-Anxhela t\u00eb njohim si psikologe mjaft t\u00eb suksesshme, si nj\u00eb shkrimtare e apasionuar pas let\u00ebrsis\u00eb me libra t\u00eb botuar, dhe tanim\u00eb do t\u00eb njohim edhe n\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr dimension si n\u00ebn\u00eb. Si e prite lajmin e \u00ebmb\u00ebl, \u00e7far\u00eb ndjesish u krijuan tek ty?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -Un\u00eb dhe im shoq kishim koh\u00eb q\u00eb d\u00ebshironim nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, por lajmi erdhi n\u00eb nj\u00eb moment tep\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr mua. Pas 40-t\u00eb dit\u00ebsh q\u00eb un\u00eb kisha humbur n\u00ebn\u00ebn time, testi i shtatzanis\u00eb rezultoi pozitiv. E konsiderova si shp\u00ebrblimin e nj\u00eb humbje kaq t\u00eb thell\u00eb sa nuk kam ende nj\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktim. Goj\u00ebdh\u00ebnat thon\u00eb se kur largohet nga jeta njeriu q\u00eb ti do m\u00eb shum\u00eb, thot\u00eb nj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb p\u00ebr ty. Ky lajm ishte burim drite brenda shpirtit tim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n -Po me bashk\u00ebshortin si i ke krijuar raportet? A mbetet ai mb\u00ebshtetje e madhe n\u00eb \u00e7do hap t\u00ebndin?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -Kam parimin se; nj\u00eb \u00e7ift n\u00ebse nuk ka si q\u00ebllim respektin dhe mb\u00ebshtetjen ndaj njeri\u2013tjetrit nuk mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb vazhdim\u00ebsi me t\u00eb tjera parime apo ndjenja m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n -Puna, familja, pasioni p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkruar, si bashk\u00ebrenditen k\u00ebto hallka tek ti?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -Kur je beqare prioritet ke vet\u00ebm veten, \u00ebndrrat e tua p\u00ebrpiqesh ti realizosh. Lodhesh vet\u00ebm n\u00eb em\u00ebr t\u00eb vetes. Kur ndryshon status t\u00eb q\u00ebnit bashk\u00ebshorte, n\u00ebn\u00eb, do p\u00ebrpiqesh t\u00eb vendos\u00ebsh standarte m\u00eb t\u00eb larta. Vet\u00eb jeta merr tjet\u00ebr kuptim kur ke familje. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje detyrimi, apo t\u00eb t\u00eb brej\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegjia. \u00cbsht\u00eb dashuri, d\u00ebshir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb q\u00ebn\u00eb pran\u00eb familjes. Puna ime si psikologe \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb se nj\u00eb profesion apo t\u00eb q\u00ebnit nj\u00eb profesion i bukur. T\u00eb t\u00eb besoj\u00eb njeriu thelbin e vetes, shpirtin, mendjen, traum\u00ebn, elemente t\u00eb cilat klienti apo pacienti as vetvetes nuk ja thot\u00eb me z\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb privilegj i madh. P\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi sublime e konsideroj. Brenda k\u00ebtyre dy t\u00eb fundit do thoja q\u00eb ka nj\u00eb lum cil\u00ebsish t\u00eb nivelit t\u00eb lart\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrvetsuar dhe b\u00ebr\u00eb pun\u00ebn si duhet. Let\u00ebrsia p\u00ebr mua \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7lodhja e gjithshkaje. M\u00eb freskon, m\u00eb p\u00ebrmbush m\u00eb shum\u00eb. Ndjej t\u00eb them \u00ebsht\u00eb si ylli me xixa n\u00eb maj\u00ebn e piramind\u00ebs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n –Si e ke skalitur n\u00eb mendje m\u00ebm\u00ebsin\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -Ndoshta \u00ebsht\u00eb her\u00ebt p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrfundim mendoj se un\u00eb dhe f\u00ebmija im do rritemi s\u00ebbashku. Dhe ai do m\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb mua shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra. N\u00eb mendje kam m\u00ebm\u00ebsin\u00eb e time