{"id":3542,"date":"2014-09-24T15:56:26","date_gmt":"2014-09-24T15:56:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=3542"},"modified":"2014-09-24T15:56:26","modified_gmt":"2014-09-24T15:56:26","slug":"shpjegimi-i-endrres-tuaj-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2014\/09\/shpjegimi-i-endrres-tuaj-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Shpjegimi i endrres tuaj…"},"content":{"rendered":"

Tre djaj<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Isha shtrir\u00eb n\u00eb krevat dhe po rrija. Pas pak, ndjeva nj\u00eb si t\u00ebrheqje nga k\u00ebmba. Kur pash\u00eb posht\u00eb, ishin tre djaj me ngjyra t\u00eb ndryshme: Nj\u00eb i kuq, nj\u00eb blu dhe nj\u00eb jeshil. I kuqi po me t\u00ebrhiqte prej k\u00ebmbe. I trembur, u kapa te d\u00ebrrasa e kok\u00ebs s\u00eb krevatit, por ajo u thye, pa kaluar nj\u00eb sekond\u00eb. Rreth meje u shfaq\u00ebn njer\u00ebz t\u00eb cil\u00ebt i njihja dhe ata po m\u00eb shikonin me p\u00ebr\u00e7mim, kurse djajt\u00eb, qesh\u00ebn me t\u00eb madhe. Ju lutem, m\u00eb thoni, \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Djalli, n\u00eb \u00ebndrra, p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebson epshet dhe emocionet tona, t\u00eb cilat nuk kemi mundur t\u2019i shtypim apo t\u2019i kontrollojm\u00eb. Inatet dhe nxitjet e epshit \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb kontrollohen, ndaj edhe n\u00eb \u00ebndrra ato na shfaqen n\u00eb nj\u00eb form\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb, si nxitjet e djallit. Brenda secilit prej nesh q\u00ebndron forca e kreativitetit dhe e shkat\u00ebrrimit gjithashtu dhe p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht, jan\u00eb frik\u00ebrat tona (m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti, frika nga s\u00ebmundjet) q\u00eb na paraqiten n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr. \u00cbndrra juaj, tregon domosdoshm\u00ebrin\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrballeni me frik\u00ebrat tuaja, t\u00eb cilat nganj\u00ebher\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb pajustifikuara. \u00cbndrra tregon se do t\u00eb jeni shum\u00eb i ngarkuar, por momenti i tanish\u00ebm nuk duket shum\u00eb i favorsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr \u00e7\u00ebshtje t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme n\u00eb aspektin profesional, pasi ekziston mund\u00ebsia q\u00eb t\u2019ju mashtrojn\u00eb. Detaj interesant n\u00eb \u00ebndrr\u00ebn tuaj \u00ebsht\u00eb fakti q\u00eb tre djajt\u00eb kan\u00eb ngjyra t\u00eb ndryshme q\u00eb lidhen me an\u00ebt e ndryshme t\u00eb vet\u00eb karakterit ton\u00eb. Kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se, pavar\u00ebsisht se si e keni par\u00eb \u00ebndrr\u00ebn, ajo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb negative\u2026 Ngjyra e gjelb\u00ebr n\u00eb \u00ebndrra simbolizon nj\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsim t\u00eb mundsh\u00ebm, progres apo lul\u00ebzim, pasi \u00ebsht\u00eb e lidhur me natyr\u00ebn dhe paqen, nd\u00ebrsa bluja, e lidhur me thell\u00ebsin\u00eb dhe stabilitetin. Me sa duket, juve ju sulmon djalli i kuq, pra, ai q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i lidhur me energjin\u00eb, rrezikun, fuqin\u00eb e pushtetin, ashtu si edhe me d\u00ebshir\u00ebn dhe dashurin\u00eb… Mos ndoshta koh\u00ebt e fundit keni patur nj\u00eb tundim q\u00eb bie ndesh me moralin apo parimet tuaja? Ndoshta synoni t\u00eb ecni p\u00ebrpara, por nuk dini n\u00ebse rruga q\u00eb keni zgjedhur do t\u00eb p\u00ebrqafohet nga njer\u00ebzit te t\u00eb cil\u00ebt besoni? Djalli qesh me ju sepse jeni ju vet\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn reale q\u00eb grindeni me veten p\u00ebr frik\u00ebn q\u00eb keni apo ato q\u00eb ndjeni, por mos u trembni\u2026 nuk do t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb v\u00ebrtet k\u00ebshtu n\u00eb jet\u00eb. Fakti q\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr ju jeni kund\u00ebrshtar me djallin, tregon se nuk keni pse t\u2019i trembeni ndonj\u00eb sjelljeje t\u00eb gabuar nga ana juaj. E vetmja gj\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebni, \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb besim te vetja dhe t\u00eb mendoheni mir\u00eb para se t\u2019i besoni dikujt q\u00eb e ka v\u00ebrtet n\u00eb dor\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtjen p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn interesoheni.<\/p>\n

