\u201cKur dashuria t\u00eb trokas\u00eb, hapi der\u00ebn\u201d m\u00eb thoshte gjithmon\u00eb gjyshja n\u00eb ato fillimet e adoleshenc\u00ebs sime. Eh, gjyshja ime e shtrenjt\u00eb! Gjithmon\u00eb m\u00eb fliste dhe m\u00eb k\u00ebshillonte drejt. Mund t\u00eb duket e habitshme, por ajo p\u00ebr mua ishte shoqja m\u00eb e mir\u00eb. As me n\u00ebn\u00ebn dhe me motr\u00ebn nuk isha aq e lidhur sa me t\u00eb. Ka qen\u00eb ajo e para q\u00eb m\u00eb ka folur p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb, m\u00eb tregonte se si ishte njohur me gjyshin, se si ai e kishte rr\u00ebmbyer dhe ishin martuar me dashuri, edhe pse fillimisht familja e saj nuk donte.<\/p>\n
\u201cNjeriu duhet t\u00eb luftoj\u00eb p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb\u201d, m\u00eb thoshte gjithmon\u00eb. Deri sot nuk kam njohur njeri q\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb flas\u00eb aq bukur p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb. Kur e kujtoj tani q\u00eb nuk jeton m\u00eb dhe q\u00eb un\u00eb kam m\u00eb shum\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebshillat e saj, m\u00eb vjen sa p\u00ebr t\u00eb qeshur, aq edhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb qar\u00eb. Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb duket sikur e kishte parandier se \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb kaloja un\u00eb dhe prandaj m\u00eb fliste aq shum\u00eb. Sot, m\u00eb shum\u00eb se kurr\u00eb, m\u00eb vijn\u00eb nd\u00ebrmend k\u00ebshillat e saj. Vet\u00ebm kur kujtoj gjyshen, arrij t\u00eb gjej pak paqe dhe t\u00eb shpresoj se, shum\u00eb shpejt, ky moment i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb do t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb.
\n\u201cGjith\u00e7ka fashitet me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, m\u00eb thoshte gjyshja, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb mos ki frik\u00eb t\u00eb guxosh p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb thot\u00eb zemra\u201d. Familja ime ka dal\u00eb kund\u00ebr lidhjes sime n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb radikale. Kurr\u00eb nuk e kisha menduar se prind\u00ebrit e mi do t\u00eb reagonin n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb ndaj zgjedhjes sime. Ata kan\u00eb qen\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb njer\u00ebz mendjehapur dhe pa paragjykime. Gjithmon\u00eb jan\u00eb treguar tolerant\u00eb, prandaj kurr\u00eb nuk e prisja q\u00eb ata t\u00eb m\u00eb vinin p\u00ebrpara nj\u00eb zgjedhjeje. Jam e vendosur q\u00eb t\u00eb mos t\u00ebrhiqem nga zgjedhja ime sepse k\u00ebshtu m\u00eb thot\u00eb zemra, por kisha menduar se lidhja ime me M.-n\u00eb do t\u00eb merrte edhe bekimin e prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb mi, se do t\u00eb b\u00ebnim nj\u00eb das\u00ebm t\u00eb madhe, ashtu si\u00e7 e kisha imagjinuar. E dini cilat jan\u00eb arsyet pse familja ime nuk e pranon lidhjen ton\u00eb? Prind\u00ebrit e mi, ata q\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb i kam menduar si njer\u00ebz modest\u00eb, na dol\u00ebn paragjykues. Ata nuk e p\u00eblqejn\u00eb familjen e M-s\u00eb. Prind\u00ebrit e mi jan\u00eb njer\u00ebz t\u00eb shkolluar dhe b\u00ebjn\u00eb pjes\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb rreth shoq\u00ebror q\u00eb ka nj\u00eb lloj niveli dhe nuk e kuptoj pse duhet t\u00eb paragjykojn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt q\u00eb ndoshta nuk kan\u00eb pasur n\u00eb jet\u00eb fatin e tyre? M. ka 5 vjet q\u00eb ka ardhur t\u00eb banoj\u00eb pran\u00eb lagjes son\u00eb. Ai ka lindur n\u00eb nj\u00eb fshat t\u00eb Beratit dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb rritur n\u00eb Berat, n\u00eb qytet. Pasi mbaroi shkoll\u00ebn e mesme, familja e tij emigroi n\u00eb Greqi dhe q\u00ebndruan atje p\u00ebr disa vite, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb M. nuk pati menj\u00ebher\u00eb mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb vazhdonte shkoll\u00ebn e lart\u00eb. Kushtet e v\u00ebshtira ekonomike e detyruan familjen q\u00eb t\u00eb largohej n\u00eb Greqi sepse ata jan\u00eb familje e madhe. M ka tre motra dhe nj\u00eb v\u00eblla, nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb kam vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb mot\u00ebr. Prind\u00ebrit e tij jan\u00eb njer\u00ebz t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb, por me zem\u00ebr t\u00eb madhe. Ata kan\u00eb qen\u00eb t\u00eb detyruar t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb lloj-lloj pun\u00ebsh gjat\u00eb viteve q\u00eb kan\u00eb q\u00ebndruar n\u00eb Greqi. Kur u kthyen, erdh\u00ebn n\u00eb Tiran\u00eb dhe hap\u00ebn nj\u00eb supermarket n\u00eb lagje. Edhe M. ka nj\u00eb biznes tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb vog\u00ebl. Ai e filloi shkoll\u00ebn e lart\u00eb kur erdhi n\u00eb Tiran\u00eb dhe tani \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb vitin e fundit p\u00ebr Juridik, nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb jam n\u00eb vit t\u00eb tret\u00eb gjimnaz. Kemi 8 vjet diferenc\u00eb. Mami im e njeh pak maman\u00eb e tij sepse b\u00ebn pazar n\u00eb supermarketin e tyre. Un\u00eb kam 4 vjet q\u00eb jam lidhur me M-n\u00eb. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb djal\u00eb i dashur dhe un\u00eb e ndjej q\u00eb kam b\u00ebr\u00eb zgjedhjen e duhur. Para pak koh\u00ebsh, vendos\u00ebm ta zyrtarizojm\u00eb lidhjen ton\u00eb dhe un\u00eb shkova t\u2019u tregoja prind\u00ebrve. Mendova se ishte m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u2019i thosha mamit n\u00eb fillim dhe pastaj t\u2019i takoja me M-n\u00eb, por asgj\u00eb nuk shkoi si\u00e7 e kisha menduar. Kur i tregova q\u00eb isha lidhur me M-n\u00eb dhe kishim vendosur t\u00eb fejoheshim, mami nisi t\u00eb interesohej se nga e kisha njohur dhe se \u00e7far\u00eb familjeje ishin. I thash\u00eb se e njihte edhe ajo familjen e M-s\u00eb sepse shpesh b\u00ebnte pazarin te supermarketi i tyre. E kisha par\u00eb mamin q\u00eb sillej p\u00ebrzem\u00ebrsisht me t\u00eb \u00ebm\u00ebn e M-s\u00eb, por kur i thash\u00eb k\u00ebto fjal\u00eb, ajo u prish n\u00eb fytyr\u00eb. M\u00eb b\u00ebri edhe pyetje t\u00eb tjera dhe pastaj m\u00eb tha se nuk duhej as t\u00eb m\u00eb shkonte nd\u00ebrmend ta lidhja jet\u00ebn me at\u00eb familje, sepse sipas mamit tim, ishin familje pa nivel. I thash\u00eb se M-ja \u00ebsht\u00eb i shkolluar dhe se ka aktivitetin e tij privat, nd\u00ebrsa familja e tij nuk duhej t\u00eb paragjykohej sepse kishte pasur nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, por ajo nuk l\u00ebvizte nga e vetja.
\n– Do b\u00ebhesh pishman gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn! Nuk je e zonja t\u00eb gjesh nj\u00eb nga qyteti, por shkon e ngat\u00ebrrohesh me fshatar\u00eb? – m\u00eb tha.
\nU preva. I thash\u00eb se un\u00eb e kisha ndar\u00eb mendjen sido q\u00eb ta priste ajo k\u00ebt\u00eb lajm, por n\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje, biseda mori p\u00ebrmasa t\u00eb tjera. Ia tregova edhe babit dhe t\u00eb dy nis\u00ebn t\u00eb m\u00eb flisnin ashp\u00ebr. M\u00eb thoshin se duhej t\u00eb kisha m\u00eb shum\u00eb k\u00ebrkesa nga vetja dhe se nuk duhet t\u00eb nxitohesha. Ata e gjykonin M-n\u00eb pa e njohur fare. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb djal\u00eb me shum\u00eb nivel e i pjekur dhe k\u00ebt\u00eb e them me bindje. Ndoshta familja nuk e ka nivelin e familjes sime, por nuk i faj\u00ebsoj p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb. Nuk m\u00eb duket penges\u00eb q\u00eb un\u00eb dhe ai t\u00eb lidhim jet\u00ebn me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, M-ja priste q\u00eb t\u00eb takohej me prind\u00ebrit e mi. Nuk dija \u00e7far\u00eb t\u2019i thosha sepse e dija q\u00eb do t\u00eb ofendohej, si cilido, po t\u00eb merrte vesh se \u00e7far\u00eb kishin th\u00ebn\u00eb prind\u00ebrit e mi. At\u00eb dit\u00eb i thash\u00eb se prind\u00ebrit e mi nuk e kishin pritur mir\u00eb lajmin dhe se do t\u00eb sqaroheshim dit\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, prind\u00ebrit m\u00eb shtynin q\u00eb t\u00eb ndahesha prej tij, madje ngulnin k\u00ebmb\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos e zgjasja m\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gabim. U p\u00ebrpoqa t\u2019ua mbushja mendjen me argumente, por ata nuk pranonin t\u00eb d\u00ebgjonin. E kishin iden\u00eb fikse se ajo familje nuk kishte nivelin e duhur dhe se ai djal\u00eb, nuk ishte i duhuri