Sa shpejt erdhi Sh\u00ebn Valentini! Sa shpejt, edhe dit\u00eblindja! Po, koha kalon shpejt dhe kalendari na e kujton k\u00ebt\u00eb vazhdimisht. P\u00ebr disa njer\u00ebz, ky fatalitet \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shpat\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb Damokleu mbi kok\u00ebn ton\u00eb; atyre u bie morali p\u00ebrtok\u00eb sapo e \u00e7ojn\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebr mend. T\u00eb tjer\u00eb, m\u00eb filozof\u00eb, mendojn\u00eb se vitet na pasurojn\u00eb me eksperienca t\u00eb reja dhe fakti i plakjes na afron pak nga pak me diturin\u00eb. Ka edhe nga ata q\u00eb e pranojn\u00eb si di\u00e7ka t\u00eb natyrshme: Meq\u00eb koha nuk mund t\u00eb ngadal\u00ebsohet, s\u2019ka arsye pse ta prish\u00ebsh gjakun; m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb mendosh pozitivisht dhe t\u00eb buz\u00ebqesh\u00ebsh\u2026 Po ju, si mendoni? \u00c7far\u00eb zhurme b\u00ebn klesidra e koh\u00ebs n\u00eb vesh\u00ebt tuaj? B\u00ebni testin ton\u00eb, p\u00ebr ta kuptuar…<\/p>\n
1. \u201cKeni nj\u00eb pamje t\u00eb lodhur sot\u201d, ju thot\u00eb parukieri, kurse ju mendoni:
\na. Ai ka d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb flas.
\nb. Ky njeri s\u2019ka takt.
\nc. Duhet t\u2019i ket\u00eb r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb sy q\u00eb jam e shqet\u00ebsuar.
\nd. Nuk i dukem t\u00ebrheq\u00ebse.<\/p>\n
2. I kushtoni v\u00ebmendje m\u00ebnyr\u00ebs s\u00eb si vishen t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit tuaj:
\na. Kurr\u00eb
\nb. Po, por nuk b\u00ebni komente.
\nc. Po dhe b\u00ebni shpesh komente.
\nd. Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb.<\/p>\n
3. T\u00eb thoni mosh\u00ebn…
\na. …nuk p\u00ebrb\u00ebn asnj\u00eb problem p\u00ebr ju.
\nb. Ju ia ktheni tjetrit shpesh me pyetjen: \u201cSa vje\u00e7 m\u00eb jepni?\u201d.
\nc. Nuk paraqet, sipas jush, asnj\u00eb interes. Ne jemi aq vje\u00e7 sa dukemi.
\nd. Ju bezdis, e evitoni.<\/p>\n
4. Kur sh\u00ebtisni n\u00eb rrug\u00eb, ju ndodh t\u00eb shihni pasqyrimin tuaj n\u00eb pasqyra apo vitrina?
\na. Rrall\u00eb
\nb. Nuk ju kujtohet
\nc. Po, shum\u00eb shpesh!
\nd. Her\u00eb pas here.<\/p>\n
5. Keni nj\u00eb kujtes\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb?
\na. Po
\nb. \u00c7ka, sepse e vini n\u00eb pun\u00eb!
\nc. Sa vjen e m\u00eb pak!
\nd. Varet n\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb fushe.<\/p>\n
6. Shumica e miqve q\u00eb keni…
\na. Kan\u00eb pak e shum\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn mosh\u00eb me ju.
\nb. Jan\u00eb me shpirt t\u00eb ri, kjo ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi!
\nc. Jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb rinj.
\nd. Jan\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha moshave.<\/p>\n
7. Hyni n\u00eb nj\u00eb dyqan veshjesh, q\u00eb e vler\u00ebsoni shum\u00eb:
\na. Provoni shum\u00eb modele, vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr qejf.
\nb. U k\u00ebrkoni k\u00ebshill\u00eb shit\u00ebseve p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb zgjedhjen tuaj.
\nc. Kufizoni provat, pasi e keni tmerr t\u00eb provoni shum\u00eb rroba.
\nd. Hezitoni, pasi nuk arrini t\u00eb vendosni kurr\u00eb…<\/p>\n
8. Kur shihni fotot tuaja, kur ishit i\/e re:
\na. Zbaviteni! N\u00eb to, rigjeni fytyrat dhe mjediset e njohura.
\nb. Ju intereson, sepse p\u00ebrpiqeni t\u00eb shihni si keni evoluar.
