Seks dhe vet\u00ebm seks? Sigurisht, jo, d\u00ebshirat e burrave jan\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrlikuara se kaq! Ja, disa gj\u00ebra q\u00eb burrat i duan, por nuk guxojn\u00eb t\u2019i k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb, ngaq\u00eb jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb turpsh\u00ebm, modest\u00eb, apo krenar\u00eb…<\/p>\n
1. Ai d\u00ebshiron q\u00eb partnerja t\u00eb dij\u00eb se ai e do
\nAi mund t\u00eb sillet \u00e7uditsh\u00ebm, apo t\u2019i mungojn\u00eb fjal\u00ebt, por i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb se ju e dini sa shum\u00eb ju do. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, ju mund ta shihni n\u00eb q\u00ebndrimin e tij, apo ta ndjeni n\u00eb heshtjen e tij.
\n2. Ai do q\u00eb ta merrni nganj\u00ebher\u00eb ju n\u00eb dor\u00eb drejtimin e situat\u00ebs
\nAi mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb udh\u00ebheq\u00ebs i lindur, por kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se do t\u00eb drejtoj\u00eb vet\u00ebm ai. Befasojeni… sidomos n\u00eb shtrat. Ai do t\u00eb bjer\u00eb pre e magjis\u00eb suaj.
\n3. Ai k\u00ebrkon respekt
\nAi \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i ndjesh\u00ebm dhe nuk i p\u00eblqen kur tallen me t\u00eb, edhe p\u00ebr shaka. Ai do respekt, jo tallje. Mund t\u00eb duket plot besim n\u00eb vetvete, por i p\u00eblqen q\u00eb ju ta respektoni p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb… p\u00ebrfshi k\u00ebtu edhe defektet!
\n4. Ai do q\u00eb ta admirojn\u00eb
\nAtij i p\u00eblqejn\u00eb komplimentet dhe shum\u00eb, bile. Shiheni me admirim dhe ai do t\u00eb ndjehet i lumtur. Ai do ta b\u00ebj\u00eb partneren t\u00eb ndjehet e k\u00ebnaqur, si n\u00eb jet\u00eb, ashtu edhe n\u00eb shtrat.
\n5. Ai do t\u00eb rrij\u00eb me ju
\nAi \u00ebsht\u00eb i pavarur, por i p\u00eblqen t\u2019ju ket\u00eb pran\u00eb. Bile, ka raste kur atij i p\u00eblqen (pa guxuar ta k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb), q\u00eb ju t\u00eb rrini pran\u00eb e pran\u00eb n\u00eb kolltuk, duke par\u00eb ndjeshjen, ose t\u00eb luani bashk\u00eb futboll (megjith\u00ebse ju nuk jeni e mir\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb loj\u00eb).
\n6. Ai do t\u00eb ket\u00eb pran\u00eb nj\u00eb grua t\u00eb bukur
\nKur \u00ebsht\u00eb beqar, ai mund ta ket\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb p\u00ebr mburrje, por n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, nj\u00eb burri i p\u00eblqen ta admiroj\u00eb partneren e tij. Ai nuk do pran\u00eb vetes nj\u00eb modele kock\u00eb e l\u00ebkur\u00eb, apo nj\u00eb grua q\u00eb lyhet e zhg\u00ebrryhet gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebn, por thjesht nj\u00eb grua q\u00eb ta ndjej\u00eb veten mir\u00eb ashtu si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb. Gj\u00ebja m\u00eb e keqe p\u00ebr t\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb ket\u00eb pran\u00eb nj\u00eb grua t\u00eb fiksuar pas peshores dhe vazhdimisht, n\u00eb diet\u00eb.
\n7. Ai do q\u00eb ta inkurajojn\u00eb
\nAi nuk do ta pranoj\u00eb kurr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb, sidomos me shok\u00ebt, por partneri juaj ka dyshimet e veta. Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb, ai ngrihet nga gjumi n\u00eb mes t\u00eb nat\u00ebs, duke par\u00eb tavanin, me mendime t\u00eb k\u00ebqija n\u00eb kok\u00eb. N\u00eb k\u00ebto koh\u00ebra ankthi, ajo q\u00eb e ndihmon m\u00eb shum\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetja juaj. Ai ka nevoj\u00eb q\u00eb ju ta mb\u00ebshtesni n\u00eb vendimet e tij.
