{"id":4656,"date":"2014-10-22T14:00:08","date_gmt":"2014-10-22T12:00:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=4656"},"modified":"2014-10-22T12:04:01","modified_gmt":"2014-10-22T10:04:01","slug":"shpjegimi-i-endrres-tuaj-5","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2014\/10\/shpjegimi-i-endrres-tuaj-5\/","title":{"rendered":"Shpjegimi i endrres tuaj…"},"content":{"rendered":"

Flok\u00ebt dhe vajza e vog\u00ebl<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Kam par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr sikur isha me nj\u00eb shok te sht\u00ebpia ime dhe po i krihja flok\u00ebt. Ai i kishte flok\u00ebt t\u00eb gjat\u00eb dhe t\u00eb zinj. Kisha edhe nj\u00eb tas me uj\u00eb dhe flok\u00ebt ran\u00eb n\u00eb tasin e ujit. Pastaj, e puthja dhe e p\u00ebrqafoja. Af\u00ebr nesh ishte nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb e vog\u00ebl me sy boj\u00ebqielli. Ky shoku m\u00eb tha: \u201cBoll, mos m\u00eb puth m\u00eb, se \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo goca, \u00ebsht\u00eb turp se \u00ebsht\u00eb e vog\u00ebl\u201d. Ajo goca na pa gjith\u00eb inat dhe iku.<\/strong><\/p>\n

– E gjitha \u00ebndrra juaj ka lidhje me bot\u00ebn erotike dhe at\u00eb t\u00eb ndjenjave. Shoku q\u00eb keni par\u00eb mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb po ai q\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrroni ju n\u00eb jet\u00ebn reale, pra, partneri me t\u00eb cilin d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb ndani gjith\u00e7ka n\u00eb jet\u00eb. Kushdo t\u00eb jet\u00eb, p\u00ebr momentin, tregon q\u00eb ka shum\u00eb mendime n\u00eb kok\u00eb dhe ndodhet mes nj\u00eb zgjedhjeje t\u00eb cil\u00ebn e ka t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb ta b\u00ebj\u00eb. Flok\u00ebt kan\u00eb shum\u00eb kuptime, por n\u00eb rastin konkret, tregojn\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht mendimet e shumta. Uji ka lidhje me jet\u00ebn personale; ai d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb personale, t\u00eb qet\u00eb dhe me shum\u00eb dashuri. Puthjet, jan\u00eb po d\u00ebshirat tuaja p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb n\u00eb qend\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebmendjes, nevoja p\u00ebr dashuri dhe p\u00ebrkujdesje. Vajza e vog\u00ebl tregon se keni frik\u00eb dhe turp t\u00eb shprehni ato \u00e7far\u00eb realisht k\u00ebrkoni dhe ndjeni n\u00eb jet\u00ebn reale. Mund t\u2019ju jepen raste q\u00eb t\u00eb realizoni ato q\u00eb d\u00ebshironi, por di\u00e7ka do t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebr momentin t\u00eb mos i p\u00ebrjetoni, por t\u00eb largoheni ashtu si n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr. Gjith\u00eb t\u00eb mirat!<\/p>\n

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Me rroba t\u00eb zeza<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Motra ime kishte par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr sikur iknim me autobus t\u00eb dyja, por un\u00eb isha me rroba t\u00eb zeza. N\u00eb krahun tjet\u00ebr ishte nj\u00eb mashkull me rroba t\u00eb zeza. Po at\u00eb nat\u00eb, m\u00eb kishte par\u00eb goca e motr\u00ebs sikur iknim me autobus t\u00eb dyja. Aty hipi edhe n\u00ebna e t\u00eb dashurit tim q\u00eb tha: \u201cE kam rrug\u00ebn me ju\u201d dhe m\u00eb shihte mua. Un\u00eb kam par\u00eb para disa muajsh sikur k\u00ebrkoja di\u00e7ka, m\u00eb pas hapa nj\u00eb dollap t\u00eb montuar n\u00eb mur, ku gjeta nj\u00eb byzylyk floriri dhe thash\u00eb: \u201cPo un\u00eb, tani q\u00eb ka vdekur babi, e gjeta?!\u201d. Pres nj\u00eb shpjegim nga ana juaj. Me respekt, Mira. <\/strong><\/p>\n

