– Ju p\u00ebrsh\u00ebndes! Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr doktor Jashar Demirin. I nderuar doktor, n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb, respektin maksimal p\u00ebr ju. Pyetja ime \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo: Me hipnoz\u00ebn tuaj, a mund t\u00eb sh\u00ebrohet autizmi? Kam djalin 6 vje\u00e7 me autiz\u00ebm, ndaj jam e shqet\u00ebsuar dhe po pres nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje nga ana juaj. Faleminderit.
\nDr. Jashar Demiri, psikolog klinicist: – Ne psikolog\u00ebt themi: Mos e jep p\u00ebrnj\u00ebher\u00eb lajmin e keq. E kam mbajtur disa jav\u00eb n\u00eb sirtar k\u00ebt\u00eb letr\u00ebn tuaj jo se kam harruar t\u2019i p\u00ebrgjigjem, por m\u00eb \u201cdhemb\u201d jo pak kjo p\u00ebrgjigje, pasi nuk mund t\u00eb sh\u00ebrohet autizmi me hipnoz\u00eb. Kam qen\u00eb edhe un\u00eb p\u00ebr pelegrinazh n\u00eb vendet e shenjta dhe kam par\u00eb se si atje i sjellin f\u00ebmij\u00ebt autik\u00eb, n\u00eb mjaft raste, me shum\u00eb shpenzime e mundime. E kam patur t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u2019jua thoja tro\u00e7: Mos u lodhni kot n\u00ebp\u00ebr male e vende t\u00eb larg\u00ebta e aq m\u00eb keq n\u00ebp\u00ebr yshtar\u00eb, sepse p\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq, autiku sot p\u00ebr sot, \u00ebsht\u00eb pak i sh\u00ebruesh\u00ebm, pasi si t\u00eb thuash, ai i till\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201cgatuar\u201d dhe dikujt ai do t\u2019i binte p\u00ebr pjes\u00eb. N\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, duhet pranuar ajo q\u00eb shpesh besimtar\u00ebt e quajn\u00eb \u201cpranimi i caktimit t\u00eb Zotit\u201d. Po t\u00eb ishte se autiku sh\u00ebrohej me hipnoz\u00eb, un\u00eb do t\u00eb punoja dit\u00ebn e nat\u00ebn pa u ndalur p\u00ebr t\u00eb sh\u00ebruar djalin autik t\u00eb profesor Edmond Tupes, t\u00eb cilin e kam mik t\u00eb vjet\u00ebr dhe e \u00e7moj shum\u00eb si profesor e si njeri. E dua jo vet\u00ebm si ish-profesori im, por ca m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr kurajon e dinjitetin q\u00eb ka, p\u00ebr men\u00e7urin\u00eb e burr\u00ebrin\u00eb do t\u2019i quaja, p\u00ebr trim\u00ebrin\u00eb e treguar n\u00eb p\u00ebrballjen me autizmin e t\u00eb birit. Ai ka shkruar edhe nj\u00eb lib\u00ebr mjaft interesant p\u00ebr autizmin, pasi tani ai \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb doktor ca m\u00eb i mir\u00eb sesa ne doktor\u00ebt p\u00ebr autizmin. Mbaj mend se kur ai mori lajmin e hidhur se djalin e kishte autik, u traumatizua shum\u00eb, mir\u00ebpo shpejt e mblodhi veten e m\u00eb pas e kam ndjekur dhe m\u00eb ka befasuar me dijenit\u00eb q\u00eb ka marr\u00eb p\u00ebr autizmin, si dhe p\u00ebr kurajon ndaj \u201cfatkeq\u00ebsis\u00eb\u201d s\u00eb djalit t\u00eb tij, Gesit. Vlen p\u00ebr t\u2019u lavd\u00ebruar fakti se, krahas p\u00ebrkushtimit e sh\u00ebrbimit shum\u00eb dinjitoz ndaj t\u00eb birit, ai, bashk\u00eb me t\u00eb shoqen, nuk e \u201chumb\u00ebn\u201d jet\u00ebn e vet duke u \u00e7orientuar sikur t\u2019u kishte r\u00ebn\u00eb ndonj\u00eb bomb\u00eb, por e jetojn\u00eb at\u00eb denj\u00ebsisht me pun\u00eb, me shijen e \u00ebmb\u00ebl t\u00eb djers\u00ebs, me k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsit\u00eb e t\u00eb gjitha \u00e7far\u00eb ka krijuar Zoti p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebn e njeriut. Profesor Edmond Tupen e sheh kudo n\u00ebp\u00ebr leksione, veprimtari, emisione etj., ka shkruar shum\u00eb libra dhe ka p\u00ebrkthyer jo pak t\u00eb till\u00eb, ka