Ka nga ata q\u00eb kan\u00eb nj\u00eb besim t\u00eb verb\u00ebr te partneri\/ja, duke rrezikuar mbase t\u00eb idealizojn\u00eb \u00e7iftin e tyre e ta v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb rrezik, ashtu si\u00e7 ka edhe nga ata q\u00eb mendojn\u00eb se nj\u00eb lidhje rimon pa dyshim me mosbesimin, sepse ata dyshojn\u00eb te tjetri, por sidomos te vetja. Po ju, a keni besim te tjetri? P\u00ebrgjigjjuni pyetjeve p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar \u00e7far\u00eb vendi z\u00eb besimi n\u00eb \u00e7iftin tuaj. P\u00ebrgjigjuni me \u201cpo\u201d ose \u201czakonisht po\u201d, n\u00ebse jeni dakord me at\u00eb q\u00eb kemi shkruar ne dhe \u201cjo\u201d, ose \u201czakonisht jo\u201d, n\u00ebse nuk jeni dakord…<\/p>\n
1. Nuk ka ndonj\u00eb problem n\u00ebse ai\/ajo niset p\u00ebr nj\u00eb fundjav\u00eb pa ju:
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
2. Ju nuk e pyesni kurr\u00eb se si e kalon koh\u00ebn:
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
3. Nuk e keni problem n\u00ebse ai\/ajo i telefonon gjat\u00eb koleges\/ut s\u00eb pun\u00ebs.
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
4. Ju ia besoni parat\u00eb tuaja pa ndonj\u00eb prapamendim:
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
5. Ai\/ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb me shum\u00eb vones\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb takim. Ju, nuk i vini n\u00eb dyshim shpjegimet q\u00eb ju jep…
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
6. Ai\/ajo ishte nga ata tipa q\u00eb bridhnin lule m\u00eb lule para se t\u2019ju njihte, por tani, mendoni se \u00ebsht\u00eb besnik\/e.
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
7. Ai\/ajo i di kodet tuaja t\u00eb e-mailit, Facebook-ut, etj.
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
8. Ju niseni me sh\u00ebrbim pune me mendje t\u00eb qet\u00eb…
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
9. Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb, ai\/ajo b\u00ebn festa me shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ku ju nuk jeni i\/e ftuar:
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
10. Ju ka ndodhur t\u00eb takoheni me nj\u00eb ish-t\u00eb dashur t\u00eb tij\/saj dhe nuk e keni pasur problem:
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
11. Ju i jepni atij\/asaj kart\u00ebn tuaj bankare:
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
12. Juve ju duket normale kur ai\/ajo kujdeset ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr pamjen e jashtme kur shkon n\u00eb pun\u00eb:
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
13. I keni besuar atij\/asaj sekrete t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb suaj:
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
14. Kur ai\/ajo rri p\u00ebr koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb i\/e heshtur, kjo nuk ju shqet\u00ebson:
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
15. Shoku\/shoqja e ngusht\u00eb ju ka th\u00ebn\u00eb se e ka par\u00eb me nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, por ju e vini n\u00eb dyshim k\u00ebt\u00eb dhe ia tregoni:
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
16. Ju nuk keni frik\u00eb se ai\/ajo mund t\u00eb nxjerr\u00eb n\u00eb shesh ndonj\u00eb informacion tuajin konfidencial:
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo<\/p>\n
17. Ju m\u00ebsoni se ai\/ajo ka pasur probleme me drejt\u00ebsin\u00eb, por kjo nuk ju pengon t\u00eb vazhdoni t\u2019i besoni…
\na. Po
\nb. Zakonisht, po.
\nc. Zakonisht, jo.