m\u00ebje. T\u00eb trajtuarit f\u00ebmij\u00ebn me personalitet, t\u2019i fal\u00ebsh mb\u00ebshtjetje, t\u00eb jet\u00ebsh aty p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebr ta d\u00ebgjuar n\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb thot\u00eb pa i konsideruar ato si <\/strong>t\u00eb par\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme. F\u00ebmiija kur t\u00eb rritet do ti mbeten kujtimet. Nuk ka pasuri m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe se kjo, t\u00eb kesh kok\u00ebn dhe zemr\u00ebn plot me ngjarje t\u00eb ngrohta. F\u00ebmij\u00ebria \u00ebsht\u00eb pothuajse gjith\u00eb jeta, brenda psikik\u00ebs s\u00eb njeriut.<\/p>\n\n\n\n -Ti nuk do jesh nga ato n\u00ebna q\u00eb do doje t\u2019a kishe f\u00ebmij\u00ebn para syve t\u00eb tu gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebs apo jo?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -Secila n\u00ebn\u00eb ka form\u00ebn e saj t\u00eb prind\u00ebrimit. Q\u00ebllimi im do t\u00eb jet\u00eb ta b\u00ebj at\u00eb t\u00eb pavarur e t\u00eb mos ket\u00eb nevoj\u00ebn e dikujt p\u00ebr t\u2019ja dal\u00eb mban\u00eb. Mendoj se do e kem gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebs n\u00ebn v\u00ebzhgim. Por jo e t\u00eb q\u00ebnit e fiksuar apo merak i panevojsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Kjo do e b\u00ebnt\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00eb ndiheshe disi i pazoti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n – \u00c7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb f\u00ebmija q\u00eb po prisni djal\u00eb apo vajz\u00eb? A pati r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi gjinia e bebes p\u00ebr ty dhe bashk\u00ebshortin, cili ishte reagimi juaj?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -Im shoq ka nj\u00eb debules\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. Ne kishim d\u00ebshir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb patur f\u00ebmij\u00eb. Nuk kishte r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi gjinia p\u00ebr ne. Me k\u00ebt\u00eb shtatzani kam rikonfirmuar edhe nj\u00ebher\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb se sa maskiliste \u00ebsht\u00eb. Dhe t\u00eb vjen keq q\u00eb dhe vet\u00eb grat\u00eb kan\u00eb nj\u00eb frym\u00eb maskiliste t\u00eb theksuar. M\u00eb par\u00eb njer\u00ebzit jan\u00eb g\u00ebzuar p\u00ebr gjinin\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb djal\u00eb sesa p\u00ebr ardhjen n\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije. K\u00ebt\u00eb e kam konstatuar tek shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz t\u00eb af\u00ebrm e t\u00eb larg\u00ebt, t\u00eb njohur e t\u00eb panjohur. Saq\u00eb shpesh her\u00eb kam qeshur me reagimet e tyre. P\u00ebrse ata ndjenin g\u00ebzim p\u00ebr djalin tim. F\u00ebmija \u00ebsht\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, lidhja q\u00eb krijohet me t\u00eb, nuk ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb gjinia. Dashuria p\u00ebr t\u00eb duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb pa kushte, jo me p\u00ebrzgjedhje gjinore. Nuk dua t\u00eb mendoj p\u00ebr nj\u00eb grua se e ndjen m\u00eb pak apo m\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00ebm\u00ebsin\u00eb n\u00eb gjinin\u00eb e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n -Keni menduar nj\u00eb em\u00ebr p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -Po, im bir do t\u00eb quhet ANDREI. Emrin e ka menduar babai i tij. Bashkoi emrat tan\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu dhe emri i nj\u00eb futbollisti t\u00eb madh Andrei Shevchenko. Pasi ai vet\u00eb ka q\u00ebn\u00eb futbollist. Sh\u00ebn Andrei \u00ebsht\u00eb apostulli i par\u00eb q\u00eb thirri Jezu Krishti. Im shoq \u00ebsht\u00eb ortodoks p\u00ebrkon dhe me fen\u00eb q\u00eb i p\u00ebrket. T\u00eb dy e desh\u00ebm shum\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb em\u00ebr. Besoj se e p\u00eblqen dhe f\u00ebmija sa her\u00eb e th\u00ebrrasim n\u00eb em\u00ebr reagon me l\u00ebvizjet karakteristike brenda n\u00eb bark.