– Ju lutem, m\u00eb ktheni p\u00ebrgjigje sa m\u00eb shpejt n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur p\u00ebr nj\u00eb problem timin. Kam nj\u00eb djal\u00eb 21 vje\u00e7 q\u00eb nuk m\u00eb bindet dhe kund\u00ebrshton p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb, thyen gj\u00ebrat e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb po t\u2019i flas\u00ebsh. E kam provuar me t\u00eb mira, por hi\u00e7, asgj\u00eb. Me t\u00eb k\u00ebqija, asgj\u00eb. Nuk thot\u00eb fare se ku ik\u00ebn dhe \u00e7far\u00eb b\u00ebn, s\u2019t\u00eb merr leje kur ik\u00ebn. Nuk di \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj me k\u00ebt\u00eb djal\u00eb. M\u00eb ndihmoni, ju lutem, me nj\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00eb. Faleminderit.
\nDr. Jashar Demiri, psikolog klinicist: – Letra juaj m\u00eb b\u00ebri t\u00eb ndjej keqardhje pasi djali juaj 21 vje\u00e7 qenka v\u00ebrtet shum\u00eb problematik. Porse, un\u00eb do t\u00eb doja t\u2019ju b\u00ebja juve disa pyetje dhe nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr to \u00ebsht\u00eb: Ky djal\u00eb kaq problematik, \u00ebsht\u00eb i till\u00eb edhe jasht\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, apo ka gjetur sht\u00ebpin\u00eb si nj\u00eb \u201cgrop\u00eb zbrazjeje\u201d e si\u00e7 i thon\u00eb, gjen shesh e b\u00ebn p\u00ebrshesh? Tjet\u00ebr, desha t\u2019ju pyes p\u00ebr veset q\u00eb ai ka; mos \u00ebsht\u00eb ndonj\u00eb p\u00ebrdorues droge, alkooli, bixhozi, a vazhdon shkoll\u00eb apo ndonj\u00eb pun\u00eb? Me k\u00eb nxehet, p\u00ebrse nxehet, a vepron k\u00ebshtu me t\u00eb gjith\u00eb apo ka disa para t\u00eb cil\u00ebve rri \u201csus\u201d ndoshta nga frika apo sepse i \u201chahet\u201d muhabeti? Besoj se edhe vet\u00eb ju e kuptoni se do t\u00eb na duhet nj\u00eb bised\u00eb e shtruar q\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoj edhe un\u00eb se p\u00ebrse \u00ebsht\u00eb i till\u00eb ky djali juaj dhe ndoshta na del edhe i s\u00ebmur\u00eb me depresion e ju nuk e kuptoni. Pra, duhet t\u00eb dini se \u00e7far\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebni me t\u00eb, si t\u00eb veproni e si ta trajtoni. K\u00ebto gj\u00ebra e ca m\u00eb shum\u00eb trajtimi i tij, kan\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi sepse sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb kalojn\u00eb vitet, aq m\u00eb i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb b\u00ebhet rikthimi i tij te normalja pasi vjen nj\u00eb koh\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebqijat \u201cpiqen\u201d edhe m\u00eb tep\u00ebr e b\u00ebhen k\u00ebshtu \u201cpjes\u00eb\u201d e tij, n\u00ebse nuk hiqen q\u00eb tani n\u00eb rini.
\nUn\u00eb kam punuar n\u00eb krye t\u00eb stafit t\u00eb psikolog\u00ebve dhe sociolog\u00ebve n\u00eb Ministrin\u00eb e Drejt\u00ebsis\u00eb ku mbulonim t\u00eb gjitha burgjet dhe paraburgimet. Sapo binte n\u00eb burg nj\u00eb i ri, e studionim at\u00eb gjithanshm\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb se cila rrug\u00eb e kishte sjell\u00eb n\u00eb burg dhe se \u00e7\u2019duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebnim p\u00ebr ta rehabilituar e integruar. Nga studimet dilnin disa t\u00eb dh\u00ebna t\u00eb \u00e7muara q\u00eb duhet t\u2019i ken\u00eb parasysh prind\u00ebrit. Pjesa m\u00eb e madhe e atyre q\u00eb kishin r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb burg, nuk ishin plot\u00ebsisht vet\u00eb fajtor\u00eb p\u00ebr fatkeq\u00ebsin\u00eb e tyre e q\u00eb e qanin me lot humbjen e liris\u00eb. Disa kishin ecur \u201ckuturu\u201d, pa e ditur se ku po i \u00e7onte rruga e nisur, madje pa e ditur as se \u00e7\u2018\u00ebsht\u00eb burgu ose duke menduar, si\u00e7 thon\u00eb ca \u201ccuba\u201d jasht\u00eb burgut, se \u201cburgu p\u00ebr burra \u00ebsht\u00eb\u201d. Vet\u00ebm n\u00eb kushtet e burgut k\u00ebta far\u00eb \u201cburrash\u201d e kuptonin se s\u2019jan\u00eb treguar burra t\u00eb zot e t\u00eb men\u00e7ur q\u00eb kan\u00eb r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb burg dhe kan\u00eb humbur gj\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7muar: Lirin\u00eb. Shumica prej tyre, jo se vuanin para r\u00ebnies n\u00eb burg nga \u201cethet\u201d e krimit, por kishin b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb \u201cshkap\u00ebrdredhur\u201d pa arritur as ngritjen shpirt\u00ebrore e as at\u00eb intelektuale. Ata, m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti, kishin jetuar n\u00eb detin e padijenis\u00eb me \u201cmoton\u201d e pap\u00ebrgjegjshme: \u201cKu rafsha, mos