{"id":3184,"date":"2014-09-12T21:56:01","date_gmt":"2014-09-12T21:56:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=3184"},"modified":"2014-09-12T21:56:01","modified_gmt":"2014-09-12T21:56:01","slug":"i-mora-te-dashurin-shoqes-sime-me-te-mire","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2014\/09\/i-mora-te-dashurin-shoqes-sime-me-te-mire\/","title":{"rendered":"I mora t\u00eb dashurin shoqes sime m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>T\u00eb dashur lexues! Un\u00eb q\u00eb po ju shkruaj jam nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb q\u00eb kam pak koh\u00eb q\u00eb kam gjetur dashurin\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. P\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, nuk u lidha me ask\u00ebnd. Nuk ishte periudh\u00eb e bukur si kjo q\u00eb po jetoj tani, por t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn isha e qet\u00eb shpirt\u00ebrisht. Se pse, do ta kuptoni pasi t\u00eb lexoni historin\u00eb time&#8230;<br \/>\nUn\u00eb kam patur fat n\u00eb jet\u00eb. K\u00ebt\u00eb e them p\u00ebr shum\u00eb arsye. Jam rritur nga nj\u00eb familje e rregullt ku mbizot\u00ebronte dashuria, si mes prind\u00ebrve, ashtu dhe mes ne f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Edhe jasht\u00eb familjes jam ndjer\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb mir\u00eb, kam patur shoq\u00ebri, ndoshta nga vet\u00eb natyra ime shum\u00eb e qet\u00eb dhe e dashur. Pas p\u00ebrfundimit t\u00eb shkoll\u00ebs, gjeta menj\u00ebher\u00eb pun\u00eb, me ndihm\u00ebn e disa shok\u00ebve t\u00eb babait. Aty u njoha me shoqen time m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Jo se nuk kam patur shoqe t\u00eb mira m\u00eb par\u00eb, por me Lind\u00ebn m\u2019u p\u00ebrputh\u00ebn t\u00eb gjitha mendimet dhe d\u00ebshirat. Edhe puna jon\u00eb e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt na lidhte m\u00eb tep\u00ebr. E vetmja gj\u00eb q\u00eb nuk ishte n\u00eb p\u00ebrputhje ishte mosha. Un\u00eb tashm\u00eb isha 28 vje\u00e7e, nd\u00ebrsa ajo ishte 39, ishte e divorcuar dhe kishte nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb. Me burrin ishte ndar\u00eb prej disa vjet\u00ebsh dhe jetonte me qira. Ishte e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrballonte jet\u00ebn, por ajo ishte gruaja m\u00eb e fort\u00eb q\u00eb kisha par\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb. Miq\u00ebsia jon\u00eb ishte e past\u00ebr dhe mjaft e sinqert\u00eb.<br \/>\nAjo kishte shum\u00eb k\u00ebrkesa q\u00eb t\u00eb lidhej me meshkuj, por nuk po k\u00ebrkonte aventura; donte nj\u00eb burr\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe t\u00eb denj\u00eb e madje edhe t\u00eb kishte nj\u00eb pun\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb ta ndihmonte n\u00eb p\u00ebrballimin e jetes\u00ebs. Kishte dal\u00eb me disa, por nuk i p\u00ebrshtateshin. K\u00ebshtu si gjith\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt kishte p\u00ebrdorur Facebookun p\u00ebr ta zgjidhur k\u00ebt\u00eb poblem. Kishim d\u00ebgjuar se shum\u00eb veta q\u00eb jan\u00eb njohur n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb kishin arritur edhe t\u00eb krijonin familje e tani jetojn\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur.