Kur pun\u00ebt n\u00eb \u00e7ift nuk shkojn\u00eb mir\u00eb, kur dashuria zbehet me kalimin e koh\u00ebs dhe mir\u00ebkuptimi l\u00ebkundet, ndarja duket e vetmja alternativ\u00eb e mundshme. Megjithat\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb kesh kuraj\u00ebn t\u00eb ndahesh prej atij\/asaj me t\u00eb cilin ke jetuar bashk\u00eb p\u00ebr kaq vjet. Juve ju duket e mundshme ndarja? P\u00ebr ta kuptuar n\u00ebse jeni t\u00eb aft\u00eb t\u00eb ndaheni, b\u00ebni testin ton\u00eb.<\/p>\n
1. Ju ka ndodhur t\u00eb niseni p\u00ebr nj\u00eb fundjav\u00eb pa t\u00eb?
\na. Kurr\u00eb, do t\u2019ju merrte malli p\u00ebr t\u00eb.
\nb. Rrall\u00eb, vet\u00ebm n\u00ebse atij\/asaj i del ndonj\u00eb gj\u00eb e paparashikueshme n\u00eb minut\u00ebn e fundit.
\nc. Nj\u00eb ose dy her\u00eb, n\u00eb periudh\u00ebn e nj\u00eb krize t\u00eb madhe
\nd. Shpesh, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb e mir\u00eb q\u00eb secili t\u00eb marr\u00eb frym\u00eb lirisht.<\/p>\n
2. Sa her\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00eb e merrni n\u00eb telefon kur jeni n\u00eb pun\u00eb?
\na. T\u00eb pakt\u00ebn 4 her\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb d\u00ebgjuar z\u00ebrin e tij\/saj, pa folur p\u00ebr email-et q\u00eb i d\u00ebrgoni.
\nb. Nj\u00eb ose dy her\u00eb, p\u00ebr ta lajm\u00ebruar se do t\u00eb ktheheni von\u00eb
\nc. Ju e merrni vet\u00ebm n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb e domosdoshme.
\nd. N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, ju merr ai\/ajo.<\/p>\n
3. Besoni n\u00eb p\u00ebrrallat me fund t\u00eb lumtur?
\na. Ju i besoni me t\u00eb gjitha fuqit\u00eb tuaja
\nb. Ju preferoni t\u00eb besoni te Princi\/Princesha i\/e Kalt\u00ebr.
\nc. Ju besoni derisa p\u00ebrralla kthehet n\u00eb nj\u00eb makth t\u00eb keq.
\nd. Jo shum\u00eb! P\u00ebr ju, gjith\u00e7ka ka nj\u00eb fillim dhe nj\u00eb fund.<\/p>\n
4. Bilanci i lidhjeve tuaja: Ju ka ndodhur t\u00eb ndaheni?
\na. Kurr\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb.
\nb. Po, sepse nuk ishit m\u00eb t\u00eb dashuruar pas nj\u00ebri-tjetrit.
\nc. Po, sepse ju nuk e donit m\u00eb.
\nd. Sigurisht!<\/p>\n
5. T\u00eb ndaheni nga nj\u00eb burr\u00eb\/grua q\u00eb ju do:
\na. Nuk ju shkon fare n\u00eb mend.
\nb. \u00cbsht\u00eb e pamendueshme ta l\u00ebndoni tjetrin!
\nc. Do t\u2019ju thyente zemr\u00ebn, por n\u00ebse nuk e doni…
\nd. Nuk ju shokon, sidomos n\u00ebse nuk e doni m\u00eb<\/p>\n
6. Nj\u00eb kush\u00ebrira juaj, e martuar prej 15 vjet\u00ebsh dhe n\u00ebn\u00eb e 2 f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, ka l\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb shoqin. \u00c7far\u00eb mendoni p\u00ebr sjelljen e saj?
\na. E pakuptueshme dhe e pap\u00ebrgjegjshme sjellja e saj, t\u00eb l\u00ebsh f\u00ebmij\u00ebt pa baba.
\nb. Sjellje radikale; duhet t\u2019i ket\u00eb ardhur n\u00eb maj\u00eb t\u00eb hund\u00ebs.
\nc. E tepruar, por n\u00ebse e ka l\u00ebn\u00eb, kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se nuk e donin m\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin.
\nd. Normale, duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb pasur arsyet e saj p\u00ebr ta l\u00ebn\u00eb.<\/p>\n
7. Ndikoheni nga q\u00ebndrimi i t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve?
\na. Shum\u00eb, doni q\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt t\u00eb ken\u00eb nj\u00eb imazh pozitiv p\u00ebr ju.
