M\u00eb vjen shum\u00eb keq q\u00eb historia ime do t\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjej\u00eb shum\u00eb gra, t\u00eb cilat mendojn\u00eb se martesa e tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb lart\u00ebsin\u00eb e duhur. Un\u00eb, me plot goj\u00ebn, mund t\u2019ju them se sot nuk ekziston nj\u00eb martes\u00eb n\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb sinqeritetit. Sot, martesa funksionin n\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb interesit t\u00eb t\u00eb dyja pal\u00ebve. \u00cbsht\u00eb e dhembshme, por ja q\u00eb k\u00ebshtu ndodhka! Kisha menduar gjithmon\u00eb se martesa do t\u00eb ishte nj\u00eb bashkim i sinqert\u00eb mes nj\u00eb \u00e7ifti, q\u00eb t\u00eb dy do t\u00eb punonim dhe respektonim nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. Martes\u00ebn e mendoja ideale, ashtu si\u00e7 ishte ajo e prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb mi. Nj\u00eb martes\u00eb ideale \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe ajo e motr\u00ebs sime t\u00eb madhe, e cila ka 25 vjet martes\u00eb dhe asnj\u00ebher\u00eb nuk ka b\u00ebr\u00eb fjal\u00eb me bashk\u00ebshortin e saj p\u00ebr pun\u00eb tradhtie. Edhe un\u00eb, duke par\u00eb modelin e prind\u00ebrve dhe t\u00eb motr\u00ebs, vendosa t\u00eb ndiqja rrug\u00ebn e tyre duke e zgjedhur vet\u00eb bashk\u00ebshortin tim. Sigurisht, n\u00eb lidhjen time me Mirin ndihmoi shoqja ime e ngusht\u00eb, pasi ajo Mirin e kishte kush\u00ebri dhe ai jetonte n\u00eb Gjermani.
\nMirin, p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb, e njoha n\u00eb nj\u00eb pab, ku ne, si grup shoq\u00ebror, vendos\u00ebm t\u00eb kalonim nj\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje n\u00eb nj\u00eb nga pabet e Tiran\u00ebs. Ishim gati 10 vet\u00eb dhe secili nga ne kishte marr\u00eb me vete shokun, shoqen ose t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit e tyre. Mua nuk m\u00eb p\u00eblqenin shum\u00eb pabet, por meq\u00eb shoq\u00ebria vendosi aty, at\u00ebhere edhe un\u00eb u bashkova me ta. As Mirit nuk i p\u00eblqente shum\u00eb t\u00eb vall\u00ebzonte, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb at\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje, ai vendosi ta kalonte duke m\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb shoq\u00ebri mua. Nga bisedat me t\u00eb kuptova se ishte shum\u00eb i goj\u00ebs dhe nj\u00eb djal\u00eb shum\u00eb familjar e i p\u00ebrkushtuar ndaj familjes. Q\u00eb n\u00eb at\u00eb takim, ne shpreh\u00ebm shenjat e para t\u00eb p\u00eblqimit te nj\u00ebri-tjetri. Pas asaj dite, dol\u00ebm edhe disa her\u00eb t\u00eb tjera, derisa ai u nis p\u00ebr n\u00eb Gjermani. Edhe pse ishim t\u00eb larguar, lidhja jon\u00eb u b\u00eb edhe m\u00eb e fort\u00eb, madje Miri, dashurin\u00eb e tij ma shprehu n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet internetit (n\u00eb skype). Ai q\u00eb vija re tek ai ishte fakti se ishte nj\u00eb djal\u00eb q\u00eb e donte pun\u00ebn dhe ishte shum\u00eb korrekt n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tij, nuk dilte as me shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb, nuk ishte i dh\u00ebn\u00eb mbas emrave, nuk pinte as alkool dhe as duhan. Me pak fjal\u00eb, p\u00ebr Mirin kisha nd\u00ebrtuar figur\u00ebn e nj\u00eb djali t\u00eb p\u00ebrsosur n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha drejtimet. K\u00ebshtu m\u00eb thoshte edhe kush\u00ebrira e tij. Kur Miri m\u00eb propozoi p\u00ebr martes\u00eb, un\u00eb u g\u00ebzova shum\u00eb, se pretendoja se kisha gjetur njeriun m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb, idealin q\u00eb un\u00eb kisha krijuar n\u00eb mendjen time. Edhe n\u00eb momentin kur ai m\u00eb propozoi, as q\u00eb u mendova dy her\u00eb, por i pranova. N\u00eb pushimet e ver\u00ebs ai erdhi dhe ne b\u00ebm\u00eb dasm\u00ebn e celebrimet. Pas nj\u00eb kalvari t\u00eb gjat\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb rregulluar dokumentet, na u desh\u00ebn gati gjasht\u00eb muaj t\u00eb