– I nderuar Dr. Demiri, jam nj\u00eb jurist nga P\u00ebrmeti. Prej vitesh e lexoj \u201cIntervist\u00ebn\u201d dhe m\u00eb t\u00ebrheq sidomos faqja e psikologut. Kam d\u00ebgjuar edhe p\u00ebr psikoterapin\u00eb, hipnoterapin\u00eb q\u00eb ju p\u00ebrmendni dhe m\u00eb t\u00ebrheqin shum\u00eb. un\u00eb kam tjet\u00ebr profesion, por duke qen\u00eb se kjo fush\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00ebrheq shum\u00eb, pa ju v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb siklet, dua t\u2019ju pyes sinqerisht: A mund t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb q\u00eb njeriu t\u00eb b\u00ebhet psikolog rast\u00ebsisht? P\u00ebr shembull, ju, si ndodhi q\u00eb u b\u00ebt\u00eb psikolog? Me respekt, Bori.
\nDr. Jashar Demiri, psikolog klinicist: – I nderuar Bori, ju fal\u00ebnderoj p\u00ebr letr\u00ebn e sinqert\u00eb. Q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjes po jua them se asgj\u00eb nuk ndodh rast\u00ebsisht. Ne jemi shum\u00eb t\u00eb lidhur me Universin, i cili na d\u00ebrgon ca si \u201csinjale\u201d t\u00eb cilat ne nuk i kuptojm\u00eb dhe as nuk ua v\u00ebm\u00eb veshin, ndaj edhe i p\u00ebrshkruajm\u00eb si \u201crast\u00ebsi\u201d apo ndoshta, si fat. Thon\u00eb se fati ia zgjat dor\u00ebn guximtarit. Ekziston ajo q\u00eb quhet inteligjenca e Universit, e cila, n\u00eb fakt, \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb sh\u00ebrbimin ton\u00eb dhe vepron n\u00eb p\u00ebrputhje jo vet\u00ebm me at\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb ne d\u00ebshirojm\u00eb apo k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb me guxim, por edhe sepse besojm\u00eb se do ta kemi. Besimi \u00ebsht\u00eb si ajo busulla q\u00eb na drejton, besimi \u00ebsht\u00eb forca q\u00eb e v\u00eb n\u00eb l\u00ebvizje Universin. Vet\u00eb forca e Universit na d\u00ebrgon gjithnj\u00eb sinjale se cil\u00ebn rrug\u00eb duhet t\u00eb ndjekim q\u00eb t\u00eb arrijm\u00eb m\u00eb leht\u00eb drejt q\u00ebllimit ton\u00eb. Kur isha f\u00ebmij\u00eb, vet\u00ebm sa e kisha d\u00ebgjuar fjal\u00ebn psikolog, por jam rritur nga dy prind\u00ebr q\u00eb e kishin k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi t\u2019u sh\u00ebrbenin t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, sidomos babai im dentist dhe doktor popullor. Ai, bashk\u00eb me n\u00ebn\u00ebn, dit\u00ebn e nat\u00ebn punonin dhe kuptoja q\u00eb ata me k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi t\u00eb madhe \u00e7do dit\u00eb u vinin n\u00eb ndihm\u00eb njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb panum\u00ebrt q\u00eb trokisnin. Si? Falas! Kjo ka l\u00ebn\u00eb gjurm\u00eb n\u00eb vet\u00ebdijen time, sepse q\u00eb nga momenti q\u00eb ne b\u00ebhemi t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr bot\u00ebn q\u00eb na rrethon, pyesim veten se ku \u00ebsht\u00eb vendi yn\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb, \u00e7far\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb, me se duhet q\u00eb t\u2019u sh\u00ebrbejm\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve dhe \u00e7far\u00eb vendi duhet t\u00eb kemi n\u00eb jet\u00eb. A ka njeri q\u00eb nuk pyet se \u00e7far\u00eb \u201cfati\u201d