Mbr\u00ebm\u00eb, kur ju dol\u00ebt lakuriq nga banjoja, partneri as q\u00eb ju vuri re. Tashm\u00eb, ju shk\u00ebmbeni me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin vet\u00ebm pyetje t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme, t\u00eb tipit \u201c\u00c7far\u00eb kemi sot p\u00ebr drek\u00eb?”. Ku shkoi pasioni i dikursh\u00ebm, bisedat pa fund, p\u00ebrqafimet sensuale dhe t\u00eb qeshurat e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta? Mos u trembni, thjesht rutina dhe zakonet kan\u00eb p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb \u00e7iftin tuaj. Asgj\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e humbur, me kusht q\u00eb t\u00eb dini si t\u00eb luftoni kund\u00ebr saj. Zbuloni disa m\u00ebnyra shum\u00eb t\u00eb thjeshta q\u00eb kan\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb prova n\u00eb rigjall\u00ebrimin e flak\u00ebs n\u00eb \u00e7ift dhe mbi t\u00eb gjitha, n\u00eb mbajtjen gjall\u00eb t\u00eb saj. Ia vlen t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqeni, pasi rezultatet do t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj…<\/p>\n
1. Fikni ekranet
\n“\u00c7far\u00eb b\u00ebt\u00eb mbr\u00ebm\u00eb n\u00eb dark\u00eb?”, pyesin koleg\u00ebt n\u00eb kafene. “Asgj\u00eb, pam\u00eb televizor”. E thoni edhe vet\u00eb, “asgj\u00ebja” tregon n\u00eb fakt se ndjeheni paksa e zhg\u00ebnjyer dhe se ju shkoi dita kot. Mos e nd\u00ebrprisni dialogun me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin! Ky ekran i vog\u00ebl dhe \u00e7do lloj aparati tjet\u00ebr elektronik kthehen shpejt n\u00eb nj\u00eb kurth, sidomos n\u00ebse i merrni me vete edhe n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e gjumit. Televizori, kompjuteri, smartfoni, kthehen at\u00ebhere n\u00eb varrin e jet\u00ebs suaj seksuale, pasi ato pengojn\u00eb \u00e7do lloj dialogu. Nuk themi se duhet t\u00eb shisni menj\u00ebher\u00eb televizorin, as t\u00eb evitoni \u00e7do lloj kontakti me internetin, por t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn t\u00eb pak\u00ebsoni p\u00ebrdorimin e tyre ose ta ndryshoni. K\u00ebshtu, zgjidhni nj\u00eb program televizori q\u00eb do ta shihni q\u00eb t\u00eb dy; k\u00ebshtu, do t\u00eb krijoni nj\u00eb lloj takimi. Transmetimi i nj\u00eb seriali t\u00ebrheq\u00ebs kthehet at\u00ebhere n\u00eb nj\u00eb rast, p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb fest\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl. Mund t\u00eb porosisni nj\u00eb pic\u00eb, ose t\u00eb p\u00ebrgatisni ushqime q\u00eb mund t\u2019i konsumoni para televizorit, me nj\u00eb shishe ver\u00eb dhe shijojeni plot\u00ebsisht mbr\u00ebmjen. Idealja \u00ebsht\u00eb ta z\u00ebvend\u00ebsoni me aktivitete t\u00eb tjera: Vajtje n\u00eb kinema, n\u00eb teat\u00ebr, nj\u00eb loj\u00eb… Ja, p\u00ebrs\u00ebri po zhvilloni aktivitete t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta. Do t\u00eb befasoheni kur t\u00eb konstatoni se sa e leht\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb heq\u00ebsh dor\u00eb nga aparatet elektronike, sidomos kur kjo b\u00ebhet p\u00ebr kauz\u00ebn e duhur!<\/p>\n
2. Krijoni nj\u00eb ritual
\nKy do t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb zakon q\u00eb nuk ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me banjon e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, pazarin e s\u00eb shtun\u00ebs dhe faturat p\u00ebr t\u2019u paguar! B\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb t\u00eb caktoni nj\u00eb takim t\u00eb rregullt, t\u00eb k\u00ebndsh\u00ebm dhe n\u00eb \u00e7ift. P\u00ebr shembull, t\u00eb enjten e par\u00eb t\u00eb muajit, do t\u00eb dilni: N\u00eb nj\u00eb restorant, n\u00eb kinema, nj\u00eb ekspozit\u00eb, nj\u00eb sh\u00ebtitje n\u00ebn drit\u00ebn e h\u00ebn\u00ebs… Programin q\u00eb do t’ia propozoni tjetrit, do ta imagjinoni secili me radh\u00eb. N\u00ebse nj\u00ebri nga t\u00eb dy nuk e b\u00ebn detyr\u00ebn e tij at\u00eb dit\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb gjej\u00eb nj\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje tjet\u00ebr dhe do t\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb nj\u00eb pun\u00eb angari: T\u00eb laj\u00eb en\u00ebt, t\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebris\u00eb tabelat e shum\u00ebzimit me djalin, t\u00eb rregulloj\u00eb depon…
