Situata \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo: Sapo jeni ndar\u00eb dhe doni t\u00eb rifilloni nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb re, m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Nj\u00eb ndarje \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb nj\u00eb eveniment i dhimbsh\u00ebm, por edhe i ve\u00e7ant\u00eb e intim, ku secili prej nesh e imagjinon dhe e p\u00ebrballon ndryshe at\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb vij\u00eb m\u00eb pas. K\u00ebshtu, rivendosja e ekuilibrit nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb, me etapat dhe ulje-ngritjet e veta. Testoni tani aft\u00ebsin\u00eb tuaj t\u00eb p\u00ebrgatitjes deri n\u00eb takimin e ardhsh\u00ebm dashuror. Jeni gati p\u00ebr nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb re dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb filluar nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb re? B\u00ebni testin ton\u00eb, p\u00ebr ta kuptuar.<\/p>\n
1. Cil\u00ebsia e lidhjes me ish-partnerin\/en, pas ndarjes:
\na. E keqe
\nb. Burim tensioni
\nc. Mjaft e mir\u00eb
\nd. E k\u00ebnaqshme<\/p>\n
2. Jeta juaj e re \u00ebsht\u00eb:
\na. M\u00eb e m\u00ebrzitshme
\nb. M\u00eb e nd\u00ebrlikuar
\nc. E ndryshme, por m\u00eb e mir\u00eb
\nd. M\u00eb n\u00eb paqe me veten<\/p>\n
3. N\u00ebse do t\u00eb kishit mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb zgjidhnit, do t\u00eb preferonit:
\na. Jet\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb!
\nb. Thjesht, nj\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb.
\nc. Jet\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb vet\u00ebm!
\nd. Jet\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7ift, sigurisht!<\/p>\n
4. Aktualisht, burrat n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj jan\u00eb:
\na. Familjar\u00ebt: Djali, babai, qeni, ish-i…
\nb. T\u00eb af\u00ebrm: Miq, koleg\u00eb
\nc. Kalimtar\u00eb
\nd. Partner\u00eb potencial\u00eb<\/p>\n
5. Ndjenjat tuaja aktuale kundrejt ish-partnerit\/es:
\na. Plot mllef
\nb. Me kontraste
\nc. Indiferente
\nd. Realiste dhe dashamir\u00ebse<\/p>\n
6. N\u00eb t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebn, ekuilibri juaj n\u00eb planin material ishte:
\na. I \u00e7ekuilibruar, punonte vet\u00ebm ai\/ajo e si rrjedhoj\u00eb, edhe t\u00eb ardhurat ishin t\u00eb pabarabarta.
\nb. I nd\u00ebrlikuar
\nc. Secili kishte pun\u00ebn dhe parat\u00eb e tij
\nd. Relativisht, i barabart\u00eb dhe pa probleme.<\/p>\n
7. Tani, pas nj\u00ebfar\u00eb kohe, e shihni \u201cfilmin\u201d e lidhjes suaj si:
\na. Nj\u00eb dram\u00eb
\nb. Nj\u00eb film t\u00eb keq policesk
\nc. Nj\u00eb komedi sentimentale
\nd. Nj\u00eb histori humaniste dhe realiste<\/p>\n
8. Pas ndarjes, ju e ndjeni veten:
\na. T\u00eb l\u00ebnduar
\nb. T\u00eb brisht\u00eb
\nc. T\u00eb pavarur
\nd. M\u00eb t\u00eb pjekur<\/p>\n
9. Hidh\u00ebrimi, sot, \u00ebsht\u00eb:
\na. Ende brenda meje
\nb. I gjall\u00eb
\nc. I pranish\u00ebm, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb
\nd. Larg meje<\/p>\n
10. Shpesh, ju flisni p\u00ebr ish-partnerin\/en si:
\na. E quani me em\u00ebr zogu
\nb. Babai\/mamaja e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve
\nc. Ish-burri\/gruaja ime
\nd. Me em\u00ebr<\/p>\n
11. Ndarja, ka qen\u00eb:
\na. E tmerrshme
\nb. E dhimbshme, por e kap\u00ebrcyeshme
\nc. E v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, por e nevojshme
\nd. E v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, por ju ka b\u00ebr\u00eb mir\u00eb<\/p>\n