u vrafsha\u201d(!). Rruga e ngritur shpirt\u00ebrore dhe intelektuale \u00ebsht\u00eb rruga e m\u00ebsimit dhe e ndryshimeve pozitive gjat\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00eb jet\u00ebs. Vet\u00ebm k\u00ebshtu, \u00e7do gj\u00eb, gradualisht, merr kuptim e p\u00ebrmbajtje. Ata, sa m\u00eb tep\u00ebr ngrihen shpirt\u00ebrisht, aq m\u00eb mjeshtra t\u00eb t\u00eb jetuarit b\u00ebhen. Nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e tyre, ende pa r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb burg, i kishin dh\u00ebn\u00eb aq \u201csinjale\u201d q\u00eb tregonin se gj\u00ebrat me ta nuk shkonin n\u00eb rregull, por prind\u00ebrit ose ishin treguar indiferent\u00eb, ose kishin besuar se gj\u00ebrat mund t\u00eb rregullohen vetvetiu. Mir\u00ebpo psikologu m\u00eb i men\u00e7ur, Populli, thot\u00eb: \u201chyzmeti-k\u00ebsmeti\u201d. Raste t\u00eb tilla duhen trajtuar intensivisht me psikolog. Mir\u00ebpo, edhe pse n\u00ebnvet\u00ebdija jon\u00eb na paralajm\u00ebron n\u00eb m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb ndryshme me disa ngjarje t\u00eb lehta, sulme ankthesh, depresione apo simptoma t\u00eb tjera, deri edhe me \u00ebndrrat e k\u00ebqija, ne p\u00ebrs\u00ebri nuk ia v\u00ebm\u00eb veshin, ca nga padituria jon\u00eb e ca nga dhimbshuria e tepruar, e cila n\u00eb mjaft raste, rezulton t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb k\u00ebshilltare e keqe. K\u00ebshtu, pra, kur ndodh m\u00eb e keqja, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb mund t\u00eb qortojm\u00eb veten e t\u00eb themi: \u201cKu ishim?!\u201d. Le t\u00eb mos tregohemi fodull\u00eb! Pek, n\u00eb librin e tij p\u00ebr ngritjen shpirt\u00ebrore (pjesa e II fq. 136), shkruan: \u201cVet\u00ebm ata q\u00eb pranojn\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb dhe e kuptojn\u00eb se k\u00ebto simptoma jan\u00eb manifestimi i \u00e7rregullimeve n\u00eb shpirtin e tyre, do t\u00eb pranojn\u00eb mesazhin e n\u00ebnvet\u00ebdijes e cila na paralajm\u00ebron se duhet q\u00eb t\u00eb vetanalizohemi dhe t\u00eb vet\u00ebp\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohemi… Do t\u00eb pranojn\u00eb dhimbjen dhe pun\u00ebn, t\u00eb cilat jan\u00eb t\u00eb domosdoshme q\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebrohen. Atyre q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb gatsh\u00ebm t\u00eb ballafaqohen me psikoterapin\u00eb, u vjen edhe dhurata e madhe…\u201d
\nK\u00ebshtu pra, i tham\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto, pasi mundet q\u00eb edhe djali juaj vuan koh\u00eb pas kohe nga k\u00ebto lloj \u201ckrizash t\u00eb vogla\u201d dhe si\u00e7 b\u00ebjn\u00eb jo pak t\u00eb rinj, p\u00ebr t\u2019u qet\u00ebsuar, largohen nga shkolla, nga puna, u ikin aktiviteteve e pun\u00ebve t\u00eb dobishme e duke u munduar q\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7lirohen nga vuajtjet e l\u00ebndimet, disa fillojn\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorin alkool, drog\u00eb, jet\u00eb nate etj. pra, krijojn\u00eb var\u00ebsira nga substancat, seksi, bixhozi, u b\u00ebhet si zakon i keq jeta pa djers\u00eb dhe vet\u00ebm \u201cd\u00ebfrimi\u201d u intereson. K\u00ebto lloj var\u00ebsish, apo ndonj\u00eb dashuri e nj\u00ebanshme, i nxjerrin t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb nga binar\u00ebt. K\u00ebshtu, ata mbushen jasht\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb si reja e zbrazen brenda, si shiu… Duhet ta trajtojm\u00eb, sa nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb von\u00eb… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– Ju lutem, m\u00eb ktheni p\u00ebrgjigje sa m\u00eb shpejt n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur p\u00ebr nj\u00eb problem timin. Kam nj\u00eb djal\u00eb 21 vje\u00e7 q\u00eb nuk m\u00eb bindet dhe kund\u00ebrshton p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb, thyen gj\u00ebrat e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb po t\u2019i flas\u00ebsh. E kam provuar me t\u00eb mira, por hi\u00e7, asgj\u00eb. Me t\u00eb k\u00ebqija, asgj\u00eb. Nuk thot\u00eb fare se […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8154","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8154","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8154"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8154\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8154"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8154"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8154"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}