Hajde t\u00eb hash, v\u00ebr n\u00ebp\u00ebr vende lodrat, laj dh\u00ebmb\u00ebt! K\u00ebto urdh\u00ebra banale, t\u00eb shqiptuara pothuajse \u00e7do dit\u00eb nga prind\u00ebrit, nuk kan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin efikasitet n\u00eb goj\u00ebn e t\u00eb gjith\u00ebve. Disa nuk kan\u00eb fare nevoj\u00eb t\u2019u k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb binden, mjafton nj\u00eb shenj\u00eb koke, ose nj\u00eb gjest, q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb at\u00eb duhet, pa u ankuar. Ky quhet autoritet i natyrsh\u00ebm. Ka t\u00eb tjer\u00eb pastaj q\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebrisin t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin urdh\u00ebr me dhjet\u00ebra her\u00eb, me tone t\u00eb ndryshme, urdh\u00ebra q\u00eb nganj\u00ebher\u00eb zbatohen, po jo gjithmon\u00eb… Q\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb binden f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, duhet ta ndjesh k\u00ebt\u00eb nevoj\u00eb si t\u00eb ligjshme, t\u00eb kesh besim n\u00eb vetvete dhe t\u00eb dish t\u2019u imponohesh atyre, gj\u00eb q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kaq e thjesht\u00eb! Po ju dini ta b\u00ebni apo jo?<\/p>\n
1. F\u00ebmija i fqinjit p\u00ebrplaset me ju n\u00eb shkall\u00eb dhe largohet me vrap, pa k\u00ebrkuar falje.
\na. F\u00ebmij\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb, nuk ka problem…
\nb. \u201c\u00c7far\u00eb mungese edukate!\u201d, mendoni ju.
\nc. Sapo ta shoh, do t\u2019i them se \u00e7far\u00eb mendoj.
\nd. \u201c\u00c7far\u00eb b\u00ebn k\u00ebshtu, mor djal\u00eb! B\u00ebj pak kujdes\u201d, i b\u00ebrtisni ju.<\/p>\n
2. N\u00eb autobus, nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb qorton vajz\u00ebn e saj t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebn dhe p\u00ebr gjith\u00e7ka. Ju:
\na. P\u00ebrpiqeni t\u00eb diskutoni me n\u00ebn\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u2019i marr\u00eb mendjen.
\nb. Nd\u00ebrroni vend.
\nc. I buz\u00ebqeshni vajz\u00ebs
\nd. Zhyteni n\u00eb librin q\u00eb po lexoni dhe b\u00ebni sikur nuk shihni dhe d\u00ebgjoni gj\u00eb.<\/p>\n
3. Kur duhet t\u00eb flen\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00ebn 10 vje\u00e7, n\u00eb fundjav\u00eb:
\na. S\u2019ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi kur flen\u00eb, mjafton t\u00eb plot\u00ebsojn\u00eb or\u00ebt e gjumit.
\nb. Kjo ndryshon nga nj\u00ebri f\u00ebmij\u00eb te tjetri.
\nc. Mund t\u00eb flen\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb, por pa e tepruar.
\nd. Nj\u00ebsoj si n\u00eb dit\u00ebt e tjera t\u00eb jav\u00ebs.<\/p>\n
4. Ka disa dit\u00eb q\u00eb vajza juaj 13 vje\u00e7are e mbyll der\u00ebn e dhom\u00ebs s\u00eb saj me \u00e7el\u00ebs:
\na. Normale, adoleshent\u00ebt kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr intimitetin e tyre.
\nb. \u00c7far\u00eb fsheh ajo? Ju i hidhni nj\u00eb sy dhom\u00ebs kur ajo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb aty.
\nc. Para se t\u00eb reagoni, ju i lini pak koh\u00eb. Mbase nuk do t\u00eb vazhdoj\u00eb gjat\u00eb.