<br \/>\nT\u00eb gjith\u00eb ata q\u00eb i njihte n\u00eb Facebook m\u2019i tregonte mua dhe m\u00eb k\u00ebrkone mendim p\u00ebr ta. Disa ishin aq t\u00eb mir\u00eb, sa t\u00eb b\u00ebnin t\u00eb dyshoje n\u00ebse ishin t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb apo jo. Ndonj\u00eb ishte i mir\u00eb nga paraqitja dhe nuk i p\u00ebrputhej n\u00eb bised\u00eb. M\u00eb n\u00eb fund, dukej sikur po i ecte me nj\u00eb t\u00eb huaj.<br \/>\nAi jetonte n\u00eb Gjermani dhe ishte i divorcuar. Ishte 43 vje\u00e7 dhe mjaft simpatik. Kishte nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, i cili jetonte me gruan e rrall\u00eb takohej me t\u00eb. Biseda e tyre ishte shum\u00eb e k\u00ebndshme. Shk\u00ebmbyen numrat e telefonit dhe k\u00ebshtu, u njoh\u00ebn mir\u00eb bashk\u00eb. Ai i k\u00ebrkoi t\u00eb shkonte ta vizitonte n\u00eb Gjermani, sepse ai nuk shk\u00ebputej dot nga puna. Ajo mori leje n\u00eb pun\u00eb dhe u nis.<br \/>\nNdenji disa dit\u00eb dhe kur u kthye, ishte shnd\u00ebrruar n\u00eb tjet\u00ebr njeri. Ndjehej shum\u00eb e gjall\u00eb dhe sikur kishte marr\u00eb jet\u00eb nga ai njeri dhe nga ko lidhje.<br \/>\nM\u00eb tregoi t\u00eb gjitha dhe un\u00eb, sigurisht, u ndjeva shum\u00eb e g\u00ebzuar p\u00ebr shoqen time. Ajo ishte nj\u00eb shoqe e mir\u00eb dhe shum\u00eb besnike, por edhe nj\u00eb njeri shum\u00eb i mir\u00eb.<br \/>\nErdhi vera dhe i dashuri i saj gjerman erdhi t\u2019i b\u00ebnte nj\u00eb vizit\u00eb k\u00ebtu n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri. E prit\u00ebm n\u00eb aeroport. T\u00eb dy u p\u00ebrqafuan me shum\u00eb mall dhe dukej qart\u00eb se duheshin shum\u00eb. Isha e k\u00ebnaqur p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb (po e theksoj shum\u00eb se isha e k\u00ebnaqur q\u00eb, kur ju ta lexoni historin\u00eb deri n\u00eb fund t\u00eb mos m\u00eb akuzoni se at\u00eb q\u00eb b\u00ebra e b\u00ebra nga xhelozia p\u00ebr shoqen, por thjesht se rash\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri). Pastaj, ajo e prezantoi me mua. Ishte nj\u00eb burr\u00eb shum\u00eb i pash\u00ebm, i gjat\u00eb e pak bjond, si gjith\u00eb gjerman\u00ebt, me sy jeshil\u00eb dhe me trup t\u00eb formuar, si nj\u00eb model. U nis\u00ebm nga aeroporti e shkuam n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e shoqes. Atje ajo ishte vet\u00ebm. T\u00eb birin e kishte \u00e7uar tek i ati se nuk e dinte se si do ta priste ai njohjen e n\u00ebn\u00ebs s\u00eb tij me nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr burr\u00eb e aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb, me nj\u00eb t\u00eb huaj. Un\u00eb nuk ndenja shum\u00eb, sepse doja t\u2019i lija bashk\u00eb. Dukej se i kishte marr\u00eb shum\u00eb malli p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. M\u00eb von\u00eb, shoqja m\u00eb mori n\u00eb telefon dhe m\u00eb tha se do t\u00eb shkonin n\u00eb Jug t\u00eb Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb p\u00ebr pushime dhe ajo m\u00eb kishte ftuar edhe mua.