{"id":4519,"date":"2014-10-19T18:00:51","date_gmt":"2014-10-19T16:00:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=4519"},"modified":"2014-10-19T11:51:22","modified_gmt":"2014-10-19T09:51:22","slug":"sa-te-gjate-e-ka-jeten-cifti-juaj","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2014\/10\/sa-te-gjate-e-ka-jeten-cifti-juaj\/","title":{"rendered":"Sa t\u00eb gjat\u00eb e ka jet\u00ebn \u00e7ifti juaj?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Gjendja dashurore t\u00eb b\u00ebn t\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrrosh p\u00ebr nj\u00eb dashuri q\u00eb zgjat p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb bashkim t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetsh\u00ebm. Po lidhja juaj, \u00ebsht\u00eb e q\u00ebndrueshme dhe e fort\u00eb, apo e brisht\u00eb dhe e k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuar? K\u00ebshillohet ta b\u00ebni testin n\u00eb \u00e7ift dhe m\u00eb pas t\u00eb krahasoni rezultatet. Ato do t\u2019ju shtyjn\u00eb t\u00eb diskutoni n\u00eb \u00e7ift, gj\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe q\u00ebllimi i testit ton\u00eb&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>1. \u00c7far\u00eb ju b\u00ebn t\u00eb jeni s\u00eb bashku:<br \/>\na. Koha<br \/>\nb. Liria q\u00eb i jepni tjetrit<br \/>\nc. Pasionet e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta<br \/>\nd. Momentet e zbavitjes<\/p>\n<p>2. Seksi n\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift, sh\u00ebrben p\u00ebr t\u00eb\u2026<br \/>\na. \u2026thelluar lidhjen<br \/>\nb. \u2026qet\u00ebsuar stresin e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme.<br \/>\nc. \u2026penguar tjetrin t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb dashuri gjetk\u00eb<br \/>\nd. \u2026zbuluar an\u00ebt e fshehta t\u00eb tjetrit.<\/p>\n<p>3. N\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje dashurore, tjetri \u00ebsht\u00eb:<br \/>\na. Nj\u00eb shok jete<br \/>\nb. Nj\u00eb partner<br \/>\nc. Nj\u00eb bashk\u00ebpun\u00ebtor<br \/>\nd. Nj\u00eb shok loje.<\/p>\n<p>4. Jeni t\u00eb dashuruar kur:<br \/>\na. Plot\u00ebsoni nj\u00ebri-tjetrin.<br \/>\nb. Kuptoheni reciprokisht<br \/>\nc. E pranoni nj\u00ebri-tjetrin ashtu si jeni<br \/>\nd. E d\u00ebshironi nj\u00ebri-tjetrin.<\/p>\n<p>5. Partneri juaj merr nj\u00eb vit leje nga puna:<br \/>\na. Ju p\u00ebrpiqeni t\u00eb kuptoni motivin.<br \/>\nb. Ju vendosni t\u00eb b\u00ebni t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb<br \/>\nc. Ju mendoni si t\u00eb vazhdoni t\u00eb keni t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin nivel jetese.<br \/>\nd. Ju i thoni vetes: \u00ab\u00c7\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb kjo tani?\u00bb<\/p>\n<p>6. Partneri refuzon ngacmimet tuaja seksuale:<br \/>\na. Ju e kuptoni dhe prisni nj\u00eb moment m\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatsh\u00ebm<br \/>\nb. P\u00ebrpiqeni t\u00eb flisni me t\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar \u00e7far\u00eb po ndodh.<br \/>\nc. Mundoheni ta eksitoni me \u00e7do m\u00ebnyr\u00eb.<br \/>\nd. I propozoni t\u00eb shkoni n\u00eb kinema<\/p>\n<p>7. N\u00eb cil\u00ebn fush\u00eb duhet t\u00eb jesh medeomos n\u00eb diapazon me tjetrin:<br \/>\na. N\u00eb sensin e thell\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs<br \/>\nb. N\u00eb edukimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve<br \/>\nc. N\u00eb ideologji<br \/>\nd. N\u00eb zbavitje<br \/>\n8. Lidhjet seksuale jasht\u00eb \u00e7iftit jan\u00eb:<br \/>\na. Nj\u00eb sprov\u00eb q\u00eb duhet kap\u00ebrcyer<br \/>\nb. Nj\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00eb lirie.<br \/>\nc. Nj\u00eb kalim i detyruar<br \/>\nd. Ndarje e sigurt\u00eb<\/p>\n<p>9. Keni nj\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb madhe parash n\u00eb dispozicion p\u00ebr t\u00eb harxhuar p\u00ebr \u00e7iftin tuaj. Vendosni:<br \/>\na. T\u2019i b\u00ebni nj\u00eb dhurat\u00eb partnerit<br \/>\nb. T\u00eb rregulloni kuzhin\u00ebn.<br \/>\nc. T\u00eb b\u00ebni nj\u00eb udh\u00ebtim n\u00eb Egjipt<br \/>\nd. T\u00eb darkoni n\u00eb nj\u00eb restorant shik.