{"id":3667,"date":"2014-10-01T15:14:41","date_gmt":"2014-10-01T15:14:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=3667"},"modified":"2014-10-01T15:14:41","modified_gmt":"2014-10-01T15:14:41","slug":"pse-nuk-me-qetesohet-dhimbjet-e-kokes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2014\/10\/pse-nuk-me-qetesohet-dhimbjet-e-kokes\/","title":{"rendered":"Pse nuk m\u00eb qet\u00ebsohet dhimbjet e kok\u00ebs?"},"content":{"rendered":"

– Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr doktor Jasharin: Jam nj\u00eb zonj\u00eb e divorcuar. Kam shum\u00eb dhimbje koke, kryesisht te t\u00ebmthat e sheshi i kok\u00ebs. Vet\u00ebm serumet q\u00eb b\u00ebj, m\u00eb qet\u00ebsojn\u00eb nja tre or\u00eb. Pastaj, m\u00eb fillon prap\u00eb dhimbja. Me k\u00ebto dhimbje kam 13 vjet, q\u00ebkur kam lindur nj\u00eb djal\u00eb t\u00eb vdekur t\u00eb cilin e kam mbajtur 20 dit\u00eb t\u00eb vdekur n\u00eb bark. Ju lutem, m\u00eb thoni \u00e7far\u00eb mund t\u00eb kem, pasi ila\u00e7et nuk m\u00eb qet\u00ebsojn\u00eb? Jam n\u00eb pritje t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjes. Me respekt Ana. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Dr. Jashar Demiri, psikolog klinicist:<\/em><\/strong> – E nderuar zonj\u00eb, t\u00eb jetosh me t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb d\u00ebm i madh q\u00eb njeriu i b\u00ebn vete dhe shkelja e ligjit shpirt\u00ebror. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb aq e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb saq\u00eb thuhet se e shkuara dhe e ardhmja jan\u00eb \u201chajdut\u00ebt\u201d m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj t\u00eb koh\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb lumturis\u00eb son\u00eb. E shikoni se \u00e7far\u00eb ndodh? Lindja e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije t\u00eb vdekur para 13 viteve, divorci etj., ju kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb me shum\u00eb dhimbje koke q\u00eb prej 13 vjet\u00ebsh, aq sa thua se ila\u00e7et nuk t\u00eb qet\u00ebsojn\u00eb. Un\u00eb e di shum\u00eb mir\u00eb se p\u00ebrse nuk i qet\u00ebsojn\u00eb ila\u00e7et k\u00ebto lloj dhimbjesh koke, ka plot t\u00eb till\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb vijn\u00eb me analizat dhe EEG q\u00eb u dalin shk\u00eblqyer e megjithat\u00eb, dhimbja e kok\u00ebs nuk u pushon. Q\u00eb n\u00eb seanc\u00ebn e par\u00eb un\u00eb e kuptoj se kjo gj\u00eb ndodh pasi tek ata, dhimbja e kok\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyra me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn trupi i tyre i p\u00ebrgjigjet stresit, ankthit, panikut, frik\u00ebrave depersive. Ata nuk e besojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb dhe ndodh q\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb thon\u00eb: \u201cO doktor, po un\u00eb njoh plot t\u00eb tjer\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb strese e ankth m\u00eb shum\u00eb se un\u00eb e megjithat\u00eb, nuk kan\u00eb dhimbje koke. Kjo gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, u them un\u00eb, por ju jeni ajo lloj \u201crace\u201d q\u00eb i p\u00ebrgjigjet stresit, ankthit, frik\u00ebrave, pik\u00ebrisht n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, pra, me dhimbje koke, kurse disa t\u00eb tjer\u00eb skuqen, zverdhen, djersijn\u00eb, qajn\u00eb etj. Ju nuk jeni fajtor\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb, por e