M\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtuan nga provimi
\n– \u00c7\u2019do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb shoh\u00ebsh n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr sikur t\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtojn\u00eb nga provimi? Theksoj q\u00eb nuk jam n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, por m\u00eb ndodh ta shoh veten n\u00eb bangat e shkoll\u00ebs sikur ngel n\u00eb provim, sikur s\u2019m\u00eb kujtohen fjal\u00ebt; nj\u00eb siklet i papar\u00eb! Dua nj\u00eb parashikim. Ju fal\u00ebnderoj.
\n– T\u00eb shikoni sikur ju p\u00ebrjashtojn\u00eb nga ndonj\u00eb provim, parashikon ankth p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka personale tuaj\u00ebn, ose munges\u00eb besimi n\u00eb vetvete, pra, nj\u00eb lloj uljeje vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimi. N\u00ebse keni ndonj\u00eb projekt ose plan personal, ose \u00e7far\u00ebdoqoft\u00eb ai, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e k\u00ebshillueshme t\u00eb merrni vendime. Jeni n\u00eb ankth dhe \u00ebndrra ju k\u00ebshillon t\u00eb qet\u00ebsoni veten e t\u00eb keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb besim te vetja juaj sesa te personat q\u00eb ju rrethojn\u00eb. Nuk po themi q\u00eb dikush \u00ebsht\u00eb me hile n\u00eb rrethin tuaj, por q\u00eb nuk duhet ta k\u00ebrkoni mb\u00ebshtetjen te t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, kur ju vet\u00eb veten nuk e mb\u00ebshtesni sa duhet. N\u00eb momentin q\u00eb do t\u00eb filloni t\u00eb keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb besim n\u00eb vetvete, nuk do t\u00eb shikoni m\u00eb \u00ebndrra t\u00eb tilla.<\/p>\n
Minjt\u00eb
\n– Kam par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr sikur m\u00eb hyri n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi nj\u00eb mi shum\u00eb i madh e nj\u00eb i vog\u00ebl. M\u2019u fut\u00ebn te dollapi i rrobave dhe rr\u00ebmonin gj\u00ebrat. M\u00eb p\u00ebshtiros\u00ebn aq shum\u00eb saq\u00eb mundohesha t\u2019i largoja, por u zgjova nga gjumi nga sikleti. Pres nj\u00eb parashikim.
\n– Minjt\u00eb, n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsojn\u00eb shqet\u00ebsimet e dit\u00ebs ose t\u00eb s\u00eb kaluar\u00ebs, q\u00eb ju shqet\u00ebsojn\u00eb akoma n\u00eb t\u00eb tashmen. Pra, ata jan\u00eb simbol i gj\u00ebrave t\u00eb vogla q\u00eb simbolizojn\u00eb frik\u00eb, bezdisje dhe shpesh, edhe paralajm\u00ebrojn\u00eb t\u00eb keni kujdes nga njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb fusin hund\u00ebt n\u00eb pun\u00ebt tuaja sepse mund t\u2019ju shqet\u00ebsojn\u00eb, ashtu si\u00e7 ju ka ndodhur n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr. Por, \u00e7do gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kalimtare; do t\u00eb arrini t\u2019i largoni shum\u00eb shpejt situata apo shqet\u00ebsime t\u00eb tilla.<\/p>\n
Shikoja nga dritarja…
\n– Kam par\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr shum\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7uditshme dy net rresht. Isha n\u00eb nj\u00eb ambient jo shum\u00eb t\u00eb njohur p\u00ebr mua dhe shikoja nga dritarja njer\u00ebz q\u00eb l\u00ebviznin. Sapo ata kthenin kok\u00ebn, un\u00eb fshihesha pas parmakut t\u00eb dritares. Ata ishin k\u00ebrcimtar\u00eb, aktor\u00eb, njer\u00ebz t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb. Un\u00eb rrija n\u00eb dritare, por kisha nj\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim brenda vetes q\u00eb nuk doja ta tregoja. \u00c7far\u00eb kuptimi ka, ju lutem? Vjoleta.
\n– E nderuar Violeta, dritarja, n\u00eb vetvete, p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebson k\u00ebndv\u00ebshtrimin tuaj n\u00eb jet\u00eb, por n\u00eb var\u00ebsi t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbajtjes s\u00eb \u00ebndrr\u00ebs, tregon akoma m\u00eb tutje q\u00eb ju nuk jeni shum\u00eb aktive. Jeni thjesht nj\u00eb v\u00ebzhguese e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve dhe shpesh, p\u00ebrgjoni at\u00eb q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, gj\u00eb q\u00eb ju \u00ebsht\u00eb shnd\u00ebrruar tashm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb lloj hobi. K\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb ose e b\u00ebni sepse ndiheni shum\u00eb e vetmuar, ose sepse prisni m\u00eb shum\u00eb nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt sesa nga vetja. Duhet t\u00eb jeni tip shum\u00eb e mbyllur n\u00eb vetvete dhe kjo ka ndikuar jo mir\u00eb te ju. \u00cbndrra ju fton t\u00eb dilni nga vetizolimi dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrballeni si me problemet, ashtu edhe me bot\u00ebn jasht\u00eb. Ndoshta keni frik\u00eb nga p\u00ebrballja, nga njohja me problemet, me persona t\u00eb rinj, pra, \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ju shqet\u00ebson brenda vetes, ndoshta fakti q\u00eb ndiheni e izoluar. Ju e keni vet\u00eb veten n\u00eb dor\u00eb, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb mund t\u00eb dilni nga kjo gjendje, duke filluar nga momenti q\u00eb lexoni k\u00ebt\u00eb shpjegim, ndryshe, rrezikoni t\u00eb ndiheni akoma m\u00eb e vetmuar. <\/p>\n
Qaja pa pushim
\n– \u00c7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb ta shoh\u00ebsh veten n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr duke qar\u00eb? Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb, kaq shum\u00eb qaj saq\u00eb zgjohem po duke qar\u00eb. Nuk i mbaj mend si episode, por di q\u00eb nuk pushoj s\u00eb qari, as kur zgjohem. Doja t\u00eb dija kuptimin e k\u00ebsaj \u00ebndrre. Faleminderit.
