– Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr ju, rreth homofobis\u00eb. Kam nj\u00eb shok i cili \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i dashur dhe un\u00eb e dua si v\u00eblla, sepse jemi rritur bashk\u00eb. Problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb me v\u00ebllain tim t\u00eb madh i cili m\u00eb thot\u00eb: \u201cLargohu nga ai, duket si gej\u201d, kur ai, n\u00eb fakt, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i till\u00eb. V\u00ebllai im, kur m\u00eb sheh t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitur nga fjal\u00ebt e tij, m\u00eb thot\u00eb: \u201cMos u shqet\u00ebso sepse un\u00eb kam homofobi, ndaj mos ma v\u00ebr re\u201d. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr thot\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb liberal, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb shprehet kaq fanatik ndaj sjelljes s\u00eb shoku tim. Un\u00eb jam 16 vje\u00e7e, por s\u2019e kuptoj shum\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb lloj termi. A mund t\u00eb ma shpjegoni se \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe \u00e7far\u00eb shenjash kan\u00eb personat q\u00eb e kan\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb?
\n– I nderuar lexues, kemi folur dhe m\u00eb par\u00eb p\u00ebr homofobin\u00eb, q\u00eb n\u00eb fakt \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb q\u00ebndrim ose ndjenj\u00eb negative, nj\u00eb neveri kundrejt gejve dhe lesbikeve, ose kundrejt homoseksualitetit n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi. \u00cbsht\u00eb gjithashtu nj\u00eb refuzim i njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb konsideruar gej ose lesbike dhe t\u00eb gjitha gj\u00ebrave q\u00eb kan\u00eb lidhje me ta. Variantet e homofobis\u00eb jan\u00eb: Bifobia (neveri kundrejt biseksual\u00ebve ose biseksualitetit n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi), gejfobia (neveri kundrejt homoseksualitetit mashkullor), lesbofobia (neveri kundrejt homoseksualitetit fem\u00ebror). Fjala homoseksual u shfaq p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb n\u00eb vitet 1960, gjat\u00eb studimit t\u00eb nj\u00eb psikologu amerikan, Xhorxh Uejnbergut. Ky i fundit e p\u00ebrkufizoi at\u00eb si \u201cfrik\u00eb e shprehur e heteroseksual\u00ebve n\u00eb pranin\u00eb e homoseksual\u00ebve dhe refuzimi i k\u00ebtyre t\u00eb fundit p\u00ebr veten e tyre\u201d. Armiq\u00ebsia ndaj homoseksual\u00ebve ka ekzistuar gjithmon\u00eb; e reja \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit po b\u00ebhen m\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr pranin\u00eb e saj n\u00eb rritje. Ashtu si shum\u00eb q\u00ebndrime t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb bazuara n\u00eb paragjykime, homofobia shpreh paaft\u00ebsin\u00eb e individit dhe t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar ndryshimet e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve t\u00eb cil\u00ebt shihen si k\u00ebrc\u00ebnues, inferior\u00eb, jonormal\u00eb dhe t\u00eb padobish\u00ebm.
\n– Shfaqja e homofobis\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e ndryshme dhe mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet pjes\u00eb e mendimeve t\u00eb pandryshueshme. P\u00ebr shembull, ndjenja ose bindja se homoseksual\u00ebt jan\u00eb jonormal\u00eb ose t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb, besimi fals se \u00e7do njeri \u00ebsht\u00eb heteroseksual dhe se vet\u00ebm ky orientim seksual \u00ebsht\u00eb i pranuesh\u00ebm dhe legjitim, p\u00ebrdorimi i nj\u00eb fjalori tall\u00ebs dhe fyes, t\u00eb ndjerit t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb ose t\u00eb frik\u00ebsuar n\u00eb prani t\u00eb gejve apo lesbikeve, t\u00eb qenit i interesuar ndaj tyre vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr p\u00ebrfitime financiare, p\u00ebrdorimi i dhun\u00ebs, deri n\u00eb krime urrejtjeje, mungesa e reagimit kur t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt jan\u00eb duke trajtuar keq nj\u00eb homoseksual etj., kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb homofobia, gj\u00eb q\u00eb duket qart\u00eb se e ka edhe v\u00ebllai juaj.
\nEdhe ne q\u00eb jemi heteroseksual\u00eb, n\u00eb syt\u00eb e atyre q\u00eb p\u00eblqejn\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gjini, konsiderohemi ndryshe. R\u00ebnd\u00ebsi ka q\u00eb v\u00ebllai juaj t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb paragjykues, sepse \u00e7do qenie njer\u00ebzore ka t\u00eb drejt\u00eb ta b\u00ebj\u00eb vet\u00eb zgjedhjen e tij. Pastaj, \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb se normale t\u00eb kesh nj\u00eb shok t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb dhe t\u00eb jet\u00eb edhe i dashur, si\u00e7 shpreheni ju, aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn tuaj. Se pse ju p\u00ebrqafon nj\u00eb shok dhe se pse \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb pran\u00eb jush, nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb patjet\u00ebr q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb gej. Sipas v\u00ebllait tuaj, i bie q\u00eb t\u00eb mos kemi as shok\u00eb, as shoqe, vet\u00ebm burr\u00eb grua dhe anasjelltas. Gjithsesi, nuk po jua themi k\u00ebto q\u00eb t\u00eb krijoni konflikte me v\u00ebllain tuaj, por b\u00ebjani t\u00eb qart\u00eb v\u00ebllait q\u00eb p\u00ebr ju \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme miq\u00ebsia dhe ai duhet t\u00eb respektoj\u00eb zgjedhjet tuaja. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr ju, rreth homofobis\u00eb. Kam nj\u00eb shok i cili \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i dashur dhe un\u00eb e dua si v\u00eblla, sepse jemi rritur bashk\u00eb. Problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb me v\u00ebllain tim t\u00eb madh i cili m\u00eb thot\u00eb: \u201cLargohu nga ai, duket si gej\u201d, kur ai, n\u00eb fakt, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i till\u00eb. V\u00ebllai im, kur […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[92],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6962","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-halle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6962","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6962"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6962\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6962"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6962"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6962"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}