\n\u00cbsht\u00eb e domosdoshme t\u00eb gjeni koh\u00eb edhe p\u00ebr veten, por nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme t\u00eb jeni t\u00eb pasur, p\u00ebr t’i b\u00ebr\u00eb qejfin tjetrit dhe vetes. Mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrgatisni nj\u00eb dark\u00eb n\u00eb drit\u00ebn e qirinjve, t\u00eb gatuar n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, nj\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje masazhesh me drit\u00ebn e mpakur… P\u00ebr ata q\u00eb kan\u00eb mund\u00ebsi: Merrni nj\u00eb bebisiter k\u00ebto mbr\u00ebmje, ose b\u00ebni shk\u00ebmbim me fqinj\u00ebt; ju mbani f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre dhe ata tuaj\u00ebt, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje n\u00eb muaj. Q\u00eb t\u00eb dyja pal\u00ebt, do t\u00eb dilni t\u00eb fituara.<\/p>\n
3. Gjeni nj\u00eb aktivitet t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt
\nSigurisht, ju b\u00ebni shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra s\u00eb bashku: Shkoni n\u00eb supermarket, drekoni t\u00eb diel\u00ebn te prind\u00ebrit tuaj, shihni d\u00ebftesat e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve… Por, a jan\u00eb k\u00ebto aktivitete t\u00eb k\u00ebndshme? A ndani ju momente t\u00eb m\u00ebdha lumturie kur rrini n\u00eb radh\u00eb n\u00eb ark\u00ebn e supermarketit? Jo tamam. Ka ardhur koha ta rregulloni k\u00ebt\u00eb. M\u00ebsoni t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqeni n\u00eb \u00e7ift. Zgjidhni nj\u00eb aktivitet q\u00eb u korrespondon d\u00ebshirave t\u00eb t\u00eb dyve dhe sidomos, p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin jeni n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin nivel. E kot\u00eb t\u00eb regjistroheni n\u00eb nj\u00eb kurs tenisi, n\u00ebse zot\u00ebria \u00ebsht\u00eb tenist i sprovuar dhe zonja nuk ka kapur raket\u00eb tenisi me dor\u00eb, pasi do t\u00eb nervozoheni dhe zhg\u00ebnjeheni t\u00eb dy. Mund t\u00eb merrni m\u00ebsime k\u00ebrcimi s\u00eb bashku… Jo vet\u00ebm do t\u00eb perfeksiononi hapat e sals\u00ebs, por do t\u00eb jeni edhe n\u00eb kontakt fizik me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. N\u00ebse partnerit tuaj nuk i p\u00eblqen kjo, mos e detyroni dhe gjeni di\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr, si kopshtaria, kuzhina, vrapi t\u00eb diel\u00ebn n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes, sh\u00ebtitja me bi\u00e7iklet\u00eb… Kryesorja \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb ndani s\u00eb bashku nj\u00eb moment t\u00eb k\u00ebndsh\u00ebm. N\u00ebse aktiviteti \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb grup, kjo ju jep mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb inkurajoheni reciprokisht, t\u00eb tregoni talentet tuaja t\u00eb fshehura e pastaj t\u00eb komentoni, n\u00eb intimitet, paaft\u00ebsin\u00eb e pjes\u00ebmarr\u00ebsve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb! Bile, k\u00ebshillohet t\u00eb takoheni atje dhe t\u00eb mos shkoni s\u00eb bashku. K\u00ebshtu, do t\u00eb keni p\u00ebrshtypjen se do t\u00eb keni nj\u00eb takim me t\u00eb dashurin… si n\u00eb koh\u00ebrat e vjetra!<\/p>\n
4. Luani pak me zjarrin
\nK\u00ebtu duhet t\u00eb veproni me kujdes. Pa dyshim, e keni kuptuar se duhet t\u00eb luani pak me xhelozin\u00eb e tjetrit, duke ngacmuar sedr\u00ebn e tij. N\u00ebse ai nuk ju sheh m\u00eb (dhe ka sy vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjerat), jepini t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb se ka t\u00eb tjer\u00eb q\u00eb ju shohin juve… Vet\u00ebm kujdes, mos abuzoni me k\u00ebt\u00eb n\u00ebse partneri juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb posesiv, ose n\u00ebse rrezikoni t\u00eb p\u00ebrkeq\u00ebsoni xhelozin\u00eb e tij… Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, merreni shtruar.
