Sipas nj\u00eb studimi, afro 96% e grave kan\u00eb fantazuar t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tyre dhe 80%, jan\u00eb t\u00eb gatshme t\u2019i realizojn\u00eb k\u00ebto fantazi. \u00cbsht\u00eb larg, pra, koha kur ishte turp t\u00eb mendoje p\u00ebr komshiun, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb b\u00ebje dashuri me burrin n\u00eb pozicionin klasik t\u00eb misionerit. Pra, grat\u00eb fantazojn\u00eb, por \u00e7far\u00eb sakt\u00ebsisht, pasi jo t\u00eb gjitha kan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn fantazi? Lexoni shkrimin ton\u00eb, p\u00ebr ta m\u00ebsuar…<\/p>\n
1. T\u00eb b\u00ebsh dashuri me nj\u00eb VIP
\nMegjith\u00ebse nuk kemi marr\u00eb n\u00eb pyetje gjith\u00eb grat\u00eb e bot\u00ebs, e dim\u00eb me siguri q\u00eb kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb fantazia num\u00ebr nj\u00eb e grave. M\u00eb pas, sigurisht, ka variante, si p\u00ebr shembull, Xhorxh Kluni n\u00eb periudh\u00ebn \u00abDoktor Ros\u00bb, apo Xhorxh Kluni n\u00eb periudh\u00ebn \u00abNespresso \u2013 VVhat else\u00bb. N\u00eb fakt, brezave t\u00eb rinj u p\u00eblqejn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb Robert Patinsoni apo Rajan Gosling, por pak r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi ka VIP-i n\u00eb fjal\u00eb, mjafton t\u00eb arrish orgazm\u00ebn, sepse, sigurisht, VIP-i \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb i aft\u00eb n\u00eb shtrat se ai q\u00eb ke p\u00ebrbri. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb i pasur, t\u00eb \u00e7on n\u00eb vende t\u00eb mrekullueshme, vendos t\u00eb braktis\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka, fam\u00ebn dhe biznesin e tij p\u00ebr ty dhe t\u00eb blen nj\u00eb ishull n\u00eb Karaibe. Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, VIP-i \u00ebsht\u00eb burri i pikuar nga qielli dhe sigurisht, natyra \u00ebsht\u00eb treguar bujare me t\u00eb (nga ana e fizikut). Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, t\u00eb fantazosh mbi nj\u00eb VIP nuk kushton, nuk e ndjen veten n\u00eb faj p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb (sepse ka pak gjasa t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb) dhe i b\u00ebn marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet bashk\u00ebshortore m\u00eb pikante.<\/p>\n
2. T\u00eb b\u00ebsh dashuri me nj\u00eb t\u00eb panjohur
\nPas VIP-it, i panjohuri; nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr fantazi shum\u00eb e p\u00ebrhapur te seksi fem\u00ebr. N\u00ebse i panjohuri i ngjan Brad Pitit, aq m\u00eb mir\u00eb, por kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e detyrueshme. Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, ideja \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebsh nj\u00eb \u00abkontakt me sy\u00bb n\u00eb nj\u00eb bar me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb me v\u00ebshtrim t\u00eb zjarrt\u00eb. I b\u00ebn shenj\u00eb se do t\u00eb pish nj\u00eb cigare jasht\u00eb, apo do t\u00eb shkosh n\u00eb tualet, pak r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi ka. Ai t\u00eb ndjek nga pas, t\u00eb ngjesh pas murit t\u00eb rrugic\u00ebs, apo t\u00eb banjos, t\u00eb ngre fustanin, apo fundin (n\u00eb fantazi, evitoni xhinset, sepse ato nd\u00ebrlikojn\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka) dhe b\u00ebn dashuri me ty aty, pa loj\u00ebra paraprake, p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelje, etj. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb fantazi, \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht seks i past\u00ebr, k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi krejt\u00ebsisht falas dhe pa t\u00eb nes\u00ebrme. Edhe n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, fantazia \u00ebsht\u00eb e lejuar dhe nuk t\u00eb b\u00ebn t\u00eb ndjehesh n\u00eb faj: N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, nuk i ke dh\u00ebn\u00eb as edhe nj\u00eb puthje!<\/p>\n