\nb. Mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00eb, nganj\u00ebher\u00eb
\nc. Jo shum\u00eb, por ndikoheni nga q\u00ebndrimi i njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb af\u00ebrt
\nd. Aspak<\/p>\n
8. Fjala \u201cndarje\u201d ju evokon:
\na. Vuajtjen
\nb. Sakrific\u00ebn
\nc. Nj\u00eb lloj lirie
\nd. \u00c7lirimin<\/p>\n
9. Kur imagjinoni jet\u00ebn tuaj pa t\u00eb, ju ndjeheni?
\na. I\/e d\u00ebrrmuar
\nb. I\/ hutuar
\nc. I\/e habitur
\nd. I\/e qet\u00eb<\/p>\n
10. Dhimbja q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndjej\u00eb ish i\/e dashuri\/a juaj n\u00eb momentin e ndarjes…
\na. … ju d\u00ebshp\u00ebron
\nb. …ju bllokon
\nc. …ju frenon
\nd. …nuk ju zgjon asnj\u00eb ndjesi<\/p>\n
11. Pas ndarjes suaj, do t\u00eb donit t\u2019ju thonin q\u00eb ai\/ajo:
\na. Ndjehet i\/e humbur pa ju
\nb. Mendon gjithmon\u00eb p\u00ebr ju
\nc. E p\u00ebrballon pak e shum\u00eb situat\u00ebn
\nd. B\u00ebn jet\u00ebn e tij\/saj<\/p>\n
12. Pas ndarjes, shoq\u00ebria propozon t\u00eb shkoni bashk\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb fest\u00eb:
\na. Nuk b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb, nuk keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb festoni
\nb. Nj\u00eb her\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, ende nuk e keni \u201cg\u00eblltitur\u201d ndarjen.
\nc. Pse jo? N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, jeta vazhdon
\nd. Ide e mir\u00eb, jeni gjithmon\u00eb i gatsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb festuar.<\/p>\n
13. Tre muaj pas ndarjes suaj, disa nga gj\u00ebrat e tij\/saj jan\u00eb ende n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb tuaj:
\na. I propozoni t\u00eb vij\u00eb t\u2019i marr\u00eb, nj\u00eb pretekst i mir\u00eb p\u00ebr ta par\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebri.
\nb. Preferoni t\u00eb mos u kushtoni v\u00ebmendje
\nc. I \u00e7oni te disa miq t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, q\u00eb t\u00eb vij\u00eb t\u2019i marr\u00eb
\nd. I hidhni. N\u00ebse i donte, do t\u2019i kishte marr\u00eb<\/p>\n
14. Ndarja rimon me:
\na. Tortur\u00ebn
\na. L\u00ebndimin
\nb. Thyerjen
\nd. Aventur\u00ebn<\/p>\n
15. Ju keni natyr\u00eb:
\na. Pasive; preferoni t\u2019i lini t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt t\u00eb marrin vendime
\nb. Reflektuese; nuk i merrni leht\u00ebsisht vendimet
\nc. P\u00ebrkujdes\u00ebse; shqet\u00ebsoheni p\u00ebr tjetrin.
\nd. T\u00eb vendosur; kur keni nj\u00eb ide n\u00eb kok\u00eb, e konkretizoni.<\/p>\n
Rezultatet
\nN\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb a: Mision i pamundur!
\nT\u00eb lini partnerin\/en? As q\u00eb b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb! Ju b\u00ebni pjes\u00eb tek ata\/ato, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt preferojn\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u2019ua l\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve n\u00eb dor\u00eb t\u00eb marrin nj\u00eb vendim t\u00eb till\u00eb. Kur jeni n\u00eb \u00e7ift, as q\u00eb ju shkon nd\u00ebrmend t\u00eb ndaheni, edhe kur \u00e7ifti juaj ka probleme. Ju nuk do t\u00eb mund ta l\u00ebndonit kurr\u00eb tjetrin duke i th\u00ebn\u00eb se \u00abka mbaruar \u00e7do gj\u00eb\u00bb. E p\u00ebrjetoni ndarjen si nj\u00eb d\u00ebshtim dhe nuk doni t\u00eb luani rolin e atij\/asaj q\u00eb largohet, gj\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e papajtueshme me natyr\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb n\u00ebnshtruar.
