– P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje psikolog! Jam nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb q\u00eb kam mbaruar universitetin, por q\u00eb b\u00ebj nj\u00eb pun\u00eb tjet\u00ebr nga profili im dhe nuk jam fare e k\u00ebnaqur. Kam k\u00ebrkuar pun\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, por \u00ebsht\u00eb e pamundur, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb m\u00eb thon\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb mbaj k\u00ebt\u00eb pun\u00eb q\u00eb kam. Pyetja ime \u00ebsht\u00eb: Si t\u00eb gjej k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi n\u00eb nj\u00eb pun\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kthyer n\u00eb stres?
\nDr. Jashar Demiri, psikolog klinicist: – Pyetja juaj, e thjesht\u00eb n\u00eb dukje, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb p\u00ebr p\u00ebrgjigje. \u00cbsht\u00eb ky nj\u00eb problem q\u00eb po t\u2019i futemi ta studiojm\u00eb, do t\u00eb dal\u00eb se i p\u00ebrket shumic\u00ebs. Nj\u00eb hulumtim me 3000 t\u00eb rritur, q\u00eb u organizua nga institucioni studimor Lifetime n\u00eb Britani, zbuloi se 48 % e punonj\u00ebsve ishin t\u00eb palumtur n\u00eb pun\u00ebn e tyre, e cila, edhe pse u sillte fitime, u jepte pak k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi n\u00eb jet\u00eb. 61 % e tyre than\u00eb se po t\u00eb kishim nj\u00eb \u201cshkop magjik\u201d, do t\u00eb donin nj\u00eb karrier\u00eb t\u00eb re… M\u00eb t\u00eb palumturit (dyfish) dilnin punonj\u00ebsit e zyrave, nd\u00ebrsa mbi 2\/3 e t\u00eb anketuarve besonin se do t\u00eb ishin t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur po t\u00eb ishin t\u00eb vet\u00ebpun\u00ebsuar (shihni p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb vvvvvv.lifetime.co.uk).
\nProblemi yt, e nderuar let\u00ebrshkruese, \u00ebsht\u00eb se puna q\u00eb b\u00ebn, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb profilin t\u00ebnd dhe n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb thuash \u201cshyqyr q\u00eb e kam nj\u00eb pun\u00eb\u201d, ajo t\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kthyer n\u00eb stres. Kjo q\u00eb ndodh me ju, ndodh edhe me shum\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb q\u00eb nuk shohin ushtrin\u00eb e madhe t\u00eb t\u00eb papun\u00ebve. Disave u \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb puna si rutin\u00eb, si lodhje e p\u00ebrditshme, mendojn\u00eb vet\u00ebm minuset e saj, u \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb si obsesion i keq, jan\u00eb t\u00eb detyruar q\u00eb t\u00eb mos e l\u00ebn\u00eb at\u00eb pun\u00eb pa gjetur nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, sepse mbetja pa pun\u00eb e pa para, do t\u2019i b\u00ebnte ata m\u00eb t\u00eb mjeruar. Nuk mund t\u00eb b\u00ebsh nj\u00eb plan \u201carratie\u201d, pa e ditur m\u00eb par\u00eb se nga do t\u2019ia mbash… Mos e mbyll nj\u00eb port\u00eb, pa e hapur nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb ti k\u00ebrkoje nj\u00eb pun\u00eb t\u00eb re si\u00e7 e d\u00ebshiron, l\u00ebviz, apliko, trokit… Kur dikush t\u00eb tregon apo t\u00eb propozon nj\u00eb pun\u00eb t\u00eb re, shko t\u00eb bisedosh me t\u00eb, edhe sikur t\u00eb t\u00eb interesoj\u00eb pak. Kurr\u00eb mos ia mbyll der\u00ebn nj\u00eb rasti, derisa ka mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb d\u00ebgjosh nj\u00eb ofert\u00eb personalisht. Ndodh edhe si\u00e7 thot\u00eb populli, q\u00eb te ferra e vog\u00ebl, mund t\u00eb fshihet lepuri i madh dhe anasjelltas: aty ku t\u00eb thon\u00eb se ka gorica shum\u00eb, merre shport\u00ebn t\u00eb vog\u00ebl. Amerikan\u00ebt thon\u00eb: \u201cM\u00ebsohu t\u00eb d\u00ebgjosh: rasti troket shum\u00eb leht\u00eb n\u00eb der\u00eb\u201d. Ky postulat nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr pun\u00ebn; ai vlen p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjitha: p\u00ebr martes\u00ebn, p\u00ebr turizmin, biznesin etj. Ne psikolog\u00ebt themi: Ushqe mendime e b\u00ebj plane t\u00eb m\u00ebdha, por shijo k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi t\u00eb vogla. N\u00eb rastin t\u00ebnd, k\u00ebnaqu tek ajo pun\u00eb qoft\u00eb edhe vet\u00ebm me pag\u00ebn q\u00eb merr dhe mos ik nga ajo pa gjetur tjetr\u00ebn!
\nM\u00eb ka p\u00eblqyer nj\u00eb th\u00ebnie te libri \u201cSekreti\u201d: \u201cK\u00ebrko nj\u00eb her\u00eb, beso se e ke marr\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb ke k\u00ebrkuar dhe gj\u00ebja e par\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebsh p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur at\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb ndihesh mir\u00eb me at\u00eb q\u00eb po b\u00ebn. Do t\u00eb marr\u00ebsh gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb ti d\u00ebshiron, n\u00ebse do t\u00eb kesh besim. Fuqia e mir\u00ebnjohjes q\u00ebndron m\u00eb lart sesa gjith\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr… E pamundur t\u00eb t\u00ebrheq\u00ebsh me shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra n\u00eb jet\u00eb, n\u00ebse nuk je mir\u00ebnjoh\u00ebs p\u00ebr ato q\u00eb ke…\u201d Besoj se u kuptuam.
\nN\u00eb jet\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb plane t\u00eb realizueshme dhe si\u00e7 thot\u00eb populli, me k\u00ebmb\u00eb n\u00eb tok\u00eb e \u201cmat e pre\u201d. N\u00ebse dikush vuan gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka q\u00eb e synon, por shk\u00ebrmoqet e lodhet shum\u00eb e mezi e arrin, at\u00ebhere lind pyetja: Kur do ta shijosh ti at\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb duhet? K\u00ebnaqu q\u00eb tr\u00ebndafili ka ngjyrat e aromat dhe mos u p\u00ebrqendro te gjembat. Mos e d\u00ebgjo shum\u00eb \u201cz\u00ebrin t\u00ebnd\u201d t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm q\u00eb mundohet t\u00eb ta b\u00ebj\u00eb obsesion t\u00eb keq pun\u00ebn, se ai, si\u00e7 thot\u00eb populli, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb z\u00eb \u201cshejtani\u201d. Pun\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm ajo q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron, pun\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7do pun\u00eb q\u00eb ti po e b\u00ebn. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje psikolog! Jam nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb q\u00eb kam mbaruar universitetin, por q\u00eb b\u00ebj nj\u00eb pun\u00eb tjet\u00ebr nga profili im dhe nuk jam fare e k\u00ebnaqur. Kam k\u00ebrkuar pun\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, por \u00ebsht\u00eb e pamundur, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb m\u00eb thon\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb mbaj k\u00ebt\u00eb pun\u00eb q\u00eb kam. Pyetja ime \u00ebsht\u00eb: Si t\u00eb gjej k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi n\u00eb nj\u00eb pun\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7794","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7794","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7794"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7794\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7794"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7794"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7794"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}