<br \/>\n&#8211; Faleminderit Linda, por m\u00eb mir\u00eb shkoni bashk\u00eb, pse duhet t\u00eb vij edhe un\u00eb?! &#8211; i thash\u00eb.<br \/>\n&#8211; Kam qejf t\u00eb jemi bashk\u00eb.<br \/>\n&#8211; Po i dashuri yt? Do ta marr\u00eb p\u00ebr keq, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se ke marr\u00eb badigard&#8230;<br \/>\n&#8211; Mos u merakos p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb. E pyeta dhe ai \u00ebsht\u00eb dakord.<br \/>\nNuk ia prisha dhe fillova t\u00eb b\u00ebja gati rrobat. T\u00eb nes\u00ebrmen u nis\u00ebm. Ai i kishte k\u00ebrkuar shoqes q\u00eb t\u2019i b\u00ebnte nj\u00eb dhurat\u00eb t\u00eb shtrenjt\u00eb. Donte t\u2019i blinte nj\u00eb makin\u00eb, pasi e dinte q\u00eb e kishte pun\u00ebn larg. Shoqja, sigurisht q\u00eb e donte nj\u00eb makin\u00eb, pavar\u00ebsisht se atij i kishte th\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb nuk mund ta pranonte nj\u00eb dhurat\u00eb kaq t\u00eb kushtueshme. Por, ai kishte k\u00ebmb\u00ebngulur dhe k\u00ebshtu, ne u nis\u00ebm me makin\u00ebn e re. Meq\u00eb shoqja kishte koh\u00eb q\u00eb e kishte marr\u00eb patent\u00ebn dhe nuk kishte patur asnj\u00ebher\u00eb makin\u00eb, i dha ai makin\u00ebs. Rruga ishte gjat\u00eb, por edhe e bukur. Ia kaluam shum\u00eb mir\u00eb. Mor\u00ebm n\u00eb hotel dy dhoma; nj\u00eb p\u00ebr mua dhe nj\u00eb p\u00ebr ata. \u00c7do gj\u00eb po shkonte shum\u00eb mir\u00eb. M\u00eb pas shkuam n\u00eb plazh. Deri k\u00ebtu \u00e7do gj\u00eb ishte n\u00eb rregull, por kur un\u00eb isha me rroba banjoje, m\u00eb shqet\u00ebsonin shikimet e fshehta t\u00eb t\u00eb dashurit t\u00eb shoqes. E doja shum\u00eb shoqen time, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb b\u00ebra sikur nuk kisha kuptuar gj\u00eb, por dit\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr dol\u00ebm p\u00ebr vrap. Shoqja nuk kishte d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb vraponte, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb do t\u00eb na priste n\u00eb nj\u00eb kafe aty af\u00ebr. N\u00eb fillim nuk doja t\u00eb pranoja t\u00eb shkoja vet\u00ebm me t\u00eb, por ngaq\u00eb do t\u00eb lija vend p\u00ebr n\u00ebnkuptime, shkuam t\u00eb dy p\u00ebr vrap. Gjat\u00eb rrug\u00ebs, ai m\u00eb tha:<br \/>\n&#8211; A e di arsyen e ardhjes sime n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri?<br \/>\n&#8211; Sigurisht, &#8211; i thash\u00eb &#8211; p\u00ebr Lind\u00ebn.<br \/>\n&#8211; Po, ashtu \u00ebsht\u00eb, sepse ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb grua e rrall\u00eb, por un\u00eb, q\u00ebkur t\u00eb kam par\u00eb n\u00eb fotografi, e ndjeja se ti je gruaja q\u00eb un\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj. Linda \u00ebsht\u00eb pak e vjet\u00ebr p\u00ebr mua.<br \/>\n&#8211; Ju lutem! \u00c7\u2019po thoni k\u00ebshtu? A e dini se Lind\u00ebn e kam m\u00eb shum\u00eb se shoqe, e kam si mot\u00ebr?!<br \/>\n&#8211; E di, por ndjenjat nuk komandohen.