\nEtapa 1: Ju jeni para televizorit dhe partneri e ka mendjen vet\u00ebm te ndeshja. Lavd\u00ebroni me z\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb trupin e fuqish\u00ebm t\u00eb nj\u00eb futbollisti. Mos hezitoni t\u00eb thoni me nj\u00eb z\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrrues: “Sa e lezetshme, m\u00eb sjell nd\u00ebrmend shefin e ri q\u00eb na ka ardhur n\u00eb zyr\u00eb…”.
\nEtapa 2: T\u00eb nes\u00ebrmen, vini mbi tavolin\u00eb kalendarin e “Per\u00ebndive t\u00eb Stadiumit” dhe psher\u00ebtini me zhurm\u00eb para fotove gati lakuriq t\u00eb sportist\u00ebve.
\nEtapa 3: Zot\u00ebria \u00ebsht\u00eb para nj\u00eb ndjeshjeje tjet\u00ebr dhe ende nuk jua hedh syt\u00eb. Ashtu si rast\u00ebsisht, thuajini atij: “A t\u00eb kam th\u00ebn\u00eb se edhe shefi im i ri, q\u00eb i ngjan Ronaldos, ka qen\u00eb lojtar futbolli? E \u00e7uditshme p\u00ebr nj\u00eb inxhinier, apo jo?”. L\u00ebreni pastaj t\u00eb ziej\u00eb p\u00ebrbrenda…
\nEtapa 4: T\u00eb enjten thuajini se do ta kaloni t\u00eb premten mbr\u00ebma me koleg\u00ebt n\u00eb nj\u00eb restorant ku jepet finalja e Kup\u00ebs s\u00eb UEFA-s. Nj\u00eb ide gjeniale e shefit tuaj… E v\u00ebm\u00eb me bast se shum\u00eb shpejt, partneri juaj do ta harroj\u00eb topin e futbollit, p\u00ebr t\u2019iu dedikuar m\u00eb shum\u00eb formave tuaja t\u00eb rrumbullak\u00ebta! Ky skenar mund t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb sipas shijeve sportive apo artistike t\u00eb zot\u00ebris\u00eb.<\/p>\n
5. Thyeni rutin\u00ebn, mos flini gjithmon\u00eb s\u00eb bashku
\nIdeja mund t’ju duket e \u00e7mendur, megjithat\u00eb ajo mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb sekreti i martesave q\u00eb zgjasin dhe duket se josh shum\u00eb t\u00eb dashuruar amerikan\u00eb, q\u00eb flen\u00eb n\u00eb dhoma t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta. Nj\u00eb studim i b\u00ebr\u00eb nga shoqata amerikane e nd\u00ebrtimit t\u00eb sht\u00ebpive, parashikon se, duke filluar nga 2015-a, m\u00eb shum\u00eb se 60% e sht\u00ebpive q\u00eb do t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtohen, do t\u00eb ken\u00eb dy dhoma p\u00ebr nj\u00eb \u00e7ift. Sigurisht, n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb individualiste mund t\u00eb shpjegohet pse \u00e7ifti do t\u00eb flej\u00eb ve\u00e7 e ve\u00e7; sepse secili do t\u00eb ruaj\u00eb an\u00ebn e tij sekrete dhe personale…
\nEvitoni g\u00ebrhitjet! Kush nuk ka fjetur pran\u00eb nj\u00eb g\u00ebrhit\u00ebsi t\u00eb madh, nuk mund ta kuptoj\u00eb ferrin q\u00eb p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb disa \u00e7do nat\u00eb… N\u00eb vitin 2001, nj\u00eb studim i b\u00ebr\u00eb nga Passion For Life Healthcare, tregoi se 31% e g\u00ebrhit\u00ebsve mendonin se ky problem kishte nj\u00eb ndikim t\u00eb pafavorsh\u00ebm n\u00eb lidhjen e tyre. At\u00ebhere, p\u00ebr t\u00eb evituar k\u00ebt\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb secili t\u00eb flej\u00eb n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e tij. P\u00ebrve\u00e7 aspektit pragmatik, kjo zgjidhje paraqet edhe disa p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsi romantike. Ju kujtohet skena mitike e filmit francez \u201cZebra\u201d, ku aktori Tierri Lermit b\u00ebnte t\u00eb k\u00ebrciste dyshemeja para dhom\u00ebs s\u00eb gruas s\u00eb tij, me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb ta lajm\u00ebronte p\u00ebr mb\u00ebrritjen e tij n\u00eb dhom\u00eb? K\u00ebto jan\u00eb zhurma premtuese t\u00eb