Neve nuk na b\u00ebn p\u00ebrshtypje kur shohim \u00e7ifte me diferenc\u00eb moshe, ku burri \u00ebsht\u00eb goxha m\u00eb i madh n\u00eb mosh\u00eb se gruaja, duke th\u00ebn\u00eb me vete se dashuria nuk njeh mosh\u00eb… Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, na bie n\u00eb sy p\u00ebr keq n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb gruaja m\u00eb e madhe, duke e paragjykuar k\u00ebto lidhje (q\u00eb jan\u00eb edhe m\u00eb t\u00eb rralla). Pse ndodh di\u00e7ka e till\u00eb? Arsyet q\u00eb i themi vetes jan\u00eb t\u00eb shumta, p\u00ebr shembull: Burri duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb pak m\u00eb i madh, pasi grat\u00eb piqen m\u00eb shpejt dhe vetvetiu k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb nj\u00eb person m\u00eb t\u00eb pjekur p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar familje. Ja, disa arsye t\u00eb tjera pse na p\u00eblqejn\u00eb burrat m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj n\u00eb mosh\u00eb:<\/p>\n
1. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb i stabilizuar
\nNj\u00eb burr\u00eb m\u00eb i madh n\u00eb mosh\u00eb ka pasur koh\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtoj\u00eb karrier\u00ebn e tij, dometh\u00ebn\u00eb, ka krijuar nj\u00eb em\u00ebr ose ka z\u00ebn\u00eb nj\u00eb vend pune t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb ka jo vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb stabilitet financiar, por edhe influenc\u00eb n\u00eb profesion.
\n2. Ai ka koh\u00eb
\nPo, ai mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb i dh\u00ebn\u00eb pas pun\u00ebs, por e ka shpenzuar mosh\u00ebn e t\u00eb 20-ave dhe 30-ave duke v\u00ebn\u00eb bazat e tij n\u00eb pun\u00eb. Ai gjithashtu e ka kuptuar se sa t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme jan\u00eb prioritetet e tij jasht\u00eb pun\u00ebs, dometh\u00ebn\u00eb, ti dhe familja.
\n3. Ai jep k\u00ebshilla t\u00eb mira
\nNuk themi se ai \u00ebsht\u00eb i p\u00ebrkryer, por mosha ka b\u00ebr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb fitoj\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb eksperienca. K\u00ebshtu, pra, ai do t\u00eb dij\u00eb t\u00eb reflektoj\u00eb dhe t\u00eb t\u00eb udh\u00ebheq\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebr situatat e v\u00ebshtira q\u00eb krijohen n\u00eb jet\u00eb.
\n4. Ai do t\u00eb krijoj\u00eb nj\u00eb familje t\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshme
\nKa ikur koha kur ai donte vet\u00ebm t\u00eb shijonte jet\u00ebn dhe t\u00eb bridhte nga lulja n\u00eb lule. K\u00ebtu po flasim p\u00ebr nj\u00eb burr\u00eb t\u00eb pjekur, af\u00ebr apo pas t\u00eb 40-ave, i cili e ka kuptuar se koha kalon dhe duhet t\u00eb krijoj\u00eb familje, p\u00ebr t\u00eb g\u00ebzuar t\u00eb mirat e saj dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos e kaluar jet\u00ebn vet\u00ebm. Sigurisht, ka edhe nga ata q\u00eb duan t\u00eb jen\u00eb beqar\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetsh\u00ebm, por jan\u00eb t\u00eb pakt\u00eb, sepse shumica i n\u00ebnshtrohen trysnis\u00eb s\u00eb familjes dhe shoq\u00ebris\u00eb. Pra, eksperienca e jet\u00ebs+ stabilitet karriere+ stabilitet financiar = stabilitet edhe n\u00eb lidhje.
\n5. Ai do t\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb reja
\nAi e di kush \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe me siguri, ka krijuar pasionet e tij jasht\u00eb pun\u00ebs. Ai do t\u00eb t\u00eb njoh\u00eb edhe ty me to, t\u00eb cilat mund t\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00eblqejn\u00eb apo jo. Pa dyshim, ai edhe ka udh\u00ebtuar m\u00eb shum\u00eb, ka njohur gj\u00ebra t\u00eb reja dhe ka nj\u00eb kultur\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb gjer\u00eb, t\u00eb krijuar edhe nga eksperienca.
\n6. Ai ka eksperienc\u00eb n\u00eb lidhje
\nN\u00eb mosh\u00ebn e tij ai e di se \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb… t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn k\u00ebshtu shpresojm\u00eb. Kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se ai ka m\u00eb shum\u00eb aft\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjidhur problemet e ndryshme q\u00eb mund t\u2019ju dalin p\u00ebrpara dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrballoj\u00eb sfidat e ndryshme.
\n7. Ai ka eksperienc\u00eb n\u00eb shtrat
\nT\u00eb rinjve u mungon eksperienca n\u00eb shtrat. Partneri yt i pjekur n\u00eb mosh\u00eb do t\u00eb ket\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb njohuri p\u00ebr trupin e nj\u00eb gruaje dhe mund t\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb reja. Ai e ndjen veten mir\u00eb me trupin e tij dhe do t\u00eb t\u00eb krijoj\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00eb edhe ty q\u00eb t\u00eb relaksohesh. N\u00ebse ai ka qen\u00eb i martuar m\u00eb par\u00eb, at\u00ebhere ka m\u00ebsuar si t\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00eb nj\u00eb grua, gj\u00eb q\u00eb do ta sjell\u00eb edhe n\u00eb lidhjen tuaj. K\u00ebto jan\u00eb gj\u00ebra q\u00eb nuk harrohen…
\n8. Ai do t\u00eb t\u00eb marr\u00eb n\u00ebn mbrojtjen e vet
\nZakonisht, nj\u00eb grua q\u00eb lidhet me nj\u00eb burr\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb madh n\u00eb mosh\u00eb, k\u00ebrkon edhe mbrojtjen e sigurin\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb krijon ai. K\u00ebshtu, pra, ai do t\u00eb marr\u00eb paksa rolin e babait dhe do t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00eb edhe d\u00ebshir\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl t\u00eb \u201cvajz\u00ebs s\u00eb tij t\u00eb vog\u00ebl\u201d. N\u00eb shk\u00ebmbim, ai k\u00ebrkon vet\u00ebm rinin\u00eb dhe freskin\u00eb t\u00ebnde…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Neve nuk na b\u00ebn p\u00ebrshtypje kur shohim \u00e7ifte me diferenc\u00eb moshe, ku burri \u00ebsht\u00eb goxha m\u00eb i madh n\u00eb mosh\u00eb se gruaja, duke th\u00ebn\u00eb me vete se dashuria nuk njeh mosh\u00eb… Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, na bie n\u00eb sy p\u00ebr keq n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb gruaja m\u00eb e madhe, duke e paragjykuar k\u00ebto lidhje (q\u00eb jan\u00eb edhe m\u00eb t\u00eb rralla). […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":6102,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[905],"class_list":["post-6101","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet","tag-seks"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6101","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6101"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6101\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6102"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6101"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6101"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6101"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}