12. Imagjinoni (ose jo) sikur ish-i juaj ka krijuar nj\u00eb familje t\u00eb re. Si do ta ndjenit veten?
\na. T\u00eb d\u00ebrrmuar
\nb. Kureshtar dhe xheloz\/e
\nc. Indiferent, por pak t\u00eb acaruar
\nd. T\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur p\u00ebr t\u00eb<\/p>\n
13. Shihni dy t\u00eb dashuruar n\u00eb rrug\u00eb:
\na. Ju dhemb shpirti
\nb. Nuk i keni par\u00eb…
\nc. I ndiqni me sy
\nd. Buz\u00ebqeshni<\/p>\n
14. Dashuria juaj e ardhshme do t\u00eb jet\u00eb
\na. M\u00eb e mir\u00eb, n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur
\nb. Spontane
\nc. Para s\u00eb gjithash, e ndryshme
\nd. E menduar mir\u00eb<\/p>\n
15. Unaza juaj e vjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb:
\na. Ende n\u00eb gishtin tuaj
\nb. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb nj\u00eb sirtari
\nc. S\u2019e dini ku e keni v\u00ebn\u00eb
\nd. N\u00eb kutin\u00eb e bizhuterive<\/p>\n
16. Sot, aft\u00ebsia juaj josh\u00ebse:
\na. \u00cbsht\u00eb p\u00ebrtok\u00eb!
\nb. Mund t\u00eb ishte m\u00eb e mir\u00eb…
\nc. Duhet t\u00eb jap\u00eb prova.
\nd. N\u00eb maksimum<\/p>\n
17. Sot, cili \u00ebsht\u00eb burri\/gruaja juaj ideal\/e?
\na. Nuk ka partner\/e ideal\/e!
\nb. Ai\/ajo q\u00eb do t\u00eb dij\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb doj\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb se t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt
\nc. Ai\/ajo q\u00eb do t\u00eb kem d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb dua un\u00eb
\nd. Ai\/ajo q\u00eb do t\u00eb dij\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb doj\u00eb ashtu si jam.<\/p>\n
Rezultatet
\nN\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb a. Jeni ende n\u00eb konvaleshenc\u00eb
\nAshtu si nj\u00eb sportist i plagosur, ose me dhimbje nga ndeshjet e m\u00ebparshme, ju i q\u00ebndroni larg fush\u00ebs s\u00eb loj\u00ebs, pasi keni nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb reflektoni. N\u00ebse n\u00eb mendjen tuaj ekziston perspektiva e nj\u00eb takimi t\u00eb ri, n\u00ebse keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb joshni dhe t\u00eb dashuroni p\u00ebrs\u00ebri, mbase kjo ndodh p\u00ebr t\u00eb riparuar dhe siguruar zemr\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb thyer, pa nj\u00eb investim real n\u00eb partnerin e ri. Mund t\u00eb keni p\u00ebrjetuar disa histori kalimtare, por zemra juaj nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjur ashtu si duhet. Ka shum\u00eb mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb her\u00ebt, sepse ndarja ka ndodhur koh\u00ebt t\u00eb fundit, ose thjesht sepse zemra dhe truri juaj ende nuk kan\u00eb dal\u00eb nga periudha e ndarjes. Jeni ende n\u00eb zem\u00ebr t\u00eb stuhis\u00eb emocionale t\u00eb ndarjes, mes dhimbjes dhe d\u00ebshp\u00ebrimit, zem\u00ebrimit dhe trishtimit, frik\u00ebs dhe humbjes s\u00eb besimit n\u00eb vetvete, prandaj nuk e dini \u00e7far\u00eb k\u00ebrkoni apo \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr ju. N\u00eb k\u00ebto momente t\u00eb dhimbshme, \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u2019i dallosh gj\u00ebrat qart\u00eb, t\u00eb ndash momentet e bukura dhe t\u00eb sh\u00ebmtuarat, t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn dhe t\u00eb ardhmen. N\u00ebse ndarja ka qen\u00eb shum\u00eb e dhimbshme, n\u00ebse