– E dashur Mira, nuk duhet t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsoheni; jo gjithmon\u00eb rroba e zez\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr tregon ndonj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe. \u00cbndrra tregon mendimet tuaja q\u00eb p\u00ebr momentin duken shum\u00eb t\u00eb zymta n\u00eb lidhje me t\u00eb ardhmen tuaj. Mendoni se mund t\u2019i humbisni fare leht\u00eb njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb doni, por nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Hipja n\u00eb autobus tregon nj\u00eb lloj ndryshimi q\u00eb do t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj, por q\u00eb do t\u00eb jet\u00eb p\u00ebr mir\u00eb sepse ju keni ecur me autobus, aty ka qen\u00eb edhe n\u00ebna e t\u00eb dashurit tuaj, pra, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb nj\u00eb bised\u00eb serioze do t\u00eb hapet mes jush dhe familjes s\u00eb djalit q\u00eb doni. Gjetja e byzylykut tregon nj\u00eb ndryshim pozitiv; ka shum\u00eb mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb lidhja juaj t\u00eb b\u00ebhet zyrtare, por keni nj\u00eb merak q\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7do g\u00ebzim q\u00eb do t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetoni, do t\u00eb ndjeni munges\u00ebn e babait e do t\u00eb thoni me vete: \u201cPo si nuk e pata k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb, kur ai ishte gjall\u00eb?\u201d. Megjithat\u00eb, mos u shqet\u00ebsoni. Edhe pse n\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, prind\u00ebrit jan\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb pran\u00eb nesh.<\/p>\n

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Kafshim qeni<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Mbr\u00ebm\u00eb pash\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr sikur nj\u00eb qen m\u00eb nguli dh\u00ebmb\u00ebt n\u00eb kofsh\u00eb e m\u00eb dhimbte shum\u00eb, por gjak nuk pash\u00eb, ama ndjeja dhimbje. Si mund t\u00eb ma shpjegoni k\u00ebt\u00eb, ju lutem?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– <\/strong>Qeni n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr ka shum\u00eb kuptime. S\u00eb pari, tregon nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb karakterit tuaj: Jeni besnik, intuitiv e shum\u00eb i dashur, por edhe q\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebheni agresiv aty ku e shikoni q\u00eb ka rrezik. \u00cbndrra ju paralajm\u00ebron t\u00eb keni kujdes n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb, sepse mund t\u00eb tentojn\u00eb t\u2019ju l\u00ebndojn\u00eb dhe ju t\u00eb ndjeni dhimbje, ashtu si edhe n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr. At\u00ebhere, n\u00ebse e ndjeni nj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb, reagoni ju p\u00ebrpara se t\u00eb reagojn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt ndaj jush, n\u00eb kuptimin q\u00eb: Tregoni an\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb fort\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt t\u00eb mos guxojn\u00eb t\u2019ju l\u00ebndojn\u00eb.<\/p>\n

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M\u00eb puthi pa d\u00ebshir\u00ebn time<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Kam par\u00eb nj\u00eb koleg timin sikur m\u2019u afrua dhe tentoi t\u00eb m\u00eb puthte. Un\u00eb nuk e p\u00eblqeva fare, p\u00ebrkundrazi, m\u2019u neverit. N\u00eb momentin q\u00eb po tentonte t\u00eb m\u00eb puthte, ai m\u00eb preku pak n\u00eb buz\u00eb. N\u00eb at\u00eb moment, po futej nj\u00eb koleg tjet\u00ebr. Un\u00eb e shtyva me forc\u00eb, duke e larguar nga vetja. Ky kolegu q\u00eb na pa, m\u00eb tha: \u201cShiko se k\u00ebt\u00eb sjelljen t\u00ebnde do t\u2019ua tregoj prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tu\u201d. Pres nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje, ju lutem. \u00c7far\u00eb kuptimi ka? Faleminderit. <\/strong><\/p>\n

