{"id":4712,"date":"2014-10-24T17:00:52","date_gmt":"2014-10-24T15:00:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=4712"},"modified":"2014-10-24T12:38:54","modified_gmt":"2014-10-24T10:38:54","slug":"cpo-ndodh-me-djalin-tim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2014\/10\/cpo-ndodh-me-djalin-tim\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7\u2019po ndodh me djalin tim?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>&#8211; I nderuar Dr. Jashari, jam nj\u00eb prind shum\u00eb i shqet\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr djalin tim 27 vje\u00e7, nj\u00eb tip interesant dhe i papar\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu ka qen\u00eb q\u00eb i vog\u00ebl, por tani q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb rritur, na shqet\u00ebson shum\u00eb sjellja e tij. \u00cbsht\u00eb tip i dhunsh\u00ebm, p\u00ebrdor fjalor t\u00eb pis\u00ebta n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, shan, b\u00ebrtet dhe ofendon si pa t\u00eb keq, rri i mbyllur n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e tij me ambazhurin ndezur dhe pikturon figura imagjinare, p\u00ebrtej realitetit. Theksoj q\u00eb t\u00eb mesmen e ka b\u00ebr\u00eb p\u00ebr piktur\u00eb. P\u00ebshtyn n\u00eb mure n\u00eb \u00e7do \u00e7ast, ose n\u00eb dysheme. \u00a0Q\u00ebndron larg meje. Kur i afrohem pak, ai ngrihet, p\u00ebshtyn n\u00eb banj\u00eb dhe th\u00ebrret t\u00eb \u00ebm\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u2019i fryj\u00eb n\u00eb fytyr\u00eb. Ulet n\u00eb kompjuter me or\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebra, d\u00ebgjon muzik\u00eb, apo nxjerr pjes\u00eb nga fantashkenca. Beson se bota do p\u00ebrmbyset, por kan\u00eb kaluar disa 21 dhjetor\u00eb dhe nuk ka ndodhur asgj\u00eb. Flet p\u00ebr magjin\u00eb e zez\u00eb, urren v\u00ebllain, \u00ebsht\u00eb shk\u00ebputur nga shok\u00ebt sepse ata nuk mund ta pranojn\u00eb nj\u00eb tip t\u00eb till\u00eb. Kur ulet pran\u00eb tavolin\u00ebs p\u00ebr t\u00eb ngr\u00ebn\u00eb, k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb fiken dritat dhe ha me shum\u00eb kur ka pak ndri\u00e7im.<\/strong><strong> T\u00eb lutem, doktor Jashari, \u00e7\u2019po ndodh me t\u00eb? Faleminderit.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Dr. Jashar Demiri, psikolog klinicist: <\/em><\/strong>\u00a0&#8211; I nderuar prind, keni shum\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb q\u00eb jeni i shqet\u00ebsuar dhe ndoshta kjo p\u00ebrgjigjja ime do t\u2019ju shqet\u00ebsoj\u00eb edhe ca m\u00eb shum\u00eb, pasi si\u00e7 del nga letra, ju djalin e keni t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb, ose si\u00e7 e them un\u00eb me pak delikates\u00eb, e keni si \u201cpa qejf\u201d. Si\u00e7 thoni ju n\u00eb let\u00ebr, ai \u00ebsht\u00eb tip i dhunsh\u00ebm, p\u00ebrdor fjalor shum\u00eb t\u00eb pist\u00eb, b\u00ebrtet, ofendon, p\u00ebshtyn n\u00eb mure, beson gj\u00ebra t\u00eb frikshme t\u00eb paq\u00ebna, ushqehet me dritat fikur, n\u00eb err\u00ebsir\u00eb dhe k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb \u00ebm\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u2019i fryj\u00eb n\u00eb fytyr\u00eb. Djali tani qenka 27 vje\u00e7, paska mbaruar p\u00ebr piktur\u00eb dhe pikturoka figura imagjinare p\u00ebrtej realitetit. Nj\u00eb gj\u00eb k\u00ebtu del e qart\u00eb; problemet e djalit tuaj paskan filluar qysh n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri, por ju, me sa kuptoj, nuk