tensionet me partnerin\/en vazhdojn\u00eb t\u00eb ekzistojn\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb fillosh nj\u00eb kapitull t\u00eb ri jete. P\u00ebrball\u00eb k\u00ebsaj morie emocionesh dhe detyrimeve t\u00eb jet\u00ebs suaj t\u00eb re, nuk keni gjetur ende ekuilibrin q\u00eb do t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb ndjeheni mir\u00eb, por mos u dekurajoni; kjo koh\u00eb do t\u00eb vij\u00eb kur t\u00eb ndjeheni gati. Reflektoni gjat\u00eb at\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb ka ndodhur n\u00eb lidhjen tuaj p\u00ebr t\u00eb nxjerr\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimet e duhura p\u00ebr ju dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet tuaja t\u00eb ardhshme. Mos u shqet\u00ebsoni sepse ajo q\u00eb po kaloni \u00ebsht\u00eb normale dhe e nevojshme. Megjithat\u00eb, n\u00ebse koha kalon, por ju jetoni m\u00eb shum\u00eb me t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebn, mendoni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr ish-in sesa p\u00ebr veten, n\u00ebse i b\u00ebni vetes t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat qortime, akuza dhe kritika, n\u00ebse k\u00ebrkoni ende fajtorin dhe e ndjeni veten si viktim\u00eb, at\u00ebhere mbase do t\u00eb ishte mir\u00eb t\u00eb flisnit me nj\u00eb specialist. Kur t\u00eb jeni sqaruar me veten, edhe qielli i dashuris\u00eb do t\u00eb jet\u00eb i zbrazur nga ret\u00eb.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb b. Jeni duke u st\u00ebrvitur
\nAshtu si nj\u00eb sportist q\u00eb st\u00ebrvitet, edhe ju, n\u00eb rrug\u00ebn e dashuris\u00eb, jeni nj\u00eb etap\u00ebn e \u00abp\u00ebrgatitjes\u00bb, n\u00eb pritje t\u00eb takimit t\u00eb ardhsh\u00ebm. N\u00ebse e studioni veten me durim e k\u00ebmb\u00ebngulje dhe reflektoni p\u00ebr lidhjen dhe tjetrin\/\u00ebn, koha do t\u00eb dij\u00eb t\u2019jua shp\u00ebrblej\u00eb me aventura t\u00eb reja. Tani, jeni n\u00eb pritje, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb faz\u00eb parap\u00ebrgatit\u00ebse, pak a shum\u00eb, \u00abaktive\u00bb. Megjith\u00ebse mund t\u00eb keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb q\u00eb gj\u00ebrat t\u00eb p\u00ebrshpejtohen, p\u00ebrs\u00ebri jeni i\/e rezervuar dhe mbase doni t\u00eb mbroni veten, duke e ndjer\u00eb se nuk ka ardhur ende momenti i duhur, q\u00eb ndarja \u00ebsht\u00eb ende e pranishme, ose e fresk\u00ebt. Ose mbase ju nuk ndjeheni ende i gatsh\u00ebm. N\u00eb fakt, koha e pranimit \u00ebsht\u00eb e gjat\u00eb, por pas kriz\u00ebs dhe stuhis\u00eb s\u00eb saj emocionale, vjen koha e rind\u00ebrtimit dhe e nj\u00eb ekulibri t\u00eb ri. Secili e merr veten n\u00eb funksion t\u00eb ndjeshm\u00ebris\u00eb dhe eksperienc\u00ebs s\u00eb tij. Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb nevojitet m\u00eb shum\u00eb koh\u00eb, sidomos n\u00ebse vuajtja ka qen\u00eb e fort\u00eb, humbja e madhe, ndarja e dhunshme, e pakuptueshme, brutale dhe ende e dhimbshme. N\u00ebse marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia me ish-in \u00ebsht\u00eb ende e nder\u00eb, n\u00ebse situata \u00ebsht\u00eb e ngarkuar emocionalisht, ka mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb kjo t\u00eb mos ju lejoj\u00eb t\u00eb kaloni n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb re dhe t\u00eb ndjeheni