3. Me nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr tjet\u00ebr
\nFantazia e vjet\u00ebr e biseksualitetit… E \u00e7uditshme t\u00eb shoh\u00ebsh se n\u00eb \u00e7\u2019pik\u00eb, grat\u00eb jan\u00eb tashm\u00eb krejt\u00ebsisht pa komplekse n\u00eb preferencat e tyre seksuale. Edhe disa q\u00eb jan\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7ift me X-in apo Y-in q\u00eb prej 10 apo 15 vjet\u00ebsh, nuk e fshehin nj\u00eb lloj kureshtie p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb mes femrave. Sigurisht, n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb provuar k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsit\u00eb e seksit mes femrave, sesa p\u00ebr t\u00eb hequr dor\u00eb krejt\u00ebsisht nga \u00e7do shenj\u00eb feminiliteti, por ky nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb rregull absolut. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7udi q\u00eb grat\u00eb t\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrrojn\u00eb p\u00ebr grat\u00eb e tjera. S\u00eb pari, t\u00eb tradhtosh partnerin me nj\u00eb person t\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtit seks, nuk quhet tradhti. M\u00eb pas, \u00ebsht\u00eb kureshtia, eksitimi p\u00ebr \u00abtok\u00ebn e panjohur\u00bb, d\u00ebshira p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelur forma josh\u00ebse dhe, p\u00ebr m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, duke njohur m\u00eb shum\u00eb edhe trupin t\u00ebnd.<\/p>\n
4. T\u00eb b\u00ebsh dashuri n\u00eb plazh
\nNj\u00eb fantazi shum\u00eb e thjesht\u00eb dhe romantike, por q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb vihet n\u00eb praktik\u00eb, sepse askujt nuk i p\u00eblqen t\u2019i futet r\u00ebra n\u00eb organet intime. Kjo nuk i pengon t\u00eb gjitha grat\u00eb (ose pothuajse) t\u00eb mos ken\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrruar t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn nj\u00eb her\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb dashuri n\u00ebn drit\u00ebn e yjeve, me p\u00ebrk\u00ebdheljet ritmike t\u00eb val\u00ebve, me ndjesin\u00eb se je vet\u00ebm n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bot\u00eb. Sigurisht, n\u00ebse burri q\u00eb b\u00ebn dashuri me ty i ngjan Xhad Lout, akoma m\u00eb mir\u00eb, por kjo fantazi funksionon edhe me partnerin. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, \u00ebsht\u00eb konteksti ai q\u00eb t\u00eb eksiton dhe jo djali (mbase, edhe ai).<\/p>\n
5. Dashuri me dy burra nj\u00ebher\u00ebsh
\nSigurisht, kjo fantazi \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e p\u00ebrhapur te burrat, por edhe femrat nuk mbeten shum\u00eb prapa. N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, grat\u00eb preferojn\u00eb ta evitojn\u00eb konkurrenc\u00ebn edhe n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, lihet m\u00ebnjan\u00eb partneri dhe zgjidhen dy burra krejt\u00ebsisht t\u00eb panjohur. Kjo, sepse nuk t\u00eb intereson nj\u00eb sken\u00eb xhelozie, qoft\u00eb ajo edhe virtuale. T\u00eb b\u00ebsh seks me dy burra nj\u00ebher\u00ebsh zgjidh shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra q\u00eb nuk mund t\u2019i b\u00ebj\u00eb nj\u00eb partner i vet\u00ebm, t\u00eb cilat nuk po i p\u00ebrmendim k\u00ebtu, por q\u00eb duhet t\u2019i kesh kuptuar tashm\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu, gjat\u00eb koh\u00ebs s\u00eb fantazis\u00eb, e kthen veten n\u00eb nj\u00eb objekt d\u00ebshire dhe v\u00ebmendjeje, pasi sheh dy burra q\u00eb ndeshen p\u00ebr ty dhe p\u00ebrpiqen se kush nga t\u00eb dy do t\u00eb shkaktoj\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb psher\u00ebtima. Nj\u00eb fantazi, 100% e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr egon…<\/p>\n
