{"id":3077,"date":"2014-09-08T20:30:50","date_gmt":"2014-09-08T20:30:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=3077"},"modified":"2014-09-08T20:30:50","modified_gmt":"2014-09-08T20:30:50","slug":"me-rrenoi-bashkeshorti-im","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2014\/09\/me-rrenoi-bashkeshorti-im\/","title":{"rendered":"M\u00eb rr\u00ebnoi bashk\u00ebshorti im!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Un\u00eb q\u00eb po ju shkruaj jam nj\u00eb grua shum\u00eb e vetmuar, por p\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar historin\u00eb time, preferoj t\u00eb mbetem anonime. Thon\u00eb se jeta ka ulje-ngritje dhe n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, k\u00ebshtu qenka. Kur isha n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn dyzet vje\u00e7e kam njohur dashurin\u00eb time t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Mbarova shkoll\u00ebn e lart\u00eb dhe vazhdoja Ekonomikun, m\u00eb pas u pun\u00ebsova n\u00eb qytetin tim t\u00eb lindjes si ekonomiste, n\u00eb nj\u00eb bank\u00eb. Me kalimin e koh\u00ebs u ngrita n\u00eb detyr\u00eb dhe u b\u00ebra drejtoresh\u00eb n\u00eb bank\u00ebn ku punoja. Deri n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb nuk isha fejuar, pasi pretendoja p\u00ebr nj\u00eb njeri m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb, t\u00eb ishte me shkoll\u00eb dhe t\u00eb kishte nj\u00eb pozicion t\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb pun\u00eb. N\u00eb nj\u00eb takim q\u00eb kishim l\u00ebn\u00eb me koleg\u00ebt e pun\u00ebs, n\u00eb nj\u00eb nga lokalet e qytetit, njoha p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb nj\u00eb djal\u00eb, i cili ishte rreth t\u00eb tridhjetave dhe e kishte emrin Armand. Me th\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, n\u00eb jet\u00ebn time nuk kisha njohur nj\u00eb tip aq t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb sa ai. N\u00eb at\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje, ne festonim dit\u00eblindjen e nj\u00eb kolegu, i cili ishte edhe kush\u00ebriri i Armandit. Aty n\u00eb at\u00eb dark\u00eb un\u00eb v\u00ebrejta se Armandi ishte nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr djemt\u00eb m\u00eb me humor q\u00eb kisha njohur deri n\u00eb at\u00eb dit\u00eb, madje humori i tij arriti deri aty sa k\u00ebrkoi pa iu dridhur qerpiku q\u00eb un\u00eb ta shoq\u00ebroja me makin\u00ebn time deri n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e tij, pasi ai nuk kishte makin\u00eb. K\u00ebt\u00eb ai e b\u00ebri me nj\u00eb fines\u00eb dhe nj\u00eb humor aq t\u00eb papar\u00eb sa un\u00eb nuk munda t\u2019i rezistoja k\u00ebrkes\u00ebs s\u00eb tij. Hip\u00ebm q\u00eb t\u00eb dy n\u00eb makin\u00eb dhe u drejtuam p\u00ebr n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e tij. Ai m\u00eb ftoi t\u00eb pija kafe n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e tij dhe un\u00eb nuk ngurrova, por shkova brenda. Ai m\u00eb tregoi shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra p\u00ebr veten e tij.<br \/>\nMbas asaj mbr\u00ebmjeje, midis meje dhe Armandit filloi miq\u00ebsia. Ne filluam t\u00eb takoheshim gjithmon\u00eb mbr\u00ebmjeve, her\u00eb pinim kafe dhe her\u00eb hanim dark\u00eb. E gjith\u00eb kjo vazhdoi derisa nj\u00eb dit\u00eb ai m\u00eb shprehu ndjenjat e tij. N\u00eb fakt, edhe un\u00eb kisha filluar ta p\u00eblqeja shum\u00eb, mir\u00ebpo fakti q\u00eb un\u00eb kisha nj\u00eb diferenc\u00eb me t\u00eb prej 10 vjet\u00ebsh, m\u00eb b\u00ebnte t\u00eb mos i pranoja ndjenjat e mia kundrejt tij. Un\u00eb isha nj\u00eb grua me shum\u00eb klas dhe nj\u00eb paraqitje shum\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr mosh\u00ebn q\u00eb kisha, por nuk dua t\u00eb tregoj shum\u00eb detaje se si nisi historia jon\u00eb. Ajo q\u00eb dua t\u2019ju them, \u00ebsht\u00eb se me Armandin rash\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri ashtu si pa kuptuar. Me t\u00eb ndjehesha si adoleshente dhe m\u00eb kishte kapur nj\u00eb lloj euforie q\u00eb nuk doja t\u2019ia dija p\u00ebr gj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb bot\u00eb. Prej tij ndjehesha e p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelur si nga asnj\u00eb mashkull tjet\u00ebr. Ai nuk kishte shkoll\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb apo ndonj\u00eb profesion q\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatej, por kish nj\u00eb zem\u00ebr t\u00eb madhe dhe nj\u00eb lloj komunikomi q\u00eb nuk e kisha ndjer\u00eb n\u00eb asnj\u00eb lidhje tjet\u00ebr. E ndjeja se ai m\u00eb donte shum\u00eb, aq shum\u00eb sa m\u00eb k\u00ebrkoi q\u00eb ne t\u00eb martoheshim. Un\u00eb isha aq entuziaste sa nuk i mendova pasojat q\u00eb mund t\u00eb kisha m\u00eb pas.