Ke dhimbje shpine q\u00eb t\u00eb bezdis? Pas nj\u00eb dhimbjeje, n\u00eb dukje t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb, fshihen shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra. P\u00ebrve\u00e7 shkaqeve fiziologjike, dhimbja jon\u00eb e shpin\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu nj\u00eb sinjal alarmi q\u00eb duhet ta d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr veten dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien ton\u00eb me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Ja, cilat jan\u00eb k\u00ebto shkaqe:<\/p>\n
Dhimbja e kurrizit dhe truri
\n“Kam gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebn dhimbje shpine, por me stresin q\u00eb kam n\u00eb pun\u00eb, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb normale!”. Shum\u00eb prej nesh e kan\u00eb ndjer\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb lloj lidhjeje q\u00eb ekziston me mendjes dhe kurrizit ton\u00eb, dometh\u00ebn\u00eb, mes problemeve psikologjike, tensioneve t\u00eb kurrizit dhe dhimbjeve t\u00eb tij. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb kjo? “Po, dihet prej shum\u00eb koh\u00ebsh q\u00eb mund t\u00eb bashkangjit\u00ebsh disa shqet\u00ebsime ose ndryshime t\u00eb humorit, sidomos depresionin, me dhimbjen kronike t\u00eb shpin\u00ebs”, sakt\u00ebson specialisti. Megjithat\u00eb, nuk ekziston nj\u00eb lidhje e drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb mes kok\u00ebs dhe kurrizit q\u00eb mund t\u00eb lejoj\u00eb deshifrimin e origjin\u00ebs s\u00eb k\u00ebsaj dhimbjeje. Gjith\u00e7ka varet nga personat dhe situatat.
\nN\u00eb realitet, kjo lidhje \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e nd\u00ebrlikuar nga \u00e7\u2019duket n\u00eb shikim t\u00eb par\u00eb. Ja, nj\u00eb shembull: Nj\u00eb person q\u00eb po kalon nj\u00eb moment depresiv, e duron dhimbjen m\u00eb pak se nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. N\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb, nj\u00eb dhimbje e filluar prej shum\u00eb koh\u00ebsh mund t\u00eb d\u00ebmtoj\u00eb, me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, mir\u00ebqenien dhe moralin e atij q\u00eb vuan. “Gjat\u00eb konsultave e shohim mir\u00eb q\u00eb lidhja mes kurrizit dhe mendjes nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb drejtim t\u00eb vet\u00ebm; ato jan\u00eb reciproke. Megjithat\u00eb, kjo na tregon di\u00e7ka: Rreziku m\u00eb i madh n\u00eb trajtimin e dhimbjes s\u00eb shpin\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb ndash trupin nga truri, pasi ata jan\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb nd\u00ebrveprim me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin\u201d.<\/p>\n
Nj\u00eb sinjal alarmi
\nPavar\u00ebsisht n\u00ebse simptoma \u00ebsht\u00eb fizike-nj\u00eb dhimbje-apo psikike-ankthi, p\u00ebr shembull, dhimbja jon\u00eb e shpin\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb k\u00ebshtu nj\u00eb mesazher i \u00e7muar: “\u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb sinjal alarmi q\u00eb tregon se kemi kap\u00ebrcyer limitet tona”, vazhdon specialisti. Lindja e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije, nd\u00ebrrimi i sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, humbja e nj\u00eb personi t\u00eb dashur, ose rritja n\u00eb karrier\u00eb… Meq\u00eb dhimbja e shpin\u00ebs shfaqet shpesh n\u00eb momentet e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, priremi t’ua hedhim gjith\u00eb fajin k\u00ebtyre problemeve q\u00eb kalojn\u00eb me v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi. Por, burimi i dhimbjes meriton shpesh t\u00eb k\u00ebrkohet m\u00eb tutje. “Lidhja trup-mendje nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb kaq e dukshme”, sakt\u00ebson terapeuti. N\u00eb fakt, n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e koh\u00ebs, dhimbja e shpin\u00ebs shfaqet pas nj\u00eb kohe t\u00eb gjat\u00eb me simptoma t\u00eb cilat zhvillohen n\u00ebn rrogoz. Fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb ndjejm\u00eb tensione n\u00eb pjes\u00ebn e poshtme t\u00eb kurrizit kur jemi t\u00eb stresuar dhe nj\u00eb dit\u00eb t\u00eb bukur, nuk arrijm\u00eb as t\u00eb \u00e7ohemi nga krevati.”<\/p>\n
Nj\u00eb gjuh\u00eb tjet\u00ebr
\nP\u00ebr psikoterapeutin, dhimbja jon\u00eb e shpin\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb pra nj\u00eb gjuh\u00eb tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb kemi interes ta d\u00ebshifrojm\u00eb. “\u00cbsht\u00eb gjuha e trupit. Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb, kur jemi t\u00eb zhytur n\u00eb emocionet tona, n\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsit\u00eb e jet\u00ebs son\u00eb, nuk jemi gjithmon\u00eb t\u00eb aft\u00eb t\u00eb analizojm\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb na ndodh dhe \u00e7far\u00eb ndjejm\u00eb. Ndjehemi n\u00ebn tension, pa kuptuar shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra. Pik\u00ebrisht aty mund t\u00eb shfaqet dhimbja e shpin\u00ebs, sepse nganj\u00ebher\u00eb, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyra e vetme q\u00eb kemi gjetur (n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb pand\u00ebrgjegjshme) p\u00ebr t\u00eb shprehur, po n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb pand\u00ebrgjegjshme, nj\u00eb dhimbje shpirt\u00ebrore”. Ja se pse, sapo t\u00eb filloj\u00eb dhimbja e shpin\u00ebs, duhet t’ia v\u00ebm\u00eb veshin asaj. Duhet t\u00eb pyesim veten se \u00e7far\u00eb na r\u00ebndon n\u00eb shpirt, \u00e7far\u00eb na tensionon e \u00e7far\u00eb ka ndodhur n\u00eb t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebn e af\u00ebrt, p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar nj\u00eb lidhje me dhimbjen. T\u00eb shoq\u00ebruar me nj\u00eb terapeut, ne mund t\u00eb m\u00ebsojm\u00eb nga dhimbja e shpin\u00ebs gj\u00ebra q\u00eb shpesh i injorojm\u00eb, ose nuk jemi gati p\u00ebr t’i par\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Pyetjet q\u00eb duhet t’i b\u00ebjm\u00eb vetes
\n“A \u00ebsht\u00eb puna ime n\u00eb p\u00ebrputhje me vlerat e mia? A jam vetvetja n\u00eb \u00e7ift?\u201d
\nDhimbja e shpin\u00ebs shpesh fsheh mesazhe, me kusht q\u00eb personi q\u00eb vuan, t\u00eb doj\u00eb ta d\u00ebgjoj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb mesazh, gj\u00eb q\u00eb nuk ndodh gjithmon\u00eb, qoft\u00eb sepse ne shohim n\u00eb dhimbje d\u00ebnimin e drejt\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb problem q\u00eb kalojm\u00eb (“puna ime nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb dakord me vlerat e mia, i meritoj dhimbjet”), qoft\u00eb sepse jemi b\u00ebr\u00eb fatalist\u00eb (“\u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ka lidhje me trurin, nuk mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj asgj\u00eb”).