6. T\u00eb jesh e dominuar
\nKujdes, t\u00eb jesh e dominuar nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrdhunojn\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb dhom\u00eb hoteli n\u00eb Nju Jork, apo t\u00eb t\u00eb rrahin me kamzhik. Kjo lloj fantazie, n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, nuk b\u00ebn pjes\u00eb n\u00eb 10 m\u00eb t\u00eb preferuarat e grave moderne. P\u00ebrkundrazi, kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb luash p\u00ebr nj\u00eb nat\u00eb rolin e asaj q\u00eb i bindet partnerit, gj\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb eksituese. Sepse, t\u00eb jesh e dominuar, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb mos jesh n\u00eb kontroll t\u00eb situat\u00ebs, t\u2019i dor\u00ebzohesh krejt\u00ebsisht tjetrit, t\u00eb dridhesh p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb, apo t\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb fantazi q\u00eb mund t\u00eb vihet n\u00eb praktik\u00eb, me kusht q\u00eb t\u00eb kesh besim t\u00eb verb\u00ebr te tjetri dhe t\u00eb dish se ai nuk do ta kaloj\u00eb vij\u00ebn e kuqe, at\u00eb q\u00eb e transformon nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale pak t\u00eb nxeht\u00eb, n\u00eb nj\u00eb agresion. E dominuar, po; e keqtrajtuar, jo!<\/p>\n
7. T\u00eb dominosh
\nN\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, nuk ka arsye pse t\u00eb mos jesh edhe ti zot\u00ebruesja e situat\u00ebs. T\u00eb b\u00ebhesh p\u00ebr disa or\u00eb Mis Zot\u00ebruesja, me korse t\u00eb kuqe dhe taka t\u00eb larta, \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb tunduese, apo jo? Sidomos n\u00ebse objekti i d\u00ebnimeve \u00ebsht\u00eb shefi yt i shpifur, ai q\u00eb nuk rri pa t\u00eb qortuar sa her\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb sheh. Ose, edhe vet\u00eb partneri, q\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb her\u00eb do t\u00eb luaj\u00eb rolin e nj\u00eb njeriu t\u00eb pambrojtur dhe pa r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi. \u00cbsht\u00eb e dukshme se, kur t\u00eb vij\u00eb puna p\u00ebr t\u00eb nd\u00ebrruar rrot\u00ebn e makin\u00ebs, do t\u00eb b\u00ebheni ju ajo gj\u00ebja pa mbrojtje n\u00eb \u00e7ift, por… n\u00eb pritje t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, n\u00eb gjunj\u00eb zot\u00ebri dhe, m\u00eb puth k\u00ebmb\u00ebt!<\/p>\n
8. Dashuri n\u00eb nj\u00eb pallat
\nT\u00eb b\u00ebsh dashuri n\u00eb nj\u00eb pallat, jaht, n\u00eb nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi t\u00eb bukur, ose n\u00eb nj\u00eb hotel luksoz, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb u p\u00ebrket vet\u00ebm t\u00eb pasurve. Pastaj, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb se ti je shum\u00eb nazelie, mjafton t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb krevat t\u00eb madh dhe sh\u00ebrbim n\u00eb dhom\u00eb… Kush nuk ka \u00ebnd\u00ebrruar, qoft\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb, t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb princesh\u00eb, megjith\u00ebse n\u00eb mesnat\u00eb e sheh veten n\u00eb apartamentin t\u00ebnd, n\u00eb periferi t\u00eb qytetit? Nj\u00eb fantazi jo aq e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u realizuar, mjafton t\u00eb kursesh pak, p\u00ebr t\u2019i ofruar vetes nj\u00eb fundjav\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb hotel me kat\u00ebr yje, me sh\u00ebrbim n\u00eb dhom\u00eb. K\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi e garantuar!<\/p>\n