\nd. Nuk e lejoni dhe i merrni \u00e7el\u00ebsin.<\/p>\n
5. Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb 14 vje\u00e7e dhe ka bler\u00eb nj\u00eb mi t\u00eb bardh\u00eb, t\u00eb cilin e mban n\u00eb qaf\u00eb dhe e v\u00eb t\u00eb fler\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebt e krevatit.
\na. N\u00ebse ajo kujdeset vet\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb, nuk jeni kund\u00ebr.
\nb. \u00c7far\u00eb shijeje! Por, do t\u2019i kaloj\u00eb, si shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb tjera.
\nc. I lini disa dit\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u ndar\u00eb nga kjo kafsh\u00eb e vog\u00ebl. Pastaj, le t\u00eb zgjedh\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr!
\nd. \u00c7far\u00eb tmerri! Ta \u00e7oj\u00eb aty ku e mori, pa diskutimin m\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl!<\/p>\n
6. Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb 15 vje\u00e7e dhe vjen n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi me nj\u00eb pirsing n\u00eb vetull, gj\u00eb q\u00eb ju ia kishit ndaluar:
\na. Ajo q\u00eb u b\u00eb, u b\u00eb. Jeni i\/e pak\u00ebnaqur, por nuk do ta b\u00ebni situat\u00ebn tragjike.
\nb. E pyesni se kush ka guxuar t\u2019i b\u00ebj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pirsing pa lejen e prind\u00ebrve. Skandaloze!
\nc. Ajo do t\u00eb d\u00ebnohet p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb gabim
\nd. Do ta detyroni ta heq\u00eb q\u00eb nes\u00ebr!<\/p>\n
7. Nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb 8 vje\u00e7ar \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn kur mund t\u00eb:
\na. … \u00e7oj\u00eb n\u00eb lavaman pjat\u00ebn e vet
\nb. …jap\u00eb nj\u00eb ndihm\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00ebt kur nuk ka shkoll\u00eb.
\nc. …ndihmoj\u00eb kur ia k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb.
\nd. …ndihmoj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb shtruar dhe ngritur tavolin\u00ebn n\u00eb \u00e7do vakt.<\/p>\n
8. Jeni ftuar te disa miq. Djali i tyre 3 vje\u00e7ar hip\u00ebn gjithandej dhe ngacmon t\u00eb gjitha gj\u00ebrat p\u00ebr qerasje:
\na. Normale, do t\u2019i kaloj\u00eb me mosh\u00eb…
\nb. Ju vjen keq p\u00ebr k\u00ebta prind\u00ebr t\u00eb shkret\u00eb q\u00eb nuk kan\u00eb asnj\u00eb minut\u00eb qet\u00ebsi.
\nc. I k\u00ebrkoni me mir\u00ebsjellje t\u00eb rrij\u00eb pak i qet\u00eb.
\nd. \u00c7\u2019munges\u00eb edukate! M\u00eb von\u00eb do t\u2019ia d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb muzik\u00ebn…<\/p>\n
9. Tri her\u00eb e keni thirrur djalin tuaj 8 vje\u00e7ar t\u00eb vij\u00eb t\u00eb haj\u00eb drek\u00eb:
\na. E th\u00ebrrisni prap\u00eb; ai duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i z\u00ebn\u00eb.
\nb. Aq m\u00eb keq p\u00ebr t\u00eb, do ta haj\u00eb gjell\u00ebn t\u00eb ftoht\u00eb
\nc. N\u00ebse nuk vjen menj\u00ebher\u00eb, e sheh ai pastaj…
\nd. Shkoni e merrni p\u00ebr veshi.<\/p>\n
10. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb 10 vje\u00e7 dhe ende nuk i ha perimet:
\na. N\u00ebse g\u00ebzon sh\u00ebndet t\u00eb mir\u00eb, nuk ka problem, do t\u2019i haj\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb.