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Gremina <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

– Shoh gjithmon\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn \u00ebnd\u00ebrr, sikur bie n\u00eb gremin\u00eb dhe pastaj, gjithmon\u00eb, zgjohem… Koli<\/strong><\/p>\n

– \u00cbndrra shpreh nj\u00eb ndjesi frike, boshll\u00ebku dhe pamund\u00ebsie aktuale. N\u00ebse e shikoni \u00ebndrr\u00ebn her\u00eb pas here, si\u00e7 thoni, mundohuni t\u00eb kuptoni n\u00eb cilat momente t\u00eb jet\u00ebs suaj e shikoni at\u00eb. Mos ndoshta at\u00ebhere kur ndiheni keq dhe bosh shpirt\u00ebrisht? N\u00eb vetvete, kjo lloj \u00ebndrre nuk b\u00ebn ndonj\u00eb parashikim dhe, ndon\u00ebse mund t\u00eb duket negative, nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr e till\u00eb, aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr e p\u00ebrs\u00ebritur, \u00ebsht\u00eb e lidhur me nj\u00eb lloj hapjeje tuaj\u00ebn ndaj bot\u00ebs, \u00ebsht\u00eb simbol i dinamizmit dhe entuziazmit, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb edhe i aft\u00ebsis\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u shoq\u00ebruar me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, tregon nj\u00eb predispozit\u00eb pozitive p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrballuar gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb t\u00eb ofron jeta, ndaj un\u00eb ju k\u00ebshilloj t\u00eb mos e mbani mendjen n\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebritjen e saj, por t\u00eb shijoni \u00e7far\u00eb keni n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj. Do ta shikoni se \u00ebsht\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht mendimi juaj p\u00ebr t\u00eb, ai q\u00eb e kthen dhe e rikthen \u00ebndrr\u00ebn n\u00eb net\u00ebt tuaja\u2026<\/p>\n

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Merimangat dhe pallati pengues<\/strong><\/p>\n

– N\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr isha me familjen me pushime diku n\u00eb nj\u00eb plazh shum\u00eb t\u00eb bukur. I thash\u00eb mamit: \u201cDo t\u00eb shkoj tek i dashuri t\u2019i them q\u00eb k\u00ebtu \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb mrekulli dhe duhet t\u00eb vish patjet\u00ebr k\u00ebtu ku jam un\u00eb me pushime\u201d. U nisa, por p\u00ebrpara m\u00eb ngrihej nj\u00eb pallat shum\u00eb i madh. Pas shum\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekjesh, e gjeta hyrjen e t\u00eb dashurit, por kur shkova t\u00eb hapja der\u00ebn, m\u00eb dol\u00ebn p\u00ebrpara dy merimanga shum\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha t\u00eb zeza, q\u00eb nuk m\u00eb linin t\u00eb hyja brenda. Si\u00e7 isha n\u00eb siklet, u zgjova nga gjumi. Pres nj\u00eb shpjegim nga ju. Faleminderit. <\/strong><\/p>\n

– <\/strong>\u00cbndrra tregon se jeni para nj\u00eb ndryshimi ose tranzicioni midis asaj \u00e7far\u00eb ndjeni dhe \u00e7far\u00eb realisht b\u00ebni n\u00eb realitet. Plazhi i bukur paraqet vizionin tuaj p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn dhe d\u00ebshir\u00ebn se si do t\u00eb donit t\u00eb ishte realisht jeta juaj, sidomos ajo private. Pallati i ngritur \u00ebsht\u00eb pengesa q\u00eb ju do t\u00eb hasni p\u00ebr t\u00eb arritur q\u00ebllimet tuaja, t\u00eb cilat duket se kan\u00eb lidhje pik\u00ebrisht me personin e zemr\u00ebs. Doni ta b\u00ebni zyrtare, por di\u00e7ka nga ana e tij ju \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb, ose do ju b\u00ebhet penges\u00eb. Do t\u00eb kaloni disa v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi sidomos n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb. Merimangat simbolizojn\u00eb problemet tuaja, pengesat, debatet, por edhe forc\u00ebn tuaj p\u00ebr t\u2019ia dal\u00eb mban\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00ebje. Jeni shum\u00eb e ngat\u00ebrruar k\u00ebto koh\u00eb dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb dor\u00ebn tuaj q\u00eb t\u2019u jepni nj\u00eb zgjidhje problemeve. V\u00ebrtet keni pengesa, por duke qen\u00eb natyr\u00eb krijuese, mund t\u00eb gjeni nj\u00eb zgjidhje t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatshme p\u00ebr ju. N\u00ebse nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e th\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb zgjidhja t\u00eb jet\u00eb drejt t\u00eb dashurit tuaj, at\u00ebhere zgjidhja q\u00eb duhet t\u2019i kushtoni m\u00eb shum\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb kujdeseni p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin tuaj, n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb. Asgj\u00eb nuk b\u00ebhet pa d\u00ebshir\u00ebn e tjetrit. Ju nuk mund t\u00eb luftoni e vetme. \u00cbndrrat, ve\u00e7 t\u00eb tjerash, jan\u00eb edhe k\u00ebshilluese. Shmangni problemet, qet\u00ebsohuni dhe b\u00ebni nj\u00eb hap mbrapa q\u00eb t\u00eb reflektoni m\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00ebse ia vlen t\u00eb luftoni p\u00ebr at\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb doni, apo jo!<\/p>\n