9. M\u00ebsuesi i skive, tenisit, palestr\u00ebs, etj.
\nNuk ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi edhe aq profesioni, sesa fakti q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i ri dhe i bukur. Sigurisht, grave u p\u00eblqejn\u00eb burrat q\u00eb din\u00eb t\u00eb bisedojn\u00eb; ato jan\u00eb sentimentale… por profesori i ri i s\u00ebrfit, megjith\u00ebse nuk ka nj\u00eb inteligjenc\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb, ka muskuj barku si tablet\u00eb \u00e7okollate dhe pantallona t\u00eb shkurtra, t\u00eb ngjitura pas trupit, q\u00eb nuk i l\u00ebn\u00eb shum\u00eb vend fantazis\u00eb… E nj\u00ebjta gj\u00eb edhe p\u00ebr m\u00ebsuesin e skive, t\u00eb cilit mjafton t\u2019i q\u00ebndrosh nga pas, p\u00ebr t\u2019i par\u00eb t\u00eb pasmet… T\u00eb gjitha grat\u00eb, pra, \u00ebnd\u00ebrrojn\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb dashuri me djem, interesi kryesor i t\u00eb cil\u00ebve q\u00ebndron te muskulatura dhe rinia e tyre. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, t\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrrosh, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e ndaluar po aq sa ta v\u00ebsh n\u00eb jet\u00eb fantazin\u00eb. X-i mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb ose jo fans i Shpilbergut, kjo nuk ka shum\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi…<\/p>\n
10. T\u00eb spiunosh nga vrima e \u00e7el\u00ebsit
\nNd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb filmat porno nuk t\u00eb joshin fare (sepse e di q\u00eb jan\u00eb fallco), ato q\u00eb sheh nga vrima e \u00e7el\u00ebsit, jan\u00eb shum\u00eb josh\u00ebse. K\u00ebshtu, mund t\u00eb mendosh se po sheh duke b\u00ebr\u00eb dashuri nj\u00eb \u00e7ift seksi, t\u00eb cilin e ke par\u00eb n\u00eb diskotek\u00eb, apo pab. Meq\u00eb ra fjala, ty do t\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00eblqente t\u00eb b\u00ebje nj\u00eb xhiro aty ku ka \u00e7ifte q\u00eb shk\u00ebmbejn\u00eb partner\u00ebt, duke b\u00ebr\u00eb dashuri, jo p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb pjes\u00eb, por vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb. Mbase m\u00ebson ndonj\u00eb gj\u00eb, apo jo?<\/p>\n
T\u00eb reja
\nCil\u00ebt kan\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb orgazma, lesbiket, heteroseksual\u00ebt, apo biseksual\u00ebt?
\nDisa studiues amerikan\u00eb kan\u00eb studiuar marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ekzistoj\u00eb mes orientimit seksual dhe orgazm\u00ebs te burrat dhe grat\u00eb. Rezultati q\u00eb doli nga ky sondazh ishte se lesbiket kishin nj\u00eb jet\u00eb seksuale m\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqshme. Studimi \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb nga k\u00ebrkues t\u00eb Institutit Kinsey dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb publikuar n\u00eb Journal of Sexual Medicine. P\u00ebr t\u00eb arritur n\u00eb k\u00ebto p\u00ebrfundime, studiuesit mor\u00ebn n\u00eb pyetje 6151 persona t\u00eb mosh\u00ebs 21-65 vje\u00e7, ku 2850 nd\u00ebrmjet tyre ishin beqar\u00eb dhe kishin pasur marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale n\u00eb 12 muajt e m\u00ebparsh\u00ebm. Secili prej tyre plot\u00ebsoi nj\u00eb pyet\u00ebsor n\u00eb internet duke sakt\u00ebsuar seksin, orientimin seksual dhe numrin e orgazmave t\u00eb arritura me nj\u00eb \u00abpartner\/e t\u00eb njohur\u00bb.
\nK\u00ebshtu, lesbiket kan\u00eb deklaruar se kan\u00eb arritur orgazma n\u00eb 74,7% t\u00eb rasteve, nd\u00ebrsa heteroseksualet n\u00eb 61.6% t\u00eb rasteve dhe biseksualet, n\u00eb 58%. M\u00eb sakt\u00ebsisht, 25% e homoseksualeve kan\u00eb rr\u00ebfyer se kan\u00eb provuar \u00e7do her\u00eb nj\u00eb orgaz\u00ebm (vet\u00ebm 16,2% tek heterot) dhe 46% e kan\u00eb arritur at\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb se n\u00eb tre\u00e7erekun e rasteve.
\nP\u00ebrkundrazi, te burrat, orientimi seksual nuk dukej t\u00eb kishte shum\u00eb lidhje me orgazm\u00ebn. Niveli i orgazmave te burrat hetero ishte 85.5%, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb ishte 84.7% te homoseksual\u00ebt dhe 77,6%, te biseksual\u00ebt.
\nPo pse nj\u00eb diferenc\u00eb e till\u00eb te grat\u00eb? Sipas studiuesve, shpjegimet jan\u00eb t\u00eb shumta. Grat\u00eb q\u00eb e quanin veten lesbike, ndjeheshin m\u00eb rehat dhe e njihnin m\u00eb mir\u00eb trupin fem\u00ebror, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ndihmonin partneret e tyre t\u00eb arrinin orgazm\u00ebn. Edhe koh\u00ebzgjatja e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies dhe ndryshimet hormonale mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb ndikimin e tyre.<\/p>\n