\n– Nuk duhet t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsoheni kaq shum\u00eb, sepse e qara, n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e \u00ebndrrave, parashikon \u00e7lirim emocionesh e ngush\u00ebllim n\u00eb jet\u00ebn reale. P\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht, shum\u00eb persona i mbajn\u00eb emocionet e tyre brenda vetes dhe pamund\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u2019i shprehur n\u00eb jet\u00ebn reale, b\u00ebn q\u00eb personi t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb lloj shqet\u00ebsimi brenda vetes e akumulim ndjesish, t\u00eb cilat shp\u00ebrthejn\u00eb gjat\u00eb nat\u00ebs n\u00eb \u00ebndrra t\u00eb tilla. T\u00eb qar\u00ebt n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb si\u00e7 e shprehni ju, tregon rrug\u00ebn drejt \u00e7lirimit nga e kaluara dhe fillimit t\u00eb nj\u00eb jete t\u00eb qet\u00eb. Ju, me siguri, keni mbajtur shum\u00eb ndjenja brenda vetes prej koh\u00ebsh dhe ndoshta brengoseni m\u00eb shum\u00eb se\u00e7 duhet p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen. E qara ju ndihmon t\u00eb \u00e7liroheni fizikisht, emocionalisht, por \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb shenj\u00eb q\u00eb e ardhmja do t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb e qet\u00eb dhe m\u00eb e bukur. Do t\u00eb harroni gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb ju ka b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb vuani gjer tani dhe ju presin momente t\u00eb bukura. <\/p>\n
Isha n\u00eb burg
\n– Kam par\u00eb veten n\u00eb burg dhe u thoja punonj\u00ebsve aty: \u201cS\u2019e kuptoj pse m\u00eb keni futur n\u00eb burg, un\u00eb s\u2019kam b\u00ebr\u00eb asgj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe\u201d. Theksoj q\u00eb jam fem\u00ebr dhe u \u00e7udita kur pash\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr, sepse as kam njeri n\u00eb burg, as e kam p\u00ebrmendur. Isha pas hekurave dhe k\u00ebrkoja q\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb shpjegonin dhe t\u00eb m\u00eb nxirrnin, por askush nuk m\u00eb d\u00ebgjonte. Pres nj\u00eb shpjegim. Faleminderit.
\n– T\u00eb shoh\u00ebsh veten n\u00eb burg, s\u2019do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb ka lidhje me burgun n\u00eb jet\u00ebn reale, por tregon pengesat q\u00eb keni ju. Keni nj\u00eb plan n\u00eb dor\u00eb, por do t\u00eb keni pengesa p\u00ebr ta realizuar. Mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb projekt pune, mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb di\u00e7ka personale p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn private. Jeni e rrethuar nga disa persona shum\u00eb ziliqar\u00eb, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt po mundohen t\u2019ju pengojn\u00eb me \u00e7do kusht. Fakti q\u00eb nuk ju d\u00ebgjon askush n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb kaloni ca dit\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira, sepse s\u2019do t\u00eb keni mb\u00ebshtetjen q\u00eb k\u00ebrkoni. Megjithat\u00eb, kjo s\u2019do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebshp\u00ebroheni, sepse \u00ebndrrat jo gjithmon\u00eb dalin, ose m\u00eb sakt\u00eb, mos i besoni sidomos kur kan\u00eb tendenc\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar di\u00e7ka negative. Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb, jemi vet\u00eb ne nd\u00ebrtuesit e s\u00eb ardhmes dhe duke menduar pozitivisht, mund t\u00eb zgjidhim gjith\u00e7ka. \u00cbndrra t\u00eb tilla edhe ju paralajm\u00ebrojn\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00ebse keni ndonj\u00eb projekt, t\u00eb reflektoni m\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe ta studioni situat\u00ebn rreth jush q\u00eb t\u00eb mos ndiheni e burgosur, si n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr. Gjith\u00eb t\u00eb mirat! <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
M\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtuan nga provimi – \u00c7\u2019do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb shoh\u00ebsh n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr sikur t\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtojn\u00eb nga provimi? Theksoj q\u00eb nuk jam n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, por m\u00eb ndodh ta shoh veten n\u00eb bangat e shkoll\u00ebs sikur ngel n\u00eb provim, sikur s\u2019m\u00eb kujtohen fjal\u00ebt; nj\u00eb siklet i papar\u00eb! Dua nj\u00eb parashikim. Ju fal\u00ebnderoj. – T\u00eb shikoni sikur ju […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[91],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6617","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-endrra"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6617","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6617"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6617\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6617"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6617"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6617"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}