– I nderuar psikolog, nga humbja e motr\u00ebs para dy viteve kalova n\u00eb depresion. Jam munduar ta kaloj dhe n\u00eb dukje, t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt ashtu mendojn\u00eb, por jo. Doktori m\u00eb ka rekomanduar ila\u00e7e kund\u00ebr depresionit dhe stresit, t\u00eb cilat ka muaj q\u00eb i pi dhe nuk m\u00eb kan\u00eb ndihmuar aspak, p\u00ebrkundrazi, e ndjej q\u00eb jam m\u00eb keq. Ia kam shpjeguar k\u00ebt\u00eb doktorit dhe e kam pyetur si t\u00eb veproj, por m\u00eb ka th\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb vazhdoj k\u00ebta qet\u00ebsues q\u00eb m\u00eb ka dh\u00ebn\u00eb. Ju, \u00e7\u2019m\u00eb k\u00ebshilloni, si t\u00eb veproj?
\nBorana Marku, psikologe: – E kuptoj shum\u00eb mir\u00eb shqet\u00ebsimin dhe gjendjen tuaj, sepse nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb kalosh dhimbje t\u00eb tilla. N\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb, m\u00eb duhet t\u2019ju sqaroj di\u00e7ka: Sado q\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb ndihm\u00ebn e mjek\u00ebve, psikolog\u00ebve apo t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, veten ton\u00eb mund ta sh\u00ebrojm\u00eb vet\u00ebm ne! Mendoj se ju duhet t\u00eb ndryshoni t\u00ebr\u00ebsisht m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn q\u00eb po ndiqni p\u00ebr t\u2019u sh\u00ebruar nga depresioni, aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr q\u00eb gjer tani nuk keni patur asnj\u00eb rezultat t\u00eb mir\u00eb. E di q\u00eb do t\u00eb thoni se \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, por duhet t\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsoheni dhe ta pranoni tashm\u00eb dhimbjen e humbjen e motr\u00ebs. Ju e keni veten tuaj n\u00eb dor\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb dilni nga kjo gjendje. T\u00eb jeni i sigurt\u00eb q\u00eb as motr\u00ebs suaj nuk i p\u00eblqen t\u2019ju shikoj\u00eb k\u00ebshtu. T\u00eb ishte p\u00ebr mua, do t\u2019ju thoja t\u00eb hiqni dor\u00eb totalisht nga ila\u00e7et, por me \u00e7far\u00eb shoh dhe kuptoj, ju keni krijuar nj\u00eb lloj var\u00ebsie ndaj tyre, edhe pse nuk ju kan\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb efekt. At\u00ebhere, merrni vet\u00ebm ndonj\u00eb qet\u00ebsues n\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje p\u00ebr gjum\u00eb, qet\u00ebsues t\u00eb leht\u00eb bimor\u00eb, mund\u00ebsisht. Ne do t\u2019ju sugjeronim t\u00eb kontaktoni nj\u00eb mjek tjet\u00ebr, psikiat\u00ebr ose psikolog dhe t\u00eb merrni nj\u00eb kur\u00eb t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb bimore me ndonj\u00eb qet\u00ebsues t\u00eb leht\u00eb, p\u00ebrkoh\u00ebsisht, sa p\u00ebr ta kaluar k\u00ebt\u00eb var\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ju fola… M\u00eb pas, bazohuni n\u00eb forc\u00ebn e shpirtit tuaj.
\nS\u00eb dyti, ndryshoni stil t\u00eb jetuari. E di q\u00eb nuk keni as d\u00ebshir\u00eb, as forc\u00eb, apo guxim t\u00eb arg\u00ebtoheni apo t\u00eb zini shoq\u00ebri t\u00eb re, ama kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme dhe madje, urgjente. Regjistrohuni n\u00eb nj\u00eb palest\u00ebr, ose merruni me ndonj\u00eb aktivitet sportiv q\u00eb ju p\u00eblqen. Aktiviteti fizik do t\u2019ju ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb shkarkoni stresin dhe dal\u00ebngadal\u00eb, edhe depresioni do t\u00eb largohet. N\u00ebse nuk ju p\u00eblqen palestra, at\u00ebhere regjistrohuni n\u00eb nj\u00eb kurs me zumba ose k\u00ebrcime latine. Mund t\u00eb habiteni me k\u00ebshillat e mia e t\u00eb mendoni: \u201cT\u00eb arg\u00ebtohem, kur motra ime nuk jeton m\u00eb!?\u201d. Mos e gjykoni apo ta trajtoni kaq ashp\u00ebr veten tuaj, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb faji juaj q\u00eb motra nuk jeton. Kaq ishte shkruar t\u00eb jetonte ajo dhe jeta e saj nuk ishte n\u00eb dor\u00ebn tuaj. N\u00ebse motra juaj do t\u2019ju fliste tani, ajo do t\u2019ju k\u00ebrkonte me zem\u00ebr t\u00eb mos vajtoni m\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb. T\u00eb jeni i sigurt\u00eb se ajo ju shikon nga lart dhe nuk i p\u00eblqen fakti q\u00eb ju e keni l\u00ebshuar veten kaq r\u00ebnd\u00eb. Jeta duhet t\u00eb vazhdoj\u00eb, kjo nuk ka asnj\u00eb diskutim.
