{"id":28765,"date":"2022-05-26T09:53:20","date_gmt":"2022-05-26T07:53:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=28765"},"modified":"2022-05-26T09:53:22","modified_gmt":"2022-05-26T07:53:22","slug":"si-te-si-bej-zgjedhjen-e-duhur-ne-jete-nga-fatjona-cici-trajnuese-mendjeje-dhe-trupi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2022\/05\/si-te-si-bej-zgjedhjen-e-duhur-ne-jete-nga-fatjona-cici-trajnuese-mendjeje-dhe-trupi\/","title":{"rendered":"Si t\u00eb si b\u00ebj zgjedhjen e duhur n\u00eb jet\u00eb? Nga Fatjona Cici, trajnuese mendjeje dhe trupi"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Zgjedhjet na trembin,na japin ndjesi jo t\u00eb k\u00ebndshme,kur e dim\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb vendosim p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka.Mendoj q\u00eb frika m\u00eb e madhe \u00ebsht\u00eb jo p\u00ebr faktin q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb zgjedhim por p\u00ebr faktin q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb lem\u00eb mbrapa nj\u00eb nga alternativat q\u00eb na ofrohen.Po sikur ajo q\u00eb nuk do zgjedh t\u00eb jet\u00eb e duhura p\u00ebr mua?Po sikur t\u00eb m\u00eb duhet t\u00eb heq dor\u00eb nga mundesia e jet\u00ebs time?Duhet t\u00eb pranojm\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb zgjedh\u00ebsh midis dy apo m\u00eb shum\u00eb alternativave nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb  e leht\u00eb por kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb jeta,n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb ne t\u00eb rritemi dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetojm\u00eb eksperienca q\u00eb shpirti yn\u00eb ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u plot\u00ebsuar duhet t\u00eb vendosim.P\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjedhur ne na \u00ebsht\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb shum\u00eb her\u00ebt,q\u00eb kur kemi qen\u00eb  f\u00ebmij\u00eb na kan\u00eb pyetur se cilin prind do m\u00eb shum\u00eb mamin apo babin,zgjidh tani.Kur do studiojm\u00eb duhet t\u00eb zgjedhim deg\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u00eb plotesonte t\u00eb gjitha kriteret,kur jemi diplomuar duhet t\u00eb zgjidhnimim vendin e pun\u00ebs me t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe kur b\u00ebhej fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjedhur personin q\u00eb do kalonim jet\u00ebn duhej t\u00eb zgjidhnim at\u00eb q\u00eb do aprovonte familja,shoq\u00ebria,fisi etj.Nuk ekziston nj\u00eb formul\u00eb e ve\u00e7ant\u00eb q\u00eb ne na siguron p\u00ebr zgjedhjet q\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb q\u00eb do jen\u00eb t\u00eb duhurat p\u00ebr ne.Kur jemi p\u00ebrball\u00eb zgjedhjeve t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme si p\u00ebrshembull zgjedhja e nj\u00eb shteti ku do jetojm\u00eb,zgjedhja e profesionit apo zgjedhja e partnerit duhet mos ta marrim k\u00ebt\u00eb vendim tonin kaq p\u00ebrfundimtar.Edhe n\u00ebse vendimi q\u00eb ne do marrim nuk rezulton i duhuri mbas disa koh\u00ebsh nuk ka problem,jemi njer\u00ebz dhe na lejohen gabimet,fundja e vetmja m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb rritemi dhe t\u00eb formohemi \u00ebsht\u00eb duke provuar dhe kur provon pritet q\u00eb t\u00eb gabojm\u00eb.T\u00eb gjitha pasojat e vendimeve tona bien mbi ne dhe sikur edhe vendimin m\u00eb jo t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatsh\u00ebm t\u00eb kemi marr kjo nuk na b\u00ebn m\u00eb pak t\u00eb suksessh\u00ebm apo m\u00eb pak t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur.Prandaj sa her\u00eb t\u00eb jeni p\u00ebrball\u00eb nj\u00eb vendimi p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb zgjedhje mos e stresoni veten p\u00ebr sa koh\u00eb pasojat e atij vendimi bien vet\u00ebm mbi ty,e di q\u00eb n\u00eb shum\u00eb raste ju