nj\u00eb nate sensuale, pa u z\u00ebn\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb jorgan q\u00eb na i l\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebt jasht\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu, dhoma merr nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr kuptim, at\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb vendi dedikuar k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsive dhe ritakimit t\u00eb dy t\u00eb dashuruarve. Sigurisht, di\u00e7ka e till\u00eb k\u00ebrkon nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi me hap\u00ebsir\u00eb, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kollaj t\u00eb b\u00ebhet kur jetoni kat\u00ebr vet\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb dhom\u00eb e nj\u00eb kuzhin\u00eb! At\u00ebhere, n\u00eb var\u00ebsi nga mund\u00ebsit\u00eb, zgjidhni nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi pushimesh me dhoma t\u00eb mjaftueshme, ose flini nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb jav\u00eb te mamaja, me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb at\u00eb ta marr\u00eb malli p\u00ebr ju… Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, thyejeni pak rutin\u00ebn!<\/p>\n
6. Kujdesuni p\u00ebr veten
\nNga zakoni, shpesh e l\u00ebm\u00eb veten pas dore. K\u00ebshtu, mund t\u00eb shkojm\u00eb n\u00eb banjo dhe nuk e mbyllim der\u00ebn me ky\u00e7, mblla\u00e7itemi me goj\u00ebn plot, depilohemi n\u00eb kanape, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb ai sheh futboll, apo presim thonjt\u00eb mbi karrigen e sallonit… Ku \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo gruaja josh\u00ebse dhe misterioze q\u00eb e joshte? B\u00ebjeni t\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrroj\u00eb, duke mos ia treguar t\u00eb gjitha sekretet tuaja. N\u00ebse e keni zakon t\u00eb sh\u00ebtisni gjysm\u00eb lakuriq n\u00ebp\u00ebr sht\u00ebpi, duke b\u00ebr\u00eb pun\u00ebt, vishuni. N\u00eb fakt, ju e banalizoni lakuriq\u00ebsin\u00eb tuaj dhe i hiqni erotizmin. Duhet ta dini tashm\u00eb se nuk ka gj\u00eb m\u00eb eksituese sesa di\u00e7ka e n\u00ebnkuptuar. At\u00ebhere, ruajini p\u00ebr vete gjith\u00eb ritualet tuaja t\u00eb bukuris\u00eb, q\u00eb duhet t’i b\u00ebni n\u00eb intimitetin e banjos. K\u00ebshtu, do t\u00eb zgjoni m\u00eb shum\u00eb kureshtin\u00eb e tij.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Mbr\u00ebm\u00eb, kur ju dol\u00ebt lakuriq nga banjoja, partneri as q\u00eb ju vuri re. Tashm\u00eb, ju shk\u00ebmbeni me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin vet\u00ebm pyetje t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme, t\u00eb tipit \u201c\u00c7far\u00eb kemi sot p\u00ebr drek\u00eb?”. Ku shkoi pasioni i dikursh\u00ebm, bisedat pa fund, p\u00ebrqafimet sensuale dhe t\u00eb qeshurat e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta? Mos u trembni, thjesht rutina dhe zakonet kan\u00eb p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[905],"class_list":["post-6685","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-intimitet","tag-seks"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6685","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6685"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6685\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6685"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6685"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6685"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}