keqja k\u00ebtu \u00ebsht\u00eb se ju as nuk e besoni se keni nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr psikolog, sepse vet\u00ebm p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimi i m\u00ebnyr\u00ebs s\u00eb t\u00eb menduarit do t\u00eb jet\u00eb sh\u00ebrimi juaj, pra, p\u00ebrpunimi i aft\u00ebsive tuaja relaksuese e referuese, kryesisht me ca teknika q\u00eb ne i quajm\u00eb \u201cteknikat e humbjes s\u00eb mendjes\u201d. K\u00ebto teknika duhen njohur e zbatuar pasi ju b\u00ebni n\u00eb fakt t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt\u00ebn dhe m\u00eb konkretisht, sa her\u00eb q\u00eb ju kap dhimbja e kok\u00ebs, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb qet\u00ebsoheni e t\u00eb relaksoheni, ju, gati si n\u00eb alarm apo panik, thoni: \u201cJa, p\u00ebrs\u00ebri! Ma shkat\u00ebrroi jet\u00ebn kjo dhimbje q\u00eb s\u2019po ma sh\u00ebrojn\u00eb as doktor\u00ebt. Mos kam ndonj\u00eb kancer n\u00eb tru?!\u201d etj. etj. Pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebtu fillon edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb dhimbja e kok\u00ebs dhe kjo b\u00ebhet gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb nj\u00eb burim stresi, si\u00e7 edhe e shpjegova se vet\u00eb stresi sjell reagimin me dhimbje t\u00eb shtuara koke. Ky lloj \u201crrethi vicioz\u201d nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i leht\u00eb as p\u00ebr t\u2019u kuptuar e as p\u00ebr t\u2019u ndaluar, pavar\u00ebsisht se shum\u00eb klient\u00eb e kuptojn\u00eb se veprojn\u00eb nj\u00eblloj sikur t\u00eb duan q\u00eb t\u2019ia shkaktojn\u00eb vetes dhimbjen e kok\u00ebs. Ju m\u00eb thoni n\u00eb letr\u00ebn tuaj se vet\u00ebm serumet ju qet\u00ebsojn\u00eb jo me shum\u00eb se 3 or\u00eb dhe dhimbjet fillojn\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebri. Un\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb e kuptoj shum\u00eb mir\u00eb, pasi serumet me ila\u00e7et gjum\u00ebv\u00ebn\u00ebse i nd\u00ebrpresin jo dhimbjet, por shkaktarin e tyre, mendimet dhe pastaj sapo truri del nga p\u00ebrgjumja, ai fillon avazin e vjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n

– Ngjash\u00ebm me k\u00ebt\u00eb, mund t\u00eb kujtojm\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb mund t\u2019i b\u00ebjn\u00eb ila\u00e7et nj\u00eb njeriu xheloz i cili vuan n\u00eb \u00e7do \u00e7ast \u201ctradhtin\u00eb\u201d imagjinare t\u00eb s\u00eb dashur\u00ebs, aq sa nga kjo i dhemb edhe koka. Ila\u00e7et n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast e b\u00ebjn\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb se ka t\u00eb dashur apo se ajo e tradhton, pra, edhe n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb ato e qet\u00ebsojn\u00eb, porse kjo gjendje s\u2019mund t\u00eb mbahet e till\u00eb, pasi pas pak or\u00ebsh, truri kthjellohet dhe sapo t\u2019i ik\u00eb efekti i drog\u00ebrave, ai i kthehet po t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtit avaz. K\u00ebta lloj njer\u00ebzish un\u00eb nuk i p\u00ebrgjum me ila\u00e7e kimikate pas t\u00eb cilave ata nuk jan\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb ngasin makin\u00ebn, t\u00eb m\u00ebsojn\u00eb apo t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb dashuri, por i sh\u00ebroj me psikoterapi e hipnoterapi dhe me ila\u00e7e 100 % bimore, t\u00eb cilat rregullojn\u00eb ekuilibrat dhe rrisin aft\u00ebsit\u00eb konjitive t\u00eb trurit. Un\u00eb