Minj n\u00eb trupin tim
\n– Para dy net\u00ebsh kam par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr shum\u00eb minj dhe m\u2019u shpif, sepse m\u00eb ngjiteshin n\u00eb trup. Nga tmerri, u zgjova nga gjumi. Pres nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje nga ana juaj, ju lutem. Faleminderit.
\n– Minjt\u00eb q\u00eb keni par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr e q\u00eb ju jan\u00eb ngjitur n\u00eb trup, tregojn\u00eb frik\u00ebrat tuaja, irritimet dhe problemet gjat\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme. Po kaloni nj\u00eb periudh\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, ndaj e keni par\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr t\u00eb till\u00eb. P\u00ebrve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, mund t\u00eb kaloni ndonj\u00eb grip t\u00eb leht\u00eb, por \u00e7do gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kalimtare.<\/p>\n
Gjyshja q\u00eb nuk jeton m\u00eb
\n– Kam par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr gjyshen time e cila ka 4 vjet q\u00eb ka vdekur. Un\u00eb po rrija shtrir\u00eb n\u00eb krevat, nd\u00ebrsa ajo erdhi papritmas nga dera e ballkonit dhe po ecte drejt meje, sikur nuk po m\u00eb shikonte. Kur un\u00eb e thirra disa her\u00eb, ajo nuk d\u00ebgjoi, pastaj sa do kalonte nga dhoma tjet\u00ebr, m\u2019u kthye. M\u00eb erdhi drejt e po m\u00eb shikonte me inat, pastaj m\u2019u kthye n\u00eb gjarp\u00ebr dhe m\u00eb trembi. Jam zgjuar e tmerruar. \u00c7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb?
\n– Gjyshet apo edhe pjes\u00ebtar\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb t\u00eb familjes kur nuk jetojn\u00eb m\u00eb dhe na shfaqen n\u00eb \u00ebndrra, vijn\u00eb me nj\u00eb mesazh shum\u00eb t\u00eb qart\u00eb: Di\u00e7ka nuk shkon mir\u00eb me jet\u00ebn tuaj, ju mund t\u00eb keni kaluar ose do t\u00eb kaloni nj\u00eb siklet. A ka njeri m\u00eb t\u00eb dashur se gjyshja? Pra, ajo nuk ka pse t\u2019ju shfaqet n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr p\u00ebr ndonj\u00eb arsye tjet\u00ebr, p\u00ebrve\u00e7se p\u00ebr faktin q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e shqet\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr ju. Kini kujdes n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb q\u00eb e keni par\u00eb, sidomos n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie me personat q\u00eb ju mund t\u2019i quani shum\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrt apo intim\u00eb, sepse mund t\u00eb p\u00ebsoni ndonj\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjim. Shmangni \u00e7do konfidenc\u00eb apo shprehje d\u00ebshire p\u00ebr momentin me njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb ju rrethojn\u00eb. Pra, \u00ebndrra ju paralajm\u00ebron p\u00ebr \u00ebt b\u00ebr\u00eb kujdes.<\/p>\n
Te varri i mamit
\n– P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje! Kam par\u00eb sikur m\u00eb kishte vdekur mami dhe un\u00eb i shkoja te varri; m\u00eb vinte pak keq, por nuk qaja. Gjithashtu, kam par\u00eb edhe v\u00ebllain tim, por qaja shum\u00eb dhe ndihesha shum\u00eb keq. Edhe kur zgjohem nga gjumi, ndihem me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb shum\u00eb keq, aq sa me zor e marr veten. Pres nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje.