\nKeni p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ushtruarit n\u00eb palest\u00ebr, regjistrimi n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb kurs q\u00eb juve ju p\u00eblqen, qoft\u00eb k\u00ebrcim, muzik\u00eb, apo loj\u00ebra sportive, \u00e7far\u00ebdo t\u00eb jet\u00eb, do t\u2019ju gjall\u00ebroj\u00eb, do t\u00eb \u00e7liroheni nga stresi q\u00eb ju ka pushtuar dhe nuk do t\u00eb keni m\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ila\u00e7e antidepresive. Zini shoq\u00ebri t\u00eb re, dilni p\u00ebr kafe, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb pije me shoq\u00ebri, shok, piknik, ndonj\u00eb udh\u00ebtim etj. dhe do t\u00eb shikoni q\u00eb jeta juaj do t\u00eb marr\u00eb tjet\u00ebr rrjedh\u00eb; dhimbja juaj do t\u00eb transformohet dhe do t\u00eb zbutet me kalimin e koh\u00ebs. Ju nuk do ta harroni kurr\u00eb motr\u00ebn tuaj, ama me sjelljen tuaj, duke u b\u00ebr\u00eb i fort\u00eb, do t\u2019u tregoni akoma m\u00eb shum\u00eb dashuri asaj, familjar\u00ebve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb dhe atyre q\u00eb ju rrethojn\u00eb. Si\u00e7 ju thash\u00eb m\u00eb sip\u00ebr, \u00e7do njeri e ka veten e tij n\u00eb dor\u00eb, nuk jan\u00eb ila\u00e7et ato q\u00eb do t\u2019ju nxjerrin nga kjo gjendje, por jeni ju. K\u00ebrkoni ndihm\u00ebn e familjes, miqve, njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb ju rrethojn\u00eb, flisni me ta shpesh p\u00ebr motr\u00ebn tuaj, qani, edhe ul\u00ebrini n\u00ebse ju vjen p\u00ebr t\u00eb ul\u00ebritur, vet\u00ebm nxirreni dhimbjen nga vetja dhe ndajeni me njer\u00ebzit tuaj t\u00eb af\u00ebrt. Duke folur shpesh rreth saj, duke kujtuar gj\u00ebrat e bukura me t\u00eb dhe duke ndjekur aktivitetet q\u00eb ju thash\u00eb m\u00eb sip\u00ebr, do t\u00eb ndiheni ndryshe. Mos e l\u00ebshoni veten, b\u00ebjeni p\u00ebr motr\u00ebn tuaj dhe familjen. K\u00ebt\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje po jua jep dikush q\u00eb ka kaluar t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn dhimbje me ju. Edhe mua, si juve, m\u2019u duk sikur gjitha bota ime u p\u00ebrmbys kur humba prind\u00ebrit, por me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, me ndihm\u00ebn e miqve dhe duke ndjekur pasionet e mia, jam akoma n\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00eb dhe jo n\u00eb depresion. Kam shum\u00eb mall, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb edhe qaj nga mungesa e prind\u00ebrve, por p\u00ebrs\u00ebri jam shum\u00eb mir\u00eb. I dhash\u00eb forc\u00eb vetes sime sepse e di q\u00eb prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb mi nuk do t\u2019u p\u00eblqente kurrsesi t\u00eb m\u00eb shihnin n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb mjeruar dhe n\u00eb depresion. Ju uroj ta kaloni sa m\u00eb shpejt k\u00ebt\u00eb gjendje dhe ta merrni situat\u00ebn n\u00eb dor\u00eb. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– I nderuar psikolog, nga humbja e motr\u00ebs para dy viteve kalova n\u00eb depresion. Jam munduar ta kaloj dhe n\u00eb dukje, t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt ashtu mendojn\u00eb, por jo. Doktori m\u00eb ka rekomanduar ila\u00e7e kund\u00ebr depresionit dhe stresit, t\u00eb cilat ka muaj q\u00eb i pi dhe nuk m\u00eb kan\u00eb ndihmuar aspak, p\u00ebrkundrazi, e ndjej q\u00eb jam m\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7334","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7334","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7334"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7334\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7334"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7334"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7334"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}