p\u00ebrdor me ta disa lloje psikoterapish, sidomos kur shoh se p\u00ebrvojat e tyre t\u00eb hershme jan\u00eb trondit\u00ebse dhe kan\u00eb l\u00ebn\u00eb gjurm\u00eb, edhe kur duken se jan\u00eb harruar apo nuk kujtohen me nd\u00ebrgjegje. Kam p\u00ebrdorur me sukses edhe nj\u00eb metod\u00eb q\u00eb quhet EMDR. Sipas mjekes italiane Kiara Libero, n\u00eb librin \u201cKura natyrore kund\u00ebr depresionit\u201d, botuar edhe n\u00eb shqip (faqe 43), EMDR-ja bazohet n\u00eb parimin sipas t\u00eb cilit nj\u00eb kujtim trondit\u00ebs, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb, magazinohet n\u00eb kujtes\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme nga kujtimet normale apo t\u00eb k\u00ebndshme; imazhet, tingujt, ndjesit\u00eb e lidhura me at\u00eb moment nuk rip\u00ebrpunohen nga truri, por mbeten ashtu si\u00e7 jan\u00eb p\u00ebrjetuar p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb. Kjo b\u00ebn q\u00eb k\u00ebto kujtime t\u00eb kthehen dhe t\u00eb paraqiten n\u00eb form\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb ankthshme, duke shkaktuar n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb mendime obsesive, makthe, forma depresive, si edhe kurthe paniku. Kush ka p\u00ebsuar nj\u00eb traum\u00eb, e di q\u00eb rrall\u00eb e kujton me nd\u00ebrgjegje t\u00eb plot\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb ka ndodhur, porse i p\u00ebrjeton t\u00eb gjitha ndjesit\u00eb, pa e kuptuar se pse. Kjo metod\u00eb tip hipnoze teraupetike, \u201cpunon\u201d me kujtimet duke lejuar komunikimin midis dy hemisferave t\u00eb trurit, t\u00eb cilat kan\u00eb n\u00eb fakt funksione t\u00eb ndryshme, por edhe plot\u00ebsuese ndaj nj\u00ebra-tjetr\u00ebs… Besoj se e kupton, e nderuara zonj\u00eb, se k\u00ebto raste, p\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq, shkojn\u00eb te psikologu n\u00eb fund, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb shkojn\u00eb n\u00eb fillim.<\/p>\n

Besoj se u kuptuam se dhimbja juaj e kok\u00ebs, ju \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb kronike p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb stresit e ankthit kronik, ndaj edhe sh\u00ebrimi juaj do t\u00eb vij\u00eb duke \u00e7aktivizuar burimin q\u00eb e shkakton k\u00ebt\u00eb lloj dhimbje, pra, \u201cvatr\u00ebn\u201d e alarmit tuaj kronik. Kjo gj\u00eb nuk arrihet menj\u00ebher\u00eb, vet\u00ebm me pak seanca, por gjithsesi arrihet plot\u00ebsisht dhe ky, p\u00ebr ju, \u00ebsht\u00eb besoj nj\u00eb lajm i mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

– Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr doktor Jasharin: Jam nj\u00eb zonj\u00eb e divorcuar. Kam shum\u00eb dhimbje koke, kryesisht te t\u00ebmthat e sheshi i kok\u00ebs. Vet\u00ebm serumet q\u00eb b\u00ebj, m\u00eb qet\u00ebsojn\u00eb nja tre or\u00eb. Pastaj, m\u00eb fillon prap\u00eb dhimbja. Me k\u00ebto dhimbje kam 13 vjet, q\u00ebkur kam lindur nj\u00eb djal\u00eb t\u00eb vdekur t\u00eb cilin e kam mbajtur […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3667","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3667","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3667"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3667\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3667"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3667"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3667"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}