{"id":27965,"date":"2021-10-23T10:05:44","date_gmt":"2021-10-23T08:05:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=27965"},"modified":"2021-10-23T10:05:52","modified_gmt":"2021-10-23T08:05:52","slug":"me-ndihmoni-te-dal-nga-kjo-gjendje-keshillon-psikologia-lorela-garuli","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2021\/10\/me-ndihmoni-te-dal-nga-kjo-gjendje-keshillon-psikologia-lorela-garuli\/","title":{"rendered":"M\u00eb ndihmoni t\u00eb dal nga kjo gjendje&#8230;! K\u00ebshillon psikologia Lorela Garuli!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><a href=\"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/3752222E-414E-4D87-9BC1-1A2E90624590.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"720\" height=\"481\" src=\"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/3752222E-414E-4D87-9BC1-1A2E90624590.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-27968\" srcset=\"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/3752222E-414E-4D87-9BC1-1A2E90624590.jpeg 720w, https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/3752222E-414E-4D87-9BC1-1A2E90624590-300x200.jpeg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 720px) 100vw, 720px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><br><strong>Ka ca koh\u00eb q\u00eb po vuaj shum\u00eb p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka q\u00eb mbase nuk duket ndonj\u00eb problem i madh. Kam humbur krejt\u00ebsisht d\u00ebshir\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb folur\u2026 Zakonisht, m\u00eb shum\u00eb kam d\u00ebgjuar sesa kam folur, por nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb kam qen\u00eb k\u00ebshtu si\u00e7 jam b\u00ebr\u00eb koh\u00ebt e fundit. M\u00eb p\u00eblqente t\u00eb flisja e t\u00eb qeshja me ato q\u00eb thosha kur ia fusja kot ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb. Po ashtu, shpesh debatoja me njer\u00ebz t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm p\u00ebr tema t\u00eb ndryshme, por tani po ndryshon gjith\u00e7ka; ka koh\u00eb q\u00eb ndihem keq dhe sikur nuk kam \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb them. Personi me t\u00eb cilin jam mjaft e af\u00ebrt, p\u00ebr shum\u00eb biseda, m\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtonte gjithmon\u00eb. Edhe pse e dija q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ashtu si thoshte, mundohesha ta bindja, por kot, derisa nj\u00eb dit\u00eb s\u2019e duroja m\u00eb. Si duket, kjo e r\u00ebndoi problemin tim dhe u b\u00ebra akoma m\u00eb keq. Tani edhe me t\u00eb flas me \u201cpo\u201d, \u201cjo\u201d dhe nuk e kund\u00ebrshtoj m\u00eb, nuk jap asnj\u00eb mendim timin p\u00ebr asgj\u00eb. M\u00eb duket sikur m\u00eb kan\u00eb humbur fjal\u00ebt e s\u2019i gjej dot. Edhe kur dua t\u00eb them di\u00e7ka, mendoj me vete: \u201c\u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00ebsoj, si e thash\u00eb, si jo, s\u2019do t\u2019ia v\u00ebr\u00eb kush veshin fjal\u00ebs sime\u201d. Dua t\u00eb dal nga kjo gjendje q\u00eb po me mundon, q\u00eb po m\u00eb vret \u00e7do dit\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb, por nuk di si t\u2019ia b\u00ebj. M\u00eb jepni ndonj\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00eb ju lutem e dashur psikologe. Si t\u2019ia b\u00ebj? Do t\u00eb doja t\u00eb flisja edhe budallall\u00ebqe, vet\u00ebm t\u00eb ndjeja d\u00ebshir\u00ebn q\u00eb po thoja di\u00e7ka.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Lorela Garuli, psikologe, email lorela_garuli@hotmail.com:- <\/strong>P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje e dashur! Nga k\u00ebto q\u00eb na ke treguar kam p\u00ebrshtypjen se problemi nuk q\u00ebndron vet\u00ebm tek t\u00eb folurit, pra tek artikulimi apo aspekti motorik i tij, apo tek t\u00eb th\u00ebnit e gj\u00ebrave. Gjuha \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme e komunikimit; nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb komunikimi vet\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shtylla kurrizore e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve njer\u00ebzore. Q\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se, qartazi v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsia q\u00eb ti p\u00ebrjeton nuk ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb vecant\u00eb dhe ekskluzive me t\u00eb folurit, por me socializimin dhe p\u00ebrfshirjen n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. P\u00ebr arsyet q\u00eb ke renditur dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjera shtes\u00eb mbase duket sikur nuk ndihesh mjaftuesh\u00ebm e motivuar p\u00ebr t\u00eb biseduar ashtu sic ti do t\u00eb doje me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Ky bllokim mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb i lidhur me munges\u00ebn e miratimit apo aprovimit social q\u00eb ke ndjer\u00eb dhe kund\u00ebrshtimit t\u00eb shpesht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshojm\u00eb disa gj\u00ebra tek vetja, t\u00eb cilat i konstatojm\u00eb q\u00eb nuk shkojn\u00eb ashtu sic duhet dhe rruga e duhur shpeshher\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e paqart\u00eb. Fillimisht, duhet t\u00eb kesh t\u00eb qart\u00eb me veten t\u00ebnde se cili \u00ebsht\u00eb burimi kryesor i k\u00ebsaj ndjesie dhe bllokimi. At\u00eb duhet t\u00eb luftosh. M\u00eb tej, p\u00ebrpiqu t\u00eb flas\u00ebsh fillimisht me njer\u00ebz q\u00eb i k\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrt dhe q\u00eb ndihesh e lirshme. Shprehe k\u00ebt\u00eb pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi q\u00eb k\u00eb n\u00eb rast se t\u00eb nd\u00ebrpresin, nuk t\u00eb d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb apo nuk t\u00eb l\u00ebn\u00eb hap\u00ebsira. K\u00ebrko ndihm\u00ebn e njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb af\u00ebrt lidhur me k\u00ebt\u00eb c\u00ebshtje.<br>Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, duhet ta ndihmosh veten duke menduar se t\u00eb gjith\u00eb pa p\u00ebrjashtim ka raste dhe caste q\u00eb jo detyrimisht thon\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb mencura dhe q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebse normale t\u00eb gabojm\u00eb. K\u00ebshtuq\u00eb nisi bisedat me gj\u00ebra t\u00eb thjeshta dhe tematika q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00eblqejn\u00eb. Kryesorja, nuk je ti q\u00eb je gabim, por bindjet e tua. T\u00eb uroj m\u00eb t\u00eb mirat!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ka ca koh\u00eb q\u00eb po vuaj shum\u00eb p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka q\u00eb mbase nuk duket ndonj\u00eb problem i madh. Kam humbur krejt\u00ebsisht d\u00ebshir\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb folur\u2026 Zakonisht, m\u00eb shum\u00eb kam d\u00ebgjuar sesa kam folur, por nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb kam qen\u00eb k\u00ebshtu si\u00e7 jam b\u00ebr\u00eb koh\u00ebt e fundit. M\u00eb p\u00eblqente t\u00eb flisja e t\u00eb qeshja me [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":27967,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[744,765,1194,2227,364],"class_list":["post-27965","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-gazeta-intervista","tag-intervista-online","tag-lorela-garuli","tag-psikologe-lorela-garuli","tag-psikologu-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27965","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=27965"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27965\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/27967"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=27965"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=27965"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=27965"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}