keni bashk\u00ebpunuar as me ndonj\u00eb psikolog apo psikopediat\u00ebr dhe ja, tani ka arritur deri k\u00ebtu puna sa rrezik djali jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb nuk e kupton aspak gjendjen e tij, por me siguri, nuk pranon as bashk\u00ebpunim me ne, punonj\u00ebsit e sh\u00ebndetit mendor. Dhe, m\u00eb vjen keq t\u2019jua them se aq shum\u00eb vuan ai djali juaj sa vet\u00ebm shpirti i tij e di se \u00e7\u2018heq dhe si rregull, ai nuk e kupton se \u00ebsht\u00eb i s\u00ebmur\u00eb, ndaj duhet m\u00ebshiruar e ndihmuar dhe jo t\u00eb quhet fajtor p\u00ebr gjendjen e tij. Ai futet aq shum\u00eb n\u00eb bot\u00ebn imagjinare saq\u00eb i \u201cshikon\u201d \u201ctmerret\u201d e saj sikur t\u00eb shihte ca \u00ebndrra t\u00eb llahtarshme me sy t\u00eb hapur dhe i shk\u00ebputur nga realiteti. Ai, p\u00ebr t\u00eb parandaluar t\u00eb k\u00ebqijat q\u00eb ia thon\u00eb, obsesionet e tmerrshme, b\u00ebn ca kompulsione q\u00eb i sheh si \u201czgjidhje\u201d, si shp\u00ebtim prej s\u00eb keqes. K\u00ebshtu, \u201crrezikun\u201d q\u00eb \u201csheh\u201d ai kur i afroheni ju, e \u201cshmang\u201d duke p\u00ebshtyr\u00eb n\u00eb banj\u00eb ose duke i fryr\u00eb n\u00eb fytyr\u00eb e \u00ebma. Por, kujdes, se duke vepruar t\u00eb shk\u00ebputur nga realiteti, k\u00ebta t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb ka rrezik t\u00eb tentojn\u00eb edhe t\u00eb vrasin dik\u00eb apo veten&#8230; S\u00ebmundja \u00ebsht\u00eb s\u00ebmundje dhe nuk kemi t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb k\u00ebtu vet\u00ebm me \u00e7rregullime t\u00eb personalitetit apo t\u00eb tipit \u00e7rregullime obsesive kompulsive. Si\u00e7 del nga letra juaj, ai nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i nd\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr gjendjen e vet, prandaj nuk kemi t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb k\u00ebtu me ndonj\u00eb patologji t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb. Ai, k\u00ebto q\u00eb b\u00ebn, i ka bindje t\u00eb thella dhe nuk i kupton si t\u00eb pav\u00ebrteta, porse i beson si k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuese, si krejt t\u00eb \u201cv\u00ebrteta\u201d, t\u00eb frikshme e t\u00eb rrezikshme, ndaj edhe ndjehet i acaruar, madje jasht\u00eb mase sepse ju t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt nuk ia besoni apo nuk e kuptoni \u201challin\u201d. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe arsyeja pse ai nuk ju pranon juve dhe ndoshta n\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00ebt na sulmojn\u00eb edhe ne doktor\u00ebve po qe se do t\u2019u themi q\u00eb nuk ka ndonj\u00eb rrezik, por kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e gjitha s\u00ebmundja e tij.<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; Por, vet\u00ebm nga letra juaj, un\u00eb nuk e kam aq t\u00eb leht\u00eb t\u00eb vendos kufirin e sakt\u00eb nd\u00ebrmjet asaj q\u00eb quhet patologji dhe pjes\u00ebs jo patologjike. P\u00ebr shembull, besimi se ekziston magjia e zez\u00eb, quhet besim i gabuar, por jo s\u00ebmundje. Frika patologjike dhe e paarsyeshme kur t\u00eb s\u00ebmurit i duket sikur \u201cshikon\u201d shenjat e saj edhe aty ku nuk ka, futet te patologjit\u00eb, pra halu\u00e7inacionet. Doktor\u00ebt duhet t\u00eb din\u00eb t\u00eb dallojn\u00eb me kujdes prognozat nga psikozat, pasi jo t\u00eb gjitha simptomat jan\u00eb s\u00ebmundje, kurse psikozat jan\u00eb s\u00ebmundje mendore, patologji, shpesh, deri