\n– S\u00eb pari, p\u00ebr maman\u00eb nuk duhet t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsoheni, sepse ajo do t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb mir\u00eb. Thjesht, do t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb nj\u00eb ndryshim brenda jush n\u00eb t\u00eb menduar, apo n\u00eb sjelljen tuaj. Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb kuptimi i par\u00eb i \u00ebndrr\u00ebs. E qara n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb, sepse tregon ngush\u00ebllim n\u00eb jet\u00ebn reale. Pra, ju do t\u00eb ngush\u00eblloheni realisht, pasi t\u00eb keni kaluar nj\u00eb moment ose periudh\u00eb t\u00eb shkurt\u00ebr t\u00eb sikletshme q\u00eb mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsor, personal apo edhe familjar. R\u00ebnd\u00ebsi ka t\u00eb mos e l\u00ebshoni veten dhe t\u00eb kujdeseni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr gjith\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb ju nevojitet.<\/p>\n
U fejova
\n– Kam par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr pas or\u00ebs 4 t\u00eb m\u00ebngjesit sikur te sht\u00ebpia ime kishin ardhur motrat e babait dhe shum\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrm t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, sepse isha fejuar. Un\u00eb shkova te nj\u00eb dyqan k\u00ebtu af\u00ebr sht\u00ebpis\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb bler\u00eb disa peshqeshe p\u00ebr t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit. Shit\u00ebsja m\u00eb pyeti se me \u00e7’rast po i blija. Un\u00eb i thash\u00eb se isha fejuar dhe ajo m\u00eb uroi. Pastaj, pash\u00eb sikur t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit po largoheshin, ne po i p\u00ebrcillnim te porta dhe po p\u00ebrsh\u00ebndeteshim me ta. Pash\u00eb se edhe shit\u00ebsja kishte dal\u00eb nga dyqani dhe po shihte t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit q\u00eb po largoheshin nga sht\u00ebpia ime. Theksoj se jam beqare, 29 vje\u00e7e.
\n– E nderuar 29 vje\u00e7are, mendoj se e gjith\u00eb \u00ebndrra juaj ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me shqet\u00ebsimin tuaj t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm dhe t\u00eb familjes gjithashtu n\u00eb lidhje me t\u00eb ardhmen tuaj p\u00ebrsa i p\u00ebrket jet\u00ebs n\u00eb \u00e7ift. Edhe ju vet\u00eb keni frik\u00eb p\u00ebr fatin tuaj dhe n\u00eb nj\u00ebfar\u00eb m\u00ebnyre, d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb b\u00ebheni \u00e7ift sa m\u00eb shpejt. Pra, n\u00eb \u00ebndrra, shfaqet n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb d\u00ebshira juaj q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebheni \u00e7ift, por edhe shqet\u00ebsimi e frika p\u00ebr fatin tuaj. Megjithat\u00eb, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, \u00ebndrra jep edhe nj\u00ebfar\u00eb sinjali; ka shum\u00eb mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb keni v\u00ebrtet nj\u00eb rast p\u00ebr t\u2019u fejuar, ama nuk duhet ta p\u00ebrflisni shum\u00eb, sidomos me personat q\u00eb ndodhen jasht\u00eb familjes tuaj. Pasi t\u00eb arrini t\u00eb realizoni at\u00eb q\u00eb d\u00ebshironi, pra, t\u00eb b\u00ebni di\u00e7ka zyrtare, at\u00ebhere mund t\u00eb flisni p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje, edhe jasht\u00eb rrethit familjar. P\u00ebr momentin, duhet ta b\u00ebni vet\u00ebm me njer\u00ebzit e besuar, q\u00eb kuptohet se jan\u00eb familja. Mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtim ndonj\u00eb shoqe shum\u00eb, po shum\u00eb e ngusht\u00eb. Uroj q\u00eb \u00ebndrra juaj t\u00eb b\u00ebhet v\u00ebrtet realitet, t\u00eb jet\u00eb e mbar\u00eb dhe e bukur p\u00ebr ju. <\/p>\n
Te Kisha e La\u00e7it