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Kishin \u00e7elur kumbullat<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Kam par\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr shum\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7uditshme, e cila m\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb merak. Shkova n\u00eb fshat te gjyshja dhe m\u00eb tha: \u201cDil p\u00ebrjashta se kan\u00eb \u00e7elur kumbullat\u201d. Dola dhe, \u00e7\u2019t\u00eb shikoja? Kishte lul\u00ebzuar i gjith\u00eb vendi! M\u00eb kan\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb se, t\u00eb shikosh kumbulla n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr, \u00ebsht\u00eb fatkeq\u00ebsi. A \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb kjo gj\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– <\/strong>Nuk duhet t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsoheni, sepse nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr e till\u00eb nuk tregon fatkeq\u00ebsi, p\u00ebrkundrazi, ajo parashikon rini, gjall\u00ebri dhe karakterin tuaj t\u00eb pafajsh\u00ebm. N\u00ebse gjer tani keni kaluar disa probleme, tani e tutje, pas k\u00ebsaj \u00ebndrre, do t\u2019i kap\u00ebrceni t\u00eb gjitha v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsit\u00eb dhe fati tashm\u00eb do t\u00eb jet\u00eb me ju. Pra, si\u00e7 e shikoni, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr fatsjell\u00ebse. Gjith\u00eb t\u00eb mirat!<\/p>\n

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Humba t\u00eb dashurin<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Isha n\u00eb makin\u00eb dhe po udh\u00ebtoja me t\u00eb dashurin tim. E mora p\u00ebr ta ngar\u00eb dhe pash\u00eb q\u00eb di\u00e7ka nuk shkonte me makin\u00ebn time. Nuk po ecte. I dashuri, m\u00eb tha: \u201cMa jep mua se ti nuk di t\u2019i jap\u00ebsh makin\u00ebs\u201d. I them: \u201cOk, nise ti makin\u00ebn se un\u00eb po dal pak jasht\u00eb\u201d. U gjenda n\u00eb nj\u00eb ambient t\u00eb humbur dhe u kujtova se e kisha humbur t\u00eb dashurin. E mora n\u00eb telefon, por nuk punonte celulari. K\u00ebrkova n\u00eb xhepin e pantallonave dhe gjeta ca para. Po mendoja se me k\u00ebto mund t\u00eb shkoja gjer tek i dashuri, duke marr\u00eb taksi. Nga sikleti se nuk po gjeja dot asnj\u00eb taksi dhe q\u00eb nuk po komunikoja dot me t\u00eb dashurin, u zgjova nga gjumi. Ju lutem, m\u00eb thoni, \u00e7far\u00eb parashikon?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– <\/strong>E nderuar lexuese! Nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr e till\u00eb tregon marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien tuaj me t\u00eb dashurin, si e menaxhoni at\u00eb, si ndiheni p\u00ebr momentin dhe \u00e7far\u00eb parashikon e ardhmja. Ka gj\u00ebra n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj private q\u00eb kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u rishikuar, sepse ju keni koh\u00eb q\u00eb heshtni p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka, ndaj ka ardhur koha q\u00eb t\u00eb reagoni menj\u00ebher\u00eb, ndryshe mund t\u00eb rrezikoni marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien tuaj. Duhet t\u00eb tregoni q\u00eb keni edhe ju t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u00eb flisni, sidomos kur shikoni di\u00e7ka q\u00eb nuk shkon. N\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr, i dashuri ju merr timonin e makin\u00ebs, q\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se ai ju drejton si\u00e7 do ai, pa pyetur p\u00ebr d\u00ebshirat tuaja. V\u00ebshtir\u00ebsia e komunikimit me celular \u00ebsht\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsia q\u00eb keni p\u00ebr t\u2019u shprehur. Parat\u00eb tregojn\u00eb debate, por edhe vler\u00ebn q\u00eb i jepni vetes suaj dhe, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, nuk e vler\u00ebsoni si\u00e7 duhet vetveten. N\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr, n\u00eb fund, jeni vet\u00ebm, keni humbur dhe realisht, ashtu ndiheni n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. N\u00ebse ka di\u00e7ka q\u00eb nuk shkon, ka ardhur momenti t\u00eb reagoni dhe t\u2019i jepni nj\u00eb drejtim ndryshe lidhjes suaj. Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb mesazhi q\u00eb ju p\u00ebrcjell \u00ebndrra.<\/p>\n