<br \/>\nU martuam dhe, p\u00ebr gati pes\u00eb vjet, kishim nj\u00eb martes\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur. Armandi nuk punonte, por un\u00eb punoja dhe fitoja aq sa t\u00eb mbaja nj\u00eb familje normale. Gabimi i vet\u00ebm q\u00eb b\u00ebra ishte se Armandin e konsideroja edhe si burr\u00eb, edhe si f\u00ebmij\u00eb, edhe si shok. Ai p\u00ebrfitoi nga dashuria ime dhe filloi t\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebrkonte lek \u00e7do dit\u00eb. Un\u00eb, n\u00eb fillim, i jepja m\u00eb pak, por me kalimin e viteve fillova ta llastoja akoma m\u00eb shum\u00eb, duke i dh\u00ebn\u00eb aq sa ai m\u00eb k\u00ebrkonte. Ai e kishte kuptuar se p\u00ebr mua vet\u00ebm ai kishte r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bot\u00eb. Prind\u00ebrit e mi nuk jetonin m\u00eb dhe f\u00ebmij\u00eb, ne nuk mund\u00ebm t\u00eb kishim, madje shum\u00eb her\u00eb un\u00eb i isha lutur q\u00eb t\u00eb merrnim nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb n\u00eb jetimore, por ai nuk pranonte pasi mendonte se un\u00eb do t\u00eb doja m\u00eb tep\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn sesa at\u00eb dhe k\u00ebshtu, un\u00eb rash\u00eb n\u00eb grack\u00ebn e tij, duke u nisur nga dashuria e madhe q\u00eb kisha p\u00ebr t\u00eb.<br \/>\nAshtu si\u00e7 ju thash\u00eb m\u00eb lart, Armandi filloi t\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebrkonte \u00e7do dit\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb lek dhe un\u00eb ia plot\u00ebsoja k\u00ebrkes\u00ebn, por po v\u00ebreja se rezervat e mia bankare ishin gjithnj\u00eb n\u00eb r\u00ebnie dhe k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb ia kisha treguar edhe Armandit, por ai nuk donte t\u00eb dinte p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, atij i p\u00eblqente t\u00eb vishej bukur me rroba t\u00eb firmave t\u00eb m\u00ebdha dhe t\u00eb arg\u00ebtohej \u00e7do dit\u00eb n\u00eb loj\u00ebrat e fatit. I kisha gjetur disa pun\u00eb, por ai nuk pranonte t\u00eb punonte dhe ma hante kok\u00ebn me t\u00eb mir\u00eb, duke m\u00eb p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelur shum\u00eb e duke m\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb se m\u00eb donte. N\u00eb mendjen e tij un\u00eb isha si nj\u00eb lod\u00ebr me shum\u00eb vler\u00eb, q\u00eb m\u00eb p\u00ebrdorte p\u00ebr nevojat e tij. Un\u00eb ndjehesha e plot\u00ebsuar nga ana ime dhe ai po ashtu. P\u00ebr nj\u00eb gj\u00eb isha e sigurt\u00eb me Armandin, se p\u00ebr periudh\u00ebn q\u00eb ai ndenji me mua, nuk m\u00eb tradhtoi asnj\u00ebher\u00eb. Ai u zu edhe me familjen e tij, pasi ata nuk e d\u00ebshironin martes\u00ebn ton\u00eb, se un\u00eb isha e madhe n\u00eb mosh\u00eb. Kjo gj\u00eb m\u00eb l\u00ebndonte akoma m\u00eb shum\u00eb dhe m\u00eb b\u00ebnte fajtore ndaj tij, m\u00eb dukej sikur duke i dh\u00ebn\u00eb lekun, i mbushja sadopak boshll\u00ebkun e familjes s\u00eb tij, por gjithashtu, un\u00eb doja q\u00eb ai t\u00eb kuptonte se \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb ishte e imja, ishte edhe e tij. Por kot nuk thon\u00eb se leku t\u00eb t\u00ebrbon; ai p\u00ebrfitoi nga zem\u00ebrgjer\u00ebsia ime dhe filloi t\u00eb luante \u00e7do dit\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebr loj\u00ebrat e fatit, duke m\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar lek pa fund. Loj\u00ebrat e fatit u kthyen p\u00ebr Armandin n\u00eb nj\u00eb ves q\u00eb ai nuk po mundej ta kontrollonte. Un\u00eb fillova t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitesha, pasi ai nuk po m\u00eb p\u00ebrkushtohej ashtu si\u00e7 b\u00ebnte n\u00eb fillim. Ai kishte filluar t\u00eb ndryshonte shum\u00eb; vet\u00ebm n\u00eb momentin kur i jepja nj\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb lek\u00ebsh, fillonte m\u00eb p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelte dhe m\u00eb donte, e ndjeja shum\u00eb af\u00ebr, por kjo lloj dashurie nga ana e tij po m\u00eb jepej si me pikatore