i\/e lumtur me nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb re. L\u00ebrini vetes koh\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrgatitet fizikisht (duke u kujdesur p\u00ebr veten!), por edhe \u00absentimentalisht\u00bb (reflektoni mbi ndjesit\u00eb tuaja, bile k\u00ebrkoni edhe ndihm\u00ebn e nj\u00eb specialisti). N\u00ebse futeni n\u00eb loj\u00eb pa nxemjen e duhur, rrezikoni t\u00eb l\u00ebndoheni! \u00cbsht\u00eb tunduese t\u00eb veprosh p\u00ebr t\u00eb harruar, por t\u00eb hidhesh me kok\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb veprim p\u00ebr t\u00eb harruar m\u00eb shpejt t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebn, nuk sjell gjithmon\u00eb efektin e d\u00ebshiruar!<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje c. Jeni ende n\u00eb dhomat e zhveshjes
\nN\u00ebse do ta shihnim jet\u00ebn tuaj si nj\u00eb ndeshje, at\u00ebhere mund t\u00eb themi se ju jeni n\u00eb dhomat e zhveshjes, duke u b\u00ebr\u00eb gati. Ju po i afroheni momentit t\u00eb duhur kur mund t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb nj\u00eb takim i ri. Mbase keni mb\u00ebr\u00eb ndonj\u00eb njohje aty-k\u00ebtu gjat\u00eb periudh\u00ebs s\u00eb \u00abkalimit t\u00eb shkret\u00ebtir\u00ebs\u00bb, por nuk ishin pjekur kushtet e duhura n\u00eb at\u00eb moment… N\u00eb fakt, ndarja ka qen\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, me t\u00eb qara dhe t\u00eb b\u00ebrtitura, me zhg\u00ebnjime dhe zem\u00ebrime, me trishtim dhe shpres\u00eb. Edhe tani ju mund t\u00eb ndjeheni i\/e brisht\u00eb, sapo e keni marr\u00eb veten… Jeni pothuajse gati, n\u00eb dhomat e zhveshjes, por ende nuk jeni futur n\u00eb loj\u00eb. Paralelisht, ndarja ju ka sjell\u00eb mund\u00ebsin\u00eb ta shihni veten ndryshe, ta mendoni ndryshe jet\u00ebn tuaj, nj\u00eb lloj zbulimi i vetes q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe m\u00eb i madh n\u00ebse e keni filluar lidhjen kur ishit i ri\/ e re, ose n\u00ebse lidhja ka zgjatur shum\u00eb. Kjo vetmi e re \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr ju burim k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsish dhe fitoresh t\u00eb papritura… N\u00eb fund, ju dukeni i gatsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr nj\u00eb \u00abjet\u00eb t\u00eb re\u00bb, m\u00eb t\u00eb pavarur, m\u00eb t\u00eb lir\u00eb, por mbase jeni m\u00eb pak gati p\u00ebr nj\u00eb \u00abjet\u00eb t\u00eb re n\u00eb \u00e7ift\u00bb. Preferoni m\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb jeni beqar\/e dhe i\/e lir\u00eb, sesa t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetoni p\u00ebrs\u00ebri nj\u00eb eksperienc\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjyese. Kjo tregon se keni m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb njihni veten dhe t\u00eb identifikoni nevojat tuaja, pra, nuk jeni gati t\u00eb pranoni \u00e7do gj\u00eb n\u00eb em\u00ebr t\u00eb \u00e7iftit! Megjithat\u00eb, tregoni kujdes q\u00eb t\u00eb mos mbylleni n\u00eb vetvete, sepse do ta privoni veten nga takime interesante! Mos lini t\u2019ju pushtoj\u00eb frika e nj\u00eb d\u00ebshtimi t\u00eb ri dhe t\u00eb dhimbsh\u00ebm. Historia nuk p\u00ebrs\u00ebritet sistematikisht, sidomos n\u00ebse keni pasur koh\u00eb t\u00eb reflektoni. Kalimi n\u00eb veprim \u00ebsht\u00eb nganj\u00ebher\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u dh\u00ebn\u00eb fund dyshimeve tuaja.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb d. Jeni n\u00eb vij\u00ebn e fillimit t\u00eb gar\u00ebs