duket sikur do l\u00ebndoni dhe njer\u00ebzit e tjer\u00eb  me vendimet tuaja dhe ju duket sikur do zhg\u00ebnjeni shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz por nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsia juaj p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.P\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsia dhe detyra juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebni t\u00eb lumtur veten tuaj dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqeni vazhdimisht n\u00eb jet\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn.Marr mesazhe t\u00eb shumta nga njer\u00ebz n\u00eb rrjetet sociale t\u00eb cil\u00ebt k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00ebn time se si t\u00eb marrim vendimin e duhur p\u00ebr partnerin dhe p\u00ebr profesionin q\u00eb duam t\u00eb ushtrojm\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Po filloj me rastin e par\u00eb kur nuk jemi t\u00eb sigurt\u00eb n\u00ebse personi q\u00eb ne po njihemi \u00ebsht\u00eb i duhuri p\u00ebr ne.Jemi rritur me iden\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb personi i par\u00eb q\u00eb ne njihemi duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb ai q\u00eb ne do martohemi dhe do krijojm\u00eb familje,dhe kjo metod\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb mbrojtur me fanatiz\u00ebm nd\u00ebr vite n\u00eb kultura t\u00eb ndryshme sidomos n\u00eb vendet jo t\u00eb zhvilluara.Shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz jan\u00eb detyruar dhe kan\u00eb zgjedhur personin e gabuar vetem nga presioni i paragjykimit t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb.M\u00eb kujtohet periudha q\u00eb kisha mbaruar studimet dhe fillova pun\u00eb,at\u00eb periudh\u00eb familja dhe t\u00eb njohurit filluan me pyetjet e zakonshme: kur do njihesh me dik\u00eb,kur do martohesh se tani ka ardhur momenti dhe shpesh her\u00eb e ndieja si presion q\u00eb duhej patjet\u00ebr t\u00eb kisha dhe un\u00eb dik\u00eb.Ndihesha sikur isha ndryshe nga shumica e njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb njihja.N\u00ebse d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb zgjedh\u00ebsh dik\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb plot\u00ebsoj\u00eb pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb e tua dhe t\u00eb jetoni bashk\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur at\u00ebher\u00eb mos i ul standartet e tua dhe mos u ndiko se\u00a0\u00e7far\u00eb do mendojn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebr zgjedhjen t\u00ebnde,vendos me zem\u00ebr.N\u00ebse e ndien me zem\u00ebr q\u00eb ai person ka disa cil\u00ebsi t\u00eb mira dhe \u00a0mendon q\u00eb ai person \u00a0e meriton mundesin\u00eb t\u00eb njiheni m\u00eb mir\u00eb at\u00ebher\u00eb b\u00ebje,por vendos n\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb pritshm\u00ebrive t\u00eb tua dhe jo t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb.Liroje veten dhe ji vetvetja,mos gjyko dhe mos u p\u00ebrpiq t\u00eb ndryshosh personin q\u00eb ke p\u00ebrball\u00eb.Jepi mundesin\u00eb atij\/asaj q\u00eb t\u00eb veproj\u00eb lirsh\u00ebm,kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyra e\u00a0vetme q\u00eb ta njoh\u00ebsh n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet ashtu si \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe n\u00ebse pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb e tua nuk plot\u00ebsohen vazhdo jet\u00ebn dhe mos u ndiej keq n\u00ebse duhet ti thuash jo dhe ta nd\u00ebrpres\u00ebsh njohjen tuaj.Mos harro q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb detyra jote t\u00eb b\u00ebsh njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb lumtur,mbroji ndjenjat e tua dhe k\u00ebrko m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Marrim rastin e profesionit \u2018ideal\u2019 e