\n8. Ai do t\u00eb ndjehet i vler\u00ebsuar
\nMeq\u00eb ai nganj\u00ebher\u00eb ka dyshime, nuk e merr si t\u00eb mir\u00ebqen\u00eb dashurin\u00eb tuaj, megjith\u00ebse mund t\u00eb duket k\u00ebshtu. Ai ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb \u201cfaleminderit nga ju\u201d, fjal\u00ebt tuaja t\u00eb \u00ebmbla dhe buz\u00ebqeshjen tuaj. Atij i p\u00eblqen kur ju i shprehni mir\u00ebnjohjen tuaj n\u00ebse ju ka ndihmuar p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka.
\n9. Ai do t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb qeshni
\nKur ai ia del mban\u00eb t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb qeshni, \u00ebsht\u00eb si nj\u00eb fitore e tij personale, q\u00eb e b\u00ebn t\u00eb ndjehet krenar. Atij i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb qesh\u00eb me ju dhe sensi juaj i humorit.
\n10. Ai do t\u00eb nj\u00eb partnere t\u00eb pavarur
\nN\u00ebse rrini gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb pritje q\u00eb t\u2019ju marr\u00eb ai n\u00eb telefon, apo nuk keni jet\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, p\u00ebrve\u00e7se asaj q\u00eb jetoni me t\u00eb, atij mund t\u2019i dukeni e m\u00ebrzitshme. Atij i p\u00eblqen q\u00eb partnerja t\u00eb jet\u00eb projekte t\u00eb vetat (bile \u00ebsht\u00eb krenar p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb!) dhe q\u00eb ajo mund t\u00eb kujdeset p\u00ebr veten. Sigurisht, i p\u00eblqen edhe ta mbroj\u00eb partneren, por ai nuk do ta l\u00ebr\u00eb pa krah\u00eb. Atij i p\u00eblqen nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb e pavarur, jo nj\u00eb q\u00eb nuk merr dot frym\u00eb kur ai nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb me t\u00eb.
\n11. Atij i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb haj\u00eb
\nAtij i p\u00eblqen q\u00eb ju t\u00eb hani pa llogaritur \u00e7do kalori dhe \u00e7do gram\u00eb yndyr\u00eb. Atij vet\u00eb i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb haj\u00eb e t\u00eb shijoj\u00eb ushqimin dhe jo t\u00eb num\u00ebroj\u00eb kalorit\u00eb q\u00eb g\u00eblltit. Mbi t\u00eb gjitha, ai do q\u00eb t\u00eb haj\u00eb i qet\u00eb, pa u ndjer\u00eb i gjykuar apo i komentuar nga ju, sikur t\u00eb ishit nj\u00eb nutricioniste.
\n12. Atij i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb ndjehet i d\u00ebshiruar
\nNga ju… dhe nganj\u00ebher\u00eb, edhe nga grat\u00eb e tjera, megjith\u00ebse k\u00ebt\u00eb nuk do ta pranoj\u00eb kurr\u00eb, sidomos para jush! Atij i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb shoh\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb ende i aft\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebrheq\u00eb v\u00ebmendjen e grave t\u00eb tjera dhe… mos harroni t\u2019i hidhni nja dy shikime t\u00eb zem\u00ebruara n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, sepse i p\u00eblqejn\u00eb.
\n13. Ai do t\u00eb tregoj\u00eb se edhe ai ka ndjenja
\nAi do t\u00eb donte t\u00eb qante pa u shqet\u00ebsuar se ju mund t\u00eb talleni me k\u00ebt\u00eb shprehje ndjenjash dhe ta manipuloni. Nuk e ka t\u00eb leht\u00eb t\u00eb tregoj\u00eb an\u00ebn e tij t\u00eb ndjeshme dhe me siguri, nuk do ta marrin p\u00ebr njeri t\u00eb dob\u00ebt.
\n14. Ai do t\u00eb relaksohet
\nP\u00ebr t\u00eb, fundjavat jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u relaksuar dhe relaks nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb shtroni dreka dhe darka, t\u00eb shkoni n\u00eb kinema, t\u00eb pastroni sht\u00ebpin\u00eb, apo t\u00eb dilni nga sht\u00ebpia \u00e7do jav\u00eb. Relaksi do t\u00eb thot\u00eb… asgj\u00eb; planet nuk lejohen.