– Puthja e kolegut tuaj pa d\u00ebshir\u00ebn tuaj, nuk ka lidhje fare me shfaqje erotike apo ndjenja, por me ide t\u00eb reja e plane p\u00ebr pun\u00ebn, p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilat ju nuk jeni aspak dakord. Ndoshta keni diskutuar ose do t\u00eb diskutoni p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ka lidhje me pun\u00ebn, por ju do t\u00eb paraqisni mospranim t\u00eb k\u00ebtij plani, do t\u00eb shprehni pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi. Kolegu tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb hyn, p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebson friken tuaj, ankthin e gjith\u00eb k\u00ebtij diskutimi n\u00eb lidhje me pun\u00ebn. Prind\u00ebrit q\u00eb ju p\u00ebrmendni, jan\u00eb shefat tuaj, frika se si do ta presin ata k\u00ebt\u00eb diskutim mes jush. Gjithsesi, sido q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb situata, \u00ebndrra ju sugjeron ta merrni m\u00eb qet\u00eb dhe t\u00eb shikoni an\u00ebn pozitive t\u00eb gjith\u00e7kaje q\u00eb ju paraqitet apo ju rrethon.<\/p>\n

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Po pija cigare<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Ju lutem, m\u00eb shpjegoni \u00e7\u2019do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb shikosh n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr veten sikur po pi cigare, bashk\u00eb me nj\u00eb shoqe? D\u00ebgjova se po m\u00eb vinin v\u00ebllez\u00ebrit dhe i thash\u00eb shoqes: \u201cShpejt, t\u00eb pastrojm\u00eb ajrin, se nuk u p\u00eblqen atyre t\u00eb m\u00eb shohin t\u00eb pi cigare\u201d. \u00c7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb, ju lutem? Faleminderit.<\/strong><\/p>\n

– N\u00eb qoft\u00eb se ju, realisht, nuk pini cigare, pirja e saj n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr tregon natyr\u00ebn tuaj mbrojt\u00ebse ndaj t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, qoft\u00eb edhe gjer aty sa t\u00eb d\u00ebmtoni veten. Ju nuk mendoni shum\u00eb p\u00ebr veten tuaj, m\u00eb shum\u00eb mendoni p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt dhe jeni gati t\u00eb b\u00ebni gjith\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u2019i mbrojtur njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb doni dhe q\u00eb keni rreth jush. Frika nga v\u00ebllez\u00ebrit \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb lloj ndjesie q\u00eb e keni ju ndaj familjes, di\u00e7ka ju fshihni dhe s\u2019keni guxim t\u2019ua thoni. Mendoni q\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka mund ta zgjidhni vet\u00eb, pa ndihm\u00ebn e tyre, por ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb, sado i\/e fort\u00eb t\u00eb jeni, duhet ta k\u00ebrkoni edhe ndihm\u00ebn e familjes, sepse askush nuk ju do si ajo.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Flok\u00ebt dhe vajza e vog\u00ebl – Kam par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr sikur isha me nj\u00eb shok te sht\u00ebpia ime dhe po i krihja flok\u00ebt. Ai i kishte flok\u00ebt t\u00eb gjat\u00eb dhe t\u00eb zinj. Kisha edhe nj\u00eb tas me uj\u00eb dhe flok\u00ebt ran\u00eb n\u00eb tasin e ujit. Pastaj, e puthja dhe e p\u00ebrqafoja. Af\u00ebr nesh ishte nj\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[91],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4656","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-endrra"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4656","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4656"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4656\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4656"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4656"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4656"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}