\nb. Kjo ju shqet\u00ebson, ai rrezikon t\u00eb ket\u00eb mungesa
\nc. Ju b\u00ebni pazar. P\u00ebr shembull, n\u00ebse do patate t\u00eb skuqura, le t\u00eb haj\u00eb pak perime me par\u00eb.
\nd. Kjo nuk rrezikon t\u2019ju ndodh\u00eb, pasi f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tuaj i han\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha.<\/p>\n
11. Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb klas\u00eb t\u00eb gjasht\u00eb dhe ka ndryshuar dy nota n\u00eb d\u00ebftes\u00eb:
\na. N\u00ebse ajo e pranon, ju e qortoni dhe kaq…
\nb. Kjo flet keq p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen! Ju jeni i\/e shqet\u00ebsuar.
\nc. Ju doni t\u00eb kuptoni pse e ka b\u00ebr\u00eb ajo k\u00ebt\u00eb… Kaq frik\u00eb ka prej jush?
\nd. \u00cbsht\u00eb serioz falsifikimi i notave! Do t\u2019ia hiqni ju k\u00ebt\u00eb zakon!<\/p>\n
12. Mendoni se f\u00ebmij\u00ebve u duhet dh\u00ebn\u00eb nj\u00eb pag\u00eb e vog\u00ebl javore?
\na. Sa m\u00eb shpejt t\u00eb m\u00ebsojn\u00eb t\u2019i menaxhojn\u00eb lek\u00ebt e tyre, aq m\u00eb mir\u00eb
\nb. Kjo i b\u00ebn t\u00eb ndjehen mir\u00eb, pasi i blejn\u00eb me lek\u00ebt e tyre gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb duan.
\nc. S\u2019ka asnj\u00eb interes para n\u00ebnt\u00ebvje\u00e7ares.
\nd. T\u2019i shp\u00ebrblesh me para, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u2019i prish\u00ebsh.<\/p>\n
13. Sa her\u00eb q\u00eb hap kompjuterin, djali juaj 13 vje\u00e7ar, kontrollon e-mailin tuaj:
\na. Do t\u2019i kaloj\u00eb… Pastaj, ju nuk keni gj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb fshehur.
\nb. Edhe ju t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb b\u00ebni, shihni faqen e tij t\u00eb Facebookut.
\nc. E pamundur, ai nuk e di kodin tuaj t\u00eb hyrjes.
\nd. E papranueshme! Kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb pun\u00eb e tij.<\/p>\n
14. Vajza juaj 14 vje\u00e7are, boshatis kutin\u00eb e biskotave, pa u shqet\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr pjes\u00ebtar\u00ebt e tjer\u00eb t\u00eb familjes:
\na. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kaq e r\u00ebnd\u00eb, n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha familjet k\u00ebshtu ndodh.
\nb. Ky lloj egoizmi ju \u00e7mend fare.
\nc. Pa dyshim q\u00eb ajo ka uri, duhet kuptuar.
\nd. Ju i vini \u00e7el\u00ebs, apo i fshihni gj\u00ebkundi.<\/p>\n
15. Cili nga k\u00ebto mendime ju duket m\u00eb i drejt\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e vegj\u00ebl:
\na. Shpullat jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndaluara.
\nb. M\u00eb mir\u00eb nj\u00eb shpull\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb pasme, sesa nj\u00eb d\u00ebnim i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u mbajtur
\nc. Disa f\u00ebmij\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar, kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb nga nj\u00eb shpull\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb pasme, disa, jo.
\nd. Nj\u00eb shpull\u00eb her\u00eb pas here \u00ebsht\u00eb e paevitueshme.<\/p>\n
16. \u00c7far\u00eb mendoni ju p\u00ebr v\u00ebnien e kompjuterit n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve?
\na. I domosdosh\u00ebm n\u00eb dit\u00ebt tona, sidomos duke filluar nga n\u00ebnt\u00ebvje\u00e7arja.
