– P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje doktor Jashari. E di q\u00eb pyetja ime i p\u00ebrshtatet m\u00eb shum\u00eb nj\u00eb mjeku seksolog, por un\u00eb po ju drejtohem juave, me shpres\u00ebn se do t\u00eb ma shpjegoni k\u00ebt\u00eb fenomin edhe nga ana psikologjike. Kam d\u00ebgjuar se seksi i m\u00ebngjesit \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i mir\u00eb se ai n\u00eb \u00e7do or\u00eb tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb dit\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb nat\u00ebs, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb un\u00eb deri m\u00eb sot, kam menduar t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt\u00ebn. N\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, pse qenka m\u00eb i mir\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes? Faleminderit. Vali.
\nDr. Jashar Demiri, psikolog klinicist: – Po, \u00ebsht\u00eb v\u00ebrtetuar shkenc\u00ebrisht se seksi i m\u00ebngjesit \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i dobish\u00ebm sesa ai i dark\u00ebs. Sh\u00ebndeti seksual \u00ebsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebr\u00ebse e sh\u00ebndetit n\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00ebsi, ndaj edhe studiohet nga terapist\u00ebt. Tingulli i alarmit n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes, me siguri, \u00ebsht\u00eb tingulli m\u00eb i pap\u00eblqyer, por n\u00ebse e p\u00ebrjetoni si ftes\u00eb p\u00ebr seks m\u00ebngjesi, do t\u00eb ishte nj\u00eb tingull me dobi. N\u00eb m\u00ebngjes, organizmi \u00ebsht\u00eb i \u00e7lodhur dhe truri ende i pazgjuar mir\u00eb, nuk p\u00ebrjeton mendime negative katastrofizuese si gjat\u00eb dit\u00ebs apo n\u00eb dark\u00eb. Edhe pse mungesa e koh\u00ebs mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb problem n\u00eb rutin\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb m\u00ebngjesit, disa minuta q\u00eb do t\u2019i rezervoni p\u00ebr seks n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes, mund t\u2019ju rinojn\u00eb, t\u2019ju p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsojn\u00eb sh\u00ebndetin dhe gjendjen shpirt\u00ebrore. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb seks i k\u00ebndsh\u00ebm dhe si n\u00eb rolin e fizkultur\u00ebs s\u00eb m\u00ebngjesit. Dihet se m\u00eb shum\u00eb se 58 % e \u00e7ifteve t\u00eb dashuruara, merren me loj\u00ebrat apo aktivitetet seksuale rreth or\u00ebs 11 t\u00eb mbr\u00ebmjes dhe nga ora nj\u00eb e m\u00ebngjesit, por se ata q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb dashuri n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes, kan\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrfitim, shkruan \u201cMedical Daily\u201d. Sipas t\u00eb dh\u00ebnave t\u00eb Institutit Kinsey, \u00e7iftet 18-29 vje\u00e7, b\u00ebjn\u00eb seks mesatarisht 112 her\u00eb n\u00eb vit, ata 30-39 vje\u00e7, 86 her\u00eb, derisa n\u00eb vitet pas t\u00eb dyzetave, numri reduktohet n\u00eb 69 her\u00eb gjat\u00eb vitit. Dhe, mbi 79% e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve seksuale b\u00ebhen n\u00eb koh\u00ebn e paragjumit, pasi mendohet se nj\u00eb seks i \u201cr\u00ebnd\u00eb\u201d sjell nj\u00eb gjum\u00eb t\u00eb leht\u00eb e t\u00eb qet\u00eb. Mir\u00ebpo, studimet e fundit flasin ndryshe… Pavar\u00ebsisht a ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb seksi i nat\u00ebs von\u00eb me shprehi, instikt apo komoditet, seksi n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes \u00ebsht\u00eb zgjidhje shum\u00eb m\u00eb e mir\u00eb se n\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje, pohon seksologu afrikano-jugor, Glen Rouan. \u201cSeksi i m\u00ebngjesit inicion intimitetin dhe af\u00ebrsin\u00eb emocionale n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb dit\u00ebs dhe at\u00ebhere ka m\u00eb pak pengesa\u201d, thot\u00eb Dr. Fran Uollfish. \u00cbsht\u00eb fjala p\u00ebr pengesat psikologjike, ku m\u00eb kryesori jan\u00eb ankthi apo stresi n\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje, si vazhdim\u00ebsi e dit\u00ebs. Por, cilat jan\u00eb konkretisht disa nga dobit\u00eb e seksit t\u00eb m\u00ebngjesit?!