ndar\u00eb. Miri, larg\u00ebsin\u00eb mes ne t\u00eb dyve e shikonte si nj\u00eb an\u00eb pozitive; ai gjithmon\u00eb m\u00eb thoshte: \u201cKjo distanc\u00eb do t\u00eb na sh\u00ebrbej\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar se dashuria jon\u00eb do ta sfidoj\u00eb distanc\u00ebn, ne do ta ndalim koh\u00ebn dhe dashuria jon\u00eb do t\u00eb jet\u00eb akoma m\u00eb e madhe\u201d. Dhe, n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, ashtu ishte. Edhe n\u00eb dit\u00ebt q\u00eb Miri kishte pushim, ai rrinte gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebs duke folur me mua ose duke b\u00ebr\u00eb pun\u00ebt e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb. Asnj\u00ebher\u00eb nuk m\u00eb kishte l\u00ebn\u00eb shkas q\u00eb un\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoja se ai mund t\u00eb ishte ndryshe nga \u00e7\u2019hiqej. Gjasht\u00eb muajt q\u00eb kaluan, ishin muaj malli q\u00eb ne ndjenim p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. Ishin edhe muaj q\u00eb do t\u00eb sfidonim koh\u00ebn, p\u00ebr t\u2019u bashkuar me njeriun q\u00eb un\u00eb e kisha zgjedhur si shokun e jet\u00ebs. Shkova n\u00eb Gjermani dhe me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb aty v\u00ebrtetova se njeri m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb se Miri nuk kishe n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bot\u00eb. Ai shkonte n\u00eb pun\u00eb, vinte nga puna dhe minut\u00ebn nuk e \u00e7onte d\u00ebm, por vinte n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndenjur bashk\u00eb, duke gatuar dark\u00ebn, apo duke u marr\u00eb me ndonj\u00eb pun\u00eb tjet\u00ebr sht\u00ebpie. T\u00eb dielave, ai kishte pushim dhe ne dilnim ose takonim ndonj\u00eb mik ose shok t\u00eb Mirit, ose hanim ndonj\u00eb drek\u00eb ose dark\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb nga lokalet e qytetit ku ne jetonim. Nuk kishte dit\u00eb q\u00eb Miri t\u00eb mos m\u00eb sillte ndonj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb re n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, qofshin k\u00ebto ushqime, pije, bizhu ose rroba p\u00ebr mua. Ai vdiste q\u00eb \u00e7do dit\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb g\u00ebzonte me ndonj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl. K\u00ebt\u00eb e b\u00ebnte p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00eb treguar se sa shum\u00eb m\u00eb donte dhe gjithmon\u00eb m\u00eb thoshte se \u201cpasi hyre ti n\u00eb jet\u00ebn time, mua nuk m\u00eb interesonte asgj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, ve\u00e7se t\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebja ty t\u00eb lumtur\u201d. K\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe, tek d\u00ebgjon burrin kur t\u00eb thot\u00eb fjal\u00eb t\u00eb tilla, nuk ka! Ai nuk ma kishte prishur qejfin p\u00ebr asnj\u00eb lloj gj\u00ebje. Ne kuptoheshim shum\u00eb mir\u00eb me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, madje kishim b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb pakt, q\u00eb p\u00ebr \u00e7do hall ose problem apo qejfmbetje, ne do t\u00eb diskutonim dhe jo ta vuanim vet\u00ebm. Tashm\u00eb ne ishim b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha drejtimet dhe nuk ishte m\u00eb kthim mbrapsht. Lumturin\u00eb q\u00eb kisha gjetur me Mirin, ua tregoja dhe prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb mi, shoqeve t\u00eb mia. Miri ishte i pari e i vetmi burr\u00eb i jet\u00ebs sime dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb fakt ai g\u00ebzohej \u00e7do dit\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb. Ai ma p\u00ebrmendte gjithmon\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb fakt dhe m\u00eb thoshte: \u201cDo t\u00eb t\u00eb dua gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb dhe asnj\u00ebher\u00eb nuk kam p\u00ebr t\u00eb t\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjyer\u201d. Te Miri besoja si te Per\u00ebndia, por i gjith\u00eb ky besim, m\u2019u thye n\u00eb nj\u00eb dit\u00eb.