\nb. Ju nuk jeni shum\u00eb dakord, por n\u00eb fund, dor\u00ebzoheni…
\nc. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje besimi, me orar dhe n\u00ebn kontrollin e prind\u00ebrve, ndryshe, jo.
\nd. Kurr\u00eb, p\u00ebr arsye t\u00eb ndryshme!<\/p>\n
17. Ju ktheheni von\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi dhe n\u00eb nj\u00eb cep t\u00eb rruge shihni disa f\u00ebmij\u00eb 10-12 ve\u00e7ar\u00eb q\u00eb po zhgarravisin nj\u00eb makin\u00eb:
\na. Ju vjen keq p\u00ebr ta. T\u00eb shkret\u00ebt, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7udi q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb k\u00ebto gabime, kur i l\u00ebn\u00eb kaq von\u00eb jasht\u00eb.
\nb. Kaloni shpejt, duke b\u00ebr\u00eb sikur nuk i shihni
\nc. I pyesni se \u00e7far\u00eb jan\u00eb duke b\u00ebr\u00eb.
\nd. Lajm\u00ebroni policin\u00eb sapo shkoni n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi.<\/p>\n
Rezzultatet
\nN\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb a. E keni t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb impononi autoritetin tuaj.
\nDuhet pasur kujdes me autoritetin. Sa teprime b\u00ebhen n\u00eb em\u00ebr t\u00eb k\u00ebtij nocioni t\u00eb ashtuquajtur t\u00eb respektuesh\u00ebm? Ju shihni shembuj t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj \u00e7do dit\u00eb, ama mendoni se nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb mund ta rris\u00ebsh edhe pa i dh\u00ebn\u00eb gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebn urdh\u00ebra dhe pa i th\u00ebn\u00eb \u00abjo\u00bb \u00e7do pes\u00eb minuta. Edhe n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 2 vje\u00e7are, ata kan\u00eb t\u00eb drejtat e tyre. Sigurisht, duhet vepruar n\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatje me mosh\u00ebn dhe duke mos i v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb rrezik. Sipas jush, mund t\u00eb diskutosh me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn dhe t\u00eb mos i imponosh asgj\u00eb, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb arbitrare. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjuar tek ata shijen e liris\u00eb.
\nM\u00ebnyra juaj e t\u00eb menduarit \u00ebsht\u00eb e argumentuar dhe mb\u00ebshtetet te vullneti i qart\u00eb e i vendosur p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos u treguar si komandant\/e. Mbase ju keni ndjesin\u00eb se jeni viktim\u00eb e k\u00ebsaj gj\u00ebje n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj. Mbase keni p\u00ebrshtypjen se duan t\u2019ju fusin n\u00eb nj\u00eb form\u00eb (ashtu si futin \u00e7elikun e shkrir\u00eb), ose t\u2019ju imponojn\u00eb norma q\u00eb nuk ju p\u00ebrshtaten v\u00ebrtet? Kujt dhe p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00eb nuk doni t\u00eb bindeni ju personalisht? Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb pyetja q\u00eb duhet t\u2019i b\u00ebni vetes.