\nc. Trishtoheni… Sa vite kan\u00eb kaluar!
\nd. Shqet\u00ebsoheni, pasi sillni nd\u00ebrmend shum\u00eb kujtime…<\/p>\n
9. Ju visheni m\u00eb shum\u00eb…
\na. Me ngjyra t\u00eb g\u00ebzuara, t\u00eb \u00e7elura.
\nb. Duke ndjekur mod\u00ebn q\u00eb ndryshon \u00e7do vit!
\nc. Me tone pastel
\nd. Sipas humorit tuaj.<\/p>\n
10. Interneti n\u00eb telefonin celular \u00ebsht\u00eb:
\na. I paz\u00ebvend\u00ebsuesh\u00ebm, n\u00eb dit\u00ebt tona.
\nb. Zbavit\u00ebs, nj\u00eb lloj loje…
\nc. I panevojsh\u00ebm dhe i shtrenjt\u00eb
\nd. I dobish\u00ebm p\u00ebr disa…<\/p>\n
11. Ju ndodh t\u00eb k\u00ebrceni n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, vet\u00ebm, para pasqyr\u00ebs:
\na. Po, shum\u00eb shpesh dhe duke k\u00ebnduar me sa keni n\u00eb kok\u00eb
\nb. Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb, por rrall\u00eb.
\nc. Kurr\u00eb
\nd. Ju ndodh kur jeni me humor t\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n
12. N\u00ebse do t\u00eb kishit mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb ishit i\/e sigurt\u00eb p\u00ebr rezultatet, do t’i n\u00ebnshtroheshit kirurgjis\u00eb estetike?
\na. Jeni kategorikisht kund\u00ebr k\u00ebsaj!
\nb. Jo, p\u00ebr arsye t\u00eb ndryshme…
\nc. Po, pa hezituar!
\nd. Po, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb ose dy gj\u00ebra t\u00eb vogla.<\/p>\n
13. Jeni kthyer nga pushimet dhe hipni n\u00eb peshore: Dy kilogram\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb…
\na. Epo mir\u00eb, nj\u00eb diet\u00eb e shkurt\u00ebr dhe gjith\u00e7ka shkon n\u00eb vend.
\nb. S\u2019ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi, dy kilogram\u00eb s\u2019jan\u00eb asgj\u00eb…
\nc. S\u2019ka nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb hipni mbi peshore, e dinit…
\nd. Kjo ju ul moralin. Vjeshta fillon keq…<\/p>\n
14. Shoqja juaj e ngusht\u00eb ju tregon se keni rrudha t\u00eb lezetshme shprehjeje kur buz\u00ebqeshni. Reagimi juaj:
\na. Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb e sinqert\u00eb, rrudhat mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb sharm.
\nb. V\u00ebrtet?
\nb. Rrudha \u201ct\u00eb lezetshme\u201d! Po tallesh me mua?
\nd. Shkoni t\u00eb shiheni n\u00eb pasqyr\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb \u201cp\u00ebrs\u00ebri\u201d k\u00ebto rrudha t\u00eb reja…<\/p>\n
15. Ktheheni n\u00eb vendin ku kalonit pushimet kur ishit f\u00ebmij\u00eb. Gjith\u00e7ka ka ndryshuar, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb keq, por ju nuk e njihni m\u00eb zon\u00ebn!
\na. Luani rolin e dedektivit p\u00ebr t\u00eb rikujtuar vendet e dikurshme.
\nb. Aq m\u00eb mir\u00eb! Vendi duket m\u00eb modern dhe tani mund t\u00eb vijn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz
\nc. Ia mbathni me t\u00eb katra, me zemr\u00ebn e ang\u00ebshtuar.
\nd. Normale, ndjehesh shpesh i\/e zhg\u00ebnjyer kur rikthehesh n\u00eb vendet e f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb.<\/p>\n
16. Takoni n\u00eb rrug\u00eb nj\u00eb shoqe q\u00eb nuk e keni par\u00eb prej 10 vjet\u00ebsh. Ajo ju hidhet n\u00eb qaf\u00eb, duke ju th\u00ebn\u00eb: \u201cTi s\u2019ke ndryshuar fare!\u201d…
\na. Bukur, ky kompliment ju k\u00ebnaq.
\nb. Mbase \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Sido q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb, ju keni qejf ta besoni…
\nc. Ia fut kot! Ajo ka ndryshuar, ashtu si edhe ju!