\n– Kam par\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr nga ora 1.30 e nat\u00ebs, sikur ndodhesha p\u00ebrpara fush\u00ebs s\u00eb Kish\u00ebs s\u00eb La\u00e7it. Aty ishim vet\u00ebm 3 veta t\u00eb panjohur p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. P\u00ebrpara nesh ndodheshin tri vende n\u00eb form\u00ebn e nj\u00eb kove t\u00eb madhe, t\u00eb betonuara, ku ne t\u00eb tre do t\u00eb b\u00ebnimm kurban nj\u00eb person. Nj\u00ebri ishte nga lab\u00ebria, 50 vje\u00e7, ajo tjetra e mosh\u00ebs 45 vje\u00e7e. Un\u00eb dhe labi kishim nga nj\u00eb pul\u00eb t\u00eb zez\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa ajo tjetra pul\u00eb laramane, t\u00eb cilat ishin vendosur n\u00eb vendin ku do b\u00ebheshin kurban. P\u00ebrpara nesh ishin edhe 5 cop\u00eb qirinj jeshil\u00eb t\u00eb ndezur nga pak, por p\u00ebr momentin ishin t\u00eb fikura. Un\u00eb mora vet\u00ebm 4 cop\u00eb dhe thoja me vete \u201ckaq m\u00eb duhen. Do t\u00eb lutem p\u00ebr tre yjet e mi si dhe p\u00ebr veten time q\u00eb t\u00eb jem n\u00ebna m\u00eb e lumtur p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebn e yjeve t\u00eb mi\u201d. N\u00eb fakt, nuk arrita t\u00eb ndizja asnj\u00eb, por i thash\u00eb zonj\u00ebs q\u00eb ishte me ne q\u00eb t\u00eb merrte qiririn e pest\u00eb e t\u00eb fundit q\u00eb ta ndizte p\u00ebr Marien, e cila faktikisht \u00ebsht\u00eb e s\u00ebmur\u00eb dhe i thoja: \u201cB\u00ebj sevap moj grua, ndizja se \u00ebsht\u00eb gjynah\u201d, por ajo qeshte me nj\u00eb sarkaz\u00ebm t\u00eb llahtarshme, q\u00eb m\u00eb tmerroi. N\u00eb momentin q\u00eb do t\u00eb nd\u00ebrroja pul\u00ebn n\u00eb krahun tjet\u00ebr, u frik\u00ebsova sepse k\u00ebmba e majt\u00eb e pul\u00ebs u shk\u00ebput dhe ngeli e varur. E tmerruar nga kjo sken\u00eb, u zgjova mjaft e tronditur. Ju lutem, ma shpjegoni k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr se jam n\u00eb ankth…
\n– E nderuar zonj\u00eb, \u00ebndrra juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e komplikuar, duket qart\u00eb q\u00eb ju jeni tip pak ankthioz n\u00eb lidhje me gjith\u00e7ka n\u00eb jet\u00eb, por p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht, n\u00eb lidhje me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tuaj. Keni nj\u00eb merak, nj\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm, gj\u00eb q\u00eb e dini vet\u00ebm ju dhe q\u00eb ju shfaqet n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr. At\u00ebhere, p\u00ebr t\u00eb qet\u00ebsuar veten tuaj dhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, sepse mund t\u00eb reflektoni gjendje jo t\u00eb mir\u00eb tek ata, duhet t\u00eb shkoni n\u00eb nj\u00eb vend t\u00eb mir\u00eb ku besoni dhe t\u00eb luteni p\u00ebr qet\u00ebsin\u00eb tuaj n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb, sh\u00ebndetin tuaj dhe sh\u00ebndetin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tuaj. Pra, keni nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb falni di\u00e7ka diku, dikujt q\u00eb ka nevoj\u00eb dhe t\u00eb ndizni qirinj duke u lutur si\u00e7 ju thash\u00eb m\u00eb sip\u00ebr p\u00ebr qet\u00ebsin\u00eb dhe sh\u00ebndetin tuaj p\u00ebrpara e m\u00eb pas p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt sepse nga \u00ebndrra duket q\u00eb ju nuk jeni shum\u00eb mir\u00eb nga ana shpirt\u00ebrore. Duhet t\u00eb qet\u00ebsoheni dhe t\u00eb merreni me sh\u00ebndetin tuaj fizik, shpirt\u00ebror dhe psikologjik. Pra, \u00ebndrra nuk parashikon ngjarje, thjesht ju k\u00ebshillon p\u00ebr ato q\u00eb ju thash\u00eb m\u00eb sip\u00ebr. Ju uroj sh\u00ebndet!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Minj n\u00eb trupin tim – Para dy net\u00ebsh kam par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr shum\u00eb minj dhe m\u2019u shpif, sepse m\u00eb ngjiteshin n\u00eb trup. Nga tmerri, u zgjova nga gjumi. Pres nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje nga ana juaj, ju lutem. Faleminderit. – Minjt\u00eb q\u00eb keni par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr e q\u00eb ju jan\u00eb ngjitur n\u00eb trup, tregojn\u00eb frik\u00ebrat tuaja, irritimet […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[91],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5693","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-endrra"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5693","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5693"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5693\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5693"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5693"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5693"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}