th\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb tjet\u00ebr ,n\u00eb rastin e profesionit q\u00eb ju lumturon dhe ju zgjon pasionin p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn.Kur nuk jeni t\u00eb sigurt\u00eb n\u00ebse ajo q\u00eb jeni duke b\u00ebr\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb profesioni q\u00eb do ushtroni gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebs apo kur keni investuar koh\u00eb dhe para p\u00ebr t\u00eb studiuar p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka q\u00eb nuk e keni m\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb duhet t\u00eb keni parasysh di\u00e7ka.Ka raste q\u00eb arsyeja e v\u00ebrtet q\u00eb nuk ju lumturon profesioni juaj mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb rrethanat e tjera si stafi i kompanis\u00eb,shefi,menaxheri ,pozicioni i pun\u00ebs etj.Pra jan\u00eb arsye t\u00eb tjera q\u00eb fshihen mbrapa asaj munges\u00ebs s\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebs p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkuar n\u00eb pun\u00eb.N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast shkruaj arsyet pse nuk t\u00eb p\u00eblqen puna,n\u00ebse arsyet jan\u00eb : shefja m\u00eb shfryt\u00ebzon,menaxheri nuk m\u00eb respekton,koleg\u00ebt jan\u00eb ironik etj, at\u00ebher\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb problemi te profesioni por te ambienti toksik i pun\u00ebs.Arsyeja tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb v\u00ebrtet fakti q\u00eb ky profesion nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr ty,pyet veten n\u00ebse do ishe i\/e gatshme \u00e7do dit\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs t\u00ebnde t\u00eb b\u00ebje k\u00ebt\u00eb pun\u00eb apo profesion dhe madje ta b\u00ebje falas,si do ndiheshe, \u00e7far\u00eb ndjesie t\u00eb jep?N\u00ebse ndien nj\u00eb zgjerim te kraharori dhe arrin ta shikosh veten n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen duke e b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pun\u00eb je ok,por n\u00ebse ndien nj\u00eb ngushtim te kraharori dhe nuk do as ta mendosh q\u00eb do b\u00ebsh k\u00ebt\u00eb pun\u00eb at\u00ebher\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr ty.Gjith\u00e7ka,edhe profesioni m\u00eb fisnik, m\u00eb i paguar apo m\u00eb i p\u00ebrshtatsh\u00ebm n\u00ebse b\u00ebhet pa pasion nuk ka energji dhe do d\u00ebshtoj\u00eb shum\u00eb shpejt.Ajo q\u00eb i b\u00ebn gj\u00ebrat t\u00eb funksionojn\u00eb dhe njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb shk\u00eblqejn\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb pasioni p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb jan\u00eb duke b\u00ebr\u00eb.M\u00ebnyra e vetme q\u00eb t\u00eb kuptosh se \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebsh n\u00eb jet\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kur zgjohesh n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes gj\u00ebja e par\u00eb thjesht shkruaj d\u00ebshirat q\u00eb ke n\u00eb jet\u00eb,at\u00eb q\u00eb ti v\u00ebrtet do dhe jo at\u00eb q\u00eb presin t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebr ty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00eb dyja k\u00ebto raste duken q\u00eb jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme dhe duhet \u2018me patjeter\u2019 t\u00eb marrim vendimin e duhur.Por un\u00eb mendoj q\u00eb nuk ka vendim t\u00eb duhur apo vendim t\u00eb gabuar p\u00ebr sa koh\u00eb jeta vazhdon.P\u00ebr sa koh\u00eb ne jemi gjall\u00eb asgj\u00eb nuk duhet marr kaq seriozisht,jemi gjall\u00eb kemi mundesin\u00eb t\u00eb veprojme p\u00ebrs\u00ebri ndryshe derisa t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb lumtur me vendimin ton\u00eb.Prandaj mos u trembni nga zgjedhjet,b\u00ebj zgjedhjen q\u00eb ti mendon se \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e p\u00ebrshtatshmja p\u00ebr ty dhe n\u00ebse nuk funksionon at\u00ebher\u00eb b\u00ebj zgjedhje tjet\u00ebr.Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kaq loj\u00eb serioze jeta jo,e kemi kthyer ne k\u00ebshtu. Shpesh her\u00eb n\u00eb lidhje me situata t\u00eb caktuara e p\u00ebrcaktojm\u00eb veten si m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb apo sikur dikush \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb posht\u00eb se ne.M\u00eb ka ndodhur dhe mua q\u00eb t\u00eb shikoj dik\u00eb si konkurent dhe t\u00eb b\u00ebj veprime apo zgjedhje q\u00eb nuk e kam ndier ti b\u00ebj por i kam b\u00ebr\u00eb  vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr ti v\u00ebrtetuar personit n\u00eb fjal\u00eb q\u00eb un\u00eb mundem.Kur zgjedhjet n\u00eb jet\u00eb i b\u00ebjm\u00eb n\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb egos nuk na japin lumturi na japin nj\u00eb g\u00ebzim t\u00eb p\u00ebrkohsh\u00ebm q\u00eb zgjat disa sekonda por jo lumturi dhe plot\u00ebsim n\u00eb shpirt,shpesh ndiejm\u00eb nj\u00eb ngushtim n\u00eb kraharor,sepse e kemi detyruar veten t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb nuk e kemi ndier.Vendimet q\u00eb ne marrim duke d\u00ebgjuar egon jan\u00eb vendime t\u00eb vogla por mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb dhe vendime t\u00eb nj\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsie t\u00eb madhe.Prandaj para se t\u00eb merrni nj\u00eb vendim n\u00eb jet\u00eb pyet veten: Pse dua ta b\u00ebj k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb?\u00cbsht\u00eb v\u00ebrtet ajo q\u00eb un\u00eb dua t\u00eb b\u00ebj dhe q\u00eb do m\u00eb jap lumturi?Por si gjith\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb jet\u00eb duhet ta balancojm\u00eb,ka raste q\u00eb egoja \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb t\u00eb mbron dhe na duhet q\u00eb t\u00eb mendojm\u00eb p\u00ebr veten,pra ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb na duhet egoja q\u00eb t\u00eb na rikujtoj\u00eb ta duam veten.Por nuk duhet  t\u00eb marrim vendimet n\u00eb jet\u00eb nga egoja,ta duam veten dhe t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb zgjedhjet sipas asaj q\u00eb na thot\u00eb zemra.Mbajeni egon aty,uljani volumin por mbajeni se do ket\u00eb raste q\u00eb rrethanat aty jasht\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb heq\u00ebsh dor\u00eb nga vetja dhe egoja do t\u00eb uleras\u00eb: duaje veten!Pra ego nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e keqe,ne e keqp\u00ebrdorim.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Zgjedhjet na trembin,na japin ndjesi jo t\u00eb k\u00ebndshme,kur e dim\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb vendosim p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka.Mendoj q\u00eb frika m\u00eb e madhe \u00ebsht\u00eb jo p\u00ebr faktin q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb zgjedhim por p\u00ebr faktin q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb lem\u00eb mbrapa nj\u00eb nga alternativat q\u00eb na ofrohen.Po sikur ajo q\u00eb nuk do zgjedh t\u00eb jet\u00eb e duhura p\u00ebr mua?Po […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":28766,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[49,5],"tags":[3423,744,3424],"class_list":["post-28765","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-shendet","category-sports","tag-fatjona-cici","tag-gazeta-intervista","tag-trajnim"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28765","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=28765"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28765\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/28766"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=28765"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=28765"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=28765"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}