– I nderuar Doktor Demiri, jam nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb nga Mal\u00ebsia e Madhe. Vajza jon\u00eb u fejua, m\u00eb sakt\u00eb, e fejuam me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb q\u00eb punon n\u00eb Angli. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb na thon\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb djal\u00eb i mir\u00eb e pun\u00ebtor, por jo fort i pash\u00ebm. Shkuese ka qen\u00eb motra ime. Vajza ra dakord duke par\u00eb fotografit\u00eb e duke folur me t\u00eb n\u00eb telefon. Ai djali erdhi p\u00ebr Vit t\u00eb Ri dhe ndenji 15 dit\u00eb. Q\u00eb nga dita kur erdhi, vajza jon\u00eb vet\u00ebm qan, \u00ebsht\u00eb dob\u00ebsuar, s\u2019ka oreks e as gjum\u00eb. Jam shum\u00eb n\u00eb merak p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Ju lutem, m\u00eb thoni se \u00e7\u2019po ndodh me vajz\u00ebn ton\u00eb? Kur flasim p\u00ebr dasm\u00ebn e saj n\u00eb vjesht\u00eb, ajo b\u00ebhet edhe m\u00eb keq. A ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr barna? Mos \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb depresion?
\nJashar Demiri, psikolog: – Nga letra juaj, gjykoj, ose m\u00eb sakt\u00eb, mendoj se vajza nuk e do at\u00eb njeri, nuk i ka \u201cngjitur\u201d. Ajo e ka pranuar fejes\u00ebn me njeriun e imagjinuar pasi imazhi i tij ka qen\u00eb i zbukuruar n\u00eb mendjen e saj nga fjal\u00ebt tuaja, nga fotografit\u00eb e bisedat telefonike. Kur ai ka ardhur n\u00eb Vit t\u00eb Ri, ajo ka njohur nga af\u00ebr njeriun, i cili i \u00ebsht\u00eb dukur i pap\u00ebrshtatsh\u00ebm. Mundet q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb ndihet fajtore pse e pranoi k\u00ebt\u00eb fejes\u00eb me nxitim, \u00ebsht\u00eb e zhg\u00ebnjyer, porse tani, k\u00ebt\u00eb as q\u00eb guxon ta thot\u00eb. Edhe sikur t\u00eb \u201cguxoj\u00eb\u201d, ajo do t\u00eb ndeshet me \u201cmurin\u201d tuaj mal\u00ebsor. Ajo e di se me murin nuk flitet, k\u00ebsisoj, po p\u00ebrpiqet ta bind\u00eb m\u00eb tej veten p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb gruaja e burrit t\u00eb fejuar, por q\u00eb nuk e do. K\u00ebtu q\u00ebndron edhe vuajtja e saj e madhe e brendshme e vet\u00ebfaj\u00ebsimi. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb luft\u00eb t\u00eb ashp\u00ebr nd\u00ebrmjet detyrimit t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijes dhe pamund\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb shpirtit, ajo rrezikon t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb histeri konversioni q\u00eb, e th\u00ebn\u00eb shqip, mund t\u00eb ishte nj\u00eb lloj \u201ckrisjeje\u201d gati e pariparueshme. Ky nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb depresioni i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb si nj\u00eb lloj depresioni reaktiv q\u00eb ka lidhje me hallin q\u00eb ka z\u00ebn\u00eb vajz\u00ebn. Me vajz\u00ebn duhet t\u00eb flisni me kujdes, por pa e sulmuar me fjal\u00eb. Pyeteni se p\u00ebrse at\u00eb e acaron mendimi p\u00ebr dasm\u00ebn, n\u00ebse ajo p\u00ebrpiqet me zor p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb gruaja e nj\u00eb burri q\u00eb nuk e do. Mos u b\u00ebni pra si padashje armiq t\u00eb vajz\u00ebs suaj, silleni at\u00eb p\u00ebr psikoterapi dhe mjekim me ila\u00e7e 100 % bimore. N\u00ebse fejesa e gabuar \u00ebsht\u00eb v\u00ebrtet problemi i madh ngacmues i saj, m\u00eb mir\u00eb prisheni at\u00eb pa hezituar. Mbi t\u00eb gjitha, juve ju intereson njeriu juaj, apo jo? As ai djali nuk besoj se do t\u00eb donte t\u00eb martohej me nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb e cila po p\u00ebrpiqet q\u00eb ta doj\u00eb, me t\u00eb gjitha fuqit\u00eb e shpirtit, por nuk po mundet. Gjykojeni edhe vet\u00eb. Besoj se e dini nj\u00eb k\u00ebng\u00eb shkodrane me k\u00ebto vargje:
\nPranvera s\u2019vjen m\u00eb p\u00ebr mu
\nGjersa baba m\u00eb ka feju
\nMe nj\u00eb burr\u00eb q\u00eb un\u00eb se du
\nMe siguri, ju do t\u00eb thoni: Po, vet\u00eb deshi vajza, vet\u00eb pranoi, ne s\u2019e detyruam. Dakord, por ai q\u00eb quhet iluzioni i ndjenj\u00ebs, ndodh mjaft shpesh te t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb e pap\u00ebrvoj\u00eb, e, n\u00ebse u b\u00eb nj\u00eb gabim i vog\u00ebl, t\u00eb mos lejojm\u00eb nj\u00eb t\u00eb madh e me shum\u00eb pasoja. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– I nderuar Doktor Demiri, jam nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb nga Mal\u00ebsia e Madhe. Vajza jon\u00eb u fejua, m\u00eb sakt\u00eb, e fejuam me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb q\u00eb punon n\u00eb Angli. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb na thon\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb djal\u00eb i mir\u00eb e pun\u00ebtor, por jo fort i pash\u00ebm. Shkuese ka qen\u00eb motra ime. Vajza ra dakord duke par\u00eb fotografit\u00eb e […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7503","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7503","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7503"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7503\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7503"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7503"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7503"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}