\nIshte pik\u00ebrisht nj\u00eb dit\u00eb kur nj\u00eb shoku i Mirit bashk\u00eb me gruan e tij na ftuan p\u00ebr drek\u00eb n\u00eb lokalin e tyre. Un\u00eb, bashk\u00eb me Mirin, u vesh\u00ebm dhe dol\u00ebm; n\u00eb lokal ata na prisnin t\u00eb dy. Kishin b\u00ebr\u00eb gati drek\u00ebn dhe po ia kalonim shum\u00eb mir\u00eb, ndon\u00ebse Miri me shokun e tij e kishin kaluar pak kufirin me pije alkoolike. Ne t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ndjeheshim mir\u00eb dhe pim\u00eb nga pak, por Miri kishte pir\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb. \u00c7do gj\u00eb po shkonte p\u00ebr mrekulli, deri n\u00eb momentin kur Miri pa dik\u00eb nga dritarja dhe fluturoi nga karrigia e doli p\u00ebrjashta. Kur hodha syt\u00eb n\u00eb dritare, \u00e7\u2019t\u00eb shikoja?! Mirin, i cili kishte p\u00ebrqafuar nj\u00eb grua, nj\u00eb dor\u00eb ia kishte hedhur n\u00eb qaf\u00eb dhe dor\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr ia kishte vendosur n\u00eb gjoks. Edhe tani q\u00eb po ju shkruaj, syt\u00eb m\u00eb jan\u00eb mbushur me lot. I lutesha Zotit: \u201cT\u00eb lutem, m\u00eb jep durim\u201d. Nuk dija \u00e7\u2019t\u00eb b\u00ebja, m\u00eb filluan disa t\u00eb dridhura dhe lot\u00ebt po m\u00eb binin nga syt\u00eb. Gruaja ishte rreth t\u00eb dyzetave. Kur pa dor\u00ebn e Mirit q\u00eb ia vendosi te gjoksi, ajo duke qeshur e q\u00eblloi dora e tij dhe ai ia hoqi dor\u00ebn. Un\u00eb e pash\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb sken\u00ebn. Kur erdhi Miri, m\u00eb gjeti duke qar\u00eb. I thash\u00eb se doja t\u00eb shkoja n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, ai m\u00eb hipi n\u00eb makin\u00eb dhe m\u00eb pyeti: \u201cZem\u00ebr, \u00e7far\u00eb ka ndodhur?\u201d.
\nRrug\u00ebs nuk e hapa goj\u00ebn fare se kisha frik\u00eb se i merrja mendjen dhe b\u00ebnim aksident, por kur shkuam n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, i thash\u00eb: \u201cSa i pafytyr\u00eb q\u00eb paske qen\u00eb!\u201d dhe i tregova se e kisha par\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb sken\u00ebn. Ai betohej dhe st\u00ebrbetohej se nuk ishte e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, se ajo mund t\u00eb kishte mosh\u00ebn e mamas\u00eb s\u00eb tij, por t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto g\u00ebnjeshtra, un\u00eb nuk i p\u00ebrtyp dot m\u00eb. Nuk dija \u00e7\u2019t\u00eb b\u00ebja, e kam menduar gjat\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb histori dhe vendosa t\u00eb q\u00ebndroja gruaja e tij, me mendimin se t\u00eb gjith\u00eb burrat nj\u00ebsoj jan\u00eb; n\u00ebse do t\u00eb ndahesha prej tij, nuk do kisha gjetur ndonj\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Prandaj ju them se martesa nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr ve\u00e7se nj\u00eb hipokrizi; disa e pranojn\u00eb dhe disa jo. Edhe pse Miri vazhdon t\u00eb jet\u00eb po aq i rregullt sa n\u00eb fillim, kjo gj\u00eb nuk m\u00eb intereson fare, un\u00eb e njoha at\u00eb se kush ishte n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Ai k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsoj\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb b\u00ebri, por n\u00eb zemr\u00ebn time ka krijuar nj\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7ar\u00eb q\u00eb sa t\u00eb jem gjall\u00eb, nuk do t\u00eb ngjitet m\u00eb.<\/p>\n
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M\u00eb vjen shum\u00eb keq q\u00eb historia ime do t\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjej\u00eb shum\u00eb gra, t\u00eb cilat mendojn\u00eb se martesa e tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb lart\u00ebsin\u00eb e duhur. Un\u00eb, me plot goj\u00ebn, mund t\u2019ju them se sot nuk ekziston nj\u00eb martes\u00eb n\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb sinqeritetit. Sot, martesa funksionin n\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb interesit t\u00eb t\u00eb dyja pal\u00ebve. \u00cbsht\u00eb e dhembshme, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[94],"tags":[282],"class_list":["post-2633","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-histori-nga-jeta","tag-histori-nga-jeta-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2633","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2633"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2633\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2633"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2633"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2633"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}