– Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr psikopediatrin tuaj. Djali i v\u00ebllait tim ka disa sjellje aq t\u00eb \u00e7uditshme, saq\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb them se mos \u00ebsht\u00eb i \u00e7mendur. Shpesh b\u00ebn veprime t\u00eb cilat nuk i kuptoj, mbyllet n\u00eb vetvete, acarohet me motr\u00ebn e vet, b\u00ebhet agresiv e pastaj sillet mir\u00eb. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb shpesh i dhunsh\u00ebm, ua kthen fjal\u00ebn prind\u00ebrve, sado q\u00eb i jap k\u00ebshilla. P\u00ebr momentin b\u00ebn sikur i pranon, por pastaj sillet si gjithmon\u00eb. Pra, ka nj\u00eb \u00e7rregullim t\u00eb karakterit. Nga se shkaktohen k\u00ebto sjellje karakteriale t\u00eb \u00e7uditshme? Theksoj se \u00ebsht\u00eb 12 vje\u00e7. Zonja nga Tirana.
\nSelami Deraj, psikopediat\u00ebr: – E nderuar zonj\u00eb, kemi folur edhe m\u00eb par\u00eb p\u00ebr sjellje t\u00eb tilla dhe k\u00ebt\u00eb her\u00eb do t\u2019ju flas p\u00ebr sindromat karakteriale, grup shenjash k\u00ebto te f\u00ebmij\u00ebt dhe adoleshent\u00ebt, nj\u00eb num\u00ebr shqet\u00ebsimesh q\u00eb lidhen me karakterin e individit t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb. N\u00eb k\u00ebto shqet\u00ebsime q\u00eb shfaq nipi juaj dhe shum\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb apo adoleshent\u00eb, luajn\u00eb rol disa infeksione gjat\u00eb barr\u00ebs s\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebs, helmimet dhe infeksione t\u00eb tjera q\u00eb helmojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn pas lindjes, infeksione t\u00eb cip\u00ebs s\u00eb trurit n\u00eb moshat f\u00ebmirore, traumat e ndryshme t\u00eb kok\u00ebs, si dhe s\u00ebmundja e tok\u00ebs. Gjithmon\u00eb ka disa faktor\u00eb q\u00eb quhen favorizues, q\u00eb t\u00eb ket\u00eb sindrom\u00eb karakteriale si p\u00ebr shembull: Disa an\u00eb negative n\u00eb familje, shthurje prind\u00ebrore, grindjet e keqtrajtimet midis vet\u00eb familjar\u00ebve, si dhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre. Disa prind\u00ebr i inkurajojn\u00eb vet\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb veprime t\u00eb ul\u00ebta, si vjedhje, pjes\u00ebmarrje n\u00eb grupe kriminel\u00ebsh e keqb\u00ebr\u00ebsish, d\u00ebfrim elektronik dhe sjellje morale t\u00eb k\u00ebqia. Vet\u00eb edukimi i keq, i gabuar, i shtremb\u00ebruar ose keqtrajtues i f\u00ebmij\u00ebs ose teprimet p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhel\u00ebse ndaj tyre, teprimet kapri\u00e7ioze, ushtrojn\u00eb ndikim negativ te f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. K\u00ebta f\u00ebmij\u00eb kan\u00eb dob\u00ebsi t\u00eb karakterit, \u00e7rregullime t\u00eb sjelljes s\u00eb tyre, edhe pse zgjuarsia (koefi\u00e7ienti intelektual) mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb mbi mesataren.
\n– Duke qen\u00eb karakterial\u00eb, k\u00ebta f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebmtuar q\u00eb kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb ndihmohen q\u00eb me shfaqjen e simptomave, duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb ndihm\u00eb para se t\u00eb b\u00ebhen problematik\u00eb. Jo rrall\u00eb, ata b\u00ebhen t\u00eb paduruesh\u00ebm, problematik\u00eb n\u00eb familje e n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet shoq\u00ebrore. Egocentrizmi i zmadhuar i k\u00ebtyre f\u00ebmij\u00ebve i pengon, i verbon t\u00eb sillen mir\u00eb dhe i shtyn ata n\u00eb konflikte t\u00eb vazhdueshme q\u00eb nuk pushojn\u00eb me familjen e kudo q\u00eb ndodhen e ballafaqohen. Reagimet ndaj ngacmuesve t\u00eb jasht\u00ebm nuk i p\u00ebrgjigjen normalitetit. Q\u00ebndrimi negativ formon element\u00eb themelor\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebtij disekulibri t\u00eb karakterit. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt ose adoleshent\u00ebt (k\u00ebta t\u00eb dyt\u00ebt, m\u00eb t\u00eb eg\u00ebr) me k\u00ebt\u00eb sindrom\u00eb, ofendohen leht\u00eb e nxehen kot, kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb t\u00eb sjelljes s\u00eb \u00e7organizuar ose agresive n\u00eb adoleshenc\u00eb. Vihen re k\u00ebto n\u00eb fjal\u00eb dhe veprime fizike. K\u00ebshillimet e p\u00ebrdorura nuk kan\u00eb efekt e po ashtu, as qortimet. Nj\u00eb ve\u00e7ori tjet\u00ebr e k\u00ebtyre f\u00ebmij\u00ebve ose m\u00eb t\u00eb rriturve (adoleshent\u00eb) \u00ebsht\u00eb mungesa e dhembshuris\u00eb, si dhe fakti q\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb mir\u00ebnjoh\u00ebs. Kan\u00eb munges\u00eb adaptimi, keqp\u00ebrshtatje dhe v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi disiplinimi, nuk njohin frik\u00ebn dhe kur rriten, nuk u binden ligjeve. Ata nuk i besojn\u00eb asnj\u00eb njeriu dhe nuk preken nga ngjarjet emocionuese, jan\u00eb kok\u00ebfort\u00eb, t\u00eb pasinqert\u00eb dhe, si\u00e7 thot\u00eb populli, b\u00ebjn\u00eb intriga n\u00ebn rrogoz. Ata nuk binden t\u00eb nd\u00ebrrojn\u00eb rrug\u00ebn e gabuar, por n\u00ebse me koh\u00eb nd\u00ebrrojn\u00eb kushtet e ambientit t\u00eb jasht\u00ebm, ve\u00e7orit\u00eb karakteriale mund t\u00eb zbuten. Ambientet shoq\u00ebrore t\u00eb larmishme e t\u00eb ngrohta zbusin ve\u00e7orit\u00eb karakteriale, nd\u00ebrsa e kund\u00ebrta, i acaron m\u00eb shum\u00eb ato. Ndihma \u00ebsht\u00eb komplekse. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr psikopediatrin tuaj. Djali i v\u00ebllait tim ka disa sjellje aq t\u00eb \u00e7uditshme, saq\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb them se mos \u00ebsht\u00eb i \u00e7mendur. Shpesh b\u00ebn veprime t\u00eb cilat nuk i kuptoj, mbyllet n\u00eb vetvete, acarohet me motr\u00ebn e vet, b\u00ebhet agresiv e pastaj sillet mir\u00eb. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb shpesh i dhunsh\u00ebm, ua kthen fjal\u00ebn […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":5616,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[89],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7096","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-mjeku"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7096","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7096"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7096\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5616"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7096"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7096"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7096"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}