<\/p>\n<p>10. Keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb kaloni nj\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje t\u00eb qet\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, por partneri ju propozon t\u00eb dilni me disa miq:<br \/>\na. B\u00ebni nj\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekje p\u00ebr t\u2019u motivuar.<br \/>\nb. P\u00ebrpiqeni ta bindni t\u00eb rrini n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi<br \/>\nc. I thoni vetes se d\u00ebshirat tuaja nuk p\u00ebrputhen kurr\u00eb!<br \/>\nd. E lini t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb pa ju.<\/p>\n<p>11. Imagjinoni \u00e7iftin tuaj pas 10 vjet\u00ebsh. Ai do t\u00eb jet\u00eb:<br \/>\na. M\u00eb i pjekur dhe m\u00eb i bukur<br \/>\nb. Si sot, pa asnj\u00eb ndryshim.<br \/>\nc. M\u00eb t\u00eb dashuruar<br \/>\nd. Nuk arrini ta imagjinoni \u00e7iftin tuaj pas 10 vjet\u00ebsh!<\/p>\n<p>12. Ju vendosni t\u00eb blini nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi s\u00eb bashku pas 5 vjet\u00ebsh:<br \/>\na. Sht\u00ebpia do t\u00eb jet\u00eb e q\u00ebndrueshme si \u00e7ifti juaj<br \/>\nb. K\u00ebtu apo gjetk\u00eb, prap\u00eb do t\u00eb jeni t\u00eb lumtur.<br \/>\nc. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb fillim i ri i mundsh\u00ebm<br \/>\nd. Ky angazhim ju fut frik\u00ebn.<\/p>\n<p>13. Nj\u00eb \u00e7ift q\u00eb jan\u00eb bashk\u00eb prej 20 vjet\u00ebsh tregon:<br \/>\na. Nj\u00eb qet\u00ebsi t\u00eb madhe<br \/>\nb. Nj\u00eb dashuri t\u00eb madhe reciproke<br \/>\nc. Nj\u00eb arritje<br \/>\nd. Nj\u00eb rutin\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb<\/p>\n<p>14. P\u00ebr ju, cili \u00ebsht\u00eb subjekti i bised\u00ebs m\u00eb tabu n\u00eb gjirin e \u00e7iftit:<br \/>\na. Ish-\u00ebt<br \/>\nb. Familja<br \/>\nc. Ndjenjat<br \/>\nd. E ardhmja<\/p>\n<p>Rezultatet<br \/>\nN\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje a. Jeni nj\u00eb \u00e7ift maratonist<br \/>\nProfili juaj: \u00c7ifti juaj e ka jet\u00ebn e gjat\u00eb. Sprovat e jet\u00ebs ju i p\u00ebrballoni s\u00eb bashku, zgjidhjet e problemeve gjithashtu i gjeni bashk\u00eb, me nj\u00eb lloj qet\u00ebsie dhe nj\u00eb inteligjenc\u00eb lidhjeje t\u00eb dukshme. Cilado qoft\u00eb forca e takimit t\u00eb par\u00eb, ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb ende aty! Koha \u00ebsht\u00eb aleati juaj, pasi dini t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorni arsyen dhe humorin, aty ku t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebrdorin xhelozin\u00eb dhe tensionin. Ju ia keni dal\u00eb mban\u00eb ta b\u00ebni \u00e7iftin tuaj nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht nj\u00eb ekip t\u00eb q\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm dhe nj\u00eb aventur\u00eb jete. Jeni marinar\u00eb t\u00eb gatsh\u00ebm t\u00eb p\u00ebrballoni udh\u00ebtimet e gjata dhe ia lini nj\u00ebri-tjetrit timonin, pa problem. K\u00ebshtu, anija e lidhjes suaj i p\u00ebrballon edhe furtunat m\u00eb t\u00eb fuqishme. Me sa duket, ju keni ditur t\u2019i shp\u00ebtoni kurthit t\u00eb lidhjes me shkrirje te nj\u00ebri-tjetri dhe t\u00eb ruani secili identitetin e vet, edhe n\u00eb gji t\u00eb \u00e7iftit.<br \/>\n\u00c7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebni: Gjith\u00eb kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e mir\u00eb, por duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebni kujdes q\u00eb t\u00eb mos bini n\u00eb rutin\u00eb. Fakti q\u00eb gj\u00ebrat shkojn\u00eb mir\u00eb, nuk duhet t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb flini gjum\u00eb. Rrini t\u00eb qet\u00eb, por ruani nj\u00ebfar\u00eb vigjilence, q\u00eb t\u00eb mos e lini veten dhe lidhjen pas dore. Ju e njihni nj\u00ebri-tjetrin tashm\u00eb dhe e dini se \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00ebrin dhe p\u00ebr tjetrin. Dashuria juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb e q\u00ebndrueshme dhe do t\u00eb vazhdoj\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb reale, n\u00ebse e ngacmoni her\u00eb pas here!