p\u00ebr mua. N\u00eb sht\u00ebpi u krijua nj\u00eb situat\u00eb shum\u00eb e tensionuar, derisa prind\u00ebrit e mi m\u00eb than\u00eb, ose t\u00eb hiqja dor\u00eb prej tij, ose t\u00eb largohesha nga sht\u00ebpia. Kur arriti puna deri k\u00ebtu, i tregova M-s\u00eb pak a shum\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, duke u p\u00ebrpjekur t\u00eb minimizoja ato q\u00eb kishin th\u00ebn\u00eb prind\u00ebrit e mi. Ai vendosi ta takonte vet\u00eb babain tim, edhe pse sedra i thonte t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt\u00ebn. Kur shkoi ta takonte, im at\u00eb e kishte trajtuar si mos m\u00eb keq dhe nuk kishte pranuar as ta d\u00ebgjonte. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb moment, k\u00ebta prind\u00ebrit e mi me nivel, m\u2019u duk\u00ebn aq t\u00eb prapambetur sa nuk e keni iden\u00eb. Flasin p\u00ebr nivel dhe nuk pranojn\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb as argumente. M-ja m\u00eb k\u00ebrkoi t\u00eb merrja nj\u00eb vendim. Ishte i nxehur dhe e reflektonte gjat\u00eb komunikimit me mua. M\u00eb tha se duhet t\u00eb vendosja, ose t\u00eb shkoja me t\u00eb, ose t\u2019i jepnim fund lidhjes son\u00eb, sepse me prind\u00ebrit e mi nuk mund t\u00eb merrej. Nuk kishte faj sepse ata e kishin fyer n\u00eb \u00e7do m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb mundshme. Ime m\u00eb nuk shkonte m\u00eb n\u00eb supermarketin e prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb M-s\u00eb. Nj\u00eb m\u00ebngjes, teksa n\u00ebna e tij e kishte p\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetur, ajo kishte kthyer kok\u00ebn n\u00eb an\u00ebn tjeter dhe nuk i kishte folur, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb u detyrova t\u00eb largohesha nga sht\u00ebpia dhe them se kam b\u00ebr\u00eb gj\u00ebn\u00eb e duhur. Kam nj\u00eb jav\u00eb q\u00eb kam filluar t\u00eb jetoj me M-n\u00eb dhe me familjen time nuk kam asnj\u00eb komunikim. Kur ika, u b\u00eb nj\u00eb sherr i madh. Ata u betuan se nuk do t\u00eb m\u00eb flisnin m\u00eb dhe, deri tani, nuk jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb gjall\u00eb. Shpresoj q\u00eb do t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb shpejt q\u00ebndrim. Nuk mund t\u00eb konsiderohen me nivel prind\u00ebrit q\u00eb jan\u00eb gati t\u00eb ndahen p\u00ebr s\u00eb gjalli me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e tyre, prandaj duke qen\u00eb se ata e mbajn\u00eb veten se jan\u00eb njer\u00ebz t\u00eb ngritur, besoj se do t\u00eb reflektojn\u00eb dhe do t\u00eb pendohen p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb b\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb kaloj. Kjo ishte historia ime, t\u00eb dashur lexues t\u00eb gazet\u00ebs. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb situata e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ndodhem dhe gjej ngush\u00ebllim vet\u00ebm te k\u00ebshillat e arta t\u00eb gjyshes sime. Sa do t\u00eb doja ta kisha pran\u00eb k\u00ebto dit\u00eb! T\u00eb pakt\u00ebn, ajo do t\u00eb m\u00eb kuptonte dhe do t\u00eb m\u00eb mb\u00ebshteste, por, shpresoj se do t\u00eb jet\u00eb duke m\u00eb par\u00eb nga lart e duke m\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb bekimin e saj!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u201cKur dashuria t\u00eb trokas\u00eb, hapi der\u00ebn\u201d m\u00eb thoshte gjithmon\u00eb gjyshja n\u00eb ato fillimet e adoleshenc\u00ebs sime. Eh, gjyshja ime e shtrenjt\u00eb! Gjithmon\u00eb m\u00eb fliste dhe m\u00eb k\u00ebshillonte drejt. Mund t\u00eb duket e habitshme, por ajo p\u00ebr mua ishte shoqja m\u00eb e mir\u00eb. As me n\u00ebn\u00ebn dhe me motr\u00ebn nuk isha aq e lidhur sa me […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[94],"tags":[254],"class_list":["post-7350","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-histori-nga-jeta","tag-histori-personale"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7350","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7350"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7350\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7350"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7350"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7350"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}