<br \/>\n&#8211; Ju lutem edhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb, ju ndaloj t\u00eb m\u00eb flisni k\u00ebshtu! &#8211; e ngrita tonin dhe e shtova hapin q\u00eb t\u00eb ecja m\u00eb shum\u00eb e t\u00eb mos e kisha n\u00eb krah. Ai nuk nxitoi t\u00eb m\u00eb arrinte, madje u ul n\u00eb nj\u00eb shezlong dhe m\u00eb tha:<br \/>\n&#8211; Po ju pres k\u00ebtu!<br \/>\nEca edhe pak dhe u ktheva. Ai po m\u00eb priste aty ku m\u00eb tha. U ul\u00ebm te kafja ku na priste Linda. Edhe ajo e kuptoi se di\u00e7ka kisha.<br \/>\n&#8211; Jam mir\u00eb \u2013 i thash\u00eb shkurt.<br \/>\nT\u00eb nes\u00ebrmen i thash\u00eb se m\u00eb mor\u00ebn n\u00eb telefon dhe duhet t\u00eb kthehesha. Ajo n\u00eb fakt e kuptoi se di\u00e7ka nuk shkonte, por un\u00eb nuk i thash\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb. Kur mbaruan pushimet dhe u kthyen, ne u takuam. N\u00eb momentin e par\u00eb q\u00eb mbeta vet\u00ebm me t\u00eb dashurin e saj, ai m\u00eb tha:<br \/>\n&#8211; Mos mendo se un\u00eb do t\u00eb heq dor\u00eb nga ti. Un\u00eb t\u00eb dua, ndjej shum\u00eb p\u00ebr ty.<br \/>\nUn\u00eb nuk iu p\u00ebrgjigja, por q\u00eb t\u2019jua them shkurt e t\u00eb mos zgjatem se sa her\u00eb un\u00eb i refuzova, ai erdhi edhe disa her\u00eb t\u00eb tjera e me shum\u00eb sforcime b\u00ebri t\u00eb mundur t\u00eb m\u00eb kishte t\u00eb vet\u00ebn. Nuk diskutohet se ai nuk e b\u00ebri k\u00ebt\u00eb me forc\u00eb, sepse ai \u00ebsht\u00eb me shum\u00eb edukat\u00eb, por e arriti duke b\u00ebr\u00eb shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra p\u00ebr mua. Ma mori mendjen dhe b\u00ebri q\u00eb t\u00eb dashurohesha me t\u00eb. Her\u00ebn e par\u00eb q\u00eb u puth\u00ebm ishim te sht\u00ebpia e shoqes. Ajo ishte n\u00eb banj\u00eb dhe nuk kuptoi asgj\u00eb. M\u00eb pas filluam t\u00eb dilnim pa shoqen dhe ende nuk i kishim th\u00ebn\u00eb gj\u00eb. Ai ishte burri ideal p\u00ebr mua, por nga ana tjet\u00ebr, shoqja kishte filluar t\u00eb vinte re nj\u00eb zbehje t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb s\u00eb tij.<br \/>\n&#8211; M\u00eb duket se po m\u00eb tradhton &#8211; m\u00eb tha nj\u00eb dit\u00eb.<br \/>\nN\u00eb at\u00eb \u00e7ast, nuk e desha veten. P\u00ebr momentin, para saj, nuk reagova, por pas pak minutash shkova n\u00eb tualet dhe pash\u00eb fytyr\u00ebn time n\u00eb pasqyr\u00eb. Ajo i ngjante fytyr\u00ebs s\u00eb nj\u00eb njeriu t\u00eb vdekur.<br \/>\nMendova: \u201cSi po ia b\u00ebja k\u00ebt\u00eb shoqes sime? A do m\u00eb falte ajo ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb mua?\u201d. Ndjehesha shum\u00eb n\u00eb siklet dhe desha q\u00eb t\u2019ia thoja menj\u00ebher\u00eb, por kur dola dhe e pata p\u00ebrball\u00eb, nuk e mora guximin t\u2019ia thoja.<br \/>\n&#8211; Nuk ma merr mendja \u2013 i thash\u00eb. \u2013 Ai duket se t\u00eb do shum\u00eb!<br \/>\n&#8211; N\u00eb fillim, ai ishte ndryshe. Ishte i p\u00ebrkushtuar t\u00ebr\u00ebsisht pas meje. Tani nuk m\u00eb merr n\u00eb telefon po nuk e mora un\u00eb.<br \/>\n&#8211; Po n\u00ebse t\u00eb tradhton, \u00e7\u2019do t\u00eb b\u00ebsh? &#8211; e pyeta dhe isha shum\u00eb n\u00eb ankth p\u00ebr p\u00ebrgjigjen.