Prej disa dit\u00ebsh, n\u00eb rrjet qarkullon nj\u00eb video e shk\u00ebputur nga nj\u00eb program televiziv, ku f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb moshave t\u00eb ndryshme konkurrojn\u00eb me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin n\u00eb k\u00ebrcim. N\u00eb videon n\u00eb fjal\u00eb kan\u00eb t\u00ebrhequr v\u00ebmendjen komentet q\u00eb dy nga an\u00ebtar\u00ebt e juris\u00eb i b\u00ebjn\u00eb nj\u00eb vog\u00eblusheje lidhur me pesh\u00ebn dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien e saj me ushqimin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dit\u00ebn e sotme, psikologia Lorela Garuli ka publikuar nj\u00eb shkrim n\u00eb portalin p\u00ebrn\u00ebnat.al, lidhur me k\u00ebt\u00eb ngjarje, t\u00eb cilin e gjeni m\u00eb posht\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ky episod q\u00eb ka t\u00ebrhequr v\u00ebmendjen, mund t\u00eb shikohet fillimisht n\u00eb nj\u00eb k\u00ebndv\u00ebshtrim pak m\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithsh\u00ebm, q\u00eb jan\u00eb: dalja e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve n\u00ebp\u00ebr media, rrjete sociale dhe kompeticione, elementet q\u00eb nxisin konkurrenc\u00ebn. T\u00eb dy k\u00ebto element\u00eb jan\u00eb disa dinamika q\u00eb i p\u00ebrcaktojn\u00eb prind\u00ebrit, ka prind\u00ebr q\u00eb jan\u00eb dakord dhe ka t\u00eb tjer\u00eb q\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb dakord dhe kjo lidhet me edukimin, ambicien, me faktin \u00e7far\u00eb duan ata t\u00eb p\u00ebrcjellin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ajo q\u00eb un\u00eb do t\u00eb ndalesha pak m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, q\u00eb m\u00eb duket shum\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuese, por pa e marr\u00eb vet\u00ebm si rast konkret, sepse do t\u00eb doja ta trajtoja si fenomen, \u00ebsht\u00eb pjesa e bullizimit t\u00eb past\u00ebr, t\u00eb qart\u00eb, ngacmimit, talljes, v\u00ebnies n\u00eb siklet, v\u00ebnies n\u00eb loj\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije nga nj\u00eb i rritur, i cili ka autoritet apo pushtet, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast at\u00eb mediatik apo t\u00eb profesionistit dhe t\u00eb t\u00eb gjykuarit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
K\u00ebto jan\u00eb episode q\u00eb ndodhin shum\u00eb dhe n\u00ebp\u00ebr klasa. Fatkeq\u00ebsisht, ka shum\u00eb raste q\u00eb shpesh her\u00eb jan\u00eb m\u00ebsuesit, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt nxisin dinamika t\u00eb tilla bullizuese.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00cbsht\u00eb absolutisht shum\u00eb e d\u00ebmshme ajo q\u00eb ndodh n\u00eb aspektin njer\u00ebzor dhe ajo q\u00eb ndodh \u00ebsht\u00eb, ajo q\u00eb themi shpesh se f\u00ebmij\u00ebt edukohen n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet shembullit, modelit, pastaj fjal\u00ebs. Modeli n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00ebsisht negativ. \u00c7far\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb me nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb, aq t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, t\u00eb pambrojtur, e cila vihet n\u00eb siklet publikisht nga nj\u00eb i rritur. Sigurisht q\u00eb gjith\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt do t\u00eb fillojn\u00eb t\u00eb tallen me t\u00eb. K\u00ebtu ka nj\u00eb komponent tjet\u00ebr shum\u00eb negativ, q\u00eb lidhet pak edhe me stereotipet gjinor\u00eb apo me pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb p\u00ebr trupin ideal. N\u00eb nj\u00eb koh\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqemi ta v\u00ebm\u00eb thkesin te thelbi, te p\u00ebrmbajtja, ta v\u00ebm\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb tek e brendshmja dhe jo tek disa kile m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, ky lloj komenti, drejtuar nj\u00eb vajze t\u00eb vog\u00ebl q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb pak mbipesh\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb negativ dhe minues i vet\u00ebbesimit t\u00eb saj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nj\u00eb koment i till\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb negativ t\u2019i b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb t\u00eb rrituri, nj\u00eb kolegu t\u2019i komentosh pamjen e jashtme dhe kilet e tep\u00ebrta, aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Leht\u00ebsia dhe guximi me an\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb cilit disa personazhe publike, por edhe disa t\u00eb rritur q\u00eb kan\u00eb nj\u00eb lloj pushteti, si\u00e7 mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb m\u00ebsuesit, gjejn\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00eb siklet, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb aspak e hijshme dhe shum\u00eb e d\u00ebmshme n\u00eb nivel psikologjik. Ndoshta ata nuk jan\u00eb v\u00ebrtet t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr efektet q\u00eb krijojn\u00eb, por ka ardhur koha q\u00eb edhe vet\u00eb prind\u00ebrit ta mendojn\u00eb dy her\u00eb p\u00ebrpara se t\u2019ja \u201cdor\u00ebzojn\u00eb\u201d f\u00ebmij\u00ebn k\u00ebtyre lloj formateve apo dinamikave t\u00eb caktuara.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Prej disa dit\u00ebsh, n\u00eb rrjet qarkullon nj\u00eb video e shk\u00ebputur nga nj\u00eb program televiziv, ku f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb moshave t\u00eb ndryshme konkurrojn\u00eb me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin n\u00eb k\u00ebrcim. N\u00eb videon n\u00eb fjal\u00eb kan\u00eb t\u00ebrhequr v\u00ebmendjen komentet q\u00eb dy nga an\u00ebtar\u00ebt e juris\u00eb i b\u00ebjn\u00eb nj\u00eb vog\u00eblusheje lidhur me pesh\u00ebn dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien e saj me ushqimin. Dit\u00ebn e sotme, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":27916,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[40,86],"tags":[744,254,1194,2227],"class_list":["post-27915","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-psikologu","tag-gazeta-intervista","tag-histori-personale","tag-lorela-garuli","tag-psikologe-lorela-garuli"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27915","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=27915"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27915\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/27916"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=27915"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=27915"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=27915"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}