\n1. Seksi i m\u00ebngjesit p\u00ebmir\u00ebson cil\u00ebsin\u00eb e sperm\u00ebs, por edhe rrit pjellorin\u00eb te femrat. K\u00ebt\u00eb e ka treguar hulumtimi i klinik\u00ebs p\u00ebr fertilizim artificial n\u00eb Sindej t\u00eb Australis\u00eb. Sipas saj, me ejakulim t\u00eb rregullt n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes, cil\u00ebsia e sperm\u00ebs p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohet me 12 p\u00ebr qind, \u00e7ka rrit shanset p\u00ebr nj\u00eb fekondim t\u00eb suksessh\u00ebm. Edhe k\u00ebtu, pranohet se trupi punon m\u00eb bukur dhe pa u \u201ckursyer\u201d kur nuk sforcohet nga truri, pra, nga mendimet, ankthi, depresioni.
\n2. Pastron l\u00ebkur\u00ebn dhe forcon eshtrat. Orgazma gjat\u00eb seksit t\u00eb m\u00ebngjesit nxit \u00e7lirimin e disa kimikateve q\u00eb rrisin nivelin e estrogjenit n\u00eb trup. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, vjen edhe p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimi i qarkullimit dhe reduktimi i nivelit t\u00eb testosteronit, \u00e7ka reflektohet n\u00eb gjendjen e l\u00ebkur\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb flok\u00ebve. K\u00ebshtu, seksi i m\u00ebngjesit me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb u jep shk\u00eblqim t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb njer\u00ebzve. K\u00ebt\u00eb e kan\u00eb v\u00ebrtetuar me studimet e tyre edhe shkenc\u00ebtar\u00ebt nga Universiteti n\u00eb Uiskonsin.
\n3. Redukton rrezikun nga s\u00ebmundjet e zemr\u00ebs. Seksi n\u00eb or\u00ebt e m\u00ebngjesit disa her\u00eb n\u00eb jav\u00eb mbron sh\u00ebndetin e zemr\u00ebs, n\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb te meshkujt. K\u00ebt\u00eb fakt e ka treguar studimi 10 vje\u00e7ar i Universitetit n\u00eb Belfast te m\u00eb shum\u00eb se 1000 njer\u00ebz. P\u00ebrve\u00e7se sh\u00ebrben si ushtrim i mir\u00eb, seksi i m\u00ebngjesit redukton nivelin e hormonit t\u00eb stresit, kortizolit, i cili rrit rrezikun nga infarkti dhe nga ngushtimi i en\u00ebve t\u00eb gjakut.
\n4. Forcon imunitetin. Prodhimi i imunoglobin\u00ebs A \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i madh gjat\u00eb seksit t\u00eb m\u00ebngjesit sesa seksi n\u00eb cil\u00ebndo pjes\u00eb tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb dit\u00ebs. I dhe A (IgA) jan\u00eb antitrupa q\u00eb sh\u00ebrbejn\u00eb p\u00ebr mbrojtjen e organizmit nga infeksionet, nd\u00ebrsa njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb seks rregullisht n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes kan\u00eb edhe deri n\u00eb 30 p\u00ebr qind nivel m\u00eb t\u00eb madh t\u00eb IgA n\u00eb gjak.