<br \/>\n&#8211; Nuk e di \u00e7\u2019do t\u2019i b\u00ebja atij, por p\u00ebr mua do t\u00eb ishte fundi.<br \/>\nKjo p\u00ebr mua ishte nj\u00eb bomb\u00eb.<br \/>\n&#8211; Mos thuaj k\u00ebshtu. \u00c7do gj\u00eb e ka nj\u00eb zgjidhje. Jeta ka pengesa gjithmon\u00eb.<br \/>\n&#8211; E kujt i thua? E harrove se \u00e7far\u00eb kam hequr un\u00eb para se t\u00eb bashkohesha me t\u00eb? Jo vet\u00ebm nga ana financiare, por edhe q\u00eb nuk kam arritur t\u00eb gjej nj\u00eb njeri q\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb doj\u00eb tamam.<br \/>\nPas k\u00ebsaj bisede, e mora n\u00eb telefon t\u00eb dashurin tim dhe i thash\u00eb se do t\u00eb ishte e pafalshme po t\u2019ia b\u00ebja shoqes k\u00ebt\u00eb. Ai m\u00eb tha se asgj\u00eb nuk mund t\u00eb kthehej ashtu si\u00e7 ishte m\u00eb par\u00eb. N\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, ashtu ishte. Lidhja jon\u00eb kishte p\u00ebrparuar dhe t\u00eb dy \u00e7mendeshim p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrin.<br \/>\nEdhe pse e dija se \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u2019i shkaktonte kjo lidhje shoqes sime, e b\u00ebra k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb, por nuk ia thash\u00eb ball\u00eb p\u00ebr ball\u00eb. Ai ia kishte th\u00ebn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pasi i kishte bler\u00eb nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi dhe ia kishte mobiluar. I kishte hapur nj\u00eb llogari n\u00eb bank\u00eb, e kishte rregulluar nga ana ekonomike dhe pastaj i kishte th\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb kishte r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri me mua, shoqen e saj m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb.<br \/>\nAjo m\u00eb mori mua n\u00eb telefon. Her\u00ebn e par\u00eb nuk ia hapa sepse e dija \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb m\u00eb thoshte. Por ajo m\u00eb \u00e7oi nj\u00eb mesazh ku m\u00eb thoshte se e meritonte nj\u00eb shpjegim. Ia hapa telefonin dhe ndjeva se sa tirane isha treguar. \u00c7do fjal\u00eb e saj, pavar\u00ebsisht se shum\u00eb e hidhur, ishte e merituar, megjithat\u00eb, un\u00eb prap\u00eb e dua si m\u00eb par\u00eb shoqen time. E di se kam gabuar, por ne duhemi aq shum\u00eb e po ia kalojm\u00eb aq mir\u00eb t\u00eb dy bashk\u00eb sa do t\u00eb ishte m\u00ebkat po t\u00eb mos e kishim b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb. Megjithat\u00eb, u them t\u00eb gjitha femrave: Kujdes!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>T\u00eb dashur lexues! Un\u00eb q\u00eb po ju shkruaj jam nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb q\u00eb kam pak koh\u00eb q\u00eb kam gjetur dashurin\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. P\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, nuk u lidha me ask\u00ebnd. Nuk ishte periudh\u00eb e bukur si kjo q\u00eb po jetoj tani, por t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn isha e qet\u00eb shpirt\u00ebrisht. 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