– I nderuar Doktor Demiri, po lexoja nj\u00eb material q\u00eb m\u00eb mbeti n\u00eb mendje, i cili thot\u00eb se dy kategorit\u00eb q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb vet\u00ebvrasje n\u00eb Amerik\u00eb, jan\u00eb punonj\u00ebsit e policis\u00eb dhe psikiatrit. Deri diku e kuptoj dhe e besoj p\u00ebr punonj\u00ebsit e policis\u00eb, por psikiatrit, pse? Ata jan\u00eb njer\u00ebz t\u00eb ditur q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb shp\u00ebtojn\u00eb edhe t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt nga vet\u00ebvrasjet e jo ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb vet\u00eb… Jam sociologe dhe s\u2019po arrij ta kuptoj. Me respekt, Marinela Tr.
\nDr. Jashar Demiri, psikolog klinicist: – E nderuar sociologe, e kam d\u00ebgjuar k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb edhe her\u00eb t\u00eb tjera, madje edhe n\u00ebp\u00ebr seminaret jasht\u00eb shtetit. Besoj edhe ti e kupton se edhe polic\u00ebt e psikiatrit njer\u00ebz jan\u00eb dhe atyre pik\u00ebrisht u ka r\u00ebn\u00eb p\u00ebr \u201chise\u201d q\u00eb t\u00eb ndeshen me dy kategorit\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve: Me ata q\u00eb vuajn\u00eb nga \u201cethet e krimit\u201d dhe me ata q\u00eb vuajn\u00eb nga \u201cethet\u201d e s\u00ebmundjeve t\u00eb r\u00ebnda psikike. Nj\u00eb miku im i \u00e7muar, psikiat\u00ebr Profesor Dragush Totozani, nj\u00eb dit\u00eb miq\u00ebsisht m\u00eb ka treguar vuajtjet q\u00eb i ka shkaktuar profesioni i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb i psikiatrit, rreziqet e shumta dhe mbaj mend edhe nj\u00eb shprehje t\u00eb tij: \u201cN\u00eb shkenc\u00ebn ton\u00eb, kush hyn me pasion shum\u00eb t\u00eb madh, mbetet brenda\u201d… Eh, dakord, se edhe n\u00eb nj\u00eb lib\u00ebr fetar diku kam lexuar: \u201cmos merr e mos jep me gjith\u00eb shpirt\u201d, q\u00eb si\u00e7 e kuptova un\u00eb, mos l\u00ebr \u201ccop\u00ebra\u201d t\u00eb shpirtit t\u00ebnd aty ku ti merr e jep, aty ku punon, dashuron, sh\u00ebrben etj. Halli i tjetrit \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb i tjetrit dhe kjo duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb motoja e pun\u00ebs, por n\u00eb t\u00eb shumt\u00ebn e rasteve, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb aq e leht\u00eb q\u00eb kjo lloj motoje t\u00eb funksionoj\u00eb. N\u00eb nj\u00eb leksion me student\u00ebt e mjek\u00ebsis\u00eb, un\u00eb, nd\u00ebr t\u00eb tjera, u thash\u00eb: \u201cKirurgu \u00ebsht\u00eb ai q\u00eb shp\u00ebton jet\u00eb njer\u00ebzish, por edhe mund t\u2019i vdesin gjat\u00eb operimit. Pas pun\u00ebs, ai duhet t\u2019i l\u00ebr\u00eb hallet e pun\u00ebs atje, prapa shpin\u00ebs, n\u00eb spital dhe t\u00eb loz\u00eb e t\u00eb qesh\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt mezi e presin, t\u00eb haj\u00eb e t\u00eb pij\u00eb, t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb dashuri normalisht me gruan etj. Vet\u00ebm n\u00ebse e lajm\u00ebrojn\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb urgjenc\u00eb, ashtu sikurse hallet e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb do t\u00eb duhen q\u00eb t\u00eb lihen pas te dera e spitalit, sapo doktori t\u00eb vesh\u00eb bluz\u00ebn e bardh\u00eb\u201d. Pasi ua shpjegova me detaje e holl\u00ebsi k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb student\u00ebve, u dhash\u00eb nj\u00eb test ku u b\u00ebra pyetjen: \u201cP\u00ebrgjigjjuni me \u201cpo\u201d ose \u201cjo\u201d, pyetjes: Je n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb veprosh k\u00ebshtu kur t\u00eb jesh doktor i ardhsh\u00ebm?\u201d.
\n\u00c7udit\u00ebrisht, shumica fut\u00ebn n\u00eb rreth p\u00ebrgjigjen \u201cjo\u201d. Pavar\u00ebsisht se un\u00eb i mir\u00ebkuptoj k\u00ebta student\u00eb, doktor\u00ebt e ardhsh\u00ebm, do t\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebngul edhe tani q\u00eb ata jan\u00eb t\u00eb diplomuar, q\u00eb t\u00eb mos e harrojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb porosi. Kjo gj\u00eb vlen p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjitha proceset, deri edhe te dashuria, pasi problemi n\u00eb fjal\u00eb ka lidhje me dy fjal\u00eb thelb\u00ebsore p\u00ebr njeriun: Shp\u00ebrqendrimi dhe p\u00ebrqendrimi.