na \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktuar n\u00eb jet\u00eb? Kur jemi f\u00ebmij\u00eb, ne i mendojm\u00eb aq shum\u00eb gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb i d\u00ebshirojm\u00eb dhe jeta na duket e k\u00ebndshme dhe e lir\u00eb, porse kur rritemi dhe arrijm\u00eb mosh\u00ebn e pjekuris\u00eb, fillojm\u00eb t\u2019i p\u00ebrjetojm\u00eb p\u00ebrkufizimet dhe shikimi yn\u00eb drejt s\u00eb ardhmes, sikur ngushtohet. Kontakti im i par\u00eb me psikologjin\u00eb n\u00eb koh\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb kan\u00eb qen\u00eb tre libra psikologjik\u00eb t\u00eb Tolstoit: \u201cFoshnj\u00ebria\u201d, \u201cF\u00ebmij\u00ebria\u201d, \u201cRinia\u201d, t\u00eb cilat m\u2019u duk\u00ebn shum\u00eb interesant\u00eb. Pastaj, gjeta n\u00eb nj\u00eb valixhe t\u00eb vjet\u00ebr nj\u00eb lib\u00ebr t\u00eb Frojdit, n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb ndaluar, t\u00eb cilin e lexova fshehtas babait dhe m\u00eb b\u00ebri shum\u00eb p\u00ebrshtypje sidomos pjesa q\u00eb thoshte se \u00e7do i ri duhet t\u00eb sublimoj\u00eb, pra, t\u2019i kanalizoj\u00eb n\u00eb drejtime t\u00eb dobishme nergjit\u00eb e tij p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn, p\u00ebr t\u2019u p\u00ebrgatitur p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen, me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb ato t\u00eb mos ia \u201chaj\u00eb\u201d kot\u00ebsia, obsesionet apo turbina e seksit. Pasioni im n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri ka qen\u00eb leximi dhe gjuh\u00ebt e huaja. Un\u00eb nuk e dija q\u00eb gjuh\u00ebt e huaja do t\u00eb m\u00eb duheshin aq shum\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb lexuar libra psikologjik\u00eb t\u00eb huaj q\u00eb n\u00eb ato koh\u00eb jepeshin vet\u00ebm me autorizim n\u00eb Bibliotek\u00ebn Komb\u00ebtare dhe, edhe ne pedagog\u00ebve, na rrinte punonj\u00ebsja e Bibliotek\u00ebs si \u201cpull\u00eb poste\u201d se mos fotografonim ndonj\u00eb faqe, apo ku ta di un\u00eb se p\u00ebrse.
\n– Nd\u00ebr vite, \u00ebnd\u00ebrroja nj\u00eb specializim apo master psikologjik jasht\u00eb, por kjo nuk ishte edhe aq e leht\u00eb. Ja q\u00eb jeta solli jo nj\u00eb, por disa mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb tilla, q\u00eb un\u00eb, n\u00eb fakt, i shfryt\u00ebzova. Sipas ligjit t\u00eb t\u00ebrheqjes, psikoterapia m\u00eb t\u00ebrhoqi mua dhe un\u00eb e t\u00ebrhoqa fort at\u00eb. Ligji i t\u00ebrheqjes na thot\u00eb se gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb ne e mendojm\u00eb dhe besojm\u00eb se do ta arrijm\u00eb, b\u00ebhet realitet. Ky ligj nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr mua, por p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, pa p\u00ebrjashtim. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pik\u00ebpamje, njeriun mund ta mendojm\u00eb si nj\u00eb magnet t\u00eb fort\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00ebrheq at\u00eb q\u00eb do. Ashtu si magnetet t\u00ebrheqin objekte, ashtu edhe ne t\u00ebrheqim ato gj\u00ebra q\u00eb i besojm\u00eb apo i d\u00ebshirojm\u00eb. Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb realiteti!