\n15. Ai do q\u00eb t\u00eb flas\u00eb
\nPartneri juaj nuk ka frik\u00eb nga diskutimet. Zgjidhni nj\u00eb subjekt q\u00eb atij i p\u00eblqen dhe do t\u00eb shihni sa do t\u00eb flas\u00eb. Thashethemet nuk i p\u00eblqejn\u00eb dhe ai nuk do t\u00eb flas\u00eb p\u00ebr or\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebra p\u00ebr gj\u00ebra q\u00eb kan\u00eb ndodhur n\u00eb t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebn. G\u00ebrmimi n\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn dhe nxjerrja n\u00eb shesh e m\u00ebrive t\u00eb vjetra, nuk i p\u00eblqen. Mos hezitoni t\u2019i thoni si e keni kaluar dit\u00ebn, por anashkaloni detajet… atij nuk i intereson n\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb ngjyre i ka lyer flok\u00ebt kolegia juaj.
\n16. Ai do t\u00eb rrij\u00eb ashtu si \u00ebsht\u00eb
\nAtij nuk i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb… p\u00ebrve\u00e7se n\u00ebse e vendos vet\u00eb. N\u00ebse ju mundoheni ta shnd\u00ebrroni n\u00eb dik\u00eb q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb, mos u \u00e7uditni n\u00ebse zem\u00ebrohet.
\n17. Ai do t\u00eb ndjej\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb i aft\u00eb t\u2019ju mbroj\u00eb
\nAi ndjehet mir\u00eb kur ju mbron. Megjith\u00ebse i p\u00eblqen fakti q\u00eb ju jeni nj\u00eb grua e pavarur, ai do t\u00eb tregohet i aft\u00eb t\u2019ju mbroj\u00eb dhe do t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb ta realizoj\u00eb di\u00e7ka t\u00eb till\u00eb. Ai do q\u00eb ju t\u00eb dini se mund t\u00eb mb\u00ebshteteni tek ai kur keni nevoj\u00eb dhe q\u00eb mund t\u2019ju nxjerr\u00eb nga situatat e v\u00ebshtira, n\u00ebse nevojitet.
\n18. Atij i p\u00eblqejn\u00eb sms-t\u00eb e prapa
\nAtij i p\u00eblqen kur ju i d\u00ebrgoni sms seksi, duke theksuar planet q\u00eb keni b\u00ebr\u00eb p\u00ebr n\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje. Ai nuk e pranon, por k\u00ebto sms t\u00eb shkurtra, ia sjellin mendjen v\u00ebrdall\u00eb.
\n19. Atij i p\u00eblqen ta udh\u00ebheqin
\nPartnerit tuaj i p\u00eblqen kur ju i thoni se \u00e7far\u00eb d\u00ebshironi n\u00eb shtrat. Atij i p\u00eblqen kur ju e udh\u00ebhiqni, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019ju \u00e7oj\u00eb n\u00eb qiellin e shtat\u00eb. Kjo i shton besimin n\u00eb vetvete dhe e b\u00ebn t\u00eb ndjehet nj\u00eb \u201cburr\u00eb i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb\u201d.
\n20. Atij i p\u00eblqen but\u00ebsia
\nAi mund t\u00eb veproj\u00eb si nj\u00eb ma\u00e7o i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb dhe t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb pompa, por mos u g\u00ebnjeni prej k\u00ebsaj. Burrave u p\u00eblqen t\u2019i p\u00ebrqafojn\u00eb. Dora juaj n\u00eb krahun e tij e b\u00ebn t\u00eb ndjehet i sigurt\u00eb dhe prekja e but\u00eb e buz\u00ebve tuaja n\u00eb qaf\u00eb, e eksiton. K\u00ebshtu, pra, duajeni me \u00ebmb\u00eblsi dhe but\u00ebsi! <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Seks dhe vet\u00ebm seks? Sigurisht, jo, d\u00ebshirat e burrave jan\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrlikuara se kaq! Ja, disa gj\u00ebra q\u00eb burrat i duan, por nuk guxojn\u00eb t\u2019i k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb, ngaq\u00eb jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb turpsh\u00ebm, modest\u00eb, apo krenar\u00eb… 1. Ai d\u00ebshiron q\u00eb partnerja t\u00eb dij\u00eb se ai e do Ai mund t\u00eb sillet \u00e7uditsh\u00ebm, apo t\u2019i mungojn\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":7618,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7617","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7617","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7617"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7617\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7618"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7617"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7617"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7617"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}