Vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb aspekt i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebmi edukimit t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, t\u00eb cilin prind\u00ebrit nuk mund ta neglizhojm\u00eb, sepse nga ky tipar varet zhvillimi i sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm emocional i f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Sidoqoft\u00eb, vitet e fundit vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimi ka marr\u00eb nj\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi aq t\u00eb madhe, saq\u00eb po kthehet n\u00eb efekt t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt, deri n\u00eb d\u00ebmtim t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, duke i kthyer ata n\u00eb narcist\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sipas studiuesve, kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e din\u00eb se prind\u00ebrit e tyre mendojn\u00eb se jan\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb\u201d dhe besojn\u00eb se kan\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb drejta se t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, ata fillojn\u00eb t\u00eb ndihen superior dhe mendojn\u00eb automatikisht se g\u00ebzojn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb drejta e privilegje se t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sidoqoft\u00eb, fakti q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit mbivler\u00ebsojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb faktori i vet\u00ebm q\u00eb ushqen narcizmin tek f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. Studiuesit kujtojn\u00eb se, ashtu si tiparet e tjera t\u00eb personalitetit, narcizmi gjithashtu ka nj\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebr\u00ebs gjenetik.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Si ta kuptoni n\u00ebse po rrisni nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb narcist<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Tiparet q\u00eb ju paraqesim m\u00eb posht\u00eb jan\u00eb shenja t\u00eb qarta t\u00eb faktit se stili q\u00eb po p\u00ebrdorni p\u00ebr t\u00eb rritur f\u00ebmij\u00ebn tuaj mund t\u00eb favorizoj\u00eb shfaqjen e nj\u00eb q\u00ebndrimi narcist tek f\u00ebmija. N\u00ebse i kushtoni v\u00ebmendje k\u00ebtyre aspekteve dhe ndryshoni disa praktika, p\u00ebrshtatur me k\u00ebshillat, do t\u2019ju ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb siguroheni q\u00eb f\u00ebmija juaj t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb zhvillim m\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm emocional dhe psikologjik dhe t\u00eb mos shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb nj\u00eb person narcist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ne nuk duhet t\u00eb harrojm\u00eb se, nga pik\u00ebpamja psikologjike, narcizmi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7rregullim i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb i personalitetit, i cili \u00e7on n\u00eb shum\u00eb pasoja negative tek njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb preken prej tij.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Disa f\u00ebmij\u00eb e kan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u2019i besojn\u00eb vetes. Edhe kur ata jan\u00eb krejt\u00ebsisht t\u00eb aft\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb disa aktivitete sepse kan\u00eb aft\u00ebsi, ata mbeten t\u00eb paralizuar sepse ndihen t\u00eb tmerruar nga mund\u00ebsia e d\u00ebshtimit. P\u00ebr t\u00eb rritur vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimin e tyre, duhet t\u2019i besoni, t\u2019i brohorisni dhe t\u2019i lavd\u00ebroni, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb ata t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb se mund ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb at\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sidoqoft\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb lavd\u00ebrosh f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, t\u00eb pranosh fitoret e tyre, t\u00eb festosh triumfet e tyre dhe t\u2019i b\u00ebsh ata t\u00eb sigurt n\u00eb aft\u00ebsin\u00eb e tyre p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjidhur problemet dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur sukses n\u00eb jet\u00eb; dhe nj\u00eb gj\u00eb krejt e ndryshme, \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u2019i b\u00ebsh ata t\u00eb besojn\u00eb se nuk do t\u00eb gabojn\u00eb kurr\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cbsht\u00eb e nevojshme q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt t\u00eb m\u00ebsojn\u00eb t\u00eb jetojn\u00eb me gabime dhe \u201cila\u00e7i\u201d m\u00eb i mir\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn narcist \u00ebsht\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht gabimi. N\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, f\u00ebmija duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje ta konceptoj\u00eb gabimin si pjes\u00eb t\u00eb loj\u00ebs dhe si nj\u00eb element t\u00eb dobish\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar, duke e pranuar si fillim at\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nga mosha 7 ose 8 vje\u00e7, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt fillojn\u00eb t\u00eb krahasojn\u00eb veten me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb interesi p\u00ebr k\u00ebto krahasime fillon pik\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt mezi presin t\u00eb tregojn\u00eb se sa t\u00eb mir\u00eb jan\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre ose sa virtyte kan\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sidoqoft\u00eb, k\u00ebto krahasime i vendosin f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00ebn nj\u00eb presion t\u00eb madh, sepse i b\u00ebjn\u00eb ata t\u00eb ndiejn\u00eb se nuk mund t\u00eb tejkalohen nga bashk\u00ebmoshatar\u00ebt e tyre. Kur nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb dallohet n\u00eb di\u00e7ka, \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb njoh\u00ebsh aft\u00ebsit\u00eb e tij, por pa e krahasuar me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n T\u00eb jesh i mir\u00eb apo edhe t\u00eb jesh m\u00eb i miri n\u00eb di\u00e7ka nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb jesh superior, por f\u00ebmij\u00ebt nuk i shohin gj\u00ebrat k\u00ebshtu, sepse ata ende kan\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00ebkuptim t\u00eb paformuar mir\u00eb, t\u00eb cilin akoma duhet ta p\u00ebrsosin. Prandaj, ne duhet t\u00eb jemi ata q\u00eb t\u2019i ndihmojm\u00eb t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb se ka gjithmon\u00eb nuanca.