\nGjej rastin t\u2019u them edhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb student\u00ebve q\u00eb studiojn\u00eb p\u00ebr Psikologji se psikolog nuk do t\u2019i b\u00ebj\u00eb diploma, por puna, studimi, k\u00ebmb\u00ebngulja. M\u00eb vjen keq kur konstatoj student\u00eb me mjaft intelekt dhe energji, por q\u00eb nuk e mbledhim informacionin e duhur p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb psikolog\u00eb, ose mjaftohen vet\u00ebm me l\u00ebnd\u00ebt shkollore. Un\u00eb them se ka qen\u00eb jo vet\u00ebm motivimi im dhe egoja profesionale q\u00eb m\u00eb kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb psikolog, por edhe d\u00ebshirat apo ideali im, ndoshta edhe humanizmi deri n\u00eb altruiz\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit, p\u00ebr t\u2019i dh\u00ebn\u00eb kuptim jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tjetrit, p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb maksimumin. K\u00ebto i kam ndjer\u00eb edhe kur kam thyer disa tabu, si n\u00eb fush\u00ebn e edukat\u00ebs seksuale apo t\u00eb futjes s\u00eb edukimit n\u00eb burgje kur isha Drejtor i P\u00ebrgjithsh\u00ebm i Burgjeve etj. E t\u00ebr\u00eb zona fizike e njeriut p\u00ebrb\u00ebhet nga informacioni dhe energjia. Mendja jon\u00eb, pra, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb fush\u00eb e energjis\u00eb dhe e informacionit. Gjat\u00eb rrug\u00ebs sime t\u00eb gjat\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb psikolog, kam par\u00eb \u201c\u00e7udirat\u201d ose \u201cmagjit\u00eb\u201d aq t\u00eb bukura q\u00eb b\u00ebnte psikoterapia, por ajo q\u00eb m\u00eb ka bindur e q\u00eb e them me shum\u00eb siguri \u00ebsht\u00eb se njeriu ka brenda vetes aq shum\u00eb mund\u00ebsira, aq energji dhe potencial, sa do ta quaja k\u00ebt\u00eb, nj\u00eb det t\u00eb gjer\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebtij potenciali t\u00eb past\u00ebr. Vet\u00ebm varet se ku e se sa shum\u00eb e si shfryt\u00ebzohet, pasi deti \u00ebsht\u00eb det dhe t\u00eb gjitha t\u00eb mirat e tij t\u00eb pafundme p\u00ebrfitohen vet\u00ebm duke ia gjetur an\u00ebt, duke ia \u201cditur\u201d, duke zbatuar rregullat e \u201ceksplorimit\u201d dhe duke qen\u00eb i zellsh\u00ebm e i pap\u00ebrtuar. Kur punoj me klient\u00ebt, m\u00eb ngjan sikur fuqia ime nuk vjen nga un\u00eb, por nga e t\u00ebr\u00eb hap\u00ebsira e koha s\u00eb bashku. N\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb quhet zona virtuale e ekzistenc\u00ebs, e cila funksionon jasht\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00ebs e koh\u00ebs dhe ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb forca m\u00eb e madhe q\u00eb q\u00ebndron brenda e jasht\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00ebje. Ose, si\u00e7 thon\u00eb doktor\u00ebt besimtar\u00eb, ne jemi sebepi i mir\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet nesh njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb gjejn\u00eb sh\u00ebrimin nga Zoti i Madh. Por, q\u00eb t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb till\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb jemi shum\u00eb t\u00eb ditur!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– I nderuar Dr. Demiri, jam nj\u00eb jurist nga P\u00ebrmeti. Prej vitesh e lexoj \u201cIntervist\u00ebn\u201d dhe m\u00eb t\u00ebrheq sidomos faqja e psikologut. Kam d\u00ebgjuar edhe p\u00ebr psikoterapin\u00eb, hipnoterapin\u00eb q\u00eb ju p\u00ebrmendni dhe m\u00eb t\u00ebrheqin shum\u00eb. un\u00eb kam tjet\u00ebr profesion, por duke qen\u00eb se kjo fush\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00ebrheq shum\u00eb, pa ju v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb siklet, dua t\u2019ju […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5180","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5180","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5180"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5180\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5180"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5180"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5180"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}