\n– N\u00eb lidhje me pyetjen tuaj p\u00ebr psikiatrit… Un\u00eb jam psikolog dhe t\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, psikiatr\u00ebve ua qaj \u201challin\u201d. N\u00ebse un\u00eb e diktoj se nj\u00eb klient i imi ka tendenca p\u00ebr vet\u00ebvrasje, si psikolog klinicist, e \u201creferoj\u201d menj\u00ebher\u00eb rastin te psikiatri, duke bashk\u00ebpunuar edhe me familjar\u00ebt, pasi vet\u00ebm me jet\u00ebn nuk b\u00ebhet shaka, se s\u2019pret puna ndoshta deri p\u00ebr nes\u00ebr… Po psikiatri i \u201cgjor\u00eb\u201d, kujt do t\u2019ia referoj\u00eb? Aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr q\u00eb ka edhe forma t\u00eb \u00e7uditshme s\u00ebmundjesh p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilat b\u00ebhen mjekime paljative ose t\u00eb gabuara, me pasoja, si\u00e7 jan\u00eb p\u00ebr shembull, depresionet e maskuara apo dhimbjet fantom\u00eb, p\u00ebr shembull, dh\u00ebmb\u00ebt apo duart i s\u00ebmuri i ka proteza, por edhe i \u201cdhembin\u201d, pra, dhimbje fantomike t\u00eb cilat nuk i sh\u00ebron dot asnj\u00eb lloj ila\u00e7i, vet\u00ebm hipnoterapia. E pra, k\u00ebto lloj s\u00ebmundjesh, ec e gjeji. Ka edhe raste kur njer\u00ebzit b\u00ebjn\u00eb vet\u00ebvrasje pa dh\u00ebn\u00eb fare \u201cshenja\u201d t\u00eb dukshme paralajm\u00ebruese depresioni, ndaj ndodh q\u00eb vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb sy tep\u00ebr i st\u00ebrvitur mund t\u2019i dalloj\u00eb e parandaloj\u00eb k\u00ebto raste. Ka t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb me depresion q\u00eb d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb ta vrasin veten, por kan\u00eb shum\u00eb frik\u00eb dhe mundet q\u00eb nga turpi, edhe nuk tregojn\u00eb. Ndodh q\u00eb doktori ia rikthen me ila\u00e7e humorin, por ia shton edhe \u201ctrim\u00ebrin\u00eb\u201d dhe pik\u00ebrisht kur jan\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb, ata vrasin veten(!). Si \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur? Ndodhi kur b\u00ebm\u00eb \u201curra\u201d, duke ngarkuar me shum\u00eb breng\u00eb, \u201cakuza\u201d e ndjenja faji personat q\u00eb e trajtuan.
\nNdjes\u00eb past\u00eb, sapo u kthye nga Amerika ku punoi mbi nj\u00eb dekad\u00eb, profesori psikiat\u00ebr Ulvi Vehbiu, k\u00ebrkoi ndihm\u00eb e bashk\u00ebpunim p\u00ebr \u00e7do rast me ne psikolog\u00ebt, kurse p\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq sot, disa nuk k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb ndihm\u00eb e bashk\u00ebpunim as me ne psikolog\u00ebt, por as me koleg\u00ebt e vet.
\nPse psikiatr\u00ebt vrasin veten? Sepse n\u00eb pun\u00ebn q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb ata, nuk ka l\u00ebvdata, ka vet\u00ebm p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi e dhimbje, vet\u00ebm \u201cakuza\u201d, pra, nuk shihet suksesi dhe p\u00ebr m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, nuk i ke \u201cbes\u00eb\u201d suksesit se \u00e7far\u00eb nuk ndodh, shkurt, nuk ka gjum\u00eb t\u00eb qet\u00eb… N\u00eb qoft\u00eb se kirurgu ka sukses t\u00eb menj\u00ebhersh\u00ebm, si p\u00ebr shembull, nxjerr nj\u00eb gur nga veshkat dhe thot\u00eb: \u201cJa, shiheni gurin q\u00eb nxor\u00ebm\u201d, po psikiatri \u00e7far\u00eb mund t\u00eb thot\u00eb? N\u00eb qoft\u00eb se p\u00ebr \u00e7do s\u00ebmundje, doktori ka mjetet dhe aparaturat, pa mendoni se \u00e7far\u00eb mjetesh diagnostikuese ka psikiatri? P\u00ebrve\u00e7 fjal\u00ebve t\u00eb t\u00eb s\u00ebmurit, q\u00eb nuk dihet se si i thot\u00eb apo ato t\u00eb familjar\u00ebve?! Psikiatria bazohet m\u00eb shum\u00eb te biokimia, por edhe ajo t\u00eb gabon pasi ka shum\u00eb kund\u00ebrshti. P\u00ebr m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktohen kufijt\u00eb e normalitetit dhe v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb gjendet se ku fillon patologjia. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, edhe n\u00eb vendet m\u00eb t\u00eb zhvilluara, shpesh, psikiatrit me fam\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtojn\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– I nderuar Doktor Demiri, po lexoja nj\u00eb material q\u00eb m\u00eb mbeti n\u00eb mendje, i cili thot\u00eb se dy kategorit\u00eb q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb vet\u00ebvrasje n\u00eb Amerik\u00eb, jan\u00eb punonj\u00ebsit e policis\u00eb dhe psikiatrit. Deri diku e kuptoj dhe e besoj p\u00ebr punonj\u00ebsit e policis\u00eb, por psikiatrit, pse? Ata jan\u00eb njer\u00ebz t\u00eb ditur q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7918","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7918","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7918"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7918\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7918"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7918"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7918"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}