<\/p>\n\n\n\n D\u00ebgjimi i kritikave nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt \u00ebsht\u00eb mjaft i pak\u00ebndsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr shumic\u00ebn e t\u00eb rriturve, aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr p\u00ebr nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb narcist. Por ne duhet t\u00eb jemi n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb pranojm\u00eb kritikat q\u00eb na b\u00ebhen n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb konstruktive dhe t\u2019u ofrojm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve nj\u00eb model q\u00eb i shtyn ata t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb. Kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb themi po p\u00ebr gjith\u00e7ka dhe t\u00eb ulim kok\u00ebn, por t\u00eb jemi kritik\u00eb ndaj vetvetes, t\u00eb flasim p\u00ebr problemet tona dhe t\u2019i premtojm\u00eb vetes q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohemi atje ku \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00ebse f\u00ebmij\u00ebt shohin q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit e tyre nuk jan\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb pranojn\u00eb kritika, ata do t\u00eb ndjekin t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin shembull.<\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00ebse e mburrni f\u00ebmij\u00ebn p\u00ebrpara \u00e7do kritike, nuk po e ndihmoni at\u00eb, p\u00ebrkundrazi. Disa f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb prind\u00ebr q\u00eb mburren me ta reagojn\u00eb duke u rebeluar, nd\u00ebrsa t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt ushqejn\u00eb narcizmin e tyre. Asnj\u00eb nga opsionet nuk p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebson nj\u00eb rrug\u00eb t\u00eb leht\u00eb dhe t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme p\u00ebr ta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nuk ka asgj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe q\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb gabime her\u00eb pas here. Asgj\u00eb nuk ndodh. Ne nuk duhet t\u00eb kemi turp. Gjykimi i sjelljes s\u00eb tij n\u00eb vend q\u00eb ta b\u00ebj\u00eb at\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb se dikush nuk mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb i p\u00ebrsosur, privon f\u00ebmij\u00ebn nga nj\u00eb mund\u00ebsi m\u00ebsimi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb ndryshe ose nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb me m\u00eb pak kapacitet sesa yni nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb inferior. Megjithat\u00eb, n\u00ebse t\u00eb rriturit e kritikojn\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb munges\u00eb t\u00eb tij, qoft\u00eb intelektuale apo fizike apo sepse ai vishet ndryshe, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre gjithashtu do t\u00eb mendojn\u00eb se jan\u00eb superior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme t\u00eb tregojm\u00eb gabimet dhe \u201cdefektet\u201d e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve p\u00ebr t\u00eb nxjerr\u00eb n\u00eb pah pikat tona t\u00eb forta. Por n\u00ebse nj\u00eb prind vazhdon t\u00eb flas\u00eb keq p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tjer\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i b\u00ebr\u00eb ata t\u00eb ndihen m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm, ata do t\u00eb jen\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb vet\u00ebm f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00eb p\u00ebrvet\u00ebsoj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb keqkuptim p\u00ebr veten dhe vler\u00ebn e tij.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Burimi: Humanum.al<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb aspekt i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebmi edukimit t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, t\u00eb cilin prind\u00ebrit nuk mund ta neglizhojm\u00eb, sepse nga ky tipar varet zhvillimi i sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm emocional i f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Sidoqoft\u00eb, vitet e fundit vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimi ka marr\u00eb nj\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi aq t\u00eb madhe, saq\u00eb po kthehet n\u00eb efekt t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt, deri n\u00eb d\u00ebmtim t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, duke i kthyer ata […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":27577,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[364],"class_list":["post-27576","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-psikologu-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27576","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=27576"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27576\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/27577"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=27576"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=27576"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=27576"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}