\nE v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb tregohet shkenc\u00ebrisht lidhja mes vuajtjeve psikike dhe dhimbjeve t\u00eb shpin\u00ebs. Megjithat\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb v\u00ebrtetuar lidhja mes dhimbjes dhe stresit nga nj\u00eb studim i Universitetit t\u00eb Ohajos. Ajo tregonte se personat q\u00eb i n\u00ebnshtroheshin nj\u00eb stresi t\u00eb madh gojor, nuk p\u00ebrdornin muskujt e duhur p\u00ebr t\u00eb ngritur nj\u00eb pesh\u00eb. Ata q\u00eb arrinin t\u00eb “zbraznin stresin” duke protestuar hapur kund\u00ebr k\u00ebtyre sulmeve gojore vazhdonin t\u00eb p\u00ebrdornin muskujt e mir\u00eb. Megjithat\u00eb, psikoterapeuti na thot\u00eb se “Dhimbja mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet edhe nj\u00eb alibi e shk\u00eblqyer, p\u00ebr shembull, p\u00ebr t\u00eb q\u00ebndruar n\u00eb var\u00ebsin\u00eb e ila\u00e7eve dhe p\u00ebrkujdesjeve, p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos jetuar jet\u00ebn. Sa her\u00eb kam d\u00ebgjuar n\u00eb terapi: “Kam dhimbje aty, prandaj nuk arrij t\u00eb takoj njeri”.
\nK\u00ebshtu, dhimbja jon\u00eb e kurrizit nuk flet vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr ne, por edhe p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien ton\u00eb me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. “Dhimbja jon\u00eb shpreh nganj\u00ebher\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb nuk ia themi dot tjetrit ndryshe, e tipit “Shiko sa vuaj”, ose “Shiko sa vuaj me ty”. N\u00eb t\u00eb dyja rastet, dhimbja psikike \u00ebsht\u00eb reale dhe pik\u00ebrisht aty ka vler\u00eb puna e terapeutit. E dim\u00eb se dhimbja e kurrizit mund t\u00eb shkaktoj\u00eb nj\u00eb humbje autonomie, zelli, d\u00ebshire, pra, nj\u00eb humbje jete.<\/p>\n
Ku duhet t\u00eb drejtohemi
\nKur dhimbja \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e gjall\u00eb, ose e vjet\u00ebr, shpesh \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr personin q\u00eb vuan, t\u00eb dal\u00eb nga nj\u00eb lloj fatalizmi, ta bind\u00ebsh q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb ndjek\u00eb nj\u00eb trajtim fizik dhe psikik, kur ai \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebsuar ta mposht\u00eb dhimbjen me ila\u00e7e. Pra, \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb ta bind\u00eb veten se ka t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb. Po ku mund t\u00eb konsultohesh kur mjek\u00ebsia e ashtuquajtur “klasike” nuk ka mundur t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb gj\u00eb? Zgjidhja, sipas specialistit, jan\u00eb profesionist\u00ebt e sh\u00ebndetit (kinezoterapeut\u00ebt, osteopat\u00ebt) dhe nj\u00eb terapeut q\u00eb bashk\u00ebrendon trupin me mendjen. Kjo do t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb mundur q\u00eb personi q\u00eb vuan, ta shoh\u00eb ndryshe dhimbjen e tij, t\u00eb nxjerr\u00eb jasht\u00eb emocionet q\u00eb mban p\u00ebrbrenda dhe t\u00eb rigjej\u00eb qet\u00ebsin\u00eb shpirt\u00ebrore e trupore.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ke dhimbje shpine q\u00eb t\u00eb bezdis? Pas nj\u00eb dhimbjeje, n\u00eb dukje t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb, fshihen shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra. P\u00ebrve\u00e7 shkaqeve fiziologjike, dhimbja jon\u00eb e shpin\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu nj\u00eb sinjal alarmi q\u00eb duhet ta d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr veten dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien ton\u00eb me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Ja, cilat jan\u00eb k\u00ebto shkaqe: Dhimbja e kurrizit dhe truri […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[49],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3142","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-shendet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3142","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3142"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3142\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3142"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3142"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3142"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}