\nd. Xhentilesa t\u00eb b\u00ebn t\u00eb thuash fjal\u00eb q\u00eb s\u2019i mendon!<\/p>\n
Rezultatet
\nN\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb a. Koha kalon dhe ju p\u00ebrfitoni prej k\u00ebsaj
\nJo, juve nuk ju vjen keq p\u00ebr koh\u00ebn q\u00eb kalon, p\u00ebrkundrazi, mendoni se gj\u00ebrat nuk m\u00ebsohen t\u00eb gjitha n\u00eb nj\u00eb koh\u00eb. Ne b\u00ebjm\u00eb p\u00ebrpara n\u00eb jet\u00eb progresivisht, duke b\u00ebr\u00eb prova, nganj\u00ebher\u00eb gabime dhe, fal\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, arrijm\u00eb t\u00eb zgjedhim at\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr ne dhe t\u00eb jemi gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb t\u00eb lir\u00eb. Koha nuk shkat\u00ebrron asgj\u00eb; ajo nd\u00ebrton. Sipas jush, dituria vjen me mosh\u00ebn dhe fakti q\u00eb rrethoheni nga persona t\u00eb pjekur, mendoni se ju pasuron bot\u00ebn e brendshme. Pik\u00ebv\u00ebshtrimi juaj mbi koh\u00ebn \u00ebsht\u00eb v\u00ebrtet shum\u00eb pozitiv! N\u00eb realitet, ju nuk keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb luftoni kund\u00ebr mullinjve t\u00eb er\u00ebs. Dit\u00ebt pasojn\u00eb net\u00ebt dhe nj\u00eb vit kalon pas tjetrit. K\u00ebshtu \u00ebsht\u00eb, askush nuk mund ta ndryshoj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb. At\u00ebhere, ju sforcoheni t\u00eb shihni an\u00ebn pozitive t\u00eb gj\u00ebrave! P\u00ebr pasoj\u00eb, vendosni t\u00eb luftoni nj\u00eb terrene ku keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb shanse p\u00ebr ta fituar betej\u00ebn. Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, jeni filozof\/e.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb b. Koha kalon dhe ju b\u00ebni p\u00ebrpara
\nJeta k\u00ebshtu \u00ebsht\u00eb gatuar! E pse t\u00eb revoltohesh kund\u00ebr koh\u00ebs q\u00eb kalon? Ju e pranoni k\u00ebt\u00eb fatalitet q\u00eb u p\u00ebrket t\u00eb gjith\u00ebve. T\u00eb themi t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e sigurt\u00eb q\u00eb ju keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb ngadal\u00ebsoni rrjedh\u00ebn e ekzistenc\u00ebs suaj, pasi kalimi i koh\u00ebs ka edhe an\u00ebt e veta pozitive. Me kalimin e mosh\u00ebs, m\u00ebsojm\u00eb t\u00eb relativizojm\u00eb gj\u00ebrat, t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb njohje t\u00eb reja, t\u00eb zgjedhim m\u00eb mir\u00eb njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb na rrethojn\u00eb… Nxjerrim m\u00ebsim nga eksperiencat e kaluara dhe e shohim jet\u00ebn me sy tjet\u00ebr. Pa dyshim, ju dini t\u00eb arsyetoni mjaft mir\u00eb, gj\u00eb q\u00eb ju ndihmon p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos jetuar me nostalgjin\u00eb e s\u00eb shkuar\u00ebs. Sigurisht, ju ndodh t\u00eb ndjeni pesh\u00ebn e viteve dhe keqardhje p\u00ebr disa momente t\u00eb rinis\u00eb suaj, por kjo nuk zgjat kurr\u00eb, sepse thell\u00eb n\u00eb vetvete, ju nuk keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb ta ktheni koh\u00ebn prapa. Ka mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb disa periudha t\u00eb jet\u00ebs suaj t\u00eb mos ju ken\u00eb l\u00ebn\u00eb vet\u00ebm kujtime t\u00eb bukura… K\u00ebshtu, preferoni ta hidhni v\u00ebshtrimin p\u00ebrpara, por qet\u00ebsisht, pa u nxituar.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb c. Koha kalon dhe kjo ju streson
\nSi t’ia b\u00ebni q\u00eb t\u00eb mos i shihni vitet t\u00eb ikin kaq shpejt? \u00cbsht\u00eb e pamundur! Gjith\u00e7ka jua kujton k\u00ebt\u00eb or\u00eb e minut\u00eb. Kur shiheni n\u00eb pasqyr\u00eb, ju shihni t\u00eb lind\u00eb nj\u00eb rrudh\u00eb e vog\u00ebl k\u00ebtu, nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr atje… dhe e dini mir\u00eb se kjo do t\u00eb vazhdoj\u00eb pa pushim. Sado q\u00eb t\u00eb luftoni p\u00ebr t\u00eb q\u00ebndruar i ri\/e re dhe energjik\/e, nuk arrini ta pranoni faktin se po plakeni duke ruajtur buz\u00ebqeshjen n\u00eb buz\u00eb. Ju keni nj\u00eb p\u00ebrshtypje t\u00eb dhimbshme se jeni n\u00eb nj\u00eb rr\u00ebpir\u00eb t\u00eb rr\u00ebshqitshme, drejtimin e s\u00eb cil\u00ebs nuk mund ta ndryshoni dot.