\nSigurisht, nj\u00eb ndarje \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb e dhimbshme, por n\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift jan\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme ndershm\u00ebria dhe sinqeriteti. N\u00ebse ju nuk jeni m\u00eb i\/e lumtur me tjetrin\/\u00ebn dhe keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u2019i jepni fund lidhjes, th\u00ebnia hapur dhe pa doreza \u00ebsht\u00eb zgjidhja m\u00eb e thjesht\u00eb dhe m\u00eb e respektueshme q\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebni kundrejt tij\/saj. P\u00ebrndryshe, do t\u00eb mbylleni n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje q\u00eb do t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb dyve t\u00eb palumtur.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje b. Ndarja \u00ebsht\u00eb hapi i fundit
\nMund ta mendoni ndarjen, por pasi keni provuar gjith\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb shp\u00ebtuar \u00e7iftin tuaj. Ju nuk jeni nga ata\/o q\u00eb i merrni vendimet leht\u00eb. Nj\u00eb z\u00ebnk\u00eb nuk mjafton p\u00ebr t\u2019i dh\u00ebn\u00eb fund lidhjes. N\u00ebse vendosni t\u00eb ndaheni prej tij\/saj, k\u00ebt\u00eb do ta b\u00ebni pasi keni reflektuar mir\u00eb dhe keni peshuar pro-t\u00eb dhe kundrat. Mbarimi i dashuris\u00eb, i vler\u00ebsimit p\u00ebr tjetrin, z\u00ebnkat e vazhdueshme, t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto jan\u00eb arsye t\u00eb vlefshme q\u00eb mund ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb jet\u00ebn n\u00eb gjirin e \u00e7iftit t\u00eb padurueshme dhe t\u2019ju shtyjn\u00eb t\u00eb shqiptoni fjal\u00ebt \u201cdua t\u00eb ndahemi\u201d. Jeni nga ata\/o q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb ta evitojn\u00eb ndarjen, por q\u00eb kalojn\u00eb n\u00eb veprim pa hezituar, kur ajo duket gj\u00eb e paevitueshme.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje c. \u00cbsht\u00eb m\u00eb e leht\u00eb p\u00ebr ta th\u00ebn\u00eb sesa p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb
\nN\u00eb teori, kjo gj\u00eb nuk ju tremb, por n\u00eb praktik\u00eb, rezulton m\u00eb e nd\u00ebrlikuar, sidomos n\u00ebse partneri\/ja ju do ende. Nuk ju p\u00eblqen aspak t\u2019i thyeni zemr\u00ebn tjetrit. Keni frik\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebndoni tjetrin, jeni shum\u00eb altruist\/e, apo ju mungon guximi? N\u00eb \u00e7do rast, ju karakterizoheni nga sensi i sakrific\u00ebs. Megjith\u00ebse keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u2019i jepni fund lidhjes, dashuria e tjetrit ushtron ndikimin e vet te ju. K\u00ebshtu, pra, nuk guxoni ta lini, nga frika se mos e l\u00ebndoni dhe i thyeni zemr\u00ebn. Kini parasysh se edhe ju keni t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u00eb jeni i\/e lumtur. \u00cbsht\u00eb e l\u00ebvdueshme nga ana juaj d\u00ebshira p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos e l\u00ebnduar tjetrin, duke u ndar\u00eb prej tij\/saj (n\u00ebse ai\/ajo ju do akoma), por p\u00ebrkujdesja q\u00eb keni kundrejt tij\/saj mund t\u00eb tregohet edhe n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si do t\u2019i thoni se lidhja ka mbaruar.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje d. Ju mund t\u00eb ndaheni pa problem
\nNdarja nuk ju frik\u00ebson, \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb do ta b\u00ebnit me leht\u00ebsi dhe pa u sforcuar. Mbase \u00ebsht\u00eb eksperienca q\u00eb jua ka m\u00ebsuar k\u00ebt\u00eb? Megjith\u00ebse procesi i ndarjes \u00ebsht\u00eb i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, ju nuk hezitoni p\u00ebr ta marr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb vendim n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb i pashmangsh\u00ebm. Sigurisht, n\u00ebse vendosni t\u2019i jepni fund lidhjes, kjo ndodh sepse ekziston nj\u00eb arsye e fort\u00eb (munges\u00eb dashurie, interesi, k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsie). N\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb kthesh faqe dhe t\u00eb mos e zgjat\u00ebsh shum\u00eb. Keni nj\u00eb natyr\u00eb t\u00eb pavarur dhe jeni i ndersh\u00ebm kundrejt t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve dhe vetes. Pse t\u00eb jetoni se bashku n\u00ebse kjo ju b\u00ebn fatkeq\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb dy? Pasi keni marr\u00eb vendimin, ju nuk i bini rrotull e rrotull. Kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se nuk l\u00ebndoheni nga ndarja, por ju nuk keni natyr\u00eb nostalgjike. Nj\u00eb gj\u00eb q\u00eb ka mbaruar, ka mbaruar…<\/p>\n
Blerta<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Kur pun\u00ebt n\u00eb \u00e7ift nuk shkojn\u00eb mir\u00eb, kur dashuria zbehet me kalimin e koh\u00ebs dhe mir\u00ebkuptimi l\u00ebkundet, ndarja duket e vetmja alternativ\u00eb e mundshme. Megjithat\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb kesh kuraj\u00ebn t\u00eb ndahesh prej atij\/asaj me t\u00eb cilin ke jetuar bashk\u00eb p\u00ebr kaq vjet. Juve ju duket e mundshme ndarja? P\u00ebr ta kuptuar n\u00ebse jeni t\u00eb aft\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[51],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3712","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-test"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3712","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3712"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3712\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3712"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3712"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3712"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}