\nMegjithat\u00eb, me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt kujdesuni t\u00eb mos kalojn\u00eb disa limite dhe t\u00eb mos tundohen p\u00ebr t\u00eb shk\u00ebmbyer rolet, duke u treguar autoritar\u00eb kundrejt jush. Disa f\u00ebmij\u00eb jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb zot\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i b\u00ebr\u00eb prind\u00ebrit t\u2019u binden, pa r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb sy… Kujdes!<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb b. Autoritet i pranuar me v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi
\nAh, sikur t\u00eb mos kishit nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar autoritetin tuaj, sa e leht\u00eb do t\u00eb ishte! Sinqerisht, or\u00ebt e kaluara duke u p\u00ebrpjekur t\u00eb detyroni nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb \u00abt\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb apo at\u00eb\u00bb ju duken t\u00eb lodhshme dhe jo shum\u00eb zbavit\u00ebse. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb an\u00eb e edukimit q\u00eb ju lodh, por \u00ebsht\u00eb e detyrueshme. At\u00ebhere, ju mundoheni t\u2019i thoni derrit daj\u00eb ngaq\u00eb s\u2019keni \u00e7\u2019t\u00eb b\u00ebni. Megjithat\u00eb, kjo gj\u00eb bie n\u00eb sy, juve ju mungon nganj\u00ebher\u00eb bindja dhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, sigurisht, e kuptojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb, gj\u00eb q\u00eb i shtyn t\u00eb \u00abb\u00ebjn\u00eb pazar\u00bb me urdh\u00ebrat tuaja. Meq\u00eb ju nuk keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb debatoni me ta, ata p\u00ebrfitojn\u00eb dhe meq\u00eb ju k\u00ebrkoni t\u2019ju binden, tratativat b\u00ebhen gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb t\u00eb shpeshta dhe t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira. Pse nuk i jepni r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi autoritetit tuaj? Mbase kjo fsheh nj\u00eb lloj frike se f\u00ebmij\u00ebt nuk do t\u2019ju duan n\u00ebse shkoni kund\u00ebr vullnetit t\u00eb tyre. Mbase kjo u referohet momenteve t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb suaj, ku keni dyshuar p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb e nj\u00ebrit prej prind\u00ebrve. Kjo mund t\u00eb l\u00ebr\u00eb disa gjurm\u00eb q\u00eb dalin n\u00eb drit\u00eb kur b\u00ebhesh vet\u00eb prind. Kujdes q\u00eb f\u00ebmija juaj t\u00eb mos ndjej\u00eb bezdin\u00eb tuaj p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorur autoritetin. N\u00ebse ai ndjen v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsin\u00eb tuaj p\u00ebr t\u2019u imponuar, rrezikon t\u00eb luaj\u00eb dhe t\u00eb tallet me ju. Mos hezitoni t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoni her\u00eb pas here mb\u00ebshtetjen e parnterit\/es, ose edhe t\u00eb nj\u00eb shoku\/shoqeje.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb c. Autoritet i maskuar
\nP\u00ebr ju, nj\u00eb gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e sigurt\u00eb: Me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt duhet t\u00eb tregohesh elastik\/e. Megjith\u00ebse jeni i\/e bindur se \u00ebsht\u00eb e pamundur t\u00eb edukosh pa p\u00ebrdorur autoritetin, ju doni t\u00eb impononi nj\u00eb disiplin\u00eb inteligjente, t\u00eb moderuar dhe elastike. Duhet t\u00eb dish t\u00eb d\u00ebgjosh, t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatesh dhe n\u00eb fund, t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqesh t\u00eb imponohesh, por pa luajtur rolin e shefit q\u00eb imponon rregullat e tij. Autoriteti i past\u00ebr dhe i eg\u00ebr ju l\u00ebndon n\u00eb shpirt. Ju preferoni t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorni nj\u00eb strategji m\u00eb fine dhe t\u00eb keni besim n\u00eb forc\u00ebn tuaj bind\u00ebse. Keni t\u00eb drejt\u00eb, sepse, n\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb shumt\u00ebn e rasteve, ju i arrini q\u00ebllimet tuaja duke gjetur argumente dhe shpjegime q\u00eb i shtyjn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00eb rrug\u00ebn e bindjes. N\u00eb realitet, b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr autoritet, por ai \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i kamufluar dhe bie m\u00eb pak n\u00eb sy. Mbase n\u00eb rini keni pasur p\u00ebrshtypjen se ju kan\u00eb drejtuar dhe dominuar me tepri? Sikur nuk ju kan\u00eb marr\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00eb konsiderat\u00eb ose d\u00ebgjuar, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb kishit gj\u00ebra p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb? Mbase do t\u00eb ishte mir\u00eb p\u00ebr ju ta diskutonit k\u00ebt\u00eb tem\u00eb me an\u00ebtar\u00ebt e familjes suaj, prind\u00ebrit, v\u00ebllez\u00ebrit dhe motrat, p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar m\u00eb mir\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb keni p\u00ebrjetuar dhe \u00e7far\u00eb doni t\u2019i transmetoni brezit t\u00eb ardhsh\u00ebm. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb sqarim q\u00eb nganj\u00ebher\u00eb mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb interesant dhe i dobish\u00ebm.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb d. Autoritet i padiskutuesh\u00ebm
\nRoli i prindit nuk ka vet\u00ebm an\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebndshme, her\u00eb pas here duhet pranuar ideja se p\u00ebrballja \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl apo t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj, n\u00eb nj\u00eb moment t\u00eb caktuar, refuzojn\u00eb t\u2019i binden disiplin\u00ebs s\u00eb imponuar dhe luajn\u00eb: \u201ckush e ka krahun m\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb\u201d. \u00cbsht\u00eb normale t\u00eb mos pranosh t\u00eb bindesh me sy mbyllur. Ju e dini k\u00ebt\u00eb nga eksperienca. Edhe ju keni qen\u00eb dikur f\u00ebmij\u00eb, por ata kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr limite p\u00ebr t\u00eb ecur p\u00ebrpara n\u00eb jet\u00eb me siguri dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, jeni i\/e bindur. Ju duhet t\u2019u fiksoni atyre rregulla dhe t\u2019i vini t\u2019i zbatojn\u00eb. Ju ia dilni mbar\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, sepse autoriteti juaj ju duket nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht i ligjsh\u00ebm, i pashmangsh\u00ebm dhe i nevojsh\u00ebm. Prindi \u00ebsht\u00eb shefi, kjo hierarki \u00ebsht\u00eb e padiskutueshme dhe ju nuk e vini n\u00eb diskutim. Ka disa t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta si kjo, me t\u00eb cilat jeni i lidhur dhe nuk keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u2019i kund\u00ebrshtoni. Juve ju p\u00eblqen t\u2019i keni k\u00ebmb\u00ebt e mb\u00ebshtetura n\u00eb baza t\u00eb forta dhe t\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshme, nuk ju p\u00eblqen aspak t\u00eb ecni qorrazi. Pastaj, si do t\u00eb ishte bota pa rregulla? As q\u00eb doni ta mendoni k\u00ebt\u00eb. Mbase ju keni frik\u00eb ta lini t\u00eb lir\u00eb personalitetin tuaj t\u00eb zjarrt\u00eb dhe t\u00eb pakontrolluesh\u00ebm…
\nP\u00ebr t\u00eb mos u ndjer\u00eb si nj\u00eb robot, p\u00ebrpiquni nganj\u00ebher\u00eb t\u2019i lejoni vetes momente lirie \u00abgati\u00bb totale, ku nuk ndjeheni i\/e detyruar p\u00ebr t\u2019iu bindur, as t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, as vetes suaj, thjesht, duke ndjekur instiktin tuaj. K\u00ebshtu, mund t\u00eb merreni me aktivitete krijuese, ose thjesht t\u00eb kaloni disa or\u00eb t\u00eb lira, p\u00ebr k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi, pa orare, apo shtr\u00ebngime.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hajde t\u00eb hash, v\u00ebr n\u00ebp\u00ebr vende lodrat, laj dh\u00ebmb\u00ebt! K\u00ebto urdh\u00ebra banale, t\u00eb shqiptuara pothuajse \u00e7do dit\u00eb nga prind\u00ebrit, nuk kan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin efikasitet n\u00eb goj\u00ebn e t\u00eb gjith\u00ebve. Disa nuk kan\u00eb fare nevoj\u00eb t\u2019u k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb binden, mjafton nj\u00eb shenj\u00eb koke, ose nj\u00eb gjest, q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb at\u00eb duhet, pa u ankuar. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[51],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4082","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-test"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4082","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4082"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4082\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4082"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4082"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4082"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}