\nPse t’i shihni vitet q\u00eb vijn\u00eb vet\u00ebm me nj\u00eb sy negativ? Sharmin nuk e p\u00ebrb\u00ebn vet\u00ebm aspekti estetik, ju keni edhe shum\u00eb dhunti t\u00eb tjera. Mbase nuk besoni shum\u00eb te vlerat tuaja personale? P\u00ebrpiquni t\u00eb hidhni pak m\u00eb shum\u00eb drit\u00eb te cil\u00ebsit\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebjn\u00eb aft\u00ebsit\u00eb tuaja josh\u00ebse dhe q\u00eb ju p\u00ebrkasin vet\u00ebm juve. At\u00ebhere, do t\u00eb konstatoni se tiparet tuaja personale jan\u00eb nj\u00eb koncept m\u00eb i gjer\u00eb sesa thjesht pamja fizike.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb d. Koha kalon dhe ju ndjeheni fajtor\/e.
\nKoha kalon, ju e konstatoni, por n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e p\u00ebrditshme, kjo nuk p\u00ebrb\u00ebn nj\u00eb problem t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb p\u00ebr ju. Ju p\u00ebrpiqeni t\u00eb p\u00ebrfitoni nga e tashmja, pa menduar vazhdimisht p\u00ebr pleq\u00ebrin\u00eb q\u00eb ju pret n\u00eb cepin e rrug\u00ebs… Por, kur sillni nd\u00ebrmend kujtimet tuaja, keni p\u00ebrshtypjen se vitet kan\u00eb kaluar me nj\u00eb shpejt\u00ebsi marramend\u00ebse dhe nganj\u00ebher\u00eb e pyesni veten se \u00e7far\u00eb keni b\u00ebr\u00eb gjat\u00eb k\u00ebsaj periudhe! At\u00ebhere keni tendenc\u00eb ta ndjeni veten n\u00eb faj: Duhet t\u00eb kisha b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb apo at\u00eb, nuk dita t\u00eb kap k\u00ebt\u00eb mund\u00ebsi, m\u00eb mungoi vullneti, etj.
\nMe nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, bilanci q\u00eb i b\u00ebni jet\u00ebs suaj nuk ju k\u00ebnaq dhe, p\u00ebr t\u00eb evituar gabimet n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen, ju merrni p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr zotime q\u00eb, sigurisht, \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb mbahen, pasi \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb ta programosh jet\u00ebn… N\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb shihni t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebn me sy kritik, v\u00ebrini vetes objektiva afatshkurtra, jo shum\u00eb ambicioze. K\u00ebshtu, ju mund t\u2019i konkretizoni dhe bilanci juaj do t\u2019ju duket shum\u00eb m\u00eb pak zhg\u00ebnjyes.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Sa shpejt erdhi Sh\u00ebn Valentini! Sa shpejt, edhe dit\u00eblindja! Po, koha kalon shpejt dhe kalendari na e kujton k\u00ebt\u00eb vazhdimisht. P\u00ebr disa njer\u00ebz, ky fatalitet \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shpat\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb Damokleu mbi kok\u00ebn ton\u00eb; atyre u bie morali p\u00ebrtok\u00eb sapo e \u00e7ojn\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebr mend. T\u00eb tjer\u00eb, m\u00eb filozof\u00eb, mendojn\u00eb se vitet na pasurojn\u00eb me eksperienca […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":5307,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[51],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5306","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-test"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5306","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5306"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5306\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5307"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5306"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5306"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5306"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}