<\/p>\n<p>N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje b. Jeni nj\u00eb \u00e7ift n\u00eb ecje<br \/>\nProfili juaj: Te ju jan\u00eb bashkuar t\u00eb gjith\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebr\u00ebsit e nevojsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb koh\u00ebn aleatin tuaj. Me siguri, \u00e7ifti juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb faz\u00eb nd\u00ebrtimi aktiv. Ai i shpalos krah\u00ebt si nj\u00eb shqiponj\u00eb n\u00eb qiellin blu dhe t\u00eb qet\u00eb. Ju jeni n\u00eb ecje dhe \u00e7do mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb s\u00eb bashku, p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndar\u00eb bashk\u00eb eksperiencat, t\u00eb qeshurat dhe emocionet, e kapni me shum\u00eb entuziaz\u00ebm dhe k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt. Ky zbulim i lumtur i vetes n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet lidhjes zhvillon narcizizmin tuaj dhe ju keni p\u00ebrshtypjen e nj\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshm\u00ebrie m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe. Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb, dukeni shum\u00eb t\u00eb ngjitur me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, por pastaj e kuptoni se tjetri ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr hap\u00ebsirat e veta, q\u00eb \u00e7ifti t\u00eb marr\u00eb frym\u00eb lirisht.<br \/>\n\u00c7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebni: E gjith\u00eb kjo duket shum\u00eb pozitive, por mos harroni se jeni n\u00eb nd\u00ebrtim e sip\u00ebr dhe q\u00eb nd\u00ebrtesa e lidhjes suaj ende nuk ka mbaruar. Bazat jan\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshme, por ekzitojn\u00eb edhe shum\u00eb brisht\u00ebsi. Disa tregues l\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb n\u00ebnkuptosh se mjafton nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e vog\u00ebl q\u00eb lidhja t\u00eb l\u00ebkundet. Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb pajiseni me shum\u00eb durim dhe t\u00eb vazhdoni t\u00eb kultivoni mir\u00ebkuptimin reciprok. Afirmoni dhuntit\u00eb tuaja, mos e lini koh\u00ebn t\u00eb g\u00ebrryej\u00eb af\u00ebrsin\u00eb q\u00eb ju lidh dhe jini radikal\u00eb, kur e p\u00ebrditshmja d\u00ebmton bashk\u00ebjetes\u00ebn tuaj. K\u00ebto k\u00ebshilla duhen marr\u00eb parasysh p\u00ebr t\u00eb konfirmuar cil\u00ebsit\u00eb tuaja dhe d\u00ebshir\u00ebn tuaj p\u00ebr t\u00eb patur nj\u00eb lidhje jet\u00ebgjat\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje c. \u00c7iftit tuaj i mungon oksigjeni<br \/>\nProfili juaj: Lidhja juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb e l\u00ebkundur dhe mund\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb kaluar t\u00eb ardhmen se bashku, duket pak e larg\u00ebt. Megjith\u00ebse keni kaluar s\u00eb bashku momente t\u00eb paharrueshme, ju duket e pamundur t\u00eb rigjeni zjarrin e dikursh\u00ebm. Gjith\u00e7ka ju duket e m\u00ebrzitshme dhe gri. Pa dyshim, ju b\u00ebni p\u00ebrpjekje p\u00ebr t\u2019i shtuar jet\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme ide t\u00eb reja, por duket sikur \u00ebsht\u00eb e pamundur t\u00eb rigjall\u00ebroni flak\u00ebn q\u00eb ju bashkon. Ju keni filluar t\u2019i b\u00ebni vetes pyetje p\u00ebr jet\u00ebgjat\u00ebsin\u00eb e lidhjes. Komunikimi mes jush nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb prer\u00eb ende, megjithat\u00eb, sa her\u00eb flisni s\u00eb bashku, e b\u00ebni p\u00ebr t\u00eb konstatuar v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsit\u00eb q\u00eb keni n\u00eb rigjetjen e mir\u00ebkuptimit t\u00eb dikursh\u00ebm. Megjithat\u00eb, ju ndjeni q\u00eb th\u00ebngjinjt\u00eb e dashuris\u00eb suaj jan\u00eb ende t\u00eb nxeht\u00eb dhe nuk duhen shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra p\u00ebr t\u00eb rigjetur shk\u00ebmbimin e v\u00ebshtrimeve plot d\u00ebshir\u00eb dhe g\u00ebzim.