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Me n\u00ebn\u00ebn e shokut<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Para dy net\u00ebsh kam par\u00eb n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr sikur isha me disa miq e po festonim di\u00e7ka jasht\u00eb, por nuk e mbaj mend se \u00e7far\u00eb. M\u00eb telefonoi nj\u00eb shoku im dhe m\u00eb tha: \u201cDil n\u00eb rrug\u00eb m\u00eb prit, se do vij t\u00eb t\u00eb marr me makin\u00ebn time\u201d. Kur po rrija aty, kaluan disa djem me makin\u00eb, q\u00eb m\u00eb shikonin mua dhe m\u00eb p\u00ebrqeshnin. Un\u00eb ua b\u00ebra me dor\u00eb, pavar\u00ebsisht se u ndjeva keq. Pash\u00eb makin\u00ebn e shoku tim, por u habita se n\u00eb t\u00eb ishte n\u00ebna e tij, q\u00eb fatkeq\u00ebsisht, nuk jeton m\u00eb. Hipa n\u00eb t\u00eb dhe ndihesha keq e nuk guxoja ta pyesja p\u00ebr shokun tim. A ka ndonj\u00eb kuptim?<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr e till\u00eb, s\u00eb pari, tregon q\u00eb jeni n\u00eb pritje t\u00eb ndonj\u00eb lajmi shum\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm, por kjo pritje po ju torturon disi, sepse nuk e dini \u00e7\u2019lajm do merrni. Se \u00e7far\u00eb prisni e dini vet\u00ebm ju, por ama jeni n\u00eb ankth dhe keni frik\u00eb se do t\u00eb talleni nga shoq\u00ebria. E gjitha kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb mendjen tuaj, sepse realisht, nuk do t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb k\u00ebshtu. Ju keni frik\u00eb dhe krijoni ngjarje n\u00eb mendjen tuaj, p\u00ebr sa koh\u00eb po prisni lajmin q\u00eb vet\u00ebm ju e dini. Ama, fundi i \u00ebndrr\u00ebs tregon q\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka do t\u00eb zgjidhet shum\u00eb mir\u00eb. Lajmi nuk do t\u00eb jet\u00eb mbase ashtu si\u00e7 e prisnit, por p\u00ebrfundimi do t\u00eb jet\u00eb pozitiv. N\u00ebna e shokut, pavar\u00ebsisht se nuk jeton, tregon fat p\u00ebr ju.<\/p>\n

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N\u00eb provim<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Kam par\u00eb veten n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr sikur isha n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb dhe kisha provim, por nuk po i jepja dot drejtim, nuk dija t\u2019i zgjidhja ushtrimet. U k\u00ebrkoja ndihm\u00eb shoqeve, por asnj\u00ebra nuk m\u00eb jepte asnj\u00eb lloj ndihme. Theksoj q\u00eb un\u00eb jam shum\u00eb e madhe n\u00eb mosh\u00eb dhe nuk jam n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb. <\/strong><\/p>\n

– <\/strong>Shpesh, kur gjendemi p\u00ebrball\u00eb nj\u00eb problemi, ose nj\u00eb situate q\u00eb nuk dim\u00eb se si t\u2019i japim zgjidhje, e shohim veten n\u00eb provim. Keni frik\u00eb se nuk do t\u2019ia dilni mban\u00eb, ju duket se keni ngecur dhe nuk po gjeni dot rrug\u00ebdalje, ndaj e keni par\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr. P\u00ebr sa koh\u00eb nuk do t\u2019i merrni frenat e jet\u00ebs tuaj n\u00eb dor\u00eb, do ta shikoni s\u00ebrish k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr. Mos prisni nga askush q\u00eb t\u2019ju ndihmoj\u00eb, sepse vet\u00ebm ju mund ta zgjidhni situat\u00ebn, problemin q\u00eb keni.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Tre djaj – Isha shtrir\u00eb n\u00eb krevat dhe po rrija. Pas pak, ndjeva nj\u00eb si t\u00ebrheqje nga k\u00ebmba. Kur pash\u00eb posht\u00eb, ishin tre djaj me ngjyra t\u00eb ndryshme: Nj\u00eb i kuq, nj\u00eb blu dhe nj\u00eb jeshil. I kuqi po me t\u00ebrhiqte prej k\u00ebmbe. I trembur, u kapa te d\u00ebrrasa e kok\u00ebs s\u00eb krevatit, por ajo […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[91],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3542","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-endrra"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3542","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3542"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3542\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3542"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3542"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3542"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}