<\/p>\n\n\n\n -Nj\u00eb psikologe shkrimtare, ku e gjen lidhjen let\u00ebrsia me psikologjin\u00eb, ku e kan\u00eb pik\u00ebn e takimit?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -Mendoj se asnj\u00ebra nuk b\u00ebn dot pa nj\u00ebra tjetr\u00ebn. N\u00eb nj\u00eb intervist\u00eb tjet\u00ebr jam p\u00ebrgjigjur se \u00e7do shkrimtar \u00ebsht\u00eb pak psikolog. P\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar nj\u00eb lib\u00ebr me ngjarje, dhe historin\u00eb e saj, personazhet dhe dinamikat q\u00eb mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbaj\u00eb vepra k\u00ebrkon njohjen e thell\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebnies njer\u00ebzore. Talenti dhe puna b\u00ebn m\u00eb pas vepr\u00ebn e mir\u00eb. Sigurisht t\u00eb q\u00ebnit shkrimtar \u00ebsht\u00eb fjal\u00eb e madhe, shum\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb ja dedikojn\u00eb jet\u00ebn vet\u00ebm shkrimit dhe profesioni i tyre i p\u00ebrditsh\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht ky. N\u00eb nj\u00eb t\u00eb ardhme e shikoj veten ku pjes\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe t\u00eb koh\u00ebs ja dedikoj shkrimit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n -Un\u00eb p\u00ebrshembull shkruaj shum\u00eb nat\u00ebn, e gjej frym\u00ebzuese, \u00e7lodh\u00ebse. Po ti vet\u00eb, a e ke magjin\u00eb e nat\u00ebs edhe magjin\u00eb e t\u00eb shkruarit?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -N\u00eb fillore kam spikatur p\u00ebr shkrimet, dhe m\u00ebsueset e mia aso kohe e vini n\u00eb dukje k\u00ebt\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu n\u00eb periudha t\u00eb ndryshme zhvillimi mendor dhe personal frym\u00ebzimin e gjeja tek e p\u00ebrditshmja. Libri im i par\u00eb ka q\u00ebn\u00eb me poezi n\u00eb 2008, kam guxuar her\u00ebt p\u00ebr t\u00eb botuar. M\u00eb pas frym\u00ebzimi dhe pjekuria p\u00ebr let\u00ebrsin\u00eb frym\u00ebzimin e kan\u00eb kthyer dhe n\u00eb pun\u00eb. E shpeshher\u00eb dhe n\u00eb vullnet p\u00ebr t\u2019i \u00e7uar gj\u00ebrat deri n\u00eb fund. P\u00ebr frym\u00ebzimin mund t\u00eb them gjithashtu se ka patur periudha para se t\u00eb flija, n\u00eb ato val\u00ebt e para t\u00eb gjumit m\u00eb vinin shum\u00eb mendime, dhe i hidhja n\u00eb letr\u00ebn mbi komodin\u00eb sepse e dija q\u00eb t\u00eb nes\u00ebrmen do ti harroja. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -A ke krijuar nj\u00eb poezi p\u00ebr birin, si dhurat\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb shpirt\u00ebrore?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -Ende jo, kam krijuar ninull\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb. T\u00eb cil\u00ebn ja k\u00ebndoj her\u00eb pas here.<\/p>\n\n\n\n -\u00c7far\u00eb parimesh didaktike ndjek kur shkruan? Ku e merr burimin p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar poezit\u00eb e bukura?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -Autori ka ve\u00e7antin\u00eb e tij se ku ngacmohet dhe gjen muz\u00ebn e frym\u00ebzimit. Varet \u00e7far\u00eb p\u00eblqen dhe d\u00ebshiron ta sjell\u00eb at\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet gjuh\u00ebs s\u00eb letrave. Poezis\u00eb kam koh\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebs nuk i dedikoj aq shum\u00eb v\u00ebmendje si m\u00eb par\u00eb. Edhe pse dy librat e mi t\u00eb par\u00eb kan\u00eb q\u00ebn\u00eb me poezi. Kam shum\u00eb t\u00eb tilla t\u00eb pabotuara ende nuk e di kur do ti nxjerr n\u00eb drit\u00eb. Po punoj n\u00eb romane tani prej vitesh. Po gjendem mir\u00eb k\u00ebtu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n – Ti je nj\u00eb nga personazhet m\u00eb t\u00eb kompletuar, e arrir\u00eb, e suksesshme, a duhet t\u00eb besojm\u00eb se gjith\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb ti ke arritur \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu si rezultat i nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebrie t\u00eb bukur e t\u00eb mbar\u00eb ?