t\u00eb r\u00ebnda. Por edhe pse jan\u00eb patologji, jo t\u00eb gjitha trajtohen me \u201cartilerin\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00eb\u201d t\u00eb barnave, pasi patologjit\u00eb e lehta apo t\u00eb mesme trajtohen me mjaft sukses me terapit\u00eb e \u00ebmbla. Mos u \u00e7udisni, kam sh\u00ebruar plot\u00ebsisht pacient\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebt psikiatr\u00ebt i kan\u00eb trajtuar n\u00ebp\u00ebr rrethe me zyprex (alanzapine) ose rispolept, kur n\u00eb fakt, atyre k\u00ebto ila\u00e7e nuk u kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb dobi sepse \u201ci s\u00ebmuri\u201d nuk ka qen\u00eb i s\u00ebmur\u00eb, ndaj ka gjetur tek un\u00eb sh\u00ebrim t\u00eb plot\u00eb vet\u00ebm me psikoterapi dhe ca ila\u00e7e bimore. Shum\u00eb shpesh, t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00ebt me obsesione e plot \u201c\u00e7udira\u201d t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb ankthit, p\u00ebrngjajn\u00eb shum\u00eb me t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00ebt mendor\u00eb q\u00eb manifestojn\u00eb \u201cdelir\u201d dhe k\u00ebtu situata mund t\u00eb ngat\u00ebrrohet fare leht\u00eb, pasi ata jan\u00eb aq t\u00eb frik\u00ebsuar e si t\u00eb \u201cderealizuar\u201d dhe me ata q\u00eb thon\u00eb ia futin aq kot, sa alarmojn\u00eb jo vet\u00ebm prind\u00ebrit, por edhe doktor\u00ebt e pap\u00ebrvoj\u00eb. Ata b\u00ebjn\u00eb edhe ca sjellje si tip \u201cekzibicionesh\u201d sa t\u00eb lemerisin me ato \u00e7udit\u00eb e k\u00ebqija dhe n\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, n\u00eb vend t\u00eb psikoterapis\u00eb apo terapive t\u00eb \u00ebmbla, psikiatr\u00ebt u \u201crrasin\u201d atyre ila\u00e7et kund\u00ebr skizofrenis\u00eb apo depresionit. T\u00eb mos harrojm\u00eb se kur par\u00ebsor \u00ebsht\u00eb ankthi, t\u00eb gjitha shfaqjet depresive apo \u201c\u00e7udit\u00eb\u201d q\u00eb rrjedhin prej tij nuk jan\u00eb as depresion bipolar e as s\u00ebmundje, pasi vet\u00eb ankthi nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb s\u00ebmundje, dhe p\u00ebr t\u2019u kuruar t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto, duhet kuruar ankthi nga i cili burojn\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebqiat. Diagnostikimi i sakt\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr se gjysma e pun\u00ebs n\u00eb profesionin ton\u00eb, ndaj bashk\u00ebpunimi me psikologun psikiat\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8211; I nderuar Dr. Jashari, jam nj\u00eb prind shum\u00eb i shqet\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr djalin tim 27 vje\u00e7, nj\u00eb tip interesant dhe i papar\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu ka qen\u00eb q\u00eb i vog\u00ebl, por tani q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb rritur, na shqet\u00ebson shum\u00eb sjellja e tij. \u00cbsht\u00eb tip i dhunsh\u00ebm, p\u00ebrdor fjalor t\u00eb pis\u00ebta n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, shan, b\u00ebrtet dhe [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4712","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4712","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4712"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4712\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4712"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4712"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4712"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}