dhe un\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u2019u ndjer\u00eb m\u00eb e dashuruar dhe nga frika se mos e humbisja Armandin, fillova t\u00eb p\u00ebrfitoja nga posti q\u00eb kisha n\u00eb bank\u00eb, duke marr\u00eb kredi, pasi rezervat e mia kishin mbaruar. P\u00ebrve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, kur gjeja hap\u00ebsira, mundohesha t\u00eb manipuloja dokumente p\u00ebr q\u00ebllime fitimi, por e gjith\u00eb kjo nuk zgjati shum\u00eb, pasi koleg\u00ebt e mi kishin filluar t\u2019i kuptonin veprimet e pakontrolluara q\u00eb kisha filluar t\u00eb b\u00ebja. Kisha abuzuar me profesionin tim pa e kuptuar se po b\u00ebja nj\u00eb veprim t\u00eb gabuar. Dashuria p\u00ebr Armandin m\u00eb kishte verbuar dhe nuk dija t\u00eb frenoja ndjenjat e mia. Frika e ndarjes prej tij, m\u00eb kishte shtyr\u00eb t\u00eb abuzoja me pun\u00ebn time, deri n\u00eb momentin kur m\u00eb arrestuan p\u00ebr abuzim n\u00eb detyr\u00eb&#8230;<br \/>\nP\u00ebr t\u00eb mos b\u00ebr\u00eb disa vjet burg, u detyrova t\u00eb shisja sht\u00ebpit\u00eb dhe lava t\u00eb gjitha lek\u00ebt q\u00eb kisha vjedhur n\u00eb ark\u00ebn e bank\u00ebs ku un\u00eb punoja. Jeta ime u kthye n\u00eb nj\u00eb dram\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb dhe, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb shkurt\u00ebr, humba shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra. N\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb, humba dashurin\u00eb time, p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn sakrifikova pun\u00ebn, sht\u00ebpin\u00eb, t\u00eb ardhurat e mia si dhe reputacionin q\u00eb kisha krijuar p\u00ebr shum\u00eb vite. Armandi, q\u00eb n\u00eb momentin kur nuk kisha m\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb t\u2019i jepja, as q\u00eb e b\u00ebri dy fare, por m\u00eb k\u00ebrkoi divorcin me pretendimin se duhet t\u00eb shkonte jasht\u00eb vendit p\u00ebr t\u00eb punuar dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar nj\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Un\u00eb, si nj\u00eb mjerane, mbeta mes kat\u00ebr rrug\u00ebve dhe \u00e7do dit\u00eb qaj e vajtoj p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjeu aq shum\u00eb. \u00c7do rrug\u00eb, \u00e7do lokal dhe \u00e7do vend n\u00eb qytetin tim m\u00eb kujton Armandin. Njeriu q\u00eb m\u00eb lumturoi dhe m\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjeu nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht m\u00eb shfaqej n\u00eb \u00e7do cep t\u00eb atij qyteti ku banoja. Vendosa q\u00eb jet\u00ebn time ta jetoja n\u00eb Tiran\u00eb duke gjetur forcat p\u00ebr t\u2019u ngritur s\u00ebrish, por \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, n\u00eb zemr\u00ebn time \u00ebsht\u00eb hapur nj\u00eb plag\u00eb q\u00eb zor se do t\u00eb sh\u00ebrohet ndonj\u00eb dit\u00eb. Shpeshher\u00eb, i b\u00ebj nj\u00eb pyetje vetes se si n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bot\u00eb jetojn\u00eb njer\u00ebz t\u00eb till\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb gjak kan\u00eb mashtrimin dhe q\u00eb l\u00ebndojn\u00eb kaq shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz t\u00eb pafajsh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Un\u00eb q\u00eb po ju shkruaj jam nj\u00eb grua shum\u00eb e vetmuar, por p\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar historin\u00eb time, preferoj t\u00eb mbetem anonime. Thon\u00eb se jeta ka ulje-ngritje dhe n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, k\u00ebshtu qenka. Kur isha n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn dyzet vje\u00e7e kam njohur dashurin\u00eb time t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Mbarova shkoll\u00ebn e lart\u00eb dhe vazhdoja Ekonomikun, m\u00eb pas u pun\u00ebsova [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[94],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3077","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-histori-nga-jeta"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3077","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3077"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3077\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3077"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3077"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3077"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}