\nAshtu si sportist\u00ebt q\u00eb presin me ethe dhe p\u00ebrqendrim t\u00eb filloj\u00eb gara, edhe ju jeni gati dhe sidomos me d\u00ebshir\u00eb, t\u00eb filloni gar\u00ebn e nj\u00eb takimi t\u00eb ri. Ka kaluar koha e disa nxemjeve (pak a shum\u00eb efikase); tani ju prisni gar\u00ebn e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, t\u00eb v\u00ebmendsh\u00ebm ndaj sinjalit t\u00eb fillimit. Sigurisht, ky \u00absemafor jeshil\u00bb aktual i zemr\u00ebs nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb rindezur pa dhimbje pas ndarjes. Ju \u00ebsht\u00eb dashur koh\u00eb, durim, guxim p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrballur stuhin\u00eb emocionale t\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebr\u00eb nga zem\u00ebrimi, t\u00eb qarat, hutimi kur tjetri largohet… Megjithat\u00eb, p\u00ebr ju, ndarja nuk ka qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb eveniment q\u00eb e keni p\u00ebrjetuar, por edhe nj\u00eb sprov\u00eb q\u00eb e keni kaluar me pyetjet dhe dyshimet. Prej k\u00ebsaj, ju keni njohur m\u00eb mir\u00eb veten dhe keni fituar besim. K\u00ebshtu, i\/e p\u00ebrgatitur m\u00eb mir\u00eb mend\u00ebrisht dhe sentimentalisht, ju do t\u00eb jeni m\u00eb i\/e aft\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb plot\u00ebsuar nevojat tuaja dhe ato t\u00eb partnerit\/es t\u00eb ardhsh\u00ebm, gj\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u2019i vlej\u00eb shum\u00eb lidhjes suaj t\u00eb re. Do t\u00eb ishte m\u00ebkat ta ndalnit k\u00ebtu k\u00ebrkimin e vetes dhe t\u00eb tjetrit, kaq af\u00ebr q\u00ebllimit. Mos prisni rastin \u00abe duhur\u00bb, por provokojeni vet\u00eb at\u00eb! Kujdesuni p\u00ebr veten, dilni, ftoni njer\u00ebz… Pasi t\u00eb keni gjetur shpirtin binjak, m\u00ebsoni ta transformoni idilin n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje serioze, duke e par\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb re, me nj\u00eb sy t\u00eb ri dhe luftarak!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Situata \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo: Sapo jeni ndar\u00eb dhe doni t\u00eb rifilloni nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb re, m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Nj\u00eb ndarje \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb nj\u00eb eveniment i dhimbsh\u00ebm, por edhe i ve\u00e7ant\u00eb e intim, ku secili prej nesh e imagjinon dhe e p\u00ebrballon ndryshe at\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb vij\u00eb m\u00eb pas. K\u00ebshtu, rivendosja e ekuilibrit nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[51],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4218","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-test"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4218","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4218"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4218\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4218"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4218"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4218"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}