\nd. Jo
\nRezultatet
\nN\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb \u00abjo\u00bb. Ju nuk keni aspak besim te partneri\/ja\u2026
\nJu keni frik\u00eb se ndikimi i jasht\u00ebm mund t\u2019i shkaktojn\u00eb ndonj\u00eb problem \u00e7iftit tuaj dhe i caktoni vetes nj\u00eb detyr\u00eb: At\u00eb t\u00eb parashikimit t\u00eb \u201cgjith\u00e7kaje\u201d! Duket sikur doni ta mbroni partnerin\/en, ta mos e lejoni t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb gabim, ose t\u00eb bjer\u00eb pre e tundimeve. Mungesa juaj e besimit nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb pasqyrimi i nj\u00eb mosbesimi sistematik ndaj partnerit, por m\u00eb shum\u00eb nj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i evituar ndikimet e k\u00ebqija, sepse n\u00ebse ai do t\u00eb binte pre e tyre, do t\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebnin nj\u00eb k\u00ebrc\u00ebnim t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb p\u00ebr \u00e7iftin tuaj. Ju i urreni gj\u00ebrat e paparashikuara, futjen n\u00eb kukulen tuaj dyvend\u00ebshe, duke filluar q\u00eb nga ish-t\u00eb dashurit, shok\u00ebt, por edhe transferimet e vendimet e nxituara, sepse keni frik\u00eb se partneri\/ja nuk do t\u2019u b\u00ebj\u00eb ball\u00eb, i\/e m\u00ebsuar si\u00e7 jeni q\u00eb t\u00eb keni besim vet\u00ebm n\u00eb forcat tuaja. P\u00ebrpar\u00ebsia e tendenc\u00ebs q\u00eb keni \u00ebsht\u00eb se i jepni tjetrit nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb t\u00eb jasht\u00ebzakonshme sigurie dhe stabiliteti. Ju mund t\u00eb hezitoni p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb projekt, por kur keni grumbulluar provat e duhura dhe keni krijuar besim n\u00eb vetvete, jeni i\/e aft\u00eb t\u00eb shpalosni nj\u00eb energji t\u00eb papar\u00eb. E keqja \u00ebsht\u00eb se, kur tendenca juaj e munges\u00ebs s\u00eb besimit b\u00ebhet shum\u00eb e theksuar, nuk jeni larg mosbesimit (nganj\u00ebher\u00eb, xhelozis\u00eb), por m\u00eb shum\u00eb dekurajimit dhe gjithmon\u00eb, dyshimit. V\u00ebshtir\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur besim ju shtyn nganj\u00ebher\u00eb t\u00eb ndjeni vetmi. I thoni vetes se askush nuk ju kupton, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb ju b\u00ebni shum\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekje p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb n\u00eb lart\u00ebsin\u00eb e duhur…<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb \u201czakonisht jo\u201d. Ju keni pak besim te partneri\/ja…
\n…me p\u00ebrjashtim t\u00eb disa fushave t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktuara mir\u00eb. Ju doni t\u00eb mbroni pavar\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb, sipas jush, do ta humbisnit, n\u00ebse do t\u2019i linit tjetrit shum\u00eb vend n\u00eb zgjidhjet tuaja personale. N\u00eb fakt, ekzistojn\u00eb fusha t\u00eb jet\u00ebs suaj apo mendime q\u00eb doni t\u2019i mbroni duke mos i ndar\u00eb me tjetrin. Pavar\u00ebsisht k\u00ebsaj, ju keni shum\u00eb besim tek ai p\u00ebr disa gj\u00ebra q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb konsiderueshme nga nj\u00ebri \u00e7ift te tjetri. P\u00ebr shembull, ju mund t\u00eb keni shum\u00eb besim tek ai kur b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb administruar buxhetin familjar, por nuk i rr\u00ebfeni gj\u00ebra p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebn ose aktivitetin tuaj profesional. Megjithat\u00eb, k\u00ebto stepje t\u00eb pjesshme mund t\u00eb zhduken me kalimin e koh\u00ebs n\u00ebse ai\/ajo ju jep prova t\u00eb mjaftueshme besimi. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, ju dyshoni edhe p\u00ebr veten dhe preferoni t\u00eb shmangni veprimet ose zgjidhjet p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilat nuk ndjeheni aq i\/e sigurt\u00eb n\u00eb vetvete. P\u00ebrpar\u00ebsia e stilit tuaj \u00ebsht\u00eb se jeni i\/e matur: Nuk jeni nga ata q\u00eb rr\u00ebmbeheni pas di\u00e7kaje dhe dini t\u00eb ruani arsyen edhe kur gjith\u00e7ka ju shtyn t\u00eb b\u00ebni t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt\u00ebn. E keqja \u00ebsht\u00eb se n\u00eb syt\u00eb e shum\u00eb vet\u00ebve ju ngjani shum\u00eb i\/e arsyesh\u00ebm\/me, ose m\u00eb realist\/e sesa duhet. Partneri\/ja ju qortojn\u00eb nganj\u00ebher\u00eb p\u00ebr q\u00ebndrimin tuaj kritik ndaj t\u00eb metave t\u00eb tij\/saj. Si p\u00ebrfundim, ju nuk keni besim total.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb \u201czakonisht po\u201d. N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, keni besim te partneri\/ja…