<br \/>\n\u00c7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebni: N\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, gj\u00ebja m\u00eb e mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb mos hezitoni t\u00eb konsultoheni me nj\u00eb terapeut \u00e7ifti. K\u00ebndv\u00ebshtrimi dhe opinionet e tij t\u00eb jashtme do t\u2019ju ndihmojn\u00eb t\u00eb gjeni zgjidhje aktive p\u00ebr ju. Duhet t\u00eb fusni krijimtari n\u00eb lidhjen tuaj. Nd\u00ebrtimi dhe qet\u00ebsia e nj\u00eb \u00e7ifti jan\u00eb rezultat i nj\u00eb pune t\u00eb vazhdueshme e t\u00eb madhe dhe momentet gri q\u00eb ju kaloni, mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb kalimtare, n\u00ebse pranoni t\u00eb fusni risi dhe pak \u00e7menduri n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje shum\u00eb dramatike dhe t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitshme. Shkundeni palm\u00ebn; do t\u00eb shihni se prej saj do t\u00eb bien fruta befasuese!<\/p>\n<p>N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje d. Jeni nj\u00eb \u00e7ift jet\u00ebshkurt\u00ebr<br \/>\nProfili juaj: Ju nuk doni t\u00eb keni nj\u00eb lidhje jet\u00ebgjat\u00eb! Keni vendosur t\u00eb mos e harxhoni energjin\u00eb tuaj n\u00eb vullnetin e fort\u00eb q\u00eb duhet p\u00ebr ta zgjatur lidhjen tuaj. Ju s\u00ebrfoni mbi dallg\u00ebn e d\u00ebshir\u00ebs dhe hezitoni mes lidhjes dhe nj\u00eb lloj lirie. Ju flisni rregullisht p\u00ebr fantazit\u00eb tuaja dhe ato v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb sken\u00eb partner\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb: Ish-\u00ebt tuaj, miqt\u00eb, fqinj\u00ebt, koleg\u00ebt&#8230; Kjo ju zbavit, por mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb edhe shenj\u00eb e nj\u00eb lloj v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsie lidhjeje, e cila nuk do ta p\u00ebrballonte faktin e b\u00ebrjes s\u00eb tyre realitet. E qeshura \u00ebsht\u00eb dhuntia juaj dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka e mir\u00eb, por humori sistematik mund t\u00eb fsheh\u00eb nj\u00eb lloj hidh\u00ebrimi ose nj\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb folur seriozisht. Qofshit n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb lidhjes, apo jo, duket se ju prisni nga tjetri t\u00eb marr\u00eb p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr rrezikun p\u00ebr ta \u00e7uar m\u00eb tutje lidhjen. Mbase q\u00ebllimi juaj n\u00eb lidhje \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb mos shkoni p\u00ebrtej tre viteve, gjat\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebve thuhet se dashuria ekziston dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb kulmin e saj.<br \/>\n\u00c7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebni: N\u00ebse jeni bashk\u00eb p\u00ebr m\u00eb shum\u00eb se tre vjet, duhet t\u2019i b\u00ebni vetes pyetjen se \u00e7far\u00eb doni t\u00eb b\u00ebni me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, t\u00eb vazhdoni apo jo. Mbase doni t\u00eb vazhdoni t\u00eb keni nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb till\u00eb, pa angazhime&#8230; sepse nuk doni t\u00eb ndaheni apo t\u00eb largoheni nga nj\u00ebri-tjetri, gj\u00eb q\u00eb, gjithsesi, do t\u2019ju b\u00ebnte t\u00eb vuanit.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Gjendja dashurore t\u00eb b\u00ebn t\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrrosh p\u00ebr nj\u00eb dashuri q\u00eb zgjat p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb bashkim t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetsh\u00ebm. Po lidhja juaj, \u00ebsht\u00eb e q\u00ebndrueshme dhe e fort\u00eb, apo e brisht\u00eb dhe e k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuar? K\u00ebshillohet ta b\u00ebni testin n\u00eb \u00e7ift dhe m\u00eb pas t\u00eb krahasoni rezultatet. Ato do t\u2019ju shtyjn\u00eb t\u00eb diskutoni n\u00eb \u00e7ift, gj\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[51],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4519","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-test"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4519","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4519"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4519\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4519"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4519"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4519"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}