\n5. Heq frik\u00ebrat p\u00ebr \u201cimpotenc\u00eb hipokondriake\u201d. K\u00ebtu kemi parasysh t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ata meshkuj q\u00eb vuajn\u00eb nga frika e t\u00eb qenit impotent dhe femrave q\u00eb kan\u00eb frik\u00eb se mos jan\u00eb inorgazmike. E th\u00ebn\u00eb ndryshe, ndikon pozitivisht tek ata q\u00eb e kan\u00eb si t\u00eb \u201cshtypur\u201d e nuk e stakojn\u00eb dot nj\u00eb si \u201cbuton alarmi\u201d i cili me kalimin e koh\u00ebs mund t\u2019u kthehet n\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim kronik. T\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto \u00e7ifte, ne psikolog\u00ebt, i k\u00ebshillojm\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb flen\u00eb gjum\u00eb pa e \u201cvrar\u00eb\u201d mendjen se si do t\u2019ia b\u00ebjn\u00eb dhe t\u2019i l\u00ebn\u00eb organet q\u00eb t\u00eb veprojn\u00eb paksa si \u201chajdut\u00e7e\u201d, kur truri ende nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb zgjuar plot\u00ebsisht. N\u00eb kushte t\u00eb k\u00ebtilla, si gjys\u00ebm p\u00ebrgjum\u00ebsh pas nj\u00eb gjumi t\u00eb qet\u00eb, edhe trupi b\u00ebhet m\u00eb i \u00e7tendosur, m\u00eb i but\u00eb e m\u00eb \u201ci pranuar\u201d, prandaj ereksioni \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i fort\u00eb, pasi penisi i cili e ka pak qejf q\u00eb t\u00eb veproj\u00eb \u201csi me kok\u00eb t\u00eb vet\u201d, e merr veten, erektohet dhe nuk \u201cdor\u00ebzohet\u201d aq leht\u00eb. Edhe vagina hapet m\u00eb leht\u00eb si p\u00ebrgjum\u00ebsh, pasi femrat shum\u00eb vigjilente, mund t\u00eb vuajn\u00eb sadopak nga nj\u00ebfar\u00eb \u201cvaginizmi\u201d q\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb, pamund\u00ebsi dep\u00ebrtimi p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb kontraktimit t\u00eb muskujve t\u00eb vagin\u00ebs. Madje kur te ndonj\u00eb fem\u00ebr vaginizmi \u00ebsht\u00eb i fort\u00eb, penetrimi nuk mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet ve\u00e7se n\u00eb gjum\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb, si n\u00ebn \u201cnarkoz\u00eb\u201d, pasi vagina e saj mund t\u00eb mblidhet si nj\u00eb \u201cnyje\u201d e fort\u00eb q\u00eb nuk hapet. N\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, sidomos p\u00ebr her\u00ebt e para, ne e k\u00ebshillojm\u00eb mashkullin q\u00eb t\u00eb ndjek\u00eb shembullin e dhelpr\u00ebs e cila p\u00ebr ta \u201cpushtuar\u201d pren\u00eb, iriqin t\u00ebr\u00eb gjemba, i cili mblidhet kruspull, e rrokullis at\u00eb n\u00eb uj\u00eb dhe pret sa ai t\u00eb nxjerr\u00eb kok\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb aj\u00ebr q\u00eb ta kap\u00eb. Me kaq, besoj se mjafton. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje doktor Jashari. E di q\u00eb pyetja ime i p\u00ebrshtatet m\u00eb shum\u00eb nj\u00eb mjeku seksolog, por un\u00eb po ju drejtohem juave, me shpres\u00ebn se do t\u00eb ma shpjegoni k\u00ebt\u00eb fenomin edhe nga ana psikologjike. Kam d\u00ebgjuar se seksi i m\u00ebngjesit \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i mir\u00eb se ai n\u00eb \u00e7do or\u00eb tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb dit\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7333","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7333","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7333"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7333\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7333"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7333"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7333"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}