\nJu e bazoni lidhjen n\u00eb nj\u00eb ekuilib\u00ebr t\u00eb arsyesh\u00ebm t\u00eb secilit dhe, q\u00eb atmosfera e \u00e7iftit t\u00eb jet\u00eb e q\u00ebndrueshme, mbroni disa sektor\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs suaj personale. Jeni n\u00eb k\u00ebrkim t\u00eb nj\u00eb harmonie q\u00eb respekton autonomin\u00eb e secilit. Ju keni besim te tjetri, por nuk u kushtoni r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi detajeve. K\u00ebshtu, nj\u00eb defekt i vog\u00ebl nuk i v\u00eb pik\u00ebpyetje s\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithshmes, por n\u00ebse defektet pasojn\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, mund t\u00eb filloni t\u00eb dyshoni. Ju i kushtoni m\u00eb shum\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi liris\u00eb s\u00eb zgjedhjeve sesa bindjes ndaj detyrimeve t\u00eb jet\u00ebs n\u00eb \u00e7ift. Thell\u00eb-thell\u00eb, nxiteni nga respekti p\u00ebr tjetrin: N\u00ebse ju nuk i b\u00ebni pyetje, kjo nuk vjen nga mungesa e interesit, por p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos u futur n\u00eb territoret personale q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb shenjta p\u00ebr secilin. K\u00ebshtu, pra, ju i jepni besimin tuaj atij q\u00eb di t\u00eb respektoj\u00eb limitet, t\u00eb evitoj\u00eb futjen n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj private. P\u00ebrpar\u00ebsia e tendenc\u00ebs suaj \u00ebsht\u00eb se ajo nxjerr n\u00eb pah cil\u00ebsit\u00eb tuaja tolerante: Jeni i\/e aft\u00eb t\u2019i pranoni t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt dhe, m\u00eb shum\u00eb akoma, t\u2019i doni p\u00ebr ve\u00e7antit\u00eb dhe ndryshimet e tij\/saj. E keqja \u00ebsht\u00eb se nganj\u00ebher\u00eb dukeni si nj\u00eb qenie sekrete, q\u00eb rrall\u00eb e zbulon veten dhe luan rolin e indiferentit\/es, sikur do t\u00eb mbroj\u00eb veten nga gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb mund ta zem\u00ebrojn\u00eb. Ideali juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb qet\u00ebsia dhe ndarja e vlerave thelb\u00ebsore; gj\u00ebrat e tjera jan\u00eb dyt\u00ebsore.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb \u201cpo\u201d. Ju keni besim t\u00eb plot\u00eb te partneri\/ja…
\nJu i besoni aq shum\u00eb, sa duket se e injoroni mund\u00ebsin\u00eb e zhg\u00ebnjimit. Ju jeni me shprehjen: Gjith\u00e7ka ose asgj\u00eb! N\u00eb fakt, p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb sh\u00ebrbente nj\u00eb besim i kufizuar n\u00eb disa fusha dhe i paimagjinuesh\u00ebm n\u00eb t\u00eb tjera? Ju keni etje p\u00ebr ideale dhe jeni gati t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshiheni i t\u00ebri\/a n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb drejtim. Lidhja juaj dashurore karakterizohet nga pasioni dhe shkrirja te nj\u00ebri-tjetri. Ja p\u00ebrse ju kultivoni nj\u00eb verb\u00ebri relative p\u00ebrball\u00eb incidenteve t\u00eb vogla: Vonesa t\u00eb pashpjegueshme, gj\u00ebra t\u00eb paparashikura, g\u00ebnjeshtra t\u00eb vogla, etj. Ju ndodh ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb t\u00eb mohoni t\u00eb dukshmen n\u00ebse kjo p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebson nj\u00eb k\u00ebrc\u00ebnim p\u00ebr klim\u00ebn e besimit kaq t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr ju. K\u00ebrkesat tuaja ndaj vetes nuk q\u00ebndrojn\u00eb m\u00eb pas. Ju nuk lejoni as defektin m\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl te vetja, sepse doni t\u00eb jeni i\/e panjoll\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb i\/e denj\u00eb p\u00ebr besimin e njeriut q\u00eb doni. Gjith\u00eb kjo nd\u00ebrtes\u00eb e bukur, nganj\u00ebher\u00eb shembet n\u00ebse ju hyn dyshimi p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka. At\u00ebhere, problemi m\u00eb i vog\u00ebl mund t\u00eb d\u00ebrrmoj\u00eb krejt\u00ebsisht, brenda nj\u00eb momenti, gjith\u00eb besimin tuaj. Thell\u00eb n\u00eb shpirt keni frik\u00eb se nuk jeni n\u00eb lart\u00ebsin\u00eb e duhur, sepse jeni nga ata\/o q\u00eb duan t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrkryer\/a. P\u00ebrpar\u00ebsia e k\u00ebsaj tendence q\u00eb keni \u00ebsht\u00eb se ajo forcon cil\u00ebsin\u00eb e ndjenjave tuaja e nxjerr n\u00eb pah an\u00ebn tuaj romantike. Pran\u00eb jush, partneri\/ja ndjehet i\/e sigurt\u00eb se e doni me pasion. \u00cbsht\u00eb mbres\u00ebl\u00ebn\u00ebse aft\u00ebsia juaj p\u00ebr t\u2019u dh\u00ebn\u00eb me mish e me shpirt pas nj\u00eb lidhjeje, por pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebtu mund t\u00eb lindin problemet. Perfeksionizmi juaj mund t\u00eb kthehet kund\u00ebr jush, pasi ai\/ajo q\u00eb doni mund ta ndjej\u00eb veten jo n\u00eb lart\u00ebsin\u00eb e pritshm\u00ebrive tuaja.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ka nga ata q\u00eb kan\u00eb nj\u00eb besim t\u00eb verb\u00ebr te partneri\/ja, duke rrezikuar mbase t\u00eb idealizojn\u00eb \u00e7iftin e tyre e ta v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb rrezik, ashtu si\u00e7 ka edhe nga ata q\u00eb mendojn\u00eb se nj\u00eb lidhje rimon pa dyshim me mosbesimin, sepse ata dyshojn\u00eb te tjetri, por sidomos te vetja. Po ju, a keni besim te […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":5774,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[51],"tags":[304],"class_list":["post-5773","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-test","tag-test-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5773","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5773"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5773\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5774"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5773"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5773"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5773"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}