thyer disa tabu e nd\u00ebr t\u00eb tjera, edhe tabun\u00eb p\u00ebr autizmin. Nuk thon\u00eb kot: \u201cMos pyet p\u00ebr nj\u00eb njeri se sa jetoi e se \u00e7\u2018pasuri kishte, por se si jetoi\u201d. N\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto q\u00eb b\u00ebn ky profesor, t\u00eb cilin e sheh kudo me bi\u00e7iklet\u00eb, bie n\u00eb sy jo vet\u00ebm energjia e durimi i tij, por edhe t\u00eb jetuarit e jet\u00ebs me mend e pa at\u00eb breng\u00ebn e pashmangshme, sepse dihet q\u00eb jeta duhet nd\u00ebrtuar, porse n\u00eb ca gj\u00ebra, ajo duhet jetuar ashtu si t\u2019i vij\u00eb e kjo dihet. Shumica e harrojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ne psikolog\u00ebt e quajm\u00eb sfidim.
\n– Vajza ime psikologe, kur e ka njohur \u201cxhaxhi Mondi Tupen\u201d dhe kur ia ka lexuar librat, m\u00eb ka th\u00ebn\u00eb: \u201cBabi, ky nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb njeri, ky \u00ebsht\u00eb Mbinjeri, nj\u00eb monument i gjall\u00eb, nj\u00eb shembull unik!\u201d. M\u00eb kujtohet shpesh kjo th\u00ebnie e vajz\u00ebs dhe shpesh e kujtoj edhe lutjen e nj\u00eb besimtari i cili i lutej Zotit vet\u00ebm me k\u00ebt\u00eb fjal\u00eb: \u201cZot, m\u00eb jep fuqin\u00eb e durimit q\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshoj gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb, t\u00eb duroj gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb nuk ndryshojn\u00eb dhe t\u2019i dalloj gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb nga gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb nuk ndryshojn\u00eb\u201d. K\u00ebshtu, pra. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, shkenc\u00ebtar\u00ebt po vijojn\u00eb k\u00ebrkimet edhe p\u00ebr autizmin pasi normalisht s\u00ebmundje t\u00eb pash\u00ebrueshme nuk duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb, se edhe n\u00eb librat e shenjt\u00eb thuhet se nuk ka s\u00ebmundje p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilat Krijuesi nuk b\u00ebri edhe ila\u00e7in, por, se kur do vij\u00eb dita q\u00eb t\u00eb shpiken apo gjenden ila\u00e7et p\u00ebr disa s\u00ebmundje sot p\u00ebr sot t\u00eb pash\u00ebrueshme, k\u00ebt\u00eb nuk mund ta themi. Edhe materialet me t\u00eb cilat nd\u00ebrtohet sot avioni, k\u00ebtu n\u00eb tok\u00eb kan\u00eb qen\u00eb e n\u00eb tok\u00eb jan\u00eb gjetur, porse kjo gj\u00eb nuk u arrit nd\u00ebr shekuj, por vet\u00ebm gjat\u00eb shekullit XIX. Shembullin e gjall\u00eb me profesor Tupen nuk e solla p\u00ebr t\u2019ju ngush\u00eblluar juve e as p\u00ebr t\u00eb nderuar profesorin, se ai nderon veten, por p\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar se m\u00eb e keqja e k\u00ebtyre s\u00ebmundjeve \u00ebsht\u00eb se kur ato na behin n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, \u201cs\u00ebmuret\u201d keq e gjith\u00eb familja. Madje, ai q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb autik (apo skizofren, nuk e di k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb) e nuk e vuan k\u00ebt\u00eb fakt. Fatkeq\u00ebsisht, m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa ai, s\u00ebmundjen e t\u00eb s\u00ebmurit e vuajn\u00eb t\u00eb men\u00e7urit p\u00ebrreth tij. As i vdekuri nuk e di se ka vdekur, por t\u00eb gjall\u00ebt e vuajn\u00eb humbjen e tij. Ndaj edhe populli thot\u00eb se \u201cvuajtja p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjall\u00ebt \u00ebsht\u00eb\u201d. Njeriu duhet t\u00eb veproj\u00eb ashtu si bleta, si milingona q\u00eb nuk pushon s\u00eb punuari e s\u00eb k\u00ebrkuari. Lajmi i mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb se jan\u00eb krijuar mjaft fondacione e qendra ndihmuese p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt autik\u00eb, jo vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u2019ua zbutur atyre vuajtjet e dhimbjet, por edhe p\u00ebr t\u2019ua leht\u00ebsuar k\u00ebt\u00eb barr\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb familjareve. Madje, autik\u00ebt mund t\u00eb \u201cst\u00ebrviten\u201d p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb disa pun\u00eb t\u00eb dobishme t\u00eb cilat i b\u00ebjn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb mekanikisht, sesa me logjik\u00eb. Mundet, pra, q\u00eb edhe ata t\u00eb \u201cm\u00ebsohen\u201d ashtu si\u00e7 m\u00ebsojm\u00eb fjala vjen macen t\u00eb urinoj\u00eb n\u00eb banjo e plot gj\u00ebra t\u00eb tjera, p\u00ebr t\u2019u leht\u00ebsuar edhe familjar\u00ebt e p\u00ebr t\u2019i sh\u00ebrbyer sadopak vetes. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb ata prind\u00ebr q\u00eb m\u00eb kan\u00eb ardhur me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt autik\u00eb, kan\u00eb deklaruar me lot n\u00eb sy se \u201cm\u00eb shum\u00eb nevoj\u00eb paskemi patur ne p\u00ebr doktor sesa f\u00ebmija\u201d. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb arrihet pa psikolog ai q\u00eb quhet pranimi. Nuk e harroj nj\u00eb \u00e7ift t\u00eb ri dhe t\u00eb bukur nga Puka, me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb yll 5 vje\u00e7ar, i cili rezultoi t\u00eb ishte autik e \u00e7ifti burr\u00eb e grua u mpin\u00eb e nuk u b\u00ebnin m\u00eb gjymtyr\u00ebt q\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebviznin, aq sa i kam \u00e7uar n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi me makin\u00ebn time. K\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7ift e ndihmova duke e m\u00ebsuar se si t\u00eb menaxhonte k\u00ebt\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb pad\u00ebshiruar t\u00eb jet\u00ebs dhe u b\u00ebm\u00eb miq t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Jeta e tyre vazhdon, por edhe autiku rritet e jeton sipas m\u00ebnyr\u00ebs s\u00eb vet.
\nNdoshta u zgjata, por besoj se do t\u00eb merrni di\u00e7ka q\u00eb do t\u2019ju duhet edhe te kjo p\u00ebrgjigje, pasi nuk ka absolutisht di\u00e7ka krejt t\u00eb keqe e pa zgjidhje, qoft\u00eb edhe t\u00eb pjesshme, se n\u00eb \u00e7do ngjarje apo fatkeq\u00ebsi q\u00eb ndodh, pas t\u00eb keqes ne zbulojm\u00eb edhe shum\u00eb dhunti apo energji tonat. Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb njeriu…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– Ju p\u00ebrsh\u00ebndes! Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr doktor Jashar Demirin. I nderuar doktor, n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb, respektin maksimal p\u00ebr ju. Pyetja ime \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo: Me hipnoz\u00ebn tuaj, a mund t\u00eb sh\u00ebrohet autizmi? Kam djalin 6 vje\u00e7 me autiz\u00ebm, ndaj jam e shqet\u00ebsuar dhe po pres nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje nga ana juaj. Faleminderit. Dr. Jashar Demiri, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7276","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7276","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7276"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7276\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7276"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7276"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7276"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}