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Jo domosdoshm\u00ebrisht. Nuk kam mendim t\u00eb till\u00eb, sepse f\u00ebmij\u00ebria p\u00ebr k\u00ebdo mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb mesazh specifik ose jo. Mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri e hidhur dhe shum\u00eb shkrimtar t\u00eb bot\u00ebs e kan\u00eb sjell\u00eb at\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet vepr\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre. F\u00ebmij\u00ebria \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin mendor t\u00eb njeriut. Ato kujtime dhe ngjarje n\u00eb vegj\u00ebli kan\u00eb vendosur themelet e personalitetit. N\u00eb librat e mi, ka element\u00eb t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb, apo t\u00eb jet\u00ebs sime, si \u00e7do shkrimtar apo njeri t\u00eb letrave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n – Gjat\u00eb k\u00ebsaj kohe i ke nd\u00ebrprer\u00eb angazhimet profesionale apo ke vazhduar nj\u00ebtrajtshm\u00ebrisht?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -Po vazhdoj t\u00eb punoj deri n\u00eb dit\u00ebn q\u00eb do t\u00eb lind, n\u00eb zyr\u00ebn time sigurisht. Kam klient\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebve nuk mund t\u2019ju nd\u00ebrpres\u00eb seancat pa mbaruar me ta. Pushimet do i marr kur t\u00eb vij\u00eb bebi n\u00eb jet\u00eb. D\u00ebshiroj ti dedikoj koh\u00eb cil\u00ebsore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n – \u00c7far\u00eb do kujtosh dhe s\u2019do harrosh asnj\u00ebher\u00eb nga kjo pritje e \u00ebmb\u00ebl?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -M\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si njer\u00ebzit jan\u00eb sjell\u00eb me mua.<\/p>\n\n\n\n – \u00c7far\u00eb z\u00eb tani 100%t\u00eb koh\u00ebs t\u00ebnde?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n -Tani do thoja puna, dhe p\u00ebrjetimi i marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn tim edhe pse n\u00eb shtatzani. \u00cbsht\u00eb magjike, bekim i madh dy njer\u00ebz brenda nj\u00eb trupi, dy shpirtra, dy zemra, ti i flet ai reagon, ky sinkron nuk ka \u00e7mim e as fjal\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nga Fabjola Kuburi -Anxhela t\u00eb njohim si psikologe mjaft t\u00eb suksesshme, si nj\u00eb shkrimtare e apasionuar pas let\u00ebrsis\u00eb me libra t\u00eb botuar, dhe tanim\u00eb do t\u00eb njohim edhe n\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr dimension si n\u00ebn\u00eb. Si e prite lajmin e \u00ebmb\u00ebl, \u00e7far\u00eb ndjesish u krijuan tek ty? -Un\u00eb dhe im shoq kishim koh\u00eb q\u00eb d\u00ebshironim nj\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":30298,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[40,1356],"tags":[1592,3743,2228],"class_list":["post-30294","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-living","tag-anxhela-peza","tag-pritje-e-embel","tag-psikologe"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30294","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=30294"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30294\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/30298"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=30294"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=30294"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=30294"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/9a3e9835-30a3-4b56-89e4-23fbcc27cc35.jpeg\")
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