Si t\u00eb veprosh kur ke nj\u00eb partner josh\u00ebs?
\nK\u00ebshilla p\u00ebr t\u00eb mposhtur xhelozin\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb rifituar sigurin\u00eb n\u00eb vetvete<\/p>\n
Kolegia q\u00eb e mbyt me telefonata me justifikimin e pun\u00ebs, shoqja q\u00eb ia mbush me komente statuset dhe fotot n\u00eb Facebook, shit\u00ebsja q\u00eb vrapon tek ai me nj\u00eb buz\u00ebqeshje n\u00eb buz\u00eb… \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, ke nj\u00eb partner q\u00eb u p\u00eblqen grave! Kjo nuk t\u00eb mbush me g\u00ebzim, sepse ndjehesh gjithmon\u00eb e k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuar nga t\u00eb tjerat, por edhe sepse, thell\u00eb n\u00eb vetvete, do t\u00eb doje t\u00eb kishe edhe ti t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin sukses me burrat e tjer\u00eb dhe m\u00ebrzitesh pse nuk e ke. P\u00ebr t\u00eb rifituar suksesin dhe seks appeal-in t\u00ebnd, ndiq k\u00ebshillat e psikoterapeutit ton\u00eb…<\/p>\n
1. Mendo q\u00eb ai t\u00eb do ty
\n\u201cPo n\u00ebse ai mund t\u00eb gjej\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb, sepse u p\u00eblqen shum\u00eb grave, pse rri me mua? Pse k\u00ebnaqet me mua?\u201d. \u00cbsht\u00eb kjo pyetja q\u00eb i shkon n\u00eb mendje nj\u00eb gruaje me vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsim t\u00eb ul\u00ebt dhe me nj\u00eb partner shum\u00eb t\u00eb vler\u00ebsuar. \u201c\u00cbsht\u00eb e gabuar t\u00eb mendosh n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, thot\u00eb psikoterapeuti. Meq\u00eb ai rri me ty, dometh\u00ebn\u00eb se ka b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb zgjedhje, ka zbuluar cilat jan\u00eb cil\u00ebsit\u00eb e tua, e ka par\u00eb sa vlen dhe do t\u00eb rrij\u00eb me ty\u201d. Edhe ti, duhet ta shoh\u00ebsh n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb perspektiv\u00eb.<\/p>\n
2. Reflekto p\u00ebr arsyet e pasiguris\u00eb t\u00ebnde
\nShpesh, pas pasiguris\u00eb t\u00eb krijuar nga nj\u00eb partner josh\u00ebs, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr arsye, shum\u00eb e thell\u00eb dhe personale e lidhur me tipin e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies q\u00eb ke pasur me prind\u00ebrit n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb njom\u00eb. \u201cAjo q\u00eb ka pasur nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb ose baba t\u00eb pasigurt\u00eb n\u00eb vetvete, t\u00eb larg\u00ebt dhe t\u00eb ftoht\u00eb, do t\u00eb ket\u00eb tendenc\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb person me frik\u00eb n\u00eb zem\u00ebr. \u00c7far\u00eb duhet b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebto raste? S\u00eb pari, k\u00ebshilloj q\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb problemin e saj. T\u00eb kuptosh se pasigurit\u00eb e tua vijn\u00eb s\u00eb pari nga ti dhe jo nga partneri apo nga ato q\u00eb i vijn\u00eb rrotull, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb hap i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm para, sepse t\u00eb ndihmon t\u00eb kuptosh problemin\u201d, afirmon psikoterapeuti.<\/p>\n
3. Forco karakterin t\u00ebnd
\nP\u00ebr t\u00eb mos jetuar me bezdin\u00eb e faktit q\u00eb ke nj\u00eb partner josh\u00ebs, duhet t\u00eb punosh mbi sigurin\u00eb t\u00ebnde. \u201cN\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, vler\u00ebso pamjen t\u00ebnde t\u00eb jashtme, aft\u00ebsit\u00eb dhe ep\u00ebrsit\u00eb e tua. Pastaj, mundohu t\u00eb kesh m\u00eb shum\u00eb vullnet p\u00ebr t\u00eb arritur nj\u00eb objektiv (p\u00ebr shembull, t\u00eb mbash diet\u00eb), b\u00ebj sport, kultivo miq\u00ebsi, b\u00ebj udh\u00ebtime kulturore q\u00eb t\u00eb japin mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb ndjehesh m\u00eb e sigurt\u00eb n\u00eb bisedat me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt dhe, n\u00ebse nuk e ke b\u00ebr\u00eb, mbaro studimet\u201d.<\/p>\n
4. Ruaj misterin
\nP\u00ebr t\u00eb fituar (dhe mbajtur), sigurin\u00eb n\u00eb vetvete, mundohu q\u00eb ai t\u00eb mos e \u201cket\u00eb n\u00eb xhep\u201d disponibilitetin t\u00ebnd. \u201cP\u00ebr shembull, her\u00eb pas here b\u00ebje m\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb caktimin e nj\u00eb takimi. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbajtur gjall\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebn, por edhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar se sa i aft\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ai p\u00ebr t\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar, p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndenjur me ty dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb t\u00eb ardhur rrotull\u201d, sugjeron psikoterapeuti. Por, e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb mos teprohet!<\/p>\n
5. Bindu se edhe ti je e aft\u00eb t\u00eb josh\u00ebsh
\n\u201cAi u p\u00eblqen kaq shum\u00eb grave, mua nuk m\u2019i hedh kush syt\u00eb. Pse ndodh kjo?\u201d. Mbase partneri yt sillet n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme, m\u00eb t\u00eb hapur. \u201cShpesh grat\u00eb, kur jan\u00eb t\u00eb dashuruara pas nj\u00eb burri, kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb t\u00eb mos interesohen p\u00ebr burrat e tjer\u00eb. Kjo i b\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u00eb duken m\u00eb pak josh\u00ebse. Sjellja e atyre q\u00eb na rrethojn\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb pasqyrimi i sjelljes son\u00eb; at\u00ebhere, ti rifillo dhe trego kureshti kundrejt asaj q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb burrat e tjer\u00eb, b\u00ebj pyetje p\u00ebr t\u00eb thelluar bisedat me ta, buz\u00ebqesh dhe shihi n\u00eb sy kur t\u00eb flasin\u201d, sugjeron ekspertja.<\/p>\n
6. V\u00ebre veten n\u00eb qend\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebmendjes
\nPo sikur ta ktheje p\u00ebrmbys situat\u00ebn? \u201cN\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsohesh se mund ta humbas\u00ebsh partnerin p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb \u201ckonkurenc\u00ebs\u201d, mendo se duhet t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsohet ai se mos t\u00eb humbet ty, duke par\u00eb se sa vlen. N\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsohesh p\u00ebr faktin se ai u p\u00eblqen grave, p\u00ebrqendrohu te p\u00ebrkujdesjet q\u00eb meriton t\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb ty\u201d, sugjeron psikoterapeuti.<\/p>\n