurroni ta shikoni n\u00eb sy, jo duke e v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb siklet, por duke u treguar i v\u00ebmendsh\u00ebm. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, do t\u00eb m\u00ebsoni \u00e7far\u00eb e t\u00ebrheq. Mos ngurroni t\u2019i b\u00ebni pyetje t\u00eb tilla, si: \u201c\u00c7far\u00eb pasionesh ka? \u00c7far\u00eb e t\u00ebrheq te ky pasion, te kjo pun\u00eb etj.\u201d (Asnj\u00ebher\u00eb mos e pyesni sa e ka rrog\u00ebn!). Duke e pyetur p\u00ebr pasionet e p\u00ebr pun\u00ebn, do t\u2019i jepni mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb flas\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb dhe ju t\u00eb m\u00ebsoni m\u00eb shum\u00eb, gjithashtu edhe ai apo ajo t\u00eb krijoj\u00eb besim te ju dhe t\u00eb ndihet rehat.
\nDi\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb keni parasysh, \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb keni humor, gj\u00eb q\u00eb tregon q\u00eb jeni t\u00eb zgjuar. Humori, e qeshura e b\u00ebn \u00e7do person t\u00eb k\u00ebndsh\u00ebm dhe t\u00ebrheq\u00ebs n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri. Sinqeriteti po k\u00ebshtu \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb arm\u00eb shum\u00eb e fort\u00eb, tregon ndershm\u00ebri. Jo t\u00eb mburreni, duke th\u00ebn\u00eb se jeni i sinqert\u00eb sepse k\u00ebshtu, automatikisht, do t\u00eb b\u00ebni efektin e kund\u00ebrt, do t\u00eb krijoni p\u00ebrshtypjen e nj\u00eb njeriu mashtrues. Thjesht, thoni gj\u00ebra q\u00eb ju p\u00eblqejn\u00eb, ose ndonj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb tipit: \u201cDo t\u00eb m\u00eb p\u00eblqente q\u00eb dikush t\u00eb ma thot\u00eb si t\u00eb mir\u00ebn, ashtu edhe t\u00eb keqen n\u00eb sy\u201d. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, krijoni p\u00ebrshtypjen e personit t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb dhe kjo, sigurisht, e t\u00ebrheq tjetrin. T\u00eb jeni po k\u00ebshtu elastik dhe t\u00eb pranoni komplimentet q\u00eb ju b\u00ebjn\u00eb, por jo ta teproni duke folur m\u00eb pas rreth jush. Mund t\u00eb thoni \u201cfaleminderit\u201d dhe t\u00eb vazhdoni bised\u00ebn me gj\u00ebra t\u00eb tjera. Nuk duhet t\u00eb mburreni dhe t\u00eb flisni m\u00eb shum\u00eb rreth pasioneve, pun\u00ebs e fushave q\u00eb shikoni q\u00eb i p\u00eblqen atij ose asaj. K\u00ebto jan\u00eb pak a shum\u00eb disa k\u00ebshilla nga ana ime si psikologe. Pjesa tjet\u00ebr varet edhe nga ai apo ajo q\u00eb do t\u00eb keni p\u00ebrball\u00eb, por gjithsesi, merreni me qet\u00ebsi dhe \u00e7do gj\u00eb do t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– T\u00eb nderuar psikolog\u00eb, desha t\u00eb b\u00ebj nj\u00eb pyetje q\u00eb, me siguri, do t\u00eb jet\u00eb interesante p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, pasi \u00e7dokujt i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb marr\u00eb udh\u00ebzime p\u00ebr komunikime t\u00eb mira. Pyetja ime \u00ebsht\u00eb: Si mund t\u00eb dukeni sa m\u00eb i mir\u00eb dhe sa m\u00eb simpatik gjat\u00eb nj\u00eb bisede me partnerin ose partneren, q\u00eb ju